1) A study found that arguments about money early in a relationship were the strongest predictor of divorce, more so than other common assumptions like sex, children, debt, or in-laws. This highlights the importance for prospective fathers to align their financial visions with their partners. 2) Kevin and Julia Hartz successfully kept their relationship and business together when founding Eventbrite. Kevin proposed to Julia and asked her to start a company with him. They prioritized their relationship over business challenges. 3) Their relationship succeeded because they prioritized what was most important, were willing to embrace changes like relocating for the business, and committed to staying together even if the business failed through open communication and planning for different

1. STICKABILITY FACTOR FOR TO BE DADS
Introduction
Sonya Britt, a Kansas State University researcher says argument about money is the number one
predictor of divorce. Her research negates the assumptions that sex, children, debt or in-law were
the supposed cause of divorce. Her study looked at data from 4,500 couples as part of the
National Survey of Families and Households. It was found out that couples that argued about
money early in their relationship were at a greater risk for divorce. Though fights about money
could be indicative of stressors such as trust and power. It then becomes of great importance for
to be dads to plan and project their vision in alignment to those of the incoming partner or
otherwise.
Kevin and Julia Hartz, co-founders of Eventbrite – a ticketing start-up worth $1M, is a news
worthy story of couples that found essence and love in one bunch.
How were they able to keep their relationship and business?
Having met as mutual friends at the wedding ceremony of a couple, their relationship began to
take shape. Their success is tied in two requests from Kevin to Julia, which was first, to marry
her, and second to start a company with him. It would excite you to know that while Kevin was
involved in product description, Julia was involved in customer relationship and business
operations.
3 Ways To Cross Mix Business and Marriage
1. Settle For What Is Priority
While Julia knew she had Entrepreneurship in her veins, it had not been subjected to test,
however with Kevin who has been a Silicon Valley Trep, he had created an online
payment system XOOM, It was easier to match her teachability and quest for a better life
to his decision making and chart a plan for their course. They were also never going to
allow the business ruin their relationship if it doesn’t work. Of the different perspectives
to life, they settled for two – a healthy marital relationship and commitment to building a
great financial future, today they have the two.
2. Willingness To Embrace change
Relationships are always going to have lots of challenge to deal with, from a change of
job, to change of location, to change in way of life. For this couple, it was change of
location; Julia quitted her job while she had in sight an Executive role in a media agency,
declined the offer, relocated and started on a scale of no portfolio or salary, except an
idea undergoing execution.

2. 3. Decide To Stay
A question that went through my mind is, would they still be together, if the business
didn’t work?
I can tell you yes. They would still be married. First, they understood they had to make
sacrifice of quitting their jobs and did, they knew their spending had to be frugal and they
adapted, they knew they had to communicate their expectation of success or failure and
they did. In their own words they mentioned while getting married and setting up their
business, that they won’t allow the business ruin their relationship if it never worked,
they had mapped and exit. In my opinion, the relationship may not be absolute, but has
lots of lessons embedded in how they have sustained their commitment through the years.
Emmanuel Otori is a Public Speaker, Life Coach and Trainer on Leadership,
Business and Management.
Email: emmanuelotori@zoho.com