This document discusses my own personal goals and self analysis concerning health and wellness. It was a project that really forced me to look at where I ws and where I wanted to go.
Antonia Dodge and Joel Mark Witt on running a business with small children, maximizing your personality, and giving yourself choice in tough moments.
http://rachelrofe.com/antonia-dodge-and-joel-mark-witt-on-running-a-business-with-small-children-maximizing-your-personality-and-giving-yourself-choice-in-tough-moments
In a world where distractions were long thought the enemy, one man befriends that foe and finds freedom and a shining object in her rock. Since then he has embraced the distraction and searches to know better in the epic battle against the norm. And now distracted with Mark Patey.
Let's Talk About Mental Health - DevUp 2017Arthur Doler
It’s a great time to be in technology. Computers keep getting better. More and more devices keep getting connected to the internet. Javascript frameworks are multiplying like bacteria. And yet despite the improvement in our tools, we somehow don’t spend time talking about how to maintain our most important tool - the one between our ears.
Constantly feeling worn down, experiencing anxiety over making decisions, and burning out are not just facts of a developer’s life! They’re challenges that can be dealt with. In this talk we’ll cover the most common mental health challenges facing developers, and then learn about some techniques to supercharge your brain by improving your mental hygiene (whether you have a psychological disorder or not). Most importantly, you’ll learn how to have a conversation with your coworkers (and other people in your life) about supporting each other and finding your best selves.
It’s a great time to be in technology. And yet despite the improvement in our tools, we somehow don’t spend time talking about how to maintain our most important tool - the one between our ears. Your mental health is arguably the single most important factor in your ability to perform well, avoid burnout, and build resiliency, but we shroud the topic in secrecy, stigma, and co-opted clinical language that makes us think we know what's going on. We often don't even speak of what we feel to family and friends until we're facing a crisis.
We need to change all of that. You don't have to stay in the dark, and you *don't* have to suffer alone. In this talk we’ll start with some basics about mental health, then cover the most common mental health challenges facing developers, and then learn about some techniques to supercharge your brain by improving your mental hygiene (whether you have a psychological disorder or not). Most importantly, you’ll learn how to have a conversation with your coworkers (and other people in your life) about supporting each other and finding your best selves.
This document discusses my own personal goals and self analysis concerning health and wellness. It was a project that really forced me to look at where I ws and where I wanted to go.
Antonia Dodge and Joel Mark Witt on running a business with small children, maximizing your personality, and giving yourself choice in tough moments.
http://rachelrofe.com/antonia-dodge-and-joel-mark-witt-on-running-a-business-with-small-children-maximizing-your-personality-and-giving-yourself-choice-in-tough-moments
In a world where distractions were long thought the enemy, one man befriends that foe and finds freedom and a shining object in her rock. Since then he has embraced the distraction and searches to know better in the epic battle against the norm. And now distracted with Mark Patey.
Let's Talk About Mental Health - DevUp 2017Arthur Doler
It’s a great time to be in technology. Computers keep getting better. More and more devices keep getting connected to the internet. Javascript frameworks are multiplying like bacteria. And yet despite the improvement in our tools, we somehow don’t spend time talking about how to maintain our most important tool - the one between our ears.
Constantly feeling worn down, experiencing anxiety over making decisions, and burning out are not just facts of a developer’s life! They’re challenges that can be dealt with. In this talk we’ll cover the most common mental health challenges facing developers, and then learn about some techniques to supercharge your brain by improving your mental hygiene (whether you have a psychological disorder or not). Most importantly, you’ll learn how to have a conversation with your coworkers (and other people in your life) about supporting each other and finding your best selves.
It’s a great time to be in technology. And yet despite the improvement in our tools, we somehow don’t spend time talking about how to maintain our most important tool - the one between our ears. Your mental health is arguably the single most important factor in your ability to perform well, avoid burnout, and build resiliency, but we shroud the topic in secrecy, stigma, and co-opted clinical language that makes us think we know what's going on. We often don't even speak of what we feel to family and friends until we're facing a crisis.
We need to change all of that. You don't have to stay in the dark, and you *don't* have to suffer alone. In this talk we’ll start with some basics about mental health, then cover the most common mental health challenges facing developers, and then learn about some techniques to supercharge your brain by improving your mental hygiene (whether you have a psychological disorder or not). Most importantly, you’ll learn how to have a conversation with your coworkers (and other people in your life) about supporting each other and finding your best selves.
Why You’re Stuck – With Derek Doepker
In this episode, bestselling author Derek Doepker goes over exactly why you might be feeling stuck in any area of your life.
He shares how to create better habits, how to reach your goals, and why you might need to embrace “4 value logic”.
He also covers the 6 human needs that we need in order to be happy.
Derek is like a walking encyclopedia of personal development and there’s a lot to learn in this episode.
http://rachelrofe.com/why-youre-stuck-with-derek-doepker
Want More?
If you liked this, there’s plenty more where it come from. Let’s stay in touch!
We can connect in any of these places:
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A Better Life Podcast – where these transcripts are taken from:
http://www.rachelrofe.com/podcast
Rachel's books – Learn new ways to improve your life:
http://www.rachelrofe.com/booklist
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Did you miss our last episode?
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the ability to judge, make a decision, or form an opinion objectively, authoritatively, and wisely, especially in matters affecting action; good sense; discretion. The forming of an opinion, estimate, notion, or conclusion, as from circumstances presented to the mind.
Our outlook and attitude on life in general plays a huge part in how happy we are in life and how successful we become. Someone who thinks positively about everything will be more relaxed, calm and smile more than someone who is always looking on the bad side, who lets stress get to them and who constantly wear a frown.
Positive Thoughts How To Be Positive And Happy Every MomentEasy Life Journey
Positive thoughts can dramatically change every action, situation, consequence, feeling, and how we live day by day.
This universe is made up of energy, and so are we, and so is everything.
When we send out negative energy, then we are surrounded by negative forces and energy.
And the opposite is also true to positivity.
We will show you why positive thoughts is not a force to be reckon with and why you must start thinking positively in every single moment of your life.
Here are 4 top reasons why positive thoughts should be incorporated into your life.
You will enjoy life more
Is healthy and can cure illness, diseases, and practically anything
Radiate positive energy and good vibes
Can have an impact on your career and reaching your dreams
FOR THE ORIGINAL WORK/ARTICLE visit here > https://easylifejourney.com/be-positive-and-happy/
Please support the original creator by visiting their website www.easylifejourney.com
Affirmation is a very powerful technique to empower one's subconscious. Once the subconscious is disciplined to believe one's affirmation, the latter is converted into a positive action for the conscious mind. Through affirmation, beings are empowered to do, to work, and to strive for more things. Affirmation allows people to believe in themselves and to put their thoughts into action.
Affirmation is a combination of verbal and visual techniques of a preferred state of mind of a person. Strong affirmations can be very powerful, and can be used by almost anyone to achieve his goals and fulfill his desires. However, the power of an affirmation depends on how strong or weak an affirmation is.
Why You’re Stuck – With Derek Doepker
In this episode, bestselling author Derek Doepker goes over exactly why you might be feeling stuck in any area of your life.
He shares how to create better habits, how to reach your goals, and why you might need to embrace “4 value logic”.
He also covers the 6 human needs that we need in order to be happy.
Derek is like a walking encyclopedia of personal development and there’s a lot to learn in this episode.
http://rachelrofe.com/why-youre-stuck-with-derek-doepker
Want More?
If you liked this, there’s plenty more where it come from. Let’s stay in touch!
We can connect in any of these places:
Main website: http://www.RachelRofe.com
A Better Life Podcast – where these transcripts are taken from:
http://www.rachelrofe.com/podcast
Rachel's books – Learn new ways to improve your life:
http://www.rachelrofe.com/booklist
Twitter: http://www.Twitter.com/RachelRofe
Twitter: http://www.Twitter.com/AbetterlifeRR
Instagram: http://www.Instagram.com/RachelRofe
Instagram: http://www.Instagram.com/chooseabette...
YouTube: http://www.YouTube.com/RachelRofe
YouTube: http://www.YouTube.com/Chooseabetterlife
Did you miss our last episode?
You can get it here: http://rachelrofe.com/how-to-handle-being-energy-sensitive-with-hadley-gustin
the ability to judge, make a decision, or form an opinion objectively, authoritatively, and wisely, especially in matters affecting action; good sense; discretion. The forming of an opinion, estimate, notion, or conclusion, as from circumstances presented to the mind.
Our outlook and attitude on life in general plays a huge part in how happy we are in life and how successful we become. Someone who thinks positively about everything will be more relaxed, calm and smile more than someone who is always looking on the bad side, who lets stress get to them and who constantly wear a frown.
Positive Thoughts How To Be Positive And Happy Every MomentEasy Life Journey
Positive thoughts can dramatically change every action, situation, consequence, feeling, and how we live day by day.
This universe is made up of energy, and so are we, and so is everything.
When we send out negative energy, then we are surrounded by negative forces and energy.
And the opposite is also true to positivity.
We will show you why positive thoughts is not a force to be reckon with and why you must start thinking positively in every single moment of your life.
Here are 4 top reasons why positive thoughts should be incorporated into your life.
You will enjoy life more
Is healthy and can cure illness, diseases, and practically anything
Radiate positive energy and good vibes
Can have an impact on your career and reaching your dreams
FOR THE ORIGINAL WORK/ARTICLE visit here > https://easylifejourney.com/be-positive-and-happy/
Please support the original creator by visiting their website www.easylifejourney.com
Affirmation is a very powerful technique to empower one's subconscious. Once the subconscious is disciplined to believe one's affirmation, the latter is converted into a positive action for the conscious mind. Through affirmation, beings are empowered to do, to work, and to strive for more things. Affirmation allows people to believe in themselves and to put their thoughts into action.
Affirmation is a combination of verbal and visual techniques of a preferred state of mind of a person. Strong affirmations can be very powerful, and can be used by almost anyone to achieve his goals and fulfill his desires. However, the power of an affirmation depends on how strong or weak an affirmation is.
Freeing yourself from the critic in your headPeggy Haymes
Tired of the same self defeating messages running through your head? Here's help in disarming the inner critic and freeing yourself to stop getting in your own way as you reach for your goals.
In the course of our life, we have to agree that there is no beauty without struggle. No one likes to hear the story of someone who got everything easily. People want to listen to the stories of men and women who, while born in the valley of struggle, endured pain and turned their battles into a gift.
I was asked to talk to a group of NEET's at our college, this is the result PP. I think they thought I was a little mad, but they did listen, and ask questions (NEET) (Not in Education, Employment or Training) Government speak.
Learn the basics of addiction and how you can help yourself naturally.
This video is not a substitute for healthcare professional advice. please view full disclaimer at www.lifeshareuniversity.com
State of ICS and IoT Cyber Threat Landscape Report 2024 previewPrayukth K V
The IoT and OT threat landscape report has been prepared by the Threat Research Team at Sectrio using data from Sectrio, cyber threat intelligence farming facilities spread across over 85 cities around the world. In addition, Sectrio also runs AI-based advanced threat and payload engagement facilities that serve as sinks to attract and engage sophisticated threat actors, and newer malware including new variants and latent threats that are at an earlier stage of development.
The latest edition of the OT/ICS and IoT security Threat Landscape Report 2024 also covers:
State of global ICS asset and network exposure
Sectoral targets and attacks as well as the cost of ransom
Global APT activity, AI usage, actor and tactic profiles, and implications
Rise in volumes of AI-powered cyberattacks
Major cyber events in 2024
Malware and malicious payload trends
Cyberattack types and targets
Vulnerability exploit attempts on CVEs
Attacks on counties – USA
Expansion of bot farms – how, where, and why
In-depth analysis of the cyber threat landscape across North America, South America, Europe, APAC, and the Middle East
Why are attacks on smart factories rising?
Cyber risk predictions
Axis of attacks – Europe
Systemic attacks in the Middle East
Download the full report from here:
https://sectrio.com/resources/ot-threat-landscape-reports/sectrio-releases-ot-ics-and-iot-security-threat-landscape-report-2024/
UiPath Test Automation using UiPath Test Suite series, part 4DianaGray10
Welcome to UiPath Test Automation using UiPath Test Suite series part 4. In this session, we will cover Test Manager overview along with SAP heatmap.
The UiPath Test Manager overview with SAP heatmap webinar offers a concise yet comprehensive exploration of the role of a Test Manager within SAP environments, coupled with the utilization of heatmaps for effective testing strategies.
Participants will gain insights into the responsibilities, challenges, and best practices associated with test management in SAP projects. Additionally, the webinar delves into the significance of heatmaps as a visual aid for identifying testing priorities, areas of risk, and resource allocation within SAP landscapes. Through this session, attendees can expect to enhance their understanding of test management principles while learning practical approaches to optimize testing processes in SAP environments using heatmap visualization techniques
What will you get from this session?
1. Insights into SAP testing best practices
2. Heatmap utilization for testing
3. Optimization of testing processes
4. Demo
Topics covered:
Execution from the test manager
Orchestrator execution result
Defect reporting
SAP heatmap example with demo
Speaker:
Deepak Rai, Automation Practice Lead, Boundaryless Group and UiPath MVP
Securing your Kubernetes cluster_ a step-by-step guide to success !KatiaHIMEUR1
Today, after several years of existence, an extremely active community and an ultra-dynamic ecosystem, Kubernetes has established itself as the de facto standard in container orchestration. Thanks to a wide range of managed services, it has never been so easy to set up a ready-to-use Kubernetes cluster.
However, this ease of use means that the subject of security in Kubernetes is often left for later, or even neglected. This exposes companies to significant risks.
In this talk, I'll show you step-by-step how to secure your Kubernetes cluster for greater peace of mind and reliability.
Neuro-symbolic is not enough, we need neuro-*semantic*Frank van Harmelen
Neuro-symbolic (NeSy) AI is on the rise. However, simply machine learning on just any symbolic structure is not sufficient to really harvest the gains of NeSy. These will only be gained when the symbolic structures have an actual semantics. I give an operational definition of semantics as “predictable inference”.
All of this illustrated with link prediction over knowledge graphs, but the argument is general.
Slack (or Teams) Automation for Bonterra Impact Management (fka Social Soluti...Jeffrey Haguewood
Sidekick Solutions uses Bonterra Impact Management (fka Social Solutions Apricot) and automation solutions to integrate data for business workflows.
We believe integration and automation are essential to user experience and the promise of efficient work through technology. Automation is the critical ingredient to realizing that full vision. We develop integration products and services for Bonterra Case Management software to support the deployment of automations for a variety of use cases.
This video focuses on the notifications, alerts, and approval requests using Slack for Bonterra Impact Management. The solutions covered in this webinar can also be deployed for Microsoft Teams.
Interested in deploying notification automations for Bonterra Impact Management? Contact us at sales@sidekicksolutionsllc.com to discuss next steps.
GDG Cloud Southlake #33: Boule & Rebala: Effective AppSec in SDLC using Deplo...James Anderson
Effective Application Security in Software Delivery lifecycle using Deployment Firewall and DBOM
The modern software delivery process (or the CI/CD process) includes many tools, distributed teams, open-source code, and cloud platforms. Constant focus on speed to release software to market, along with the traditional slow and manual security checks has caused gaps in continuous security as an important piece in the software supply chain. Today organizations feel more susceptible to external and internal cyber threats due to the vast attack surface in their applications supply chain and the lack of end-to-end governance and risk management.
The software team must secure its software delivery process to avoid vulnerability and security breaches. This needs to be achieved with existing tool chains and without extensive rework of the delivery processes. This talk will present strategies and techniques for providing visibility into the true risk of the existing vulnerabilities, preventing the introduction of security issues in the software, resolving vulnerabilities in production environments quickly, and capturing the deployment bill of materials (DBOM).
Speakers:
Bob Boule
Robert Boule is a technology enthusiast with PASSION for technology and making things work along with a knack for helping others understand how things work. He comes with around 20 years of solution engineering experience in application security, software continuous delivery, and SaaS platforms. He is known for his dynamic presentations in CI/CD and application security integrated in software delivery lifecycle.
Gopinath Rebala
Gopinath Rebala is the CTO of OpsMx, where he has overall responsibility for the machine learning and data processing architectures for Secure Software Delivery. Gopi also has a strong connection with our customers, leading design and architecture for strategic implementations. Gopi is a frequent speaker and well-known leader in continuous delivery and integrating security into software delivery.
Connector Corner: Automate dynamic content and events by pushing a buttonDianaGray10
Here is something new! In our next Connector Corner webinar, we will demonstrate how you can use a single workflow to:
Create a campaign using Mailchimp with merge tags/fields
Send an interactive Slack channel message (using buttons)
Have the message received by managers and peers along with a test email for review
But there’s more:
In a second workflow supporting the same use case, you’ll see:
Your campaign sent to target colleagues for approval
If the “Approve” button is clicked, a Jira/Zendesk ticket is created for the marketing design team
But—if the “Reject” button is pushed, colleagues will be alerted via Slack message
Join us to learn more about this new, human-in-the-loop capability, brought to you by Integration Service connectors.
And...
Speakers:
Akshay Agnihotri, Product Manager
Charlie Greenberg, Host
UiPath Test Automation using UiPath Test Suite series, part 3DianaGray10
Welcome to UiPath Test Automation using UiPath Test Suite series part 3. In this session, we will cover desktop automation along with UI automation.
Topics covered:
UI automation Introduction,
UI automation Sample
Desktop automation flow
Pradeep Chinnala, Senior Consultant Automation Developer @WonderBotz and UiPath MVP
Deepak Rai, Automation Practice Lead, Boundaryless Group and UiPath MVP
Epistemic Interaction - tuning interfaces to provide information for AI supportAlan Dix
Paper presented at SYNERGY workshop at AVI 2024, Genoa, Italy. 3rd June 2024
https://alandix.com/academic/papers/synergy2024-epistemic/
As machine learning integrates deeper into human-computer interactions, the concept of epistemic interaction emerges, aiming to refine these interactions to enhance system adaptability. This approach encourages minor, intentional adjustments in user behaviour to enrich the data available for system learning. This paper introduces epistemic interaction within the context of human-system communication, illustrating how deliberate interaction design can improve system understanding and adaptation. Through concrete examples, we demonstrate the potential of epistemic interaction to significantly advance human-computer interaction by leveraging intuitive human communication strategies to inform system design and functionality, offering a novel pathway for enriching user-system engagements.
Accelerate your Kubernetes clusters with Varnish CachingThijs Feryn
A presentation about the usage and availability of Varnish on Kubernetes. This talk explores the capabilities of Varnish caching and shows how to use the Varnish Helm chart to deploy it to Kubernetes.
This presentation was delivered at K8SUG Singapore. See https://feryn.eu/presentations/accelerate-your-kubernetes-clusters-with-varnish-caching-k8sug-singapore-28-2024 for more details.
Encryption in Microsoft 365 - ExpertsLive Netherlands 2024Albert Hoitingh
In this session I delve into the encryption technology used in Microsoft 365 and Microsoft Purview. Including the concepts of Customer Key and Double Key Encryption.
Assuring Contact Center Experiences for Your Customers With ThousandEyes
Stella grizonttranscript
1. ARI: My guest today is Stella Grizont, who is the founder of Woopaah! Hi, Stella.
STELLA: Hi. Well said. That is exactly how you should say it every time.
ARI: Before I even ask any questions, there was a psychology article I read the other day with psychology
hacks, and one of the things it said you should do to be happier is that when you wake up in the
morning, the second you wake up, you should hop out of bed, put your hands up in the air, and go,
“Yeah!” Anyway, the “Woopaah” reference I’m guessing is Chandler?
STELLA: No. It’s so interesting, I’ve learned about all these woopaah references after I’ve launched my
businesses. It was just like an epiphany. I loved how it made me feel when I just said it, so I was like “I
want people to feel happy every time they say my company name,” and so there it was, yeah.
But the standing up is really good, because this posture signals to your nervous system that you’re
confident and you’re victorious, and it does all kinds of things. So good posture is very important for
your happiness, yeah.
ARI: So in case everybody doesn’t realize, we’re going to be talking about happiness. So what is
Woopaah?
STELLA: I launched Woopaah to help organized and employees essentially get unstuck and thrive being
their most creative and productive and happy self, because we know that when employees are well,
they’re more productive, they are more creative, and they’re performing better.
So by teaching people about wellbeing and positive psychology and the science of happiness, which is
what we do, and coaching individuals on how to really find meaning in their life, we help organizations
and people run better.
ARI: Makes sense. I like happiness. I think most people like happiness. But how do you hack happiness?
STELLA: Yeah, that’s a great question. Well… okay, one of the things that is very tricky about our minds
and our brains is that we have something called a negativity bias. What that means is that we have a
natural instinct to focus on what is bad, wrong, or threatening. Our mind automatically goes there.
Regardless of how optimistic we are or whatever, our mind tends to pay attention to the bad stuff first,
and that’s a survival instinct that worked really well for us back in the day of cavemen, etc.
But if we really want to be happy and thrive, what we have to do is hack that wiring and rewire our
thinking, rewire our instincts, in order to be able to step positively and see all the goodness around us
first. Or at least be able to curtail the time and the space that we spend in the negative zone and be able
to either step back into the positivity or at least hold the positive events in another hand while we’re
holding the negative events in one hand.
That wasn’t very articulate, but basically, hacking happiness is about training and rewiring your brain to
really focus on what is good and how to handle the bad so that you can quickly bounce back from it.
Because we can’t eliminate the bad stuff from our lives and the negative events that happen, but what
we can do is train ourselves to deal with them more fluidly.
2. ARI: How is this – not how is this; it’s got a lot of basis, obviously, in cognitive behavioral therapy and
stoicism, even, right?
STELLA: I’m not familiar with stoicism.
ARI: Okay, but cognitive behavioral therapy actually has a big basis on stoicism, stoicism being the
ancient philosophy, basically, saying that we can’t change events, but we can change our perception of
the events.
STELLA: Oh, absolutely, yes, yes, yes.
ARI: Actually, let’s back up a little bit. How did you get to this place? Did you have something that was in
your life that made you turn to look for this? How did you become more or less an expert in happiness?
STELLA: That’s a great question. Just like everybody else, we all have our stories. I mean, you have an
amazing story of overcoming a disease, and that’s so inspiring. Everyone has their thing. I’ve
experienced loss from a very early age. I lost my father when I was 6, I lost grandfathers early on,
grandparents in the Holocaust, that family stuff. I don’t think any one of those events – I worked really
hard and burned myself out multiple times. I had a bunch of bad relationships that broke my heart. So I
think we’ve all had our stuff.
But I’ve always been interested in how does the human spirit triumph, and how do we make ourselves
better, and how do we make ourselves stronger? So I was always in the self-help aisle since I understood
there was a self-help aisle. And I finally discovered that there’s a field of science dedicated to helping
people live the life worth living and understanding what that actually means from a science-based
perspective, and I signed up.
There’s a Master’s in Applied Positive Psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, and I got in, and
that’s been amazing. I’ve been sharing that information with people since.
ARI: Actually, that was my alma mater also, and I had a psychology minor, sort of accidentally, at the
University of Pennsylvania. Martin Seligman obviously was – did you work with Martin?
STELLA: Yeah, he was my professor.
ARI: Okay, right. So Martin Seligman basically being the father of positive psychology, essentially.
Actually, let’s talk about that for a minute, because I know you said we have a negativity bias; I know
about it, but it still always seems funny to me that we have to have positive psychology, like that should
be a distinction.
STELLA: I agree with you. However, because – even if you think about the way our science, our fields are
formed and so much of how we frame life – psychology to date is still a new science, and it didn’t start
off this way, but it became a deficit model. So it was focused on “What’s wrong with people and how do
we fix it? How do we get people from -10 to 0?” It was really successful, and continues to be, in helping
us diagnose issues and help people return to some level of normalcy.
But instead of asking the question of what’s wrong with people, it wasn’t asking the questions of what’s
right with people and how do we amplify it? So we had to create a new field to ask those series of
3. questions and reframe how we look at the human being and wellbeing and what it means to be happy.
So we were just taking the same empirical approach to asking a different set of questions.
But if you even think about our medicine – I mean, if you think about so many fields, it always starts
with the problem rather than, “What’s good about this and how do we make it better?” And that, again,
probably comes from that negativity bias, because we want to fix what’s wrong right now, instead of
thinking about “What’s awesome, and how do we make this even more awesome?”
ARI: It also seems like there’s this constant thing that if something bad happens, it applies to everything.
Like “I lost the job because I’m terrible at work and I can’t do good work and that’s the end of it” or
“This person broke up with me because I’m not good enough, period.” Obviously, not everybody
experiences that, but it does seem to be a general thing, right? The bad thing happens and then
everything is bad.
STELLA: Yeah. Martin Seligman, actually, one of the things that he became famous for is his theory
around learned optimism. He discovered that people tend to globalize negative events into their entire
reality. But some people don’t, and what he teaches, and what we continue to teach, is that we can
teach ourselves to isolate that event into just that event, and it doesn’t have to be your whole life. If you
didn’t get the sale, you’re not a loser and you’re not going to be not successful for the rest of your
career.
So again, it’s about narrowing that gap between the event that sucked and keeping it contained rather
than letting it spill over into your identity, into what it means for your entire future or what it says about
you.
ARI: Sure. One thing that most people have had at least some experience with is death. Once you get to
a certain age, pretty much everybody has had some experience, either a friend or a loved one. Hopefully
not, but it happens. That obviously is a legitimate hardship and something that’s very difficult, but how
are you supposed to reframe that?
STELLA: That’s an awesome question. Awesome question.
ARI: Thank you.
STELLA: I think that what people who are very resilient are able to do is hold in one hand the sadness of
the loss that they’re experiencing, and all the other emotions that come with that, and experience them
– so we don’t want to deny the loss – but at the same time, or pretty soon after you go through the
initial phases of mourning, you want to be able to also hold in your hand the celebration of life that was
had. Like the celebration of this person who was in your life, of all the memories, being able to
appreciate all the goodness that they brought into your life and that they had on others.
So it’s being able to hold the positive and the negative and being able to make some meaning out of the
experience. What is it that one can learn from this experience of death? How can we grow by going
through this experience? People who are very resilient and emotionally well off are able to hold the
positive and the negative at once and also make some kind of meaning out of the event.
Now, what that meaning is, it depends on the person and the experience, but it’s amazing that studies
show – there was this one study – I’m not super familiar with it, so I’m going to paraphrase and hope I
4. get it right, but people should look it up – they asked people who became quadriplegics about their
happiness and people who won the lottery about their happiness at the onset of becoming
handicapped, winning the lottery, and then I believe 1 year later.
What they found is that the quadriplegics, they all leveled off, and the quadriplegics were pretty much
almost at a level of happiness that they experienced when they weren’t handicapped. Again, please
double check my references for this one study, because this is one that I – but essentially, the human
spirit is amazingly resilient, and we’re able to make meaning out of what happens. And by meaning, I
mean seeing the big picture of how we belong to something bigger.
ARI: Okay, you mentioned resilience a couple times, which is something that I talk about actually a lot
with clients and things, and resilience seems to be at the core of a lot of really how people respond and
even thrive in certain events. So, how do you train? And I have my thoughts, but how do you train
resilience, as far as you’re concerned?
STELLA: There’s a number of ways to train resilience. The first thing that I talk about is that we talk about
learned optimism, which is the ability to isolate events into being their own contained events and
teaching people how to not identify with what it is that just happened. So being able to create some
space in between that.
We talk about strategies to identify what it is that you’re feeling. For example, a lot of people aren’t able
to actually hone into what it is they’re feeling. So if you don’t know what it is you’re feeling, then how is
it that you can move past it or process it? What most people do is tend to go numb or tend to distract
themselves away from what it is that they’re feeling, so that they don’t have a chance to really look at it.
So that’s another strategy that we use.
And coming up, I’m actually working on an online class on this very topic. I’m developing the material
right now, and I’d be happy to share it with your audience, probably in a few months.
ARI: Is that different from the Udemy course that we’re going to talk about next?
STELLA: Yeah, it’s going to be focused purely on helping people bounce back. What about you? What are
some of the strategies that you like to use?
ARI: I’m a big fan of heart rate variability training, honestly. I think that for very Type A people – and this
is coming from someone who is a trained yoga instructor, and I’ve done a lot of meditation, but honestly
I struggle with meditation, whereas the heart rate variability is a really good feedback loop for me.
STELLA: Exactly, you get the feedback, yeah.
ARI: So I get a lot of out of it personally, and I find that it has really lasting effects.
STELLA: Yeah, that’s great. I think there’s infinite ways for us to approach whatever our challenges are,
and what I always encourage people to do is to listen for what works for them. Like for you, that
feedback loop is really critical. After exploring yoga and meditating, you found what works for you, and
that’s the #1 thing I encourage people to do, is to constantly listen for what is it that works for you.
5. ARI: Right, exactly. Let’s talk about the Udemy course, because I did get to experience it, and it’s very
well done. The title is – well, tell me what the title is, exactly. It’s about the hacking of happiness,
basically.
STELLA: It’s “The Science of Happiness: Hacks and Skills to Flourish.”
ARI: Right. What are people going to see in that course?
STELLA: The purpose of that course is to give people, one, a foundation in understanding what positive
psychology is all about, and helping them understand what it means to truly flourish and live the good
life based on science.
In positive psychology, Martin Seligman – we talked about him – he developed something called the
theory of wellbeing, which tracks five drivers as the elements of what it takes to flourish. So those five
drivers are:
One, experiencing a level of positive emotion. So that’s feeling happy, that’s feeling a sense of gratitude,
that’s feeling a sense of love. We want to experience positive emotion. So I take people through the
science of what is emotion? How do we control those bad moods? How do we bounce back quickly?
The second element of wellbeing is engagement and flow, and that’s the state we experience when
we’re just so lost in the moment, like time passes by, we don’t even realize that things are going on
around us. Unfortunately, most people don’t experience that state very often, but there are ways to get
into that state more often, and it’s available to us in every moment. So we talk about engagement and
flow.
We talk about relationships, which are the core driver of our happiness. Relationships are the #1
predictor of our happiness. We talk about how relationships affect our brain, how they affect our
bodies. We address the loneliness epidemic that’s happening in our country right now; 40% of people
report they’re lonely. I could talk about this for hours. So we go into relationships and how to create
more connection with those around you, and also how to communicate with those so that you can
receive love in the way that you are able to receive love. Because all of us receive and give love very
differently, and sometimes we’re just speaking different languages when we’re in relationship.
The fourth driver that we talk about of wellbeing is meaning. That’s about belonging to something
bigger than yourself, and it’s about connecting the dots. Kind of how we referenced before, we were
talking about what happens when someone dies, and it’s just so horrible, the loss, or something bad
happens in your life? How do you transform struggle into transformation and something you can grow
from?
And then we talk about achievement, which is the final pillar of the theory of wellbeing. And that’s
about performance, and that’s about having a sense of mastery over something in your life. We give
some hacks around that.
So that theory of wellbeing is – an acronym to remember all of those pillars is PERMA, and that’s how
the class is organized. We include some great research and studies, and then we include what I call
Happiness Hacks, which are practices to help you amplify each of those pillars.
6. ARI: What is one thing that you think somebody can do right now, like right after they finish listening to
this podcast and they’re all amped up? What is one thing that they can do to try to be more happy – or
try to be more positive, I guess?
STELLA: I would start with gratitude. Gratitude is the gateway emotion.
ARI: It comes up all the time.
STELLA: All the time, because it’s so freaking easy. But here’s the thing, and here’s the trick: it’s easy for
us to automatically almost go to “Oh, here’s what I’m grateful for. I’m grateful that I have a home or that
I have clothes on my back or I have my family.”
What I encourage people to do is definitely start with whatever comes up for you and write it down – or
I used to do walking gratitude meditations when I lived in New York City. When I’d get off the subway
until I got to my destination, I would say “I’m grateful for, I’m grateful for” without pause, and just keep
thinking of things I was grateful for.
In the beginning, for a lot of people, they don’t feel much. They’re like, “Yeah, I know this. I know I have
a lot to be grateful for, but I still feel like shit.” That is normal. What I encourage people to do, and that’s
why I would do my walking gratitude meditations, is I would have to keep going for like 5 minutes of
what I’m grateful for to finally let the gratitude seep from my brain, which is like “Yeah, I know I have a
lot to be grateful for,” to have it seep down into here.
Meaning I had to feel the gratitude. It’s not just enough to know what you’re grateful for, but you have
to feel the gratitude, to the point where you’re like “Oh my God,” getting the chills, maybe you’re
getting a little teary. That’s how gratitude can unlock things for you. And it may take a little bit of time to
warm up.
So if it doesn’t work for you right away, just give yourself a little bit of time. Do a free write, “I’m grateful
for…” Give yourself at least 3 minutes and nonstop writing or thinking, or talk about it with someone
else. My husband and I, before we go to bed – a lot of nights; I wouldn’t say every single night, but a lot
of nights, we’ll just reflect on our day and on each other, and be like “I’m really grateful that you did this
today. I’m really grateful for this.”
And even if you’re not in the mood, when someone else triggers it for you, especially if they’re saying
what they’re grateful for about you, it definitely helps send you into that space of feeling and gratitude.
So I would start there. That’s just an easy one.
ARI: Yeah. Okay, I like that a lot. The last question that I love to ask people is what are your – and I sort
of tricked you know, because you already had to give one, in a way, but what are your top 3 tips for
personal effectiveness? What are those things that make you more effective every day? You can’t say
gratitude.
STELLA: Okay, I’m not going to say gratitude. The first one is listening, and I referenced this before. It’s
learning to listen to myself. I think this is the #1 thing that we can all learn, and I talk about this in the
course, is that we all have different listening styles and abilities to read what is happening inside of us. I
help people identify their listening style.
7. But being able to listen to myself and know what it is that I really, really, really want is kind of my North
Star. That is connected to values, that is connected to ethics, that is connected to my goals. So it’s being
able to listen to myself and stay true, because there’s all sorts of things that are motivating us; some of
them are internal, some of them are external. So if you can read the difference and continue to stay true
to yourself, I think that’s key.
So learn how to listen to yourself, and that listening can happen in different ways. It can happen through
your body; sometimes you just have a sense in your body. For some people, they hear it. For some
people, they notice events in their lives and they begin to connect the dots and they’re like, “This is
beginning to tell me something.”
Begin to identify how you’re getting your signals and fine-tune your antenna. So that’s the first thing I
would do.
The second thing I would do is honor your negative emotions. Feeling bad is not bad. We go through so
much stuff trying to avoid feeling bad that we make things worse. So if you can just let yourself be
honest with where you’re at and you actually label it, like “Oh my God, I’m feeling angry right now” or
“I’m feeling bad” or “I’m feeling disappointed,” that actually helps diminish the power of that emotion.
There’s a great study that shows MRI patients as they’re going through the machine, if the attendant
asks them “How do you feel?” and they say “I’m feeling kind of nervous,” it’s been shown that they feel
less nervous throughout the process, because they had a chance to label how they were feeling.
ARI: Wow.
STELLA: Third one is I would really take time to revel, savor, develop relationships. It’s so easy to take
those in our lives for granted. They are the #1 driver, again, of our happiness, and we derive so much
from our relationships. Even the bad ones are great for growing. So really take time to listen and love
one another. Those are my three things.
ARI: I love those. I think those are wonderful. Stella, this has been honestly very uplifting for me, so
thank you. Can you please tell everybody where the best place to find out more about you, about
Woopaah, about the course, everything?
STELLA: Yeah. If you go to Woopaah.com – and it’s W-o-o-p-a-a-h.
ARI: We’re going to link to all this in the show notes, so don’t worry.
STELLA: Okay, good. When I thought of the name, I did not think of the very tricky spelling. So if you go
to the website, you’ll find info about the course and about me, and yeah, that’s where you can go.
ARI: Great. Stella, thank you so much. Everybody, keep being positive, and I’m sure we’ll talk to you
again soon.
STELLA: That would be great. Thanks so much for having me.