2. the changes we’re living in are largely positive
men are, or could be, much more connected with their families and
their partners,
women are getting the opportunity to develop identities that
aren’t solely defined by motherhood,
and the workforce is getting a much larger pool of people to draw
talent from.
▪ Win-win-win!
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3. The code of manhood fluctuates
according to the abundance of resources
in a given society.
The scarcer the resources,
the more the code of manhood is
emphasized
the more men need to be good at
being men.
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4. Men’s greater expendability, physical strength, and
predisposition towards risk-taking, competition, and status-
seeking
are needed to procure hard-to-attain resources,
and to protect them once they’ve been secured.
Differentiation between gender roles increases,
as a particular division of labor offers a survival advantage.
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6. the 3 P’s of Manhood represented what
societies needed most from men.
They were the tenets of being good at being
a man.
Protection, procreation, and
provision
were the vital imperatives that helped societies all
around the world survive and grow.
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7. served as the foundation for the code of manhood
nothing else was possible if men failed in this charge.
Once the perimeter was secure,
the population was growing steadily,
and there was enough food and resources to feed the burgeoning
tribe,
men could then start to concentrate on cultivating higher
virtues of character and spirituality.
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9. what societies most needed from men were not fierce warriors or
skilled hunters,
but hard-working husbands, loving fathers,
honest politicians, wise philosophers,
and clever innovators.
The tactical virtues of
strength, courage, mastery, and honor
were lifted off the battlefield and applied more abstractly to the
tasks of heading families, running governments, and building
businesses.
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11. Still contained a requirement to
cultivate courage, to marry and have children, and to
provide for one’s family.
But unlike the pre-modern version,
this new definition of manliness wasn’t as directly related to
anything unique about men’s biological make-up.
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12. Men were expected to be as virtuous and chaste as
women,
providing often did not involve any danger or the need
for physical strength.
Being a good man
wasn’t dramatically different from being a good woman.
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14. The following 7 essential attributes of an alpha male
come from the book
Man 2.0 Engineering the Alpha:
A RealWorld Guide to an Unreal Life,
▪ written by fitness experts and celebrity trainers Adam Bornstein and John
Romaniello.
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15. Here’s the problem:
ALPHA is a term that comes with a lot of connotations,
many of them negative.
The goal is to reclaim it
to redefine what it means to be an Alpha,
make it a positive term that bespeaks a level of high
evolution and purpose.
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16. In order for you to fully grasp our meaning and
definition of what it means to be an Alpha,
we must first strip away everything that is
currently tied to that word and idea.
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17. simply means the most
dominant within a group,
or the strongest in a group or the
most confident in a group.
Not a person who is necessarily
strong or confident in the
absolute sense;
just someone who, in a given
group of people, most
outwardly projects strength or
confidence.
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18. the problem with the definition of Alpha isn’t
really the assumed aggression or implied
cockiness;
it’s the fact that the entire foundational principle
for self-value is comparative analysis.
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19. the entire assessment of self is based on
where you fall relative to others in this
imagine hierarchy that exists in your
mind.
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20. We want to take
back the concept
ofThe Alpha
and use it as we
believe it should
be used.
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21. This is someone who is
not just assertive,
but evolved.
You want to focus on
the things you can
control.
The number one thing
you can control…
is you.
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22. you need to improve internally and externally because
you want to be better than you were and -- not be
better than someone else.
That is beingThe Alpha.
Or, as I call it
▪The Alpha version of you.
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23. a man who takes the
natural competitive drive
inherent in the masculine
psyche
and directs it towards the
fulfillment lofty goals
and the accomplishment of
great things,
rather than wastes it on
petty envy.
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24. These are the traits you’ll find in a man who’s
looking to make himself better so that he can
best serve the world
the traits of an Alpha.
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25. The drive to become successful isn’t simply a means to a
narcissistic and individualistic end.
The Alpha understands that taking care of his primary goals is
only part of creating the life he wants;
the other half is influencing and shaping the world he lives in.
It’s taking what you’ve learned
the good and the bad
and being able to pay that knowledge forward and make the world a
better place.
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26. The Alpha gives advice and encourages others,
but he does not look to do things for them.
He understands that they need to do things on their own, and
while they sometimes may need assistance,
the Alpha realizes that if he were to overstep his bounds and
solve the problems for them,
they wouldn’t learn.
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27. The previous incarnation of the Alpha was always thought of
as cocky, as the guy who put others down to elevate himself.
The redefined Alpha is not characterized by some overt
cockiness that is projected to hide deeper insecurities but
rather by a true confidence,
an honest assessment of his strengths and weaknesses as well as
what he can immediately achieve and what he needs to work on.
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28. to display his confidence in his ability to share thoughts, ideas
and plans
that can positively influence the world around him and the people in
it.
If you have good ideas,
you should share them.
If you think you can help people,
then you should take action.
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29. Good-looking people can go a little farther in this world.
It’s not a hard-line rule,
but it is a general observation that has been proven over and over
again.
Men who are rated as more attractive also happen to make
more money in their jobs and have higher positions.
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30. is a good thing because it’s really just a manifestation of
wanting to take care of yourself.
When you look good, you feel good.
When you feel good,
you exude an energy that improves your world and the world of the
people you interact with.
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31. The difference between pride and arrogance is a fine line but
one that separates those men who inspire from those
considered assholes.
Everything depends on how you react to your success.
Do you share your successes as a means to promote more
creative and progressive thought
or do you expect things to happen because of what you’ve already
accomplished?
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32. is assuming that, because you’ve reached a certain level,
you’re entitled to certain privileges and opportunities.
On the other hand,
pride is acknowledging your success but always retaining the
mindset that you have to earn every opportunity, hustle for every
success, and prove yourself over and over again.
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33. Humility is important. It keeps us sane. It keeps us grounded.
Most importantly, it keeps us hungry.
Understanding that you are smart is essential to building the
confidence you need to achieve;
reminding yourself that you’re not Einstein is a strong driver that will help
you learn more and become even smarter.
The Alpha understands that anyone who can’t be a little self-
deprecating is taking life -- and himself -- too seriously.
He’s humble and hungry,
but he gives himself credit where it’s due.
And he never, ever loses faith in himself.
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34. You’re going to have to put up with some crap in life
Whether it’s with friends, loved ones, coworkers or bosses, part of life is
dealing with crap.
Patience and tolerance are essential to understanding your place in the
world, as is being comfortable with opposing opinions and beliefs.
Whether it’s in the office or at the bar, you can’t be argumentative with
everything that goes against your worldview and values.
You have to be tolerant of people’s mistakes, shortcomings, and personal
opinions.
Doing otherwise is being narrow-minded and an asshole
And you don’t want to be an asshole.
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35. You know the workaholic as the guy who stays late at the
office and works himself to the bone.
Doesn’t matter if it’s Monday at 11 a.m. or Saturday at 2
a.m. –
the workaholic is a machine designed to get things done.
On one hand, we admire these people.
There’s something to be said about a great work ethic, hustle
and desire to take on seemingly impossible projects.
On the other hand, there’s an aspect of the workaholic that
we pity.
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36. to their families, friends, health and,
most of all, to themselves.
They are dedicated to improvement,
but they are not tied to a narcissistic view that
impairs their ability to create a rich, multifaceted
existence.
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37.
38. 1. A man is self-sustaining and resourceful
He can do everything required for his survival and sustenance
2. A man understands that greater happiness lies in helping
others, not helping himself.
3. A man doesn’t stand still while the world passes him by,
he continually pushes himself.
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39. 4. A man is a leader
in at least one aspect of his life, whether this means his family, with
his friends or just in general.
But he can also follow.
Great Leaders know when to just shut-up!
"One of the most important leadership lessons is realizing you're not
the most important or intelligent person in the room at all times". -
Alfred Campbell
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40. 5. He Processes life
through the lens of HEAD (Sound Judgment)
and HEART
(Good Feelings - without Pathological Attachments)
There is a reason why the head is located above the
heart,
sound reasoning should always take priority over good
feelings.
When you bring your head down to the level of your heart,
we call that rationalization.
When you elevate your heart to the level of your head,
that is maturity and wisdom
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41. 6. Has integrity:
This means he will stay true to his word and true to himself.
If he tells you that he is going to do something,
▪ he will do it.
This is also the kind of man you can rely on, knowing that he will
always be there for you.
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42. 7. Is A Protector:
A man should be able to protect himself and his
family physically.
He should be willing to do whatever it takes to
keep his family safe and happy.
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43. 8. A man lives for something;
a purpose beyond his own personal gains.
This can come with time, and with family.
It doesn’t always happen right away.
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44. 9. He Knows when to hold,
when to fold,
when to walk away,
when to run
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45. 10. Is Honest:
An honest man will tell you the truth and not just what you want to
hear.
he will tell you what he will do and how he feels about something.
It’s true that brutal honesty can be offensive sometimes
▪ but it’s better to have a man that tells you the truth than one that fills you with
lies.
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46. 11. Is Faithful To His Word:
Faithfulness may be one of the most important characteristics when
it comes to great men.
Men don’t cheat because they don’t feel loved anymore, they cheat
because they need sex.
Some men need to sleep with other women ‘while others cheat
because the sex is gone in the relationship.
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47. 12. A man takes pride
in how he looks and lives his life.
He’s not ashamed by who he is, what he does or
how he looks,
even if he’s trying to change one of the
aforementioned.
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48. 13. Is Mature:
Being mature means a man is able to care of himself and approaches
problems with a calm and collected manner.
He understands the importance of being a man, being independent
and values what he has.
A mature man doesn’t have to be rich,
▪ but needs to know how to handle his money.
Also, a mature man will be able to carry himself in a public setting in
a respectable manner and understands his adult role.
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49. 14. Has a Positive Attitude:
A good man should have a positive attitude which may be difficult to
find since we live in such a negative society.
With a positive attitude, people will want to be around him and to
have fun around him.
A good man will be happy with his life and the world around him and
he will want to look out for others and to help them.
A negative person will always be complaining and seeing the bad
side to everything and after a while they can be very hard to be
around and they tend to turn you into a negative person also.
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50. 15. Is Self-Confident:
A good man will be confident in himself and who he is.
This is an important characteristic in a good man because when they
are self-confident, they are less likely to change who they are and to
stay true to themselves.
A man with self-confidence will not be deterred from what he
believes to be true and will not be easily pressured into doing things
that he does not believe in.
Self-confidence makes a man happy and fun to be around because
he will not be constantly questioning himself or others around him.
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51. 16. A man learns from his mistakes.
Although he might take a few cracks at it.
17. A man does what is necessary.
Even if it’s the hardest decision,
or the most unpopular one.
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52. 18. A Man Should be Financially Sound
A characteristic of a good man isn’t that he makes a lot of money,
but that he handles his money well.
He does well with what he has.
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53. 19. A man thrives on competition.
But remember,
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54. 20. Is A Gentleman:
A great man needs to be polite, respectful, considerate and attentive
to a woman’s needs.
This also includes the classic gentleman behavior such as pulling a
woman’s chair, walking on the car side of the street, taking her coat
etc.
if all men had were gentlemen we would live in a better world.
Today, things are not like that making the mans that have this quality
stand out.
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57. lack independence, are ruled by insecurity,
lack self-respect,
throw tantrums, have princess syndrome,
don’t have strong values or boundaries
and can’t hold yourself on your own
then expect that you will attract only boys.
58. independent, ambitious,
knows your worth and value,
has a strong moral compass,
is considerate and an able communicator
and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your
psyche,
then you should be dating a man.
59. and goes for it.
A boy may have somewhat of an idea, but not really.
He doesn’t think too much about it,
and even if he does, doesn’t exert much effort to get it.
A boy is passive, a man is assertive.
60. and is working towards building a foundation
and infrastructure
in order to have a family (at some point in his
life).
A boy lives only in the moment
and his plans are mostly around which bar he’s
going to hit up on the weekend.
61. who is supportive, grounded
encompasses a shared set of
values when choosing a partner.
A boy cares mostly only for
girls who are hot, wild and exciting.
62. and will take initiative to get to know her.
A boy may make an attempt if you’re lucky,
but gives up before ever really trying.
63. to have uncomfortable conversations.
He is honest with his intentions and lets people know
where they stand.
A boy avoids.
He ignores confrontation or any serious talks about
feelings.
Instead of dealing with a situation,
he runs away from it or creates drama or excuses to mask the
fact he’s not that into you or a relationship.
64. and jump in with two feet.
A boy is always “testing”
he doesn’t fully commit because he never knows if he is
quite ready.
But the truth is, because he is a boy,
regardless of who he meets,
he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is in.
65. but is often busy making strides in his career
and building his life.
A boy is getting drunk with his buddies at
the bar every weekend.
66. on the type of man he wants to be,
the example he wants to leave and the vision
for his life.
He has put thought into his values.
A boy has not established his moral compass
or values
and consequently, is often inconsistent.
67. He means what he says,
and says what he means.
He has follow through and actions his promises.
And if he can’t
he has the guts to tell you why.
A boy
makes promises
but doesn’t follow through.
68. but will put himself out there
anyway.
A boy
is afraid of rejection
and acts passive so that his pride and
ego won’t ever get too banged up.