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Conflict analyze course for inmates

          Tuuli Stewart
This course has been developed through years as my practice with
inmates.
Majority of prisoners say on the first meeting:
       „I haven't done it“; „It wasn't like that“
It is partly a motto, partly self-defense and, partly true – many convicts
do not realize their crime and its affect to the others and to the
community.

Why this form?
1. In prison, everybody likes action movies – making contact
2. It is easier to talk about “somebody else” than about yourself
3. A movie we can all see the same time and the same way, rewind,
   analyze some parts etc.
    The course is aimed to three main directions:
    1.   To see, what others see in us
    2.   To adapt our behavior, to adjust expectations, to learn the
         “language”
    3.   In order to see the point of the conflict


The groups could be from 1-2 people up to 12
people, depending on circumstances.
The course could last from one day (not desired, as it takes
time to observe) until 5-6 meetings. At the end, we watch
the movie again. Not the same one and hopefully, not with
the same eyes, as in the beginning.
   The icebreaking meeting is for light discussions of
    what we like to do, where we get our information etc.
   CONFLICT IS NOT BAD, CONFLICT IS NEEDED
    for a change and progress, establishment of … etc.
   We try to manage and direct the conflict
   Quotes, examples …
   Slightly moving towards stories and plots, favorite
    movies. We pick a movie
   Who has seen this movie? Within one year??
   What do you remember? Favorite scenes and
    characters. Describe… values… what we honor…
   Write it down in the “open space "method and leave it
One of those:




Or pick your own…
Dividing into groups by birthday (day and month), first name, home location
or something like that. The groups will be stable to the end of the course.
             The ice/breaker – what is the meaning of your first name and where did you get it (your
             personal story).
The groups would be e.g as follows:
    Policeman - what did you see? Report
    City court – what does the law say? Circumstances. What do we know
     about you?
    Ordinary citizen – how do you feel about the safety in this community?
     Where you from? What do we think of you?
    Family member:
        Of offender
        Of victim
    Objective and neutral observer
             The number and exact design of groups varies by size of the general group, movie, possibilities in
              time and space etc.
   I would have the groups tasks written on papers
   Each time we explain first
   Asking questions to make sure that all is understood
   Group tasks could be done individually and then combined. In
    each group there is a time manager, peace maker and reporter.
    Those roles vary.
   Later - groups go to discussion having different roles already
   Then, we get together to have THE COURT where each group
    sends their representative to the chair
      At the end of each session we will write on small slips anonymous replies to the
      course, likes and dislikes, ideas.
      At the beginning of the next session we read those out loud, not knowing who„s idea
      it was. No comments, just reading what was said. All papers will be collected then.
   We listen to all groups during a given time
   There may be additional questions and discussions
   Then, by the end, each groups has to give a verdict
    based on their role
   We write them down in “open space” method and
    set on the walls
       Comparison
       Discussion
       Conclusions
   At the end of the course all participants write one-page
    summary
   It can be about one character we discussed, conflicts, memo
    for yourself, a letter to someone or a letter to yourself. The
    type and format are developed during the course and
    depending on the group.
   Writing is important as it is a different way of expressing
    than talking and listening - it takes more focus, is more
    emotional, more personal and memorable than talking.

    *the course could be repeated with the same basic groups after some time as we can
    vary it and see what worked, what was changed, can we argue now better, have we
    noticed something new around based on this knowledge on conflicts
The following is “theory” and the training part is “practice”

We vary those themes depending on time, group and goal.
Just the tip of     ISSUES
“an iceberg of conflict” –            the iceberg
we may take just one                                     PERSONA
conflict situation from a                                 LITIES

movie (or reading) and
discuss it in those layers/                             EMOTIONS


Do we find similar
                                                    INTERESTS, NEEDS, A
conflict layers around us?                              ND DESIRES


*I do avoid bringing personal                      SELF-PERCEPTIONS AND
                                                        SELF-ESTEEM
examples, I do not want to know
personal stories, we do not discuss
each other's cases                                 HIDDEN EXPECTATIONS



                                               UNRESOLVED ISSUES FROM THE
                                                         PAST
This may serve
                                                                          Relationship
 just as a sample -                                                        Conflicts

 we make our own                      Value Conflicts                 1. Miscommunication
                                                                      2. Strong emotions
                                   1. Different ways of
 chart of possible                 life, ideology, worldview
                                   etc.
                                                                      3. Stereotyping
                                                                      Repetitive negative
 conflict types and                2. Different criteria for
                                   evaluation
                                                                      behavior

 their causes                                                                      Data conflicts
                                Structural                                       1. Lack of information
                                Conflicts                                        2. Misinformation
                            1. Unequal authority
*I normally bring some                                                           3. Views on data's
                            2. Unequal control of                                relevance
samples or the ready-made   resources                                            4. Interpretation of
lists depending on a        Time constraint                                      data
groups and their level of
                                                      Interest Conflicts
cooperation and readiness
                                                    1. Perceived or actual
to the course                                       completion over interests
                                                    2. Procedural interests
                                                    3. Psychological interests
   Knowing, how conflict emerges we can observe and
    analyze its phases with samples from our reading or
    movies
   How do you handle a conflict? Are you an avoider, a
     collaborator, a peacemaker at all costs? Or, perhaps
     you‟re the “bull in a china shop”?
    Christians, like other monotheistic religions have a
     special responsibility to resolve conflicts in a way that
     honors God. Since God has reconciled us to
     himself, He expects us to pursue reconciled
     relationships

(Romans 12:16,18; Ephesians 4:2-3; see: God expects forgiven people to for
give)
….. and other quotes
So, where are you
      today?
Did prison change
       your
 relationship(s)?
   Live in harmony with one another. Do not be
    proud,… Do not be conceited (Romans 12:16).
   If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at
    peace with everyone (Romans 12:18).
   Do everything without complaining or arguing
    (Philippians 2:14).
   It is to a man‟s honor to avoid strife, but every fool
    is quick to quarrel (Proverbs 20:3).
   Make every effort to live in peace with all men…
    (Hebrews 12:14)

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Changing chairs

  • 1. Conflict analyze course for inmates Tuuli Stewart
  • 2. This course has been developed through years as my practice with inmates. Majority of prisoners say on the first meeting: „I haven't done it“; „It wasn't like that“ It is partly a motto, partly self-defense and, partly true – many convicts do not realize their crime and its affect to the others and to the community. Why this form? 1. In prison, everybody likes action movies – making contact 2. It is easier to talk about “somebody else” than about yourself 3. A movie we can all see the same time and the same way, rewind, analyze some parts etc.
  • 3. The course is aimed to three main directions: 1. To see, what others see in us 2. To adapt our behavior, to adjust expectations, to learn the “language” 3. In order to see the point of the conflict The groups could be from 1-2 people up to 12 people, depending on circumstances. The course could last from one day (not desired, as it takes time to observe) until 5-6 meetings. At the end, we watch the movie again. Not the same one and hopefully, not with the same eyes, as in the beginning.
  • 4. The icebreaking meeting is for light discussions of what we like to do, where we get our information etc.  CONFLICT IS NOT BAD, CONFLICT IS NEEDED for a change and progress, establishment of … etc.  We try to manage and direct the conflict  Quotes, examples …  Slightly moving towards stories and plots, favorite movies. We pick a movie  Who has seen this movie? Within one year??  What do you remember? Favorite scenes and characters. Describe… values… what we honor…  Write it down in the “open space "method and leave it
  • 5. One of those: Or pick your own…
  • 6. Dividing into groups by birthday (day and month), first name, home location or something like that. The groups will be stable to the end of the course. The ice/breaker – what is the meaning of your first name and where did you get it (your personal story). The groups would be e.g as follows:  Policeman - what did you see? Report  City court – what does the law say? Circumstances. What do we know about you?  Ordinary citizen – how do you feel about the safety in this community? Where you from? What do we think of you?  Family member:  Of offender  Of victim  Objective and neutral observer  The number and exact design of groups varies by size of the general group, movie, possibilities in time and space etc.
  • 7. I would have the groups tasks written on papers  Each time we explain first  Asking questions to make sure that all is understood  Group tasks could be done individually and then combined. In each group there is a time manager, peace maker and reporter. Those roles vary.  Later - groups go to discussion having different roles already  Then, we get together to have THE COURT where each group sends their representative to the chair At the end of each session we will write on small slips anonymous replies to the course, likes and dislikes, ideas. At the beginning of the next session we read those out loud, not knowing who„s idea it was. No comments, just reading what was said. All papers will be collected then.
  • 8. We listen to all groups during a given time  There may be additional questions and discussions  Then, by the end, each groups has to give a verdict based on their role  We write them down in “open space” method and set on the walls  Comparison  Discussion  Conclusions
  • 9. At the end of the course all participants write one-page summary  It can be about one character we discussed, conflicts, memo for yourself, a letter to someone or a letter to yourself. The type and format are developed during the course and depending on the group.  Writing is important as it is a different way of expressing than talking and listening - it takes more focus, is more emotional, more personal and memorable than talking. *the course could be repeated with the same basic groups after some time as we can vary it and see what worked, what was changed, can we argue now better, have we noticed something new around based on this knowledge on conflicts
  • 10. The following is “theory” and the training part is “practice” We vary those themes depending on time, group and goal.
  • 11. Just the tip of ISSUES “an iceberg of conflict” – the iceberg we may take just one PERSONA conflict situation from a LITIES movie (or reading) and discuss it in those layers/ EMOTIONS Do we find similar INTERESTS, NEEDS, A conflict layers around us? ND DESIRES *I do avoid bringing personal SELF-PERCEPTIONS AND SELF-ESTEEM examples, I do not want to know personal stories, we do not discuss each other's cases HIDDEN EXPECTATIONS UNRESOLVED ISSUES FROM THE PAST
  • 12. This may serve Relationship just as a sample - Conflicts we make our own Value Conflicts 1. Miscommunication 2. Strong emotions 1. Different ways of chart of possible life, ideology, worldview etc. 3. Stereotyping Repetitive negative conflict types and 2. Different criteria for evaluation behavior their causes Data conflicts Structural 1. Lack of information Conflicts 2. Misinformation 1. Unequal authority *I normally bring some 3. Views on data's 2. Unequal control of relevance samples or the ready-made resources 4. Interpretation of lists depending on a Time constraint data groups and their level of Interest Conflicts cooperation and readiness 1. Perceived or actual to the course completion over interests 2. Procedural interests 3. Psychological interests
  • 13. Knowing, how conflict emerges we can observe and analyze its phases with samples from our reading or movies
  • 14.
  • 15. How do you handle a conflict? Are you an avoider, a collaborator, a peacemaker at all costs? Or, perhaps you‟re the “bull in a china shop”?  Christians, like other monotheistic religions have a special responsibility to resolve conflicts in a way that honors God. Since God has reconciled us to himself, He expects us to pursue reconciled relationships (Romans 12:16,18; Ephesians 4:2-3; see: God expects forgiven people to for give) ….. and other quotes
  • 16.
  • 17. So, where are you today? Did prison change your relationship(s)?
  • 18. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud,… Do not be conceited (Romans 12:16).  If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone (Romans 12:18).  Do everything without complaining or arguing (Philippians 2:14).  It is to a man‟s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel (Proverbs 20:3).  Make every effort to live in peace with all men… (Hebrews 12:14)