You are ready for a relationship when you are ready to face the fantasy as well as the nightmare. Any relationship teaches us wisdom about ourselves.

1. What If I Lose My
Secret Love?
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Question:
• I am finally at peace with myself
• I love a man dearly and want his
child
• My daughter is aware of him
but my son is not

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• I have always kept him separate
from my family and he is not
interested in them
• Not even my friends know
about him

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• I want to live with him and have
his child
• If I talk to him about it, I may
lose him
• What should I do?

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Answer
• This is a fantasy and a
conditional relationship that
suits you both
• Only you can decide whether to
talk to him

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• Get clarity before you talk to
him.
• What do you want? What is the
other side of the fantasy?

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• You enjoy many benefits from the
relationship
– The excitement of the secret
– Your capacity to love
– Being loved
– The freedom to spend your time with him
or not
– Anticipation of meeting him

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• There is a downside:
– You don’t know his family or friends
– He chooses what to share with you
– You cannot rely on his support
– Is he good father?
– Will he fit into your life?

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• Wanting to share everything
with him could scare him off
and destroy his fantasy
• Or you will both have to make
many adjustments that will
really test the relationship

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• If he wants to share your life,
how will your life change?
• Do you want all those changes?
For better or for worse?

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• There is also the possibility of
even a deeper love

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• What if he does not want the
responsibility of a child? What if
he ends the relationship?

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• How have you changed and grown
in your relationship with him?
• Did he teach you the real meaning
of Love?
• Did he help you to heal and love
yourself?

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• You may lose him but you will
never lose the wisdom you
gained from your relationship
with him
• That is your gift for a future
relationship

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• As long as you are scared of
losing him, you are still
dependent on him and doubting
yourself
• Find what he offers in yourself

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• Whatever he and you decide
will be right for both of you

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