As I was growing up, my parents taught me to always try new things and take every opportunity that is given to me. When I was trying to figure out what topic to research for the year ahead of me, I had a hard time finding something that I was passionate about. I realized that I love trying new things and meeting new people. We’re all just a few weeks shy of graduating and moving on from the same people we’ve seen everyday for the past 12 years. We’re going to live in new places, meet new people, learn all sorts of crazy stuff, and hopefully not lose sight of our goals. So, I hope through this project I will convince you guys, my peers, to not be fearful, but hopeful, and not be reckless, but eager for the years to come.
A comfort zone is an artificial boundary developed by fear and molded by our experiences, the attitudes and people around us, habits, the status quo, and all of our environment. Like beauty, a comfort zone is in the eye’s of the beholder. Each person has a comfort zone unique to them because each person experiences different triumphs and tragedies. A small boy who is mocked and picked last in gym is less likely to ask girls out later on than the varsity quarterback is. This is because we are constantly learning from our past trials and errors and end up locking ourselves into a “comfort zone” that paralyzes us from reaching our full potential.
1. Image a. How you see yourself, others see you, and how you think they see you b. Causes Insecurities 2. Fear of Failure a. Past Trials and Errors teach us 3. Helplessness b. Causes Doubts
1. Self Image: mental concept & reality are different a. How you perceive yourself i. Huge self-esteem problem for girls AND boys b. How others perceive you i. Especially in high school, there are too many judgments made c. How you think other people perceive you: Combined of one and two i. “I don’t want to try to talk to them because they think I’m weird.”
1. Fear of Failure a. Classical Conditioning i. We learn through Consequence and patterns ii. Helplessness comes when we don’t know how to react to failure
1. Pavlov: Russian Psychologist a. Classical Conditioning: The conditioning of reflexes to respond to a stimuli in which those reflexes would not originally react to. b. He noticed that dogs salivate while watching someone take out pots and pans before any food was actually present. c. Dogs recognize first thing that happened: pans being taken out and last thing: them getting food
1. Amygdala a. Part of Limbic System b. Located in temporal lobe i. In charge of functions like emotion, memory, fear conditioning (behavior). b. When memories are made (trials and tribulations) they are stored in the amygdala c. Develop fear for failures because we learn what would happen if we try again i. This can be bad however because failure only happens sometimes, not every time.
This is a picture of Franklin D. Roosevelt, possibly one of the most courageous presidents of American History. He said during his First Inaugural Address that “ the only thing we have to fear is fear itself—nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance.” He was referring to the Great Depression, but we can all listen to perhaps the greatest advice ever given. Stress, anxiety, discontent, unhappiness, and failure can all be rooted back to fear. What fear does to us is it occupies our minds with worries. Worries of not getting into that “great” college, making the team, or going to prom with someone we’d really like to. So what do we do? We procrastinate and make excuses and end up not applying to our “reach” college, not trying out for the basketball team, and not asking that person out in fear of rejection and failure. Fear ends up paralyzing us, which in turn prevents us from reaching our full potential.
Because of curiosity, a child will eat bugs, try to fly, and ask a crazy amount of questions because their curiosity is beautiful. It’s not until they find out that bugs are foul, the fall after flying is painful, and asking too many questions can lead to rejection, that they become fearful of trying new things. 1. Learning to ride a bike, first crush, how to swim, first day of school ALL happens when we’re children 2. Exposed to new things and people and we’re open minded 3. Unfortunately, they lose that insight when they experience pain, embarrassment, rejection, or failure.
Ignorance is another cause of fear. We hear all the time that we fear what we do not know, and it is very true. In general, we are less likely to try new things that we don’t know much about because for most of us, change is terrifying. Doubt enters the mind because we feel we’re not equipped physically, mentally or emotionally for something new. However, change is extremely necessary for success. Godfrey Sullivan, President and CEO of a huge software company did not get to where he was by not taking risky chances. When Lindsey Vonn, Olympic Skier for team USA, crashed her head into an icy slope during a training run for the downhill 2006 Olympics, she didn’t throw in the towel. Years later, she again injured herself right before the 2010 Olympics, but still managed to win Gold Medal for the 2010 Downhill. Great success is not possible without taking the first step.
1. Formed by Epicurus a. Greek philosopher 2. Philosophy that tranquility, peace of mind and happiness is the main goal in life. a. Sensual pleasures disturbs peace of mind b. Intellectual pleasures were seen to lead to true happiness. i. Conquest of fear of the gods, death, and the afterlife. Freedom of fear c. Epicurus believed that if you could achieve a life free of fear and sensual pleasures (sex, over eating) 3. Believed in higher beings (gods), but did not believe they had any effect on our lives i. Similar to Atheistic beliefs.
Horace -Disciple of Epicureanism -Close friend of Augustus (Ceaser) 1. Roman poet famous for Latin Literature of Golden Age a. He wrote satires, epodes, odes, and epistles 2. After the assassination of Julius Ceaser a. Recruited by Marcus Junius Brutus (one of the assassins) b. Republican Army c. Army was routed by Octavian (Gaius Julius Ceaser Augustus) and he and Horace became good friends i. Granted a government job in writing poetry on his return home ii. Satires, epodes, odes, and epistles ii. On the powerful side of history, therefore his poems were famous
Horace -Ode 1.11
The theme of the poem depicts a Epicureanistic belief; take what is given to you and live with it. &quot;Seize the day&quot; comes from the idea that life is ever moving, and never does a moment linger. We should not waste our time ignoring our full potential or fearing the unknown. Horace tried convincing us to go out and do what we can with the moments we are given because death is inevitable and so many people waste their lives fearing it, instead of living in the moment.
Though it is important to branch out and try new things, you need to keep in mind that everything is good in moderation. There is a difference between stepping out of your comfort zone and being dangerous and out of control. It is necessary to find that median for an optimal outcome. Here are some theories.
1. Believed that virtues were to be developed by humans beings a. “Virtue” was pretty much equivalent to “Excellence” b. Believed that every person was capable of excellence -believed that excellence laid in between two extremes
The left side is a lack of the category. Two little of something leads to a rut that we tend to get stuck in. The right side is the excess. Too much can lead to obnoxiousness, rudeness, and even danger.
1. Robert M. Yerkes and John Dillingham Dodson a. 1908 b. Two physiological psychologists c. Interested in the challenges linked to performance 2. What they did a. “Systematically starved the rats” so they would have a bigger incentive for cheese. b. Does this make the rats work harder for the cheese, or does it make them too tired?
1. Too reach peak performance, one must experience anxiety a. Anxiety gets adrenaline, making someone aware 2. Too much is dangerous a. Too much adrenaline can cause mistakes and nerves to get the better half 3. Too little is not good either a. If one is too confident, they can underestimate competition or the challenge.
(bringing it back to the causes) 1. Doubting capabilities 2. Risks are too large a. Habitual Routine i. You are comfortable with the way things are because they are familiar -The unknown is scary because we are not familiar with it. 3. There’s always tomorrow a. We assume that because tomorrow is new, it is a better day to do something b. We believe we will be more capable of something tomorrow i. Procrastination and excuses ii. Tomorrow will turn into Today, and tomorrow will eventually, never come.
In most of my research, I have found that people are unwilling to branch out or try new things because they believe in the “tomorrow”. However, “tomorrow” becomes today, and if you don’t do anything right NOW, tomorrow may come too late. Janis Joplin was a blues singer for about two years. She was one of the first blues white female singers of this time. Many believe her legacy is only famous because she died young like many “sex, drug, and rockandrollers” of that time. She had a very distinct sound to her voice, which with her “I don’t care” attitude got her legacy to live on.
1. Think of your habitual behaviors a. Not necessarily bad habits. b. These habits work for you, so you cling to them i. They’ve gotten to where you are, however, not where you can be 2. Put aside your most clung to habit (keeping quiet around new people, constantly texting, fingernail biting, over eating, judging people ) a. Try to see things through a different perspective i. Shyness: people perceive you the way you perceive yourself. ii. Texting: missing out on the real world happening around you iii. Fingernail biting: unhealthy and disgusting iv. Over-eating: unhealthy and avoiding possibly more in depth anxieties
1. Take a look at yourself a. Focus on your unconscious habits i. Most of us are aware of our boundaries, but maybe not little habits because we grow addicted to them ii. You have to want to leave your comfort zone, so if you really do want to try new things, focus on what is holding you back.
1. After analyzing your habits, look at who you really are. 2. Don’t be selfish, but you need to put your wants before what others want of you. 3. Stop trying to constantly please others. It will give you constant guilt or shame. 4. “Stuck” in relationships, going to school your parents like, dead end job
1. Something you’ve always wanted to do, but didn’t because you were scared. 2. We need to get passed the fear that people will think we are weird. 3. Nearly impossible going your whole life without at least someone calling you strange, so WHO CARES?! 4. Be weird, strange, or goofy. At least you’ll be having fun. Besides you have plenty of time to be a dead-beat when you’re six feet underground. 5. Some of the strangest people are the most insightful and talented people.
1. Passion v. Talent 2. You do something well, but no where you see yourself in the future (or want to at least) 3. Being “good” at something and enjoying it are two different things 4. Though doing something well is something that we all enjoy, but you cannot neglect your happiness. So you invest a lot of time is something you’re good at...Good for you. But you have no passion for it? You do it well, but you don’t see it playing a big role in your future. You need to be willing to drop whatever this is because being “good” at something and enjoying something are two totally different things. Doing something well is something that feels good for everyone, but you cannot neglect your happiness. This will play a bigger role when we’re off at college trying out majors. By doing something you’re good at, just because you’re good at it isn’t bad at all. However, you can grow too comfortable in this position and be fearful in the future to try things you may not be all that great at.
Comfort zones are natural and they protect us from dangers. However, some of the dangers that we veer away from are only imaginary. This is where you really should do your research to find out the actual potential danger. This is crucial to the process of stepping out of your comfort zone. Maybe the danger is not as frightening or as real as imagined. Ask around, read, use the internet. If you use reliable resources, your fears might dissipate. The important part is that you separate natural fears (that cause actual danger) from irrational fears.
Know that anxiety is completely natural. You need to accept that what you are doing may strain your mentality, but only temporary. Once you realize what is going on. Be prepared for some things to be indifferent to you and even things to go wrong. If you are not experienced with something, some things may not be planned out perfectly and that is perfectly fine. You just need to relax and persist.
1. Genetic change in the X chromosome a. Change in FMR1 gene b. Behavioral disorder c. Challenges dealing with anxiety d. Inherited, even if no previous family member appears to have it -the carriers may not know they are carriers e. Difficulties learning or developing behavioral, intellectual, or social characteristics -delayed motor skill development, poor eye contact, f. “Most common known cause of autism” -most common form of inherited “mental retardation” -mostly in males, but in some females
1. Routine a. Something as easy as a fire drill can cause severe anxiety 2. Making new friendships a. Picking up on social cues can be difficult 3. Transitions to new things a. New schools, employment can be difficult b. Managing traumatic or emotional upsets -These difficulties can make it nearly impossible to face new things or try new things
Upper Merion Takes the Plunge was a month long school-wide project that encouraged every student to step out of their comfort zone. Each week there would be 1-3 activities or challenges that each student could take part in. At first I thought no one would take it seriously and blow it off as a silly bonding kind of activity, but I was surprised by the end of the month to see everyone’s enthusiasm for the project.
Day 1: Attend a Meeting Da y: Think about clubs or organizations you have been interested in. Attend a meeting for one this week. You don't have to join, just see what it's about. Day 2: Introduce Yourself Day: Introduce yourself to an underclassman or upperclassman who you may not know that well. Day 3: March 11: &quot;I Love You&quot; Day: Take the time to tell a parent, friend, or any other loved one how you feel. You don't know how much it might mean to them. Day4: March 14: Compliment a Stranger Day: Take the time to sincerely compliment someone you don't know. Day 5: March 18: Share Your Lunch Day: For some people, lunch is the worst part of the day because they have no one to talk to, so share yours. Day 6: March 21: Hidden Deed Day: Throughout the school, small cards will be hidden with fun deeds that can be done throughout the school day. If you find one, take the chance to participate.
1. I also got to work with Mr. Piazza’s and Mrs. Kenny’s class a. Mini-Challenge Day i. Little activities that would influence them to step out of their comfort zones -We played little games that helped us get to know each other better -Hand puzzle -Mascot Decoration -Little videos of what they think
WHAT I LEARNED 1. We have out entire life in front of us a. College i. Fraternities/Sororities ii. Switching majors iii. Leaving home b. Military i. Huge responsibility ii. Higher stakes iii. See things you don’t want to c. Venturing out now i. Taking on responsibility now ii. Starting career right away iii. Living somewhere unknown with not a lot of money 2. So many paths to choose a. Every choice we make will affect our future i. Make the choices that will make a great story, because once you’re gone, you can’t tell your story anymore.
The Comfort Zone <ul><li>Carrie Davidson </li></ul>photo by paige radliff
Thesis <ul><li>In general, people spend too much time worrying about the future, the way they are perceived, and the fear of failing. All of these worries and fears prevent success and inevitably lead to stress, unhappiness, and failure of reaching one’s full potential. By stepping out of a comfort zone, those worries are erased while one experiences change , excitement, and breakthroughs . </li></ul>
Personal Relevance <ul><li>“ True terror is to wake up one morning and discover that your high school class is running the country .” </li></ul><ul><li>-Kurt Vonnegu t </li></ul>http://www.imdb.com/media/rm3582367488/tt0077975
-Causes -Philosophies -Obstacles /Rewards -Studies - How to step out -Taking advantage of every opportunity http://gosmellthecoffee.com/files/2008/10/comfortzone.jpg
What Is A Comfort Zone? India. UNCT. UN Stress Counselor. Moving Beyond Comfort Zone. Web. 17 Feb. 2011. http://farm1.static.flickr.com/57/168480903_ca40107e3a_b.jpg Artificial Boundary You HAVE GOT TO see this view!
Image Fear of Failure http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3033/2887775719_d4079086d9_b.jpg What Causes a Comfort Zone? Tracy, Brian. "Conquest of Fear and the Habit of Courage." Daley Group. Web. 16 Feb. LaBelle, Larry. "Leaving Your Comfort Zone & Living in Your Power Zone." Training Tamer . Training Tamer, 22 Feb. 2010. Web. 28 Apr. 2011
http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3242/4562078443_f3338b56d0.jpg Image LaBelle, Larry. "Leaving Your Comfort Zone & Living in Your Power Zone." Training Tamer . Training Tamer, 22 Feb. 2010. Web. 28 Apr. 2011
I just don’t want to “ ” http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3089/ 2883862468_41faf598a2_b.jpg LaBelle, Larry. "Leaving Your Comfort Zone & Living in Your Power Zone." Training Tamer . Training Tamer, 22 Feb. 2010. Web. 28 Apr. 2011
<ul><li>“ The only thing we have to fear, </li></ul>Tracy, Brian. "Conquest of Fear and the Habit of Courage." Daley Group. Web. 16 Feb. 2011 Roosevelt, Franklin D. ""Only Thing We Have to Fear Is Fear Itself": FDR's First Inaugural Address." Address. First Inaugural Address. Washington, D.C. 4 Mar. 1933. History Matters: The U.S. Survey Course on the Web . Web. 03 Mar. 2011. < http://historymatters.gmu.edu/d/5057/ >. http://www.studenthandouts.com/Photo-Gallery-01/Photos/Big-Three-Teghran-Conference-1943-Joseph-Stalin-Franklin-D-Roosevelt-Winston-Churchill.jpg is fear itself.” -President Franklin D. Roosevelt First Inaugural Address
Origin of Fear http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_BGPyjTVrBbE/TLoijQTDJTI/AAAAAAAAAKM/1blUydFlU8w/s1600/Annex+-+Our+Gang_02.jpg Tracy, Brian. "Conquest of Fear and the Habit of Courage." Daley Group. Web. 16 Feb. 2011 Childhood experiences
More Causes <ul><li>Ignorance </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Change </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Doubt </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Illness, fatigue, not physically fit </li></ul></ul>Tracy, Brian. "Conquest of Fear and the Habit of Courage." Daley Group. Web. 16 Feb. 2011 http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2804/4383954040_35f94478c5_b.jpg ( http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2707033/lindsey_vonn_primed_for_2010_olympic.html?cat=14 )
Epicureanism "EPICUREANISM." (n.d.): Funk & Wagnalls New World Encyclopedia. EBSCO. Web. 1 Mar. 2011. Greek philosopher Tranquility, peace of mind & happiness http://www.flickr.com/photos/38000818@N06/4869954503 Freedom from fear, yo.
Quintus Horatius Flaccus (65 BC- 8 BC) (65 BC- 8 BC) "HORACE." (n.d.): Funk & Wagnalls New World Encyclopedia. EBSCO. Web. 1 Mar. 2011. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Horace http://farm1.static.flickr.com/63/188628880_d932014062_b.jpg
Ode I XI Social Issues Research Centre. Carpe Diem. Carpe Diem. The National Lottery. Web. 16 Feb. 2011. http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3073/2642152683_c2a6b05b8f_b.jpg <ul><li>“ ...Sapias, vina liques, </li></ul><ul><li>et spatio brevi spem longam reseces; </li></ul><ul><li>dum loquimur, </li></ul><ul><li>fugerit invida aetas: </li></ul><ul><li>carpe diem quam nimium credula postero.” </li></ul>
Carpe Diem Social Issues Research Centre. Carpe Diem. Carpe Diem. The National Lottery. Web. 16 Feb. 2011. http://faculty.frostburg.edu/phil/forum/DeadPoets.htm <ul><li>“ ...Be wise, strain the wine; </li></ul>and since life is brief, prune back far-reaching hopes. Even while we speak, envious time has passed: pluck the day, trusting as little as possible in the tomorrow.” http://www.flickr.com/photos/8407953@N03/5148504509
Finding a Balance http://farm1.static.flickr.com/122/281907152_56e14458df_b.jpg
Aristotle’s Golden Mean http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5056/5540477046_3c96090f7e_b.jpg http://media.web.britannica.com/eb-media/84/87984-050-7C5547FE.jpg “ ...it is a mean between two extremes, that which depends on excess and that which depends on defect.” too shy friendly flattery Rivera, John. "Finding Aristotle's Golden Mean: Social Justice and Academic Excellence." Journal of Education 186.1 (2005): 79. MasterFILE Premier. EBSCO. Web. 4 Apr. 2011.
Rashness Courage Cowardice Pettiness Magnificence Vulgarity Shyeness Modesty Shamelessness http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4045/4644606033_c4c8bc47ff_b.jpg Insensibility Temperance Licentiousness Understatement Truthfulness Boastfulness Deficiency Mean Excess Aristotle. The Nicomachean Ethics (Penguin Classics). Ed. Hugh Tredennick. Trans. J. A. K. Thomson. New York: Penguin Classics, 2003. pp. 285-286. Illustration of rashness, courage, and cowardice modified from: Baird, Forrest E. Ancient Philosophy (Philosophic Classics, Volume I--4th Edition). Upper Saddle River: Prentice Hall, 2002.
Yerkes-Dodson Law http://wwp.us.com/product/cheese/images/cheese.jpg http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3053/2961169411_6f73b15b9f_b.jpg rat study to test performance without food Harrison, Raymond. "Challenge Should Be Linked To Performance." HR Focus 70.10 (1993): 9. Institute of Management & Administration. Web.
<ul><li>Optimal Performance requires certain level of arousal </li></ul><ul><li>Too much arousal can backfire </li></ul>Outcome Harrison, Raymond. "Challenge should be linked to performance." HR Focus 70.10 (1993): 9. MasterFILE Premier. EBSCO. Web. 15 Mar. 2011. http://cdn.mymovies.ge/backdrops/017/4c69906a5e73d65f42000017/mighty-mouse-in-the-great-space-chase-original.jpg
Why Is It So Hard? India. UNCT. UN Stress Counselor. Moving Beyond Comfort Zone. Web. 17 Feb. 2011. http://anniesorensen.com/take-the-chance-you-never-know-what-youre-gonna-get/ http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4096/4760723894_a8a6d12d3a_b.jpg Doubt capabilities Risks are too large There’s always tomorrow...
-Janis Joplin http://eaobjets.files.wordpress.com/2008/07/celebrate.jpg “ Why should I hold back now and sound mediocre just so I can sound mediocre twenty years from now?” mediocre twenty years from now?” Joplin, Janis. "Janis Joplin Quotes." Find the Famous Quotes You Need, ThinkExist.com Quotations. 1999. Web. 26 Apr. 2011.
http://www.flickr.com/photos/35468141333@N01/52591956 so, how do you take the first step?
Step 1 http://inkjot.wordpress.com/category/cartoon/ India. UNCT. UN Stress Counselor. Moving Beyond Comfort Zone. Web. 17 Feb. 2011. get to know your habits then put them aside http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1272/705754047_56fa96aec9_b.jpg
Step 2 India. UNCT. UN Stress Counselor. Moving Beyond Comfort Zone. Web. 17 Feb. 2011. http://farm1.static.flickr.com/42/82015664_72694160c4_b.jpg analyze yourself focus on what is holding you back
<ul><li>“ Would you stop thinking about what everyone wants ? Stop thinking about what I want, what he wants, what your parents want. What do YOU want? What do you WANT ?” (The Notebook) </li></ul>Step 3 be you India. UNCT. UN Stress Counselor. Moving Beyond Comfort Zone. Web. 17 Feb. 2011. http://emilyh28.edublogs.org/files/2011/01/the-notebook-11x7wb8.jpg
Step 4 India. UNCT. UN Stress Counselor. Moving Beyond Comfort Zone. Web. 17 Feb. 2011. http://www.flickr.com/photos/30223382@N06/4385584533 try something strange
Step 5 India. UNCT. UN Stress Counselor. Moving Beyond Comfort Zone. Web. 17 Feb. 2011. http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2311/2303858967_be0707026e_b.jpg don’t let life pass you by
India. UNCT. UN Stress Counselor. Moving Beyond Comfort Zone. Web. 17 Feb. 2011. do your research http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3328/3507317500_e181ac3ffb_b.jpg Step 6
Step 7 India. UNCT. UN Stress Counselor. Moving Beyond Comfort Zone. Web. 17 Feb. 2011. accept what’s going on http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3272/2511369048_c17a1fb442_b.jpg
Fragile X Syndrome http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3036/2644038747_6bf8680546_b.jpg The National Fragile X Foundation. "The National Fragile X Foundation." The National Fragile X Foundation - Fragile X Syndrome . 1998. Web. 22 Dec. 2010.
Anxiety Difficulties http://www.flickr.com/photos/84119728@N00/2208867228 The National Fragile X Foundation. "The National Fragile X Foundation." The National Fragile X Foundation - Fragile X Syndrome . 1998. Web. 22 Dec. 2010.
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