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Susan Mercer – Senior Experience Researcher
@susanamercer
May 29, 2013
UXPA Boston 2013 Conference
Moderating to the Max
REFINING YOUR MODERATING &
INTERVIEWING SKILLS
Hello, I’m Susan Mercer
 BA and MSc in Geophysics
 19 years in software and web UI and UX design
 Developer
 Designer
 Web Producer
 Product Manager
 Researcher
 MS Human Factors, Bentley University
 Twitter: @susanAmercer
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Interviewing and Moderating
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Research & Strategy
Interaction
Design
Visual Design Development
Interviews
Formative
Usability
Summative
Usability
Moderating and Interviewing Skills
 On paper, they seem straightforward
 Write a screener
 Recruit
 Write a script
 Conduct the study
 Once I ran a couple easy ones, I thought I had it down.
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Interviews
Formative
Usability
But Then…
 I got the participants who…
And I learned an important lesson:
Interviews and usability tests are
more than just a series of questions.
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My Epiphany
Don’t play the notes on the page…
…play the music
This applies to moderating and
interviewing too.
Don’t just read the questions from the page…
…have a conversation
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What Is Our Goal?
 To elicit honest thoughts from participants in an unbiased manner.
Sometimes it’s hard to be fully honest.
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The Rules of Politeness
We’re often polite rather than honest to strangers
Social Acceptance > Honesty
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How Do We Get Beyond Politeness?
Build their trust
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Leading
Questions
Introduce
Bias
Participant Comfort
Two schools of usability testing moderating techniques
 Moderator keeps silent and says “Keep talking” 1
 Awkward feeling for participant
 Reminds them that they are in a “study”
 Moderator creates conversation where participant is primary
speaker 2
 Still accomplishes goals of gathering information
 Meets the participant’s expectations of a socially acceptable conversation
 Moderator can still be neutral and minimize bias
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Sources: 1 Ericsson and Simon, 1980, 2 Boren and Ramey, 2000.
Conversations
• We carry on conversations all of the time
• We convey a lot of subtle meaning in our conversations
• We have rules for conversation
• We know what is acceptable in which situations
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What Do We Do in Usability tests and interviews?
We ask participants to:
 Come into a usability lab / meet us in a strange location
 Talk to a stranger about important topics
 Use a product or website and make mistakes
 While being observed
 Without knowing the right social norms on how to behave
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To Do List
• Elicit honest feedback
• In an unbiased manner
• Instill trust in us
• Make the participant comfortable
• …and get them to answer all of your questions
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HOW TO DO IT – STEP BY STEP
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Structure of an Interview/Usability Session
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Trust
Comfort
Interview
Build Rapport
Neutral
Observation
Define Social
Interaction Rules
Be Transparent
Comfortable
Conversation
Be Accepting
Thanks
Manage the Flow
Greeting Introduction
Interview /
Evaluation
Wrap-Up
1. Greeting – Building Rapport
 Be a Friendly Person
 Smile
 Use their name
 Be a good listener
 Make the other person feel important – and do so sincerely
A person's name is to that person the
sweetest and most important sound in
any language.
- Dale Carnegie
1. Greeting – Building Rapport
 Small Talk – Find Common Ground
 Safe topics: travel to office, traffic, weather, local sports
 Avoid asking direct questions
 Listen and look for shared experiences
1. Greeting – Building Rapport
 Be Empathetic
 Apologize if they had trouble finding the office
 “Oh, it’s raining there? It is here too. I hate rainy days.”
 Show you understand their point of view
 “I can understand that…”
 “I can see that…”
 “That does sound very frustrating…”
1. Greeting – Building Rapport
 Inject Some Humor
 Joke about yourself
 Joke about the situation
 Don’t joke about them
 Rapport is about showing them that you are human too
2. Introduction – Be Transparent
 Confidentiality
 How are you recording what is said?
 Who is listening?
 What will you do with the information you collect?
 Consent Form
 Put it all in writing – using their language
2. Introduction – Define Social Interaction Rules
 Describe the Session
 List the activities
 Describe the roles
 Social Niceties Do Not Apply
 You’re not emotionally involved in the design/project
 There are no right or wrong answers
 Your job is to get honest opinions
3. Interview/Evaluation – Be Accepting
 Watch Your Reactions
 Don’t show surprise
 May make them think that they are giving a wrong answer
 Don’t overly agree
 May make them think that they are giving the right answer
 Don’t be negative
 Watch your tone – stay neutral and accepting
 Try not to laugh
3. Interview/Evaluation – Be Accepting
 Be yourself
 No one is perfectly neutral
 Recover gracefully and move on
 “Perfect” – “That’s the level of detailed feedback we’re looking for.”
 “Interesting!” – “I haven’t heard that perspective yet, tell me more.”
 (something surprising) – “I can understand that.”
 Interject some Rapport-building comments when needed
 Quiet or uncomfortable participants
 “I hate it when that happens.”, “I can imagine that was challenging”, etc.
 Again, showing that you are human like them
3. Interview/Evaluation – Comfortable Conversation
What is a Comfortable Conversation?
 Conversational cues and turn-taking are expected
 Acknowledgement tokens – “Uh huh”, etc.
 Encourage the continuation of the other speaker’s talk
 Usually implies that the other speaker’s prior talk is incomplete
Source: 1 Drummond and Hopper, 1993.
3. Interview/Evaluation – Comfortable Conversation
 Some acknowledgement tokens indicate other things
 “Yeah” – half the time indicates changing turns in speaking 1
 “Yeah. I heard that the other day and…”
 “Oh!” - may indicate noticing something, then transitioning to another
topic
 “Oh! That reminded me…”
 “Okay” – may indicate that the listener wants the speaker to stop
speaking1
Source: 1 Drummond and Hopper, 1993.
3. Interview/Evaluation – Neutral Observation
 Some may introduce bias
 “Oh!”, “Interesting” – indicating unexpected answer
 “Yes”, “Perfect”, “Great” – indicating agreement
 “Hmmm.”, “Really?” – indicating disagreement
 Notice that tone is key
 Neutral is best
 “Mhmm”, “Uh huh”, “Continue”, “Tell me more”, “OK”
 “Mhmm” or “Uh huh” vs. silence  interviewees saying 31% more
phrases. 1
• Body Language
• Head nodding while participant is speaking  interviewees speak 50%
longer. 2
Source: [1] Matarazzo et. al., 1964, [2] Matarazzo et al., 1963
3. Interview/Evaluation – Neutral Observation
 Ask Open-ended Questions
 Start with Who, What, When, Where, Why, How?
3. Interview/Evaluation – Neutral Observation
 Really Listen
 Pay attention – stay in the moment
 Look at the participant
 Take notes if you can
 Be quiet - give them time to say what they need to
3. Interview/Evaluation – Neutral Observation
 Be Quiet!
 Most agreements happen immediately. Most people delay before
disagreeing.1
 If you don’t respond to their answer, it encourages them to talk more
 People often delay speaking before disagreeing – give them time
 Some people are uncomfortable with silence, so they will keep talking
 “People speak in paragraphs.” (Steve Portugal)
 The best way to stay neutral 
Source: 1 Goodwin and Heritage, 1990.
3. Interview/Evaluation – Manage the Flow
• Wait for topics to come up organically
• If the participant mentions something that you have later in your question
list, ask it now.
• Transitions
• Don’t just switch topics – provide context.
• Summarize last topic, then introduce new one.
• “That’s great about XYZ, but now I’d like to talk about ABC”. Question.
• “You mentioned XYZ, tell me a bit more about how you blah blah..”
Structure of an Interview/Usability Session
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Trust
Comfort
Interview
Build Rapport
Neutral
Observation
Define Social
Interaction Rules
Be Transparent
Comfortable
Conversation
Be Accepting
Thanks
Manage the Flow
Greeting Introduction
Interview /
Evaluation
Wrap-Up
The most important thing is…
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PRACTICE!
KEEPING SHARP
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Keep Improving
1. Identify your improvement areas
 Watch your videos
 Have colleagues give you feedback
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Keep Improving
2. Learn from others
 Watch others moderate
 Be a participant
 Listen to talk radio interviews
Terri Gross, Fresh Air, Ira Glass, This American Life
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Keep Improving
3. Practice skills in everyday life
 People watch (observe) in public
 Be quiet and listen in everyday conversations
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MORE INFO
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Classic Books on Moderating
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Coming Soon!
New book on Moderating
• Donna Tedesco, Fiona Tranquada
• Book coming this Fall
• Follow @ModSurvivalUX
See them today:
• “Expecting the Unexpected: Preparing for Successful User Research
Sessions”
• 3:00 PM, Back Bay C
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Interviewing
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Questions?
References
Boren, T. and Ramey, J. (2000) Thinking aloud: reconciling theory and practice. IEEE Transactions on Professional
Communication, 43 (3), 261-278.
Carnegie, D. (1936) How to win friends and influence people. Simon & Shuster.
Dumas, J. and Loring, B. (2008) Moderating usability tests, Morgan Kaufman.
Dumas, J. and Redish, J. (1999) A practical guide to usability testing, Intellect Ltd.
Ericsson, K. and Simon, H. (1980) Verbal reports as data. Psychological review. 87 (3), 215-251.
Goodwin, C., & Heritage, J. (1990). “Conversation analysis.” Annual review of anthropology 19 (1990): 283-307.
Matarazzo, J.D.., Saslow, G., Wiens, A. N., Weitman, M. & Allen, B. V. (1963). Interviewer head nodding and interviewee
speech durations. Psychotherapy, 1, 54-63.
Matarazzo, J.D.., Wiens, A. N., Saslow, G., Allen, B. V., & Weitman, M. (1964). Interviewer Mm-Hmm and interviewee
speech durations. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research & Practice, 1(3), 109.
Tannen, D. (2005). Conversational Style: Analyzing Talk among Friends. Oxford University Press, USA.
http://www.uxbooth.com/articles/5-useful-lies-to-tell-user-research-participants/
http://www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/rapport.html
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Thank You!
Susan Mercer
Senior Experience Researcher
smercer@madpow.com
@susanamercer

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Moderating to the Max: Refining Your Interviewing and Moderating Skills

  • 1. Susan Mercer – Senior Experience Researcher @susanamercer May 29, 2013 UXPA Boston 2013 Conference Moderating to the Max REFINING YOUR MODERATING & INTERVIEWING SKILLS
  • 2. Hello, I’m Susan Mercer  BA and MSc in Geophysics  19 years in software and web UI and UX design  Developer  Designer  Web Producer  Product Manager  Researcher  MS Human Factors, Bentley University  Twitter: @susanAmercer 2
  • 3. Interviewing and Moderating 3 Research & Strategy Interaction Design Visual Design Development Interviews Formative Usability Summative Usability
  • 4. Moderating and Interviewing Skills  On paper, they seem straightforward  Write a screener  Recruit  Write a script  Conduct the study  Once I ran a couple easy ones, I thought I had it down. 4 Interviews Formative Usability
  • 5. But Then…  I got the participants who… And I learned an important lesson: Interviews and usability tests are more than just a series of questions. 5
  • 6. My Epiphany Don’t play the notes on the page… …play the music This applies to moderating and interviewing too. Don’t just read the questions from the page… …have a conversation 6
  • 7. What Is Our Goal?  To elicit honest thoughts from participants in an unbiased manner. Sometimes it’s hard to be fully honest. 7
  • 8. The Rules of Politeness We’re often polite rather than honest to strangers Social Acceptance > Honesty 8
  • 9. How Do We Get Beyond Politeness? Build their trust 9
  • 11. Participant Comfort Two schools of usability testing moderating techniques  Moderator keeps silent and says “Keep talking” 1  Awkward feeling for participant  Reminds them that they are in a “study”  Moderator creates conversation where participant is primary speaker 2  Still accomplishes goals of gathering information  Meets the participant’s expectations of a socially acceptable conversation  Moderator can still be neutral and minimize bias 11 Sources: 1 Ericsson and Simon, 1980, 2 Boren and Ramey, 2000.
  • 12. Conversations • We carry on conversations all of the time • We convey a lot of subtle meaning in our conversations • We have rules for conversation • We know what is acceptable in which situations 12
  • 13. What Do We Do in Usability tests and interviews? We ask participants to:  Come into a usability lab / meet us in a strange location  Talk to a stranger about important topics  Use a product or website and make mistakes  While being observed  Without knowing the right social norms on how to behave 13
  • 14. To Do List • Elicit honest feedback • In an unbiased manner • Instill trust in us • Make the participant comfortable • …and get them to answer all of your questions 14
  • 15. HOW TO DO IT – STEP BY STEP 15
  • 16. Structure of an Interview/Usability Session 16 Trust Comfort Interview Build Rapport Neutral Observation Define Social Interaction Rules Be Transparent Comfortable Conversation Be Accepting Thanks Manage the Flow Greeting Introduction Interview / Evaluation Wrap-Up
  • 17. 1. Greeting – Building Rapport  Be a Friendly Person  Smile  Use their name  Be a good listener  Make the other person feel important – and do so sincerely A person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. - Dale Carnegie
  • 18. 1. Greeting – Building Rapport  Small Talk – Find Common Ground  Safe topics: travel to office, traffic, weather, local sports  Avoid asking direct questions  Listen and look for shared experiences
  • 19. 1. Greeting – Building Rapport  Be Empathetic  Apologize if they had trouble finding the office  “Oh, it’s raining there? It is here too. I hate rainy days.”  Show you understand their point of view  “I can understand that…”  “I can see that…”  “That does sound very frustrating…”
  • 20. 1. Greeting – Building Rapport  Inject Some Humor  Joke about yourself  Joke about the situation  Don’t joke about them  Rapport is about showing them that you are human too
  • 21. 2. Introduction – Be Transparent  Confidentiality  How are you recording what is said?  Who is listening?  What will you do with the information you collect?  Consent Form  Put it all in writing – using their language
  • 22. 2. Introduction – Define Social Interaction Rules  Describe the Session  List the activities  Describe the roles  Social Niceties Do Not Apply  You’re not emotionally involved in the design/project  There are no right or wrong answers  Your job is to get honest opinions
  • 23. 3. Interview/Evaluation – Be Accepting  Watch Your Reactions  Don’t show surprise  May make them think that they are giving a wrong answer  Don’t overly agree  May make them think that they are giving the right answer  Don’t be negative  Watch your tone – stay neutral and accepting  Try not to laugh
  • 24. 3. Interview/Evaluation – Be Accepting  Be yourself  No one is perfectly neutral  Recover gracefully and move on  “Perfect” – “That’s the level of detailed feedback we’re looking for.”  “Interesting!” – “I haven’t heard that perspective yet, tell me more.”  (something surprising) – “I can understand that.”  Interject some Rapport-building comments when needed  Quiet or uncomfortable participants  “I hate it when that happens.”, “I can imagine that was challenging”, etc.  Again, showing that you are human like them
  • 25. 3. Interview/Evaluation – Comfortable Conversation What is a Comfortable Conversation?  Conversational cues and turn-taking are expected  Acknowledgement tokens – “Uh huh”, etc.  Encourage the continuation of the other speaker’s talk  Usually implies that the other speaker’s prior talk is incomplete Source: 1 Drummond and Hopper, 1993.
  • 26. 3. Interview/Evaluation – Comfortable Conversation  Some acknowledgement tokens indicate other things  “Yeah” – half the time indicates changing turns in speaking 1  “Yeah. I heard that the other day and…”  “Oh!” - may indicate noticing something, then transitioning to another topic  “Oh! That reminded me…”  “Okay” – may indicate that the listener wants the speaker to stop speaking1 Source: 1 Drummond and Hopper, 1993.
  • 27. 3. Interview/Evaluation – Neutral Observation  Some may introduce bias  “Oh!”, “Interesting” – indicating unexpected answer  “Yes”, “Perfect”, “Great” – indicating agreement  “Hmmm.”, “Really?” – indicating disagreement  Notice that tone is key  Neutral is best  “Mhmm”, “Uh huh”, “Continue”, “Tell me more”, “OK”  “Mhmm” or “Uh huh” vs. silence  interviewees saying 31% more phrases. 1 • Body Language • Head nodding while participant is speaking  interviewees speak 50% longer. 2 Source: [1] Matarazzo et. al., 1964, [2] Matarazzo et al., 1963
  • 28. 3. Interview/Evaluation – Neutral Observation  Ask Open-ended Questions  Start with Who, What, When, Where, Why, How?
  • 29. 3. Interview/Evaluation – Neutral Observation  Really Listen  Pay attention – stay in the moment  Look at the participant  Take notes if you can  Be quiet - give them time to say what they need to
  • 30. 3. Interview/Evaluation – Neutral Observation  Be Quiet!  Most agreements happen immediately. Most people delay before disagreeing.1  If you don’t respond to their answer, it encourages them to talk more  People often delay speaking before disagreeing – give them time  Some people are uncomfortable with silence, so they will keep talking  “People speak in paragraphs.” (Steve Portugal)  The best way to stay neutral  Source: 1 Goodwin and Heritage, 1990.
  • 31. 3. Interview/Evaluation – Manage the Flow • Wait for topics to come up organically • If the participant mentions something that you have later in your question list, ask it now. • Transitions • Don’t just switch topics – provide context. • Summarize last topic, then introduce new one. • “That’s great about XYZ, but now I’d like to talk about ABC”. Question. • “You mentioned XYZ, tell me a bit more about how you blah blah..”
  • 32. Structure of an Interview/Usability Session 32 Trust Comfort Interview Build Rapport Neutral Observation Define Social Interaction Rules Be Transparent Comfortable Conversation Be Accepting Thanks Manage the Flow Greeting Introduction Interview / Evaluation Wrap-Up
  • 33. The most important thing is… 33 PRACTICE!
  • 35. Keep Improving 1. Identify your improvement areas  Watch your videos  Have colleagues give you feedback 35
  • 36. Keep Improving 2. Learn from others  Watch others moderate  Be a participant  Listen to talk radio interviews Terri Gross, Fresh Air, Ira Glass, This American Life 36
  • 37. Keep Improving 3. Practice skills in everyday life  People watch (observe) in public  Be quiet and listen in everyday conversations 37
  • 39. Classic Books on Moderating 39
  • 40. Coming Soon! New book on Moderating • Donna Tedesco, Fiona Tranquada • Book coming this Fall • Follow @ModSurvivalUX See them today: • “Expecting the Unexpected: Preparing for Successful User Research Sessions” • 3:00 PM, Back Bay C 40
  • 43. References Boren, T. and Ramey, J. (2000) Thinking aloud: reconciling theory and practice. IEEE Transactions on Professional Communication, 43 (3), 261-278. Carnegie, D. (1936) How to win friends and influence people. Simon & Shuster. Dumas, J. and Loring, B. (2008) Moderating usability tests, Morgan Kaufman. Dumas, J. and Redish, J. (1999) A practical guide to usability testing, Intellect Ltd. Ericsson, K. and Simon, H. (1980) Verbal reports as data. Psychological review. 87 (3), 215-251. Goodwin, C., & Heritage, J. (1990). “Conversation analysis.” Annual review of anthropology 19 (1990): 283-307. Matarazzo, J.D.., Saslow, G., Wiens, A. N., Weitman, M. & Allen, B. V. (1963). Interviewer head nodding and interviewee speech durations. Psychotherapy, 1, 54-63. Matarazzo, J.D.., Wiens, A. N., Saslow, G., Allen, B. V., & Weitman, M. (1964). Interviewer Mm-Hmm and interviewee speech durations. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research & Practice, 1(3), 109. Tannen, D. (2005). Conversational Style: Analyzing Talk among Friends. Oxford University Press, USA. http://www.uxbooth.com/articles/5-useful-lies-to-tell-user-research-participants/ http://www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/rapport.html 43
  • 44. 44 Thank You! Susan Mercer Senior Experience Researcher smercer@madpow.com @susanamercer

Editor's Notes

  1. Here to talk about moderating and interviewingInterviews and Usability tests are often done in different parts of the project lifecycle, but they are quite similar in the skills requiredFormative done during the design process, to get qualitative feedback used to iterate on the designSummative done at the end of development. More structured, quantitative, to measure specific aspects of the softwareInterviews and Formative tests are similar in structure and skillsets needed to effectively moderate them. That’s what I’ll be focusing on today.
  2. There are lots of soft skills involved.
  3. “Would you like to try one of my chocolate chip oyster and herring brownies? They’re really good!”
  4. Rules of Politeness govern social conversations – and are stronger with people we do not know wellDon’t Impose“Would you like something to drink?”“Yes, that would be nice.”VS“Yes, I’ll have an Orange Juice mixed with Raspberry Lime seltzer.”Give Options“Would you like something to drink?”“Water, tea, or whatever you have – don’t go to any trouble.”Be Friendly“What do you think of this website?”“Well, it’s not my favorite…”VS.“This is crap.”
  5. A warm smile is the universal language of kindness – William Arthur Ward