3. • Resilience refers to one’s ability to “bounce
back” from adversity. When faced with a
difficult life event – for example, the sudden
loss of a loved one – resilient individuals are
able to successfully cope with, or adapt to,
the associated stress.
4. Some children develop resilience through natural process,
while others need assistance. However, this doesn’t mean
that those who require a little help will be less resilient over
time compared to their counterparts. It’s important for
parents to remember that cultivating resilience is dependent
on many factors and can take some time. Finally, a child’s
expression of sadness and/or emotional distress, particularly
following a traumatic event, is normal.
5. Signs of a resilient child
• Demonstrates a genuine interest in school
• Solves problems effectively
• Assertive and capable of showing initiative
• Empathetic toward others
• Responsible and trustworthy
• Maintains a sense of purpose and a positive outlook
on life
• Can act independently (autonomous)
• Asks for support when needed
6. Factors influencing resilience
Biological factors.
• A child’s general health: Research suggests that resilient children
acquire few childhood illnesses, have a robust physique, and
maintain regular sleeping and eating patterns.
• A child’s genetic predisposition: Children who demonstrate a
limited capacity for resilience may have parents with a history of
personality disorders.
• A child’s temperament: An infant’s easy temperament may have a
positive influence on their ability to develop resilience during
childhood.
7. External factors
• A child’s home environment: an organized, clean, and
structured home is an optimal setting for the
development of resilience.
• Parenting styles: Establishing rules and consistent
expectations from an early age promotes the
development of resilience in young children.
8. Helping a child become more resilient
Keep things in perspective
When your child is forced to deal with a stressful or
unpleasant event, it’s helpful to point out that there is a
future filled with positivity beyond the current obstacle.
Encourage your child to maintain a sense of optimism
during these difficult times. This is a skill that will
undoubtedly benefit them throughout adolescence and
adulthood.
9. Encourage your child to learn more about themselves
Facing a difficult situation head on can be an exercise in self-
discovery, especially for young children. Encourage your
child to talk openly about their experience, particularly what it
is they learned about their ability to cope with stress.
10. Teach your child about self-care
Lead by example when teaching your child about the
benefits of taking care of one’s self. This includes eating
properly, exercising, and taking time to rest. Avoid over-
scheduling your child with activities, chores or tasks.
Instead, try to facilitate a balanced schedule of work, fun,
and rest.
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11. Teach your child about the inevitability of change
Change can be a daunting reality for children and adults
alike. Teaching your child from an early age about life’s
uncertainties will enable them to roll with the punches a little
easier. Change, too, is a great opportunity to sit down with
your child and set some new, attainable goals.
12. Key points
• Resilience is the ability to cope with, and adapt to, stress
brought on by a difficult life event.
• Some children develop resilience through natural process,
while others require assistance.
• Factors that influence the development of resilience in
children include general health and well-being,
temperament, and parenting styles and behaviors.
• Parents and caregivers play a key role in the development
and nurturing of resilience in children.
