3. This is about treating you, your partner, AND
your relationship.
“OMG… I’ve done it again… attached to the
wrong person.”
Do you ever feel as if you could walk into any
bar, sports event, social party, church, movie
theatre, food court, or employee lunchroom
and within three minutes pick out the one
person who can destroy your life? It can be
shameful to be caught in this cycle.
4. They say that ‘once a cheater, always a cheater!’ Can
a relationship survive infidelity?”
Maybe you’re questioning whether you even want it to work
after all the lies and betrayal.
You’ve done the math. You’ve run the alternatives thousands of
times through your mind – the endless hamster wheel of trying
to “figure out” the path forward to save some shred of dignity
and do the least amount of harm.
Or maybe those vengeful Internet memes of publicly shaming a
partner are looking pretty good these days (Don’t worry: I won’t
tell anyone!).
Still… something draws you to seek help – either renew your
relationship or end it on good terms. Listen to this voice.
Together, we will discover your path to healing and relational
health.
5.
6. “I remember feeling so secure and happy with them; now I hear
their footsteps on the stairs, and I just cringe inside.”
Ah, yes… that here-we-go-again dread.
It’s exhausting to play “happy family theatre”—to pretend that
things are fine amidst ever-increasing hair-trigger blowouts… then
clamp it all back down again.
The “find the bad guy” dance never seems to end: the coldness
and the attacks, the not wanting to go home… the feeling unsafe
when you get there. And the grief!
All that promise seemingly lost to the current storm. That picture of
past happiness hanging on the wall makes you cringe or cry or feel
so sad.
It’s time to get the help you both need to recover yourselves and
heal your relationship. You are ready.
7.
8.
9. The nearest thing to experiencing death that
we will ever encounter…
… is the loss (or threat of loss) of a life partnership. It hurts that
badly and costs that much.
The financial damage can be overwhelming.
How will my lifestyle change?
What about my kids and all the things that we give them together
that we may not be able to sustain separately?
And the social losses…aaarrrggghhh!
I don’t want to be the “newly single” one at the party… if I’m
invited at all!
10.
11. Let’s go from your current
“warp-speed mind” to a slower
version of reality – one in
which, before ending
everything, we can take a
careful look at what needs to
be kept and what needs to be
replaced in the relationship.
12.
13. Do you want to know whether I’ll take sides?
Yup!! I will… I will take the side of your
RELATIONSHIP. To do otherwise is to enter
into the crucible of demons, angels, shame,
blame, and revenge – so sweet in the
moment, so cold in the end!
Yes, this will mean a courageous
commitment to the truth of the pain… and an
examination of what your love is and isn’t!