1) The document discusses maintaining friendships even if romantic feelings develop, and allowing feelings and relationships to develop naturally over time rather than rushing things.
2) It recommends continuing friendly activities together to preserve the friendship, and remembering why you became friends in the first place rather than pushing the person away due to hurt feelings.
3) Developing a friendship first allows trust and strong memories to form without pressure, providing a solid foundation for a potential romantic relationship to build upon later if both people's feelings change.
1. FriendshipTip#9 – “Let’sbe friendsand then….see whathappens.” –
Bible verse – 1 Corinthians 15:33 (veryimportant – if you can’t trust your friendsnow,anything later
will be null and void and very painful)
So youmeetsomeone andtheyseemreallynice andmaybe evendreamybutyoumightnotbe quite
readyto date,or you don’treallywanta relationshiprightnow,oryoujustaren’tsure about the person
and youare cool beingfriendsandhave noproblemwaitingtosee if eitherof youleave the friendship
zone. Or, maybe youare alreadyfriendsandsomethingbadhappenedandyouhadfeelingsforthe
personbutyou are dealingwithabrokenheart.What do youdo? Thishappenstoa lotof people and
friendships,andalotof people meetotherpeopleandtheybecome friendsandsomethingchangesand
eitherone orboth endupwantingmore than justa friendship.Phew,thatcantake a toll on yourheart,
huh.Well,Isay keepthe friendshipfire burningbutdon’t keepyourhandonthe fire.That means
continue tohave funas friendsbecause friendshipishighlyimportantandyoudon’twanttolose a
friendbecause youhave feelingsforthatperson. Itcan get hotwhenyouhave awesome friendsbutyou
can get burnedif youmove toofast,or dosomethingoutof character because youare overwhelmed
2. withfeelings. Iknowfrompersonal experience thatitcan still remainona friendlylevel.Ihave hadto
rejecta friendortwo andI knowthat hurts buttheydidn’tstopbeingmyfriend andI didn’tstopbeing
there friend.Itkindof putsome distance betweenusbutwe are still friendsandthatis importantto
me.You can still goyour separate waysandmeetsomeone elseandremainfriendswiththatperson.
The sad thingis youcan feel sohurt that youendup pushingthatpersonawayand there goesthe
friendship.So,if thisshouldhappentoyou,Isuggestrememberingwhyyoubecame friendsinthe first
place.There hasto be some thingsthatyouhave in commonor you wouldn’tevenbe friends.Maybe
youattendthe same workshopsorgo to the same school and are in the same class or maybe youwork
togetherandthat makesiteasyto become friends.If thatisstill the case thenthere isyour
commonality.If youhangout outside of anyof these placeswhere yousee eachotherregularlythen
youobviouslyhave evenmore incommon.Don’tforgetaboutthat.Rememberthe supercool funtimes
youhad togetherandholdon to those moments.Make more momentslike thoseevenwith the “let’s
getcloser”thing-a-ma-jigger”lingeringinthe air.If youtrulycherishthe friendshipthe friendlythings
youdo togetherwill meanalotto youand you won’twantto stopconnectingwiththatpersonnor
hangingoutwiththem.Rememberthe timesyoudon’tgettosee themandhow much youmissthem
whentheyare gone.These are the timeswhenthe saying“youdon’tknow whatyou have until it’s
gone”ringsso true.We seemtotake people forgrantedwhenwe see themorknow theywill alwaysbe
there until theyare notthere anymore.Thenithurts evenmore andall youcan dois make sure youstay
incontact withthat personand planthingstodo whenyouhave the time. Some people justletgo
because theycan’tsee the personanymore unlessthey make planstosee themandthenyoulose a
veryimportantfriendshipif youare tooafraidto reach outwhentheyare nolongeraround.
I alsoencourage people toallowthingstoebbandflow andblossomovertime.If yourushanythingthe
timingwill be off anda whole slew of thingscouldgowrong,andyoucouldget inyour ownwayand
ruinwhat couldbe meantto be.So, be still,waitaroundfora little whileandsee whathappens.Don’t
allowinsecuritiesorfearto kill somethingthatcouldbe soamazingand great. Soulmatesevenstartout
as friendsandsometimestheydon’tevenbecome loversuntil yearslater.Iknow a friendwhohada
highschool sweetheartandtheypartedwaysafterhighschool.Theybothmarriedotherpeople,had
kidsand thenfoundeachotheragainlaterin life intheirfortiesandnow theyare happilymarried.
Soulmates.Sometimesithappensthatway,that’slife.Some people meetandtheyknow theyare
meantto be,theysawsomethinginthe otherperson’seyes,oritjustfelt like theykneweachotherin
anotherlife butneitherof themare quite readytobe ina relationship.A whole tonof thingscouldbe in
the way rightnow,whichdoesn’tmeanyoushouldallow themtobe inthe way.I thinkwhenobstacles
are smackingyoubothin the face that meansyoushoulddoyour bestto remove the obstacleswhile
buildingthe friendship.Nomatterwhere youare inlife rightnow,nojob,nocar, kidsfromsomeone
else,goingthroughadivorce, legal troubles,illness,inbetweenhomes, oranythingelse,these things
shouldneverstopanyone frommakingsure theykeeptheirfriendsclose ormakingplanstobuildon
somethinglater.Life will neverbe perfect,thingswill neverbe completelyorganized,sodon’twaitfor
the white picketfence oreverythingtobe set,youhave to grow withpeople astheygrow themselves.
That makesit all more worthit gettingtoknow themso youcan deal withthe obstaclestogetherandbe
strongertogetherandapart because of the challengesof life.If youwaitforperfectionandeverything
to be right youwill endupalone withnofriends.Noone liveslike that. Be there foryourfriendnowand
maybe lateryouwill getthe benefitsyouwantinamutual,lovingandcommittedrelationship.Also,
whenyoustart out as friendsyougive the friendshipanopportunitytoflourishandyoucan learnto
trust the personovertime.Youbuildawesome memoriesunattachedtopossible awkwardromantic
3. momentsthatcame toosoon.So, allowthatfoundationof friendshiptohelpyougetto know each
otheron a safe and comfortable level,solateronif one of youexpressesmore interestyouwill have
that foundationtofall backon.The trustlevel will be high,youwill know youcancounton the person
for anythingnomatterwhatat anytime because youwere friendsfirst,andyoucantell the world “Iam
nowin love withmybestie,we are together(hopefullyforever) andit’sthe greatestfeelinginthe
world!”
Friendshipsong- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U-Sv10qDzD8– no singingjust powerful
words….