SELF MANAGEMENTHow to be successful in Life? byPROF (Lt Col) DAYAKAR THOTA
FAILURE IS NOT A CRIME; FAILURE TO NOT TO LEARNFROM FAILURES SHOULD BE.” -WALTER WINSTON
Every successful person has a Every successful person has apainful story. painful story. Every painful story has a successful ending. Every painful story has a successful ending.Accept the pain and get ready forsuccess.Accept the pain and getready for success.
WHAT IS SUCCESS ?It differs from person to person, time to time &circumstances – it is relativeDistinguish between money & successSuccess must give one happinessHappiness is better enjoyed & more lasting if it isachieved by your own efforts
Web site:presidentofindia.nic.in(Reader’s Digest; November 2004)Abhishek Shetty, Std VIII:According to you, what is ‘achievement’?The President APJ:That which gives happiness and fulfillment.------------------------------------------------------------- HENCE, DEFINE YOUR OWN MEANING OF SUCCESS
Have Dreams"DREAM is not what you seein sleep,DREAM is the thing whichdoes not let you sleep“ -- APJ Kalam
GOALS Goal is the object of a person’s ambition or effort, A destination, An aim – (oxford) Goals are the purpose of life.One who does not know where he wants to go will reach nowhere. Goals are a must -- if you want to succeed.SUCCESS IS REALISATION OF YOUR DESIRES / AMBITIONS /GOALS
GOALS You can achieve anything if you really wantGoals must be challenging, should be pragmatic, i.e.,Goals may be ambitious but achievable and must inspirea strong desireGoals could be personal or / and organizationalGOALS –of SURVIVAL or ACHIEVEMENT HAVE POSITIVE GOALS YOU CAN GET WHAT YOU WANT YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK
GOAL SETTINGGoals must be set in the back drop of SWOTanalysis of self. TAKE STOCK OF SELF• Carry out a detailed analysis of your own strengths &weaknesses.• Make a list of all positive & negative attributes of self.• Peruse the list from time to time and, if need be, REVISE & UPDATE.
YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINKDon’t get into Elephant mind set
Don’t Act Like An Elephant ! Strange statement, isn’t it? LET ME EXPLAIN:You know that in ourcountry elephants areused for manual labor. But what to do withthem when they are notbehaving? How torestrain them?
Their handlers came up with the idea to “program”them while they are still very young by setting self- imposed limits into their thinking. HOW DOES IT WORK? When the elephants are still small, weighing around 150 pounds they get tied up with a very heavy rope. All day long, the elephants try to get rid of it, whine, tug at it and some of them even try to chew it.
Finally the elephant gives up and the fight is over.From this moment on, theystrongly believe that thereis absolutely no chance to get rid of the rope.
They accept the “fact” that the rope limits them. And with this imprinted belief in place, their handlers are able to tie them with extremely small ropes, even as adults weighing 8,000 pounds and more, they never attempt to break free, because they “know” they have no chance at all!As you can see, theelephants limits are not real but existonly in their mind.
We also have built-in boundaries.They are also not real but exist only in our minds. But it doesn’t have to stay this way. Our negative belief systems don’t have to limit us for good.If you truly want to becomesuccessful and are notkidding yourself, you canchange your inner beliefsystem, your attitude, andbreak your innerboundaries.
JOHARI WINDOWS FEED BACK KNOWN TO UNKNOWN TO SELF SELFEXP ARENA ARENA BLIND SPOT BLIND SPOT KNOWN TOO OTHERSSU FAÇADE UNKNOWN UNKNOWN TO FACADE UNKNOWNR OTHERSE (JOSEPH LUFT & HARRY INGHAM)
COURAGE IS WHAT IT TAKESTO STAND UP AND SPEAK; COURAGE IS ALSO WHAT ITTAKES TO SIT DOWN AND LISTEN. -WINSTON CHURCHIL
GOAL SETTING - Contd Make a list of all your goals - Long term - Medium term - Short term All the medium & short term goals should dovetail and lead to the Long term goal.SET DEADLINES – TARGET DATES / MONTHS / YEARS
NOBODY go back and BACK TO No one can CAN GOSTART a bad beginning; BEGINNING; change A NEW BUT ANYONE CAN START But anyone can start now and TODAY TO MAKE A NEW create a successful ending.
TIME MANAGEMENT TIME & TIDE WAIT FOR NONEMake a list of all the jobs to be done a day beforeAll these jobs must, in some measure, lead towardyour goal (s)Prioritize and pick up the tough & dirty job firstAdhere to the listTick off the jobs completed :Review the job list atthe end of the day
People don’t plan to fail;they fail to plan Every success is the result of a plan1. Set a deadline2. Break the plan down into easily achievable stages3. Be prepared to change direction4. CHECK YOUR PLAN with THE PROGRESS5. Concentrate your thoughts on what you want
6. Ask opinions from qualified persons only7. Consider what you have to do to achieve your goal8. Ensure your plan is visible to you at all times - do not loose sight The person who is sure nothing can be done is usually the one who has never done anything
ALL THE BATTLES ARE WON OR LOST IN THE MINDS OF THE COMMANDERSMUCH BEFORE THEY ARE FOUGHT
What makes a successful person ? Self confidence Mental robustness Conceptualisation Extrapolation Burning ambition to achieve
Dreams"DREAM is not what you seein sleep,DREAM is the thing whichdoes not let you sleep“ -- APJ Kalam
THE CARDINAL PRINCIPLES1. Control over one’s speech –talk less; hear more2. Control ego – don’t be “I” specialist3. Be empathetic / follow righteous path4. Be clear about your goals5. Dream / imagine & feel your goals6. Pursue the goals steadfastly7. Be positive8. Success will be yours