A mentee is a person who receives advice, training, or guidance from a more experienced or skilled person / mentor. A mentee is one who needs to learn specific skills or competencies from the mentor. A blurred line between the two ; might change from one into another – styles Structured vs unstructured or semi structured information Formal vs informal relationship Paid vs unpaid service Teaching is about knowledge Mentoring is about experience Teaching focuses on the how, mentoring focuses on the how and why - both

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Sunday, April 14, 2024

2. MENTORING SKILLS
BY
M. NAWAZ KHALID ARBI
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3. INDEX
1) Concept - Mentorship / Mentoring
2) What is a Mentor ?
3) What is a Mentee?
4) Difference between a mentor and a Teacher
5) Kinds of Mentorship
6) Qualities of a Mentor
9) Qualities of a Mentee
10) Questions for Mentor
11) Questions for Mentee
12) Challenges
13) Protocols
14) Pitfalls
15) Reflection
16) Ending Mentoreship
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4. Concept - Mentorship / Mentoring
• It's a (beneficial )relationship between:
– a more experienced person
– and a less experienced individual(s).
• For the purpose of
– professional (career growth, leadership skills,
communication skills, expanding viewpoint, and
new ways of approaching situations)
– personal development (attitudinal changes like
belief in oneself, emotional ,time, stress and
resilience aspects).
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5. What is A Mentor?
• An experienced individual who shares knowledge,
experience, and advice with a less experienced
person.
• A trusted adviser and a role model who has "been
there" and "done that."
• Supports and encourages by offering suggestions,
advice,counselling and knowledge, both general and
specific.
• helps others learn, grow, and improve their skills.
• Examples
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6. What is a Mentee?
• A mentee is a person who receives advice,
training, or guidance from a more
experienced or skilled person / mentor.
• A mentee is one who needs to learn specific
skills or competencies from the mentor.
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7. Difference between a Mentor and a
Teacher
• A blurred line between the two ; might change from one into
another – styles
• Structured vs unstructured or semi structured information
• Formal vs informal relationship
• Paid vs unpaid service
• Teaching is about knowledge
• Mentoring is about experience
• Teaching focuses on the how, mentoring focuses on the how
and why - both
• The primary difference between a mentor and a teacher is
that the mentor offers personalised advice, while the teacher
delivers structured information to groups.
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8. Continued
• Teachers can be mentors and vice versa - both are
important and necessary.
• A teacher’s first priority is instruction—but they can
be creative and interactive in their approach……..
• They recognize and foster individuality, creativity and
become mentors in their own right.
• While a mentor’s priority is on personal
development, the mentee must possess “know-how”
skills. And so mentoring will always have an
instructional component.
• So as a student, do one need a teacher or a mentor?
The answer is…one needs both.

9. Kinds of Mentoring
• Traditional One-on-one Mentoring
• Distance Mentoring
• Peer Mentoring
• Group Mentoring
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10. Qualities of a Mentor
• Good listener/sounding
board
• Flexible
• Value diversity of
perspectives
• Knowledgeable
• Nonjudgmental
• Able to give
constructive feedback
• Honest and candid
• Able to network and
find resources
• Successful in career
• Willing/able to devote
time to developing
others
• Eager to learn
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11. Qualities of a Mentee
• Obedience and respect
• Ability to lower one’s own opinion
• Complete dedication to all what he or she says
• Mentee does not complain, crib or tries to be
arrogant:
• Is open about one’s needs and goals
• Is regular for all meetings and also punctual
• Accepts limitations of the mentor-mentee relationship
• Works on feedback appropriately
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12. Questions for Mentors
• How do you mentor best?
• What kind of mentoring arrangement do you prefer?
• For what kind of person are you a good mentor? A
poor mentor?
• The next time you consider mentoring someone,
would you be willing to sit down first to explore
whether you are a good match?
• What kind of conversation would you have to
determine if the relationship would be a good fit?
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13. Questions for Mentees
• What do you want out of a mentoring
relationship?
• What goals have you set for yourself?
– Long term? Short term? Where do you want to focus
now?
• How do you learn best?
• How do you like to be challenged?
• How frequently do you want to meet?
• Etc…?
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14. Setting Protocols of Mentoring
• First meeting - objectives
• Establish what it isn't about
• Identify broad topics not specific outcomes
• Setting expectations
• Template document to assist first steps
• Confidentiality and boundaries
• Conflicts of interest
• Meeting format, location, timing and frequency

15. Challenges offered by a Mentoring
Relationship
Mentees can….
• Consume the mentor
• Be unfocused and not follow-through
• Be manipulative
• Be unwilling to commit to the relationship
Mentors can….
• Burn out
• Run into situations where issues really need professional help
• Forget boundaries
• Find themselves in odd situations (eg ethics, favors)
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16. Benefits of Mentoring for Mentors
• Increased self-confidence
• Increased self-awareness
• Leadership skill development
• Strong communication skills
• Art of delivering feedback
• Art of asking questions
• Becoming a good listener
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17. Continued
• Exposure to new and different perspectives
• Growing a personal network
• Increased chance of promotion
• Increased job satisfaction
• Supporting another person
• Paying it forward
• Learning from someone else

18. Benefits of Mentoring for Mentees
• Increased self-confidence
• Increased self-awareness
• Develop strong communication skills
• Growing a personal network within the
organization
• Exposure to new and different perspectives
• Learn to self-reflect

19. Continued
• Improved goal-setting
• Learn from other's experiences
• Learn to ask good questions
• Being supported by someone
• Being advocated for
• Increased chance of promotion
• Increased job satisfaction

20. Common Pitfalls
• Not knowing what to talk
about or talking too much!
• No defined end
point/periodic review
• Irregular and postponed
meetings
• Confusion of roles
• Breach of contract/ground
rules:
• Being indiscreet
• Not questioning: is it
working?
• Avoiding terminating the
relationship, should it
become toxic
• Mentoring context:
• Cultural differences

21. Let us Reflect our Experiences
• What is your experience of MENTORING:
• Where have you seen / observed mentoring in your life?
• Have you ever observed / seen unsuccessful mentors?
• Can you name some successful mentors and mentees?
• What could be the factors after their success / failures?
• Have you ever been a mentee?
• Have you ever been a mentor?
• Why and how was it important?
• What qualities did they have?
• What did they do that was helpful?
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22. Ending a mentoring relationship
• Reflect on the mentorship—what have you learned?
• Talk about the future—what will both of your next steps be?
• What parting words and/or feedback do you have for each
other?
• When thinking about possible future contact be realistic about
the extent of your contact with each other.
• Will the mentee update the mentor on their progress?
• Thank and acknowledge each other’s contributions.
• Are you both happy to close the relationship? If you would like
to carry on, then set the expectations - how long will this be
for and what is it you would like to gain from the continuation
of the relationship.
• End relationship on positive note
• Summarise and celebrate achievements
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QUESTIONS, IF ANY

24. THANK YOU
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