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2. Although this situation is not quite so favourable, at least here half of the battle has
already been won; being that the person has admitted they have anger and that
this is a problem. The difficulty here is actually getting them to seek further help to
solve this. It may be that the person has admitted that anger is causing them and
other people around them a problem, but 'shrugs off' the situation saying that it
will not happen again, or simply acknowledges that they suffer from anger but do
not need any help 'that things will be alright'. Sadly this is seldom the case and if a
problem is left -although human nature means that it is tempting to do this- the
problem is only likely to get worse, with the solution being more challenging as time
goes by.
PERSEVERE AND TRY AND MAKE THE FINAL PUSH - Now that the person has at least
acknowledged that they have an anger management problem, even though they
have no plans to do anything about this; it would be admitting defeat to give up on
them at this stage - especially if they are somebody that we care about. No matter
how difficult it is to get them to take further action, try and do this by following
these suggestions.

4. HAVE A VERY PERSONAL 'HEART TO HEART TALK' AND POINT OUT THE
BENEFITS OF THE PERSON TAKING STEPS TO MANAGE THEIR ANGER AND
THE SITUATION IF THEY FAIL TO DO THIS - This situation should really be
used as a shock tactic although it is vital to get the balance right here. Try
and have a deep discussion about the anger and its causes. A good time to
do this would be when the two of you are alone, after the children have
gone to bed or after dinner. It is best not to have another person in the
room -as they may be biased towards one person. If for instance they are
biased towards the person with anger, the chances are that our requests for
managing the anger will not be taken seriously, or if they side with us, the
anger sufferer will likely feel that we are teaming-up with other people
against them and the protectionist tendencies discussed earlier may come
into effect. With just two people, a really private deep conversation can
hopefully take place. The person may also open-up and discuss the causes
of the anger and after this may even agree to take further steps.

6. If they do acknowledge that they have anger problems but still see no point in
taking further action, tactfully point out that within the current situation 'we are at
a crossroads with two paths to take'. Point out the two different scenarios: if they
take action to manage their anger or what could happen if they fail to do this. The
latter may shock them into taking further action, although be very tactful here. Yes
by all means try and shock even scare the person, but there is a very fine balance
needed here. If we scare them too much by making very serious threats; for
instance that we will leave the person, they may feel that we do not care enough
about them to help and are pushing them into a corner - a move that could be very
counter-productive. On the other hand, without a slight push, there may be little
incentive for the person to take the necessary action to manage their anger.