A powerpoint presentation for moderators who wish to help men in abusive relationships.

1. Take Control A Workshop Designed for Men Undergoing Domestic Abuse

3. Non-profit organization

4. Community support group

6. Take control of your physically abusive relationship

7. Find effective and non-violent solutions to dealing with this problem

8. Gain confidence

9. We are all equals in our struggle with these issues

10. Seeking out solutions is not less masculine

11. Everyone here has been through similar situations

12. It is not your fault

13. It is not uncommon

15. fear your partner

16. avoid certain topics through fear of angering your partner

17. feel that you can’t do anything correctly

18. believe that you deserve to be hurt and/or mistreated

19. blame yourself for this situation

20. feel emotionally numb and helpless

21. wonder if you are the one who is crazy

23. humiliates you by yelling and screaming

24. physically hits you in unwanted ways

25. ignores your concerns about the direction of the relationship

26. blames you for the abusive behavior

27. has a bad temper that escalates quickly

28. threatens to hurt you physically

29. acts excessively jealous and possessive

31. Example: “I’m going to beat the daylights out of you.”

32. Intimate Partner Violence (IPV): Any act deemed to have the intention, or perceived intention, of causing physical injury.

33. Example: An individual hitting another with any object, including body parts.

34. Interpersonal Contamination: Unwanted touching and invasion of personal space, both in the home and workplace.

35. Example: Attempting to cuddle at an unwanted time, particularly following an act of aggression.

36. Paradoxical Violence: Combines and often confuses accidental, playful, and real violence, simultaneously communicating more than one meaning of the interaction.

38. Women offenders constitute fastest growing segment of criminal justice system

39. 2.6 million US men are victims of severe violence

40. Adolescent women more likely to assault male partners than adolescent men

41. Men are more likely to suffer from serious injuries in intimate partner relationships

43. He lived in a marriage with children that became increasing abusive over a twenty year period. He was subject to being hit with objects that included, but were not limited to, guitars, full beer cans, and gemstone rings.

45. Non-dominate boys are made to feel inferior in their social status

46. Games such as King of The Mountain emphasize this ultra-competitive, physical relationship with one another

47. “It’s a dog eat dog world out there”

48. This explains why men are wary to come out about being in an abusive romantic relationship

49. You have taken the first step to ending this cycle

50. First step is always the hardest one to take

51. Be proud of this accomplishment

53. Due to the stigma of being seen as less masculine when confessing to being abused

54. Unfortunately, men are just as likely as women to be physically abused in a romantic relationship (Anderson, 2002)

55. Gender stereotypes have engrained a belief that women are more likely to be physically abused than men (Capaldi, Kimm, & Shortt 2007)

56. Discussion in the media is grossly inadequate considering these findings

57. Our goal is to provide a place for men to have an honest conversation with their peers

59. Remember…

60. You have taken the initiative

61. You can take control

62. You can believe in yourself

63. YOU ARE NOT ALONE