The therapeutic provision of “optimal stress” – against the backdrop of an empathically attuned and authentically engaged therapy relationship – is sometimes the magic ingredient needed to overcome the inherent resistance to change so frequently encountered in patients with longstanding emotional injuries. Ongoing challenge will destabilize and support will then prompt restabilization at ever-higher levels of resilience and adaptive capacity.
Growing up (the task of the child) and getting better (the task of the patient) are therefore a story about transforming need into capacity – the need for immediate gratification into the capacity to tolerate delay, the need for perfection into the capacity to tolerate imperfection, the need for external regulation of the self into the capacity to be internally self-regulating, and the need to hold on into the capacity to let go.
Martha Stark MD – 21 Jan 2023 – MASTER CLASS Part 1 – The Art and The Science...Martha Stark MD
As you sit with your clients, do you sometimes find yourself at a loss for words?
From moment to moment, we are continuously making choices about how best to position ourselves in relation to our clients. Whether working within (1) the interpretive perspective of classical psychoanalytic theory, (2) the corrective-provision perspective of self psychology, or (3) the intersubjective perspective of contemporary relational theory, we are always busy deciding when we should highlight the healthy forces within our clients that are pressing “yes” and when we should target the unhealthy (resistive) counterforces that are defending “no.”
With our finger always on the pulse of the level of the client’s anxiety, we are indeed ever focused, be it consciously or unconsciously, on whether we think the client will be able to tolerate further (anxiety-provoking) challenge or will require additional (anxiety-assuaging) support – a critically important balance that is needed if the therapeutic endeavor is to be advanced.
To illustrate the translation of these theoretical constructs into clinical practice, I will be proposing a number of broadly applicable “template” interventions that juxtapose both the client’s “defensive need” to maintain “same old, same old” and the client’s “adaptive capacity” to embrace “something new, different, and better.”
Clinical vignettes will be offered demonstrating judicious and ongoing use of these “optimally stressful” interventions that alternately support and then challenge the defense, thereby galvanizing advancement of the client, over time, from psychological rigidity (defense) to psychological flexibility (adaptation).
If indeed the therapeutic goal is deep and sustained psychodynamic change, then it behooves all of us to become comfortable with the concept of provoking – with our interventions – enough incentivizing anxiety and destabilizing stress within our clients that there will be both impetus and opportunity for them, ultimately, to transform rigid defense into more flexible adaptation. The strategic formulation of these interpretations specifically designed to generate this optimal stress is indeed both an art and a science.
Martha Stark MD – 22 Feb 2023 – A Handy Reference Guide for all Therapists.pptxMartha Stark MD
Although you believe that you are offering your clients plenty of support, do you sometimes worry that you might not be offering them quite enough challenge?
My workshop will teach you to "construct" a number of "growth-incentivizing interventions" specifically designed to "catalyze" deep and enduring psychodynamic change in your clients – by facilitating their advancement, whatever their diagnosis, from “less healthy” rigidity (defense) to “more healthy” flexibility (adaptation). These interventions can be strategically formulated to offer just the right balance between anxiety-provoking challenge and anxiety-relieving support.
I will be providing you with a set of "therapeutic tools" – both "minimally stressful" and "optimally stressful" interventions – that you will be able to call upon during universally relevant, pivotal “clinical moments” with your clients.
These interventions will “incentivize” your client to (1) confront anxiety-provoking truths about her “self,” (2) grieve anxiety-provoking truths about the “objects of her desire,” (3) take ownership of anxiety-provoking truths about her “relational self,” and (4) expose anxiety-provoking truths about her “private self.”
Martha Stark MD – 4 May 2023 – Practical Clinical Interventions for Incentivi...Martha Stark MD
Although you believe that you are offering your clients plenty of support, do you sometimes worry that you might not be offering them quite enough challenge?
My workshop will teach you to "construct" a number of "growth-incentivizing interventions" specifically designed to "catalyze" deep and enduring psychodynamic change in your clients – by facilitating their advancement, whatever their diagnosis, from “less healthy” rigidity (defense) to “more healthy” flexibility (adaptation). These interventions can be strategically formulated to offer just the right balance between anxiety-provoking challenge and anxiety-relieving support.
I will be providing you with a set of "therapeutic tools" – both "minimally stressful" and "optimally stressful" interventions – that you will be able to call upon during universally relevant, pivotal “clinical moments” with your clients.
These interventions will “incentivize” your client to (1) confront anxiety-provoking truths about her “self,” (2) grieve anxiety-provoking truths about the “objects of her desire,” (3) take ownership of anxiety-provoking truths about her “relational self,” and (4) expose anxiety-provoking truths about her “private self.”
Martha Stark MD – 17 Feb 2023 – Seminar 1 – A How-To Playbook for the Middle ...Martha Stark MD
Peter Giovacchini (1986) once wrote – “The poorest understood and two most enigmatic words in psychoanalysis are working through.”
And Patricia Coughlin (2022) recently wrote – “Like the middle game in chess, there is no playbook to guide us.”
It took me 48 years to get here and a lot of encouragement from my students, but my presentation over the course of our two sessions will represent a rather bold effort on my part to conceptualize a broad strokes framework for this “middle game” in psychodynamic psychotherapy when deep and enduring characterological / structural change is the ultimate goal – in essence, a “how-to playbook” for how longstanding, deeply entrenched “defensive reactions” that impede growth can be progressively worked through and ultimately transformed into “adaptive responses” that promote growth.
The process of advancing from rigid defense to more flexible adaptation is never a straight-line progression. Rather, evolving from psychological rigidity to psychological flexibility will involve the therapist’s strategic provision of not just “support” but an artfully conceived combination of “challenge” and “support” – namely, “optimal stress.”
The ongoing therapeutic provision of this “optimal stress” will give rise to healing cycles of disruption (in reaction to the challenge) and repair (in response to the support) – and, eventually, progression from less-healthy defense to more-healthy adaptation.
Over the course of the two sessions, I will be exploring the use of three specific groups of interventions – growth-promoting interventions that (always with compassion and never judgment) either (1) “support” the rigid defense (to demonstrate empathic attunement), (2) “challenge” and then “support” the rigid defense (to generate destabilizing stress and incentivizing dissonance), or (3) “support” the more flexible adaptation (to celebrate and reinforce the new normal).
The strategic design of these “playbook interventions” is both an art (involving intuition) and a science (involving analytic finesse). Throughout both presentations, I will be sharing a number of vignettes that will demonstrate the application of these theoretical constructs to clinical practice.
Martha Stark MD – 11 Feb 2023 – The Art and The Science of Interpretation.pptxMartha Stark MD
From moment to moment, we are continuously deciding how best to position ourselves in relation to our patients and the maladaptive defenses to which they cling – once necessary for them to survive but now interfering with their ability to thrive.
On the one hand, we have respect for our patients and for the choices, no matter how unhealthy, that they find themselves continuously making; on the other hand, we have a vision of who we think they could be were they but able/willing to make healthier choices for themselves. Indeed, we are always struggling to find an optimal balance within ourselves between accepting the reality of who our patients are and wanting them to change.
Whether we are working within the interpretive framework of classical psychoanalytic theory, the corrective-provision framework of self psychology, or the intersubjective framework of contemporary relational theory, we are therefore ever busy deciding – whether consciously or unconsciously – if we should “be with our patients where they are” (Akhtar’s homeostatic attunement) or “direct their attention to elsewhere” (Akhtar’s disruptive attunement) – a critically important balance that is needed if the analytic endeavor is to be advanced.
To demonstrate the translation of these theoretical constructs into clinical practice, I will be proposing a number of broadly applicable “template” interventions that juxtapose both the patient’s “defensive need” to maintain “same old same old” and the patient’s “adaptive capacity” to allow for “something new, different, and better.” Clinical vignettes will be offered that demonstrate judicious and ongoing use of these “optimally stressful” interventions that alternately support and challenge the defense, thereby galvanizing advancement of the patient, over time, from psychological rigidity to psychological flexibility.
If indeed the therapeutic goal is deep and sustained psychodynamic change, then it behooves all of us to become comfortable with the concept of provoking – with our interventions – enough incentivizing anxiety and destabilizing stress within our patients that there will be both impetus and opportunity for them, ultimately, to transform rigid defense into more flexible adaptation. The strategic formulation of interpretations specifically designed to generate this optimal stress is indeed both an art and a science.
Martha Stark MD – 8 Oct 2021 – The Transformative Power of Optimal Stress – P...Martha Stark MD
The therapeutic provision of “optimal stress” – against the backdrop of an empathically attuned and authentically engaged therapy relationship – is sometimes the magic ingredient needed to overcome the inherent resistance to change so frequently encountered in patients with longstanding emotional injuries. Ongoing challenge will destabilize and support will then prompt restabilization at ever-higher levels of resilience and adaptive capacity.
Growing up (the task of the child) and getting better (the task of the patient) are therefore a story about transforming need into capacity – the need for immediate gratification into the capacity to tolerate delay, the need for perfection into the capacity to tolerate imperfection, the need for external regulation of the self into the capacity to be internally self-regulating, and the need to hold on into the capacity to let go.
Martha Stark MD – 28 Apr 2023 – Seminar 2 – A How-To Playbook for the Middle ...Martha Stark MD
Peter Giovacchini (1986) once wrote – “The poorest understood and two most enigmatic words in psychoanalysis are working through.”
And Patricia Coughlin (2022) recently wrote – “Like the middle game in chess, there is no playbook to guide us.”
It took me 48 years to get here and a lot of encouragement from my students, but my presentation over the course of our two sessions will represent a rather bold effort on my part to conceptualize a broad strokes framework for this “middle game” in psychodynamic psychotherapy when deep and enduring characterological / structural change is the ultimate goal – in essence, a “how-to playbook” for how longstanding, deeply entrenched “defensive reactions” that impede growth can be progressively worked through and ultimately transformed into “adaptive responses” that promote growth.
The process of advancing from rigid defense to more flexible adaptation is never a straight-line progression. Rather, evolving from psychological rigidity to psychological flexibility will involve the therapist’s strategic provision of not just “support” but an artfully conceived combination of “challenge” and “support” – namely, “optimal stress.”
The ongoing therapeutic provision of this “optimal stress” will give rise to healing cycles of disruption (in reaction to the challenge) and repair (in response to the support) – and, eventually, progression from less-healthy defense to more-healthy adaptation.
Over the course of the two sessions, I will be exploring the use of three specific groups of interventions – growth-promoting interventions that (always with compassion and never judgment) either (1) “support” the rigid defense (to demonstrate empathic attunement), (2) “challenge” and then “support” the rigid defense (to generate destabilizing stress and incentivizing dissonance), or (3) “support” the more flexible adaptation (to celebrate and reinforce the new normal).
The strategic design of these “playbook interventions” is both an art (involving intuition) and a science (involving analytic finesse). Throughout both presentations, I will be sharing a number of vignettes that will demonstrate the application of these theoretical constructs to clinical practice.
Martha Stark MD – 10 Jun 2022 – From Defense to Adaptation.pptxMartha Stark MD
This document discusses the therapeutic use of optimal stress to provoke recovery from psychological defenses to more adaptive responses. It argues that psychodynamic psychotherapy can help patients master past traumatic experiences by superimposing an acute stressor to trigger healing cycles of disruption and repair. This allows defenses to gradually evolve into more flexible adaptations through iterative cycles of destabilization caused by therapeutic challenges, followed by restabilization due to support. The goal is to transform "rigid defense" into "flexible adaptation" and help patients thrive rather than just survive.
Martha Stark MD – 21 Jan 2023 – MASTER CLASS Part 1 – The Art and The Science...Martha Stark MD
As you sit with your clients, do you sometimes find yourself at a loss for words?
From moment to moment, we are continuously making choices about how best to position ourselves in relation to our clients. Whether working within (1) the interpretive perspective of classical psychoanalytic theory, (2) the corrective-provision perspective of self psychology, or (3) the intersubjective perspective of contemporary relational theory, we are always busy deciding when we should highlight the healthy forces within our clients that are pressing “yes” and when we should target the unhealthy (resistive) counterforces that are defending “no.”
With our finger always on the pulse of the level of the client’s anxiety, we are indeed ever focused, be it consciously or unconsciously, on whether we think the client will be able to tolerate further (anxiety-provoking) challenge or will require additional (anxiety-assuaging) support – a critically important balance that is needed if the therapeutic endeavor is to be advanced.
To illustrate the translation of these theoretical constructs into clinical practice, I will be proposing a number of broadly applicable “template” interventions that juxtapose both the client’s “defensive need” to maintain “same old, same old” and the client’s “adaptive capacity” to embrace “something new, different, and better.”
Clinical vignettes will be offered demonstrating judicious and ongoing use of these “optimally stressful” interventions that alternately support and then challenge the defense, thereby galvanizing advancement of the client, over time, from psychological rigidity (defense) to psychological flexibility (adaptation).
If indeed the therapeutic goal is deep and sustained psychodynamic change, then it behooves all of us to become comfortable with the concept of provoking – with our interventions – enough incentivizing anxiety and destabilizing stress within our clients that there will be both impetus and opportunity for them, ultimately, to transform rigid defense into more flexible adaptation. The strategic formulation of these interpretations specifically designed to generate this optimal stress is indeed both an art and a science.
Martha Stark MD – 22 Feb 2023 – A Handy Reference Guide for all Therapists.pptxMartha Stark MD
Although you believe that you are offering your clients plenty of support, do you sometimes worry that you might not be offering them quite enough challenge?
My workshop will teach you to "construct" a number of "growth-incentivizing interventions" specifically designed to "catalyze" deep and enduring psychodynamic change in your clients – by facilitating their advancement, whatever their diagnosis, from “less healthy” rigidity (defense) to “more healthy” flexibility (adaptation). These interventions can be strategically formulated to offer just the right balance between anxiety-provoking challenge and anxiety-relieving support.
I will be providing you with a set of "therapeutic tools" – both "minimally stressful" and "optimally stressful" interventions – that you will be able to call upon during universally relevant, pivotal “clinical moments” with your clients.
These interventions will “incentivize” your client to (1) confront anxiety-provoking truths about her “self,” (2) grieve anxiety-provoking truths about the “objects of her desire,” (3) take ownership of anxiety-provoking truths about her “relational self,” and (4) expose anxiety-provoking truths about her “private self.”
Martha Stark MD – 4 May 2023 – Practical Clinical Interventions for Incentivi...Martha Stark MD
Although you believe that you are offering your clients plenty of support, do you sometimes worry that you might not be offering them quite enough challenge?
My workshop will teach you to "construct" a number of "growth-incentivizing interventions" specifically designed to "catalyze" deep and enduring psychodynamic change in your clients – by facilitating their advancement, whatever their diagnosis, from “less healthy” rigidity (defense) to “more healthy” flexibility (adaptation). These interventions can be strategically formulated to offer just the right balance between anxiety-provoking challenge and anxiety-relieving support.
I will be providing you with a set of "therapeutic tools" – both "minimally stressful" and "optimally stressful" interventions – that you will be able to call upon during universally relevant, pivotal “clinical moments” with your clients.
These interventions will “incentivize” your client to (1) confront anxiety-provoking truths about her “self,” (2) grieve anxiety-provoking truths about the “objects of her desire,” (3) take ownership of anxiety-provoking truths about her “relational self,” and (4) expose anxiety-provoking truths about her “private self.”
Martha Stark MD – 17 Feb 2023 – Seminar 1 – A How-To Playbook for the Middle ...Martha Stark MD
Peter Giovacchini (1986) once wrote – “The poorest understood and two most enigmatic words in psychoanalysis are working through.”
And Patricia Coughlin (2022) recently wrote – “Like the middle game in chess, there is no playbook to guide us.”
It took me 48 years to get here and a lot of encouragement from my students, but my presentation over the course of our two sessions will represent a rather bold effort on my part to conceptualize a broad strokes framework for this “middle game” in psychodynamic psychotherapy when deep and enduring characterological / structural change is the ultimate goal – in essence, a “how-to playbook” for how longstanding, deeply entrenched “defensive reactions” that impede growth can be progressively worked through and ultimately transformed into “adaptive responses” that promote growth.
The process of advancing from rigid defense to more flexible adaptation is never a straight-line progression. Rather, evolving from psychological rigidity to psychological flexibility will involve the therapist’s strategic provision of not just “support” but an artfully conceived combination of “challenge” and “support” – namely, “optimal stress.”
The ongoing therapeutic provision of this “optimal stress” will give rise to healing cycles of disruption (in reaction to the challenge) and repair (in response to the support) – and, eventually, progression from less-healthy defense to more-healthy adaptation.
Over the course of the two sessions, I will be exploring the use of three specific groups of interventions – growth-promoting interventions that (always with compassion and never judgment) either (1) “support” the rigid defense (to demonstrate empathic attunement), (2) “challenge” and then “support” the rigid defense (to generate destabilizing stress and incentivizing dissonance), or (3) “support” the more flexible adaptation (to celebrate and reinforce the new normal).
The strategic design of these “playbook interventions” is both an art (involving intuition) and a science (involving analytic finesse). Throughout both presentations, I will be sharing a number of vignettes that will demonstrate the application of these theoretical constructs to clinical practice.
Martha Stark MD – 11 Feb 2023 – The Art and The Science of Interpretation.pptxMartha Stark MD
From moment to moment, we are continuously deciding how best to position ourselves in relation to our patients and the maladaptive defenses to which they cling – once necessary for them to survive but now interfering with their ability to thrive.
On the one hand, we have respect for our patients and for the choices, no matter how unhealthy, that they find themselves continuously making; on the other hand, we have a vision of who we think they could be were they but able/willing to make healthier choices for themselves. Indeed, we are always struggling to find an optimal balance within ourselves between accepting the reality of who our patients are and wanting them to change.
Whether we are working within the interpretive framework of classical psychoanalytic theory, the corrective-provision framework of self psychology, or the intersubjective framework of contemporary relational theory, we are therefore ever busy deciding – whether consciously or unconsciously – if we should “be with our patients where they are” (Akhtar’s homeostatic attunement) or “direct their attention to elsewhere” (Akhtar’s disruptive attunement) – a critically important balance that is needed if the analytic endeavor is to be advanced.
To demonstrate the translation of these theoretical constructs into clinical practice, I will be proposing a number of broadly applicable “template” interventions that juxtapose both the patient’s “defensive need” to maintain “same old same old” and the patient’s “adaptive capacity” to allow for “something new, different, and better.” Clinical vignettes will be offered that demonstrate judicious and ongoing use of these “optimally stressful” interventions that alternately support and challenge the defense, thereby galvanizing advancement of the patient, over time, from psychological rigidity to psychological flexibility.
If indeed the therapeutic goal is deep and sustained psychodynamic change, then it behooves all of us to become comfortable with the concept of provoking – with our interventions – enough incentivizing anxiety and destabilizing stress within our patients that there will be both impetus and opportunity for them, ultimately, to transform rigid defense into more flexible adaptation. The strategic formulation of interpretations specifically designed to generate this optimal stress is indeed both an art and a science.
Martha Stark MD – 8 Oct 2021 – The Transformative Power of Optimal Stress – P...Martha Stark MD
The therapeutic provision of “optimal stress” – against the backdrop of an empathically attuned and authentically engaged therapy relationship – is sometimes the magic ingredient needed to overcome the inherent resistance to change so frequently encountered in patients with longstanding emotional injuries. Ongoing challenge will destabilize and support will then prompt restabilization at ever-higher levels of resilience and adaptive capacity.
Growing up (the task of the child) and getting better (the task of the patient) are therefore a story about transforming need into capacity – the need for immediate gratification into the capacity to tolerate delay, the need for perfection into the capacity to tolerate imperfection, the need for external regulation of the self into the capacity to be internally self-regulating, and the need to hold on into the capacity to let go.
Martha Stark MD – 28 Apr 2023 – Seminar 2 – A How-To Playbook for the Middle ...Martha Stark MD
Peter Giovacchini (1986) once wrote – “The poorest understood and two most enigmatic words in psychoanalysis are working through.”
And Patricia Coughlin (2022) recently wrote – “Like the middle game in chess, there is no playbook to guide us.”
It took me 48 years to get here and a lot of encouragement from my students, but my presentation over the course of our two sessions will represent a rather bold effort on my part to conceptualize a broad strokes framework for this “middle game” in psychodynamic psychotherapy when deep and enduring characterological / structural change is the ultimate goal – in essence, a “how-to playbook” for how longstanding, deeply entrenched “defensive reactions” that impede growth can be progressively worked through and ultimately transformed into “adaptive responses” that promote growth.
The process of advancing from rigid defense to more flexible adaptation is never a straight-line progression. Rather, evolving from psychological rigidity to psychological flexibility will involve the therapist’s strategic provision of not just “support” but an artfully conceived combination of “challenge” and “support” – namely, “optimal stress.”
The ongoing therapeutic provision of this “optimal stress” will give rise to healing cycles of disruption (in reaction to the challenge) and repair (in response to the support) – and, eventually, progression from less-healthy defense to more-healthy adaptation.
Over the course of the two sessions, I will be exploring the use of three specific groups of interventions – growth-promoting interventions that (always with compassion and never judgment) either (1) “support” the rigid defense (to demonstrate empathic attunement), (2) “challenge” and then “support” the rigid defense (to generate destabilizing stress and incentivizing dissonance), or (3) “support” the more flexible adaptation (to celebrate and reinforce the new normal).
The strategic design of these “playbook interventions” is both an art (involving intuition) and a science (involving analytic finesse). Throughout both presentations, I will be sharing a number of vignettes that will demonstrate the application of these theoretical constructs to clinical practice.
Martha Stark MD – 10 Jun 2022 – From Defense to Adaptation.pptxMartha Stark MD
This document discusses the therapeutic use of optimal stress to provoke recovery from psychological defenses to more adaptive responses. It argues that psychodynamic psychotherapy can help patients master past traumatic experiences by superimposing an acute stressor to trigger healing cycles of disruption and repair. This allows defenses to gradually evolve into more flexible adaptations through iterative cycles of destabilization caused by therapeutic challenges, followed by restabilization due to support. The goal is to transform "rigid defense" into "flexible adaptation" and help patients thrive rather than just survive.
Martha Stark MD – 16 Jun 2017 – The Transformative Power of Optimal Stress.pptxMartha Stark MD
Psychodynamic psychotherapy affords the patient an opportunity – albeit a belated one – to master experiences that had once been overwhelming, and therefore defended against, but that can now, with enough support from the therapist and by tapping into the patient's underlying resilience and capacity to cope with stress, be processed, integrated, and ultimately adapted to. This opportunity for belated mastery of traumatic experiences and transformation of defense into adaptation speaks to the power of the transference, whereby the here-and-now is imbued with the primal significance of the there-and-then.
Ultimately, the therapeutic goal is to transform less-evolved defense into more-evolved adaptation – from externalizing blame to taking ownership, from whining and complaining to becoming proactive, from dissociating to becoming more present, from feeling victimized to becoming empowered, from being jammed up to harnessing one's energies and then channeling them into the pursuit of one's dreams, from denial to confronting head-on, from being critical to becoming more compassionate, and from cursing the darkness to lighting a candle.
Growing up (the task of the child) and getting better (the task of the patient) are therefore a story about transforming need into capacity – the need for immediate gratification into the capacity to tolerate delay, the need for perfection into the capacity to tolerate imperfection, the need for external regulation of the self into the capacity to be internally self-regulating, and the need to hold on into the capacity to let go.
In sum, it could be said that, as a result of intensive psychodynamic psychotherapy, "resistance" will be replaced by "awareness" and "actualization of potential," "relentless pursuit of the unattainable" replaced by "acceptance," "re-enactment of unresolved childhood dramas" replaced by "accountability," "retreat and resignation" replaced by "accessibility," and “relentless despair” replaced by “awakened hope.”
The focus throughout will be on the interface between theory and clinical practice.
Martha Stark MD – 27 Oct 2017 – The Transformative Power of Optimal Stress.pptxMartha Stark MD
Psychodynamic psychotherapy affords the patient an opportunity – albeit a belated one – to master experiences that had once been overwhelming, and therefore defended against, but that can now, with enough support from the therapist and by tapping into the patient's underlying resilience and inherent capacity to cope with stress, be processed, integrated, and ultimately adapted to. This opportunity for belated mastery of traumatic experiences and transformation of defense into adaptation speaks to the power of the transference, whereby the here-and-now is imbued with the primal significance of the there-and-then.
Ultimately, the therapeutic goal is to transform less-evolved defense into more-evolved adaptation – from externalizing blame to taking ownership, from whining and complaining to becoming proactive, from dissociating to becoming more present, from feeling victimized to becoming empowered, from being jammed up to harnessing one's energies and channeling them into the pursuit of one's dreams, from denial to confronting head-on, from being critical to becoming more compassionate, and from cursing the darkness to lighting a candle.
Growing up (the task of the child) and getting better (the task of the patient) are therefore a story about transforming need into capacity – the need for immediate gratification into the capacity to tolerate delay, the need for perfection into the capacity to tolerate imperfection, the need for external regulation of the self into the capacity to be internally self-regulating, and the need to hold on into the capacity to let go.
In sum, it could be said that, as a result of intensive psychodynamic psychotherapy, "resistance" will be replaced by "awareness," "relentless pursuit of the unattainable" replaced by "acceptance," "re-enactment of unmastered early-on relational traumas” replaced by "accountability," "retreat and resignation" replaced by "accessibility," and “relentless despair” replaced by “awakened hope.”
The focus throughout will be on the interface between theory and clinical practice.
Martha Stark MD – 4 Feb 2023 – MASTER CLASS Part 2 – The Art and The Science ...Martha Stark MD
The document outlines Martha Stark's psychodynamic synergy paradigm, which utilizes five therapeutic models to catalyze psychological change. It focuses on the first three models: 1) the interpretive perspective of classical psychoanalysis, 2) the corrective provision perspective of self psychology, and 3) the intersubjective perspective of contemporary relational theory. The therapeutic actions of these three models involve "working through" optimal stress created by interventions that alternate between challenge and support. Model 1 uses interpretations to resolve internal conflicts. Model 2 helps patients grieve disappointments. Model 3 promotes taking accountability in relationships. The goal across all three is to transform patients from rigidity to flexibility.
Martha Stark MD – 26 - 27 Apr 2019 – My Psychodynamic Synergy Paradigm – A C....Martha Stark MD
Dr. Martha Stark has developed a comprehensive theory of therapeutic action that integrates the interpretive perspective of classical psychoanalysis (which speaks to the power of insight); the corrective-provision perspective of self psychology and other deficit theories (which speaks to the importance of corrective experience as compensation for early-on deficiencies); and the contemporary relational perspective (which speaks to mutual enactment and negotiation by both patient and therapist of the entanglements that will inevitably emerge at the intimate edge of their authentic engagement).
Her focus throughout the seminar will be on the interface between theory and practice; and Dr. Stark will demonstrate, by way of numerous clinical vignettes and prototypical interventions, the ways in which the three modes of therapeutic action (knowledge, experience, and relationship) can be used to accelerate the healing process.
review of basic constructs: knowledge, experience, relationship as curative factors; “supporting” by being with the patient where she is vs. “challenging” by directing her attention to elsewhere; the therapeutic process as involving recursive cycles of defensive collapse and adaptive reconstitution at ever higher levels of integration and balance.
the process of transforming defense into adaptation; the importance of awareness (wisdom), acceptance, and accountability; therapist as neutral object, empathic selfobject, authentic subject; prototypical interventions specifically designed to facilitate the grieving process and to accelerate the healing.
working through the negative transference and disruptions to the positive transference; transforming infantile need into mature adult capacity; focusing on the contributions of both patient and therapist to the relational dynamics at their intimate edge; use of instructor’s process recordings to demonstrate the role of knowledge, experience, and relationship in strengthening the ego, consolidating the self, and resolving relational difficulties.
Martha Stark MD – 24 Jun 2022 – Understanding Life Backward but Envisioning P...Martha Stark MD
My most recent – and 9th – book features an action-based, solution-focused, future-oriented psychodynamic model (Model 5 of my Psychodynamic Synergy Paradigm) that conceives of the mind as holding infinite potential and of memory as dynamic and continuously updating itself on the basis of new experience (whether real or simply envisioned). A constructivist model at heart, this freshly minted model features a quantum-neuroscientific approach to healing “analysis paralysis.”
This newest addition to my therapeutic armamentarium was inspired, at least in part, by my deep dive immersion in the groundbreaking scientific discovery that when implicitly held traumatic memories are reactivated in an embodied fashion, the network of neural synapses encoding these procedurally organized memories will become deconsolidated for a time-limited period. This synaptic unlocking – fueled by repeated and dramatic juxtaposition of old bad learned expectations with new good envisioned possibilities – will create both impetus and opportunity for rewiring the brain and reprogramming the mind.
In sum, Model 5 uses this newly revitalized, brain-based phenomenon of therapeutic memory reconsolidation to explore the various ways in which a patient can replace outdated, maladaptive, fear-infused, past-focused, immobilizing traumatic narratives with updated, more reality-based, more hopeful, future-oriented, incentivizing narratives that will inspire action and actualization of potential.
Martha Stark MD – 7 Mar 2020 – Precipitating Disruption to Trigger Repair.pptxMartha Stark MD
This document discusses the transformative power of optimal stress in precipitating disruption to trigger repair. It describes how controlled damage or optimally stressful interventions can provoke recovery by challenging defenses and supporting the patient. This process involves iterative cycles of destabilization in reaction to challenges, followed by restabilization in response to support, allowing the patient to reintegrate at higher levels of functionality and adaptive capacity. The goal is to transform dysfunctional defenses into more functional adaptations through challenging defenses and tapping into the patient's resilience in the context of an empathic therapy relationship.
Martha Stark MD – 23 Mar 2019 – Contemporary Psychodynamic Psychotherapy.pptxMartha Stark MD
The document discusses the transformative power of optimal stress in triggering recovery and healing. It argues that superimposing an acute stress or injury on top of a chronic one can help the body heal. This is likened to wound debridement, which removes damaged tissue and provokes healing by mildly aggravating the area. Similarly in the mind, providing optimal stress in the context of an empathic therapy relationship can help overcome resistance to change. The goal of psychotherapy is to facilitate processing of stressful experiences from defensive reactions to adaptive responses, and from dysfunction to functionality.
Martha Stark MD – 21 Apr 2023 – 1st of 3 Experiential Workshops on The Art an...Martha Stark MD
From moment to moment, we are continuously deciding how best to position ourselves in relation to our patients and the maladaptive defenses to which they cling – once necessary for them to survive but now interfering with their ability to thrive.
On the one hand, we have respect for our patients and for the choices, no matter how unhealthy, that they find themselves continuously making; on the other hand, we have a vision of who we think they could be were they but able/willing to make healthier choices for themselves. Indeed, we are always struggling to find an optimal balance within ourselves between accepting the reality of who our patients are and wanting them to change.
Whether we are working within the interpretive framework of classical psychoanalytic theory, the corrective-provision framework of self psychology, or the intersubjective framework of contemporary relational theory, we are therefore ever busy deciding – whether consciously or unconsciously – if we should “be with our patients where they are” (Akhtar’s homeostatic attunement) or “direct their attention to elsewhere” (Akhtar’s disruptive attunement) – a critically important balance that is needed if the analytic endeavor is to be advanced.
To demonstrate the translation of these theoretical constructs into clinical practice, I will be proposing a number of broadly applicable “template” interventions that juxtapose both the patient’s “defensive need” to maintain “same old same old” and the patient’s “adaptive capacity” to allow for “something new, different, and better.” Clinical vignettes will be offered that demonstrate judicious and ongoing use of these “optimally stressful” interventions that alternately support and challenge the defense, thereby galvanizing advancement of the patient, over time, from psychological rigidity to psychological flexibility.
If indeed the therapeutic goal is deep and sustained psychodynamic change, then it behooves all of us to become comfortable with the concept of provoking – with our interventions – enough incentivizing anxiety and destabilizing stress within our patients that there will be both impetus and opportunity for them, ultimately, to transform rigid defense into more flexible adaptation. The strategic formulation of interpretations specifically designed to generate this optimal stress is indeed both an art and a science.
Martha Stark MD – 20 Mar 2020 – Holistic Psychotherapy – Knowledge, Experienc...Martha Stark MD
Superimposing an acute physical injury on top of a chronic one is sometimes exactly what the body needs in order to heal.
But just as with the body, where a condition might not heal until it is made acute, so too with the mind. The therapeutic provision of “optimal stress” – against the backdrop of empathic attunement and authentic engagement – can be the magic ingredient needed to overcome the inherent resistance to change so frequently encountered in patients with longstanding emotional injuries.
Too much challenge (traumatic stress) will overwhelm. Too little challenge (minimal stress) will reinforce the dysfunctional status quo. But just the right combination of challenge and support (optimal stress) will galvanize the patient to action and provoke healing.
With our finger ever on the pulse of the patient’s level of anxiety and capacity to tolerate further challenge, we can formulate “incentivizing statements” strategically designed “to precipitate disruption in order to trigger repair.” Ongoing use of these optimally stressful interventions will induce healing cycles of defensive destabilization followed by adaptive restabilization at ever-higher levels of integration, dynamic balance, and functional capacity.
Behind this “no pain, no gain” approach is a firm belief in the underlying resilience patients will inevitably discover within themselves once forced to tap into their inborn ability to self-correct in the face of environmental challenge – an innate capacity that will enable them to advance, over time, from less-evolved defensive reaction to more-evolved adaptive response.
Martha Stark MD – 16 Apr 2020 – Holistic Psychotherapy – Healing the MindBody...Martha Stark MD
This document discusses the transformative power of optimal stress in psychotherapy. It argues that precipitating disruption through optimally stressful interventions can trigger repair and healing in patients, analogous to how physical injuries sometimes need to be aggravated to promote healing. Three models of therapeutic action are described:
1) The interpretive perspective focuses on the patient's internal dynamics and conflicts.
2) Self psychology perspectives focus on correcting deficient early experiences and providing empathic support.
3) Relational theories emphasize authentic engagement and accountability in the therapeutic relationship.
The document suggests these approaches can be used synergistically based on the patient's immediate needs, to help transform dysfunctional defenses into more functional adaptations over the course of treatment.
Martha Stark MD – May 2022 – Modes of Therapeutic Action – Enhancement of Kno...Martha Stark MD
The document discusses the therapeutic use of optimal stress to provoke recovery in psychotherapy. It argues that superimposing an acute stress or disruption on top of a chronic issue can help the body or mind heal. This concept of "controlled damage" or "optimal stress" can trigger the innate ability to self-repair. The therapist can use optimally stressful interventions that alternately challenge and support defenses to facilitate iterative cycles of destabilization and restabilization, allowing the patient to process experiences and adapt at higher levels of functioning. The goal is to transform dysfunctional defenses into more functional adaptations through this process of disruption and repair.
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Are you wishing that you had a better grasp of psychodynamic concepts and their application to the clinical hour? With an emphasis always on the translation of theory into practice, in this 2-hour intensive training Dr. Martha Stark will be highlighting the three major psychoanalytic schools:
(Model 1) the 1-person perspective of classical psychoanalysis – a “cognitive” approach that emphasizes “enhancement of knowledge” and “interpreting”;
(Model 2) the 1½-person perspective of self psychology – an “affective” approach that emphasizes “provision of experience” and “grieving”; and
(Model 3) the 2-person perspective of contemporary relational theory – a “relational” approach that emphasizes “engagement in relationship” and “negotiating mutual enactment.”
Martha is particularly interested in (1) how the “therapeutic process” between patient and therapist evolves over time, (2) what happens moment-to-moment in the intersubjective space between patient and therapist, (3) how healing cycles of disruption and repair can be generated when the therapist alternately challenges the patient’s defense and then supports it, and (4) how the ongoing provision of “optimal stress” can ultimately “incentivize” deep, enduring, characterological change in the patient.
In order to facilitate this advancement of the patient from psychological rigidity to psychological flexibility and from defensive reaction to adaptive response, Martha will be teaching three “optimally stressful” template statements – Model 1 “conflict statements,” Model 2 “disillusionment statements,” and Model 3 “accountability statements” – all of which are strategically designed to “precipitate disruption” in order to “trigger repair,” thereby healing unmastered early-on relational traumas and deeply embedded emotional injuries.
Martha will be presenting several brief clinical vignettes to demonstrate the transformation of “resistance” into “awareness” (Model 1), “relentless hope” into “acceptance” (Model 2), and “re-enactment” into “accountability” (Model 3).
Martha Stark MD – 30 Sep 2018 – The Transformative Power of Optimal Stress.pptxMartha Stark MD
Psychodynamic psychotherapy affords the patient an opportunity – albeit a belated one – to master experiences that had once been overwhelming, and therefore defended against, but that can now, with enough support from the therapist and by tapping into the patient's underlying resilience and capacity to cope with stress, be processed, integrated, and ultimately adapted to. This opportunity for belated mastery of traumatic experiences and transformation of defense into adaptation speaks to the power of the transference, whereby the here-and-now is imbued with the primal significance of the there-and-then.
Ultimately, the therapeutic goal is to transform less-evolved defense into more-evolved adaptation – from externalizing blame to taking ownership, from whining and complaining to becoming proactive, from dissociating to becoming more present, from feeling victimized to becoming empowered, from being jammed up to harnessing one's energies and then channeling them into the pursuit of one's dreams, from denial to confronting head-on, from being critical to becoming more compassionate, and from cursing the darkness to lighting a candle.
Growing up (the task of the child) and getting better (the task of the patient) are therefore a story about transforming need into capacity – the need for immediate gratification into the capacity to tolerate delay, the need for perfection into the capacity to tolerate imperfection, the need for external regulation of the self into the capacity to be internally self-regulating, and the need to hold on into the capacity to let go.
In sum, it could be said that, as a result of intensive psychodynamic psychotherapy, "resistance" will be replaced by "awareness" and "actualization of potential," "relentless pursuit of the unattainable" replaced by "acceptance," "re-enactment of unresolved childhood dramas" replaced by "accountability," "retreat and resignation" replaced by "accessibility," and “relentless despair” replaced by “awakened hope.”
The focus throughout will be on the interface between theory and clinical practice.
Martha Stark MD – Oct 2019 – The Transformative Power of Optimal Stress – Pre...Martha Stark MD
Psychodynamic psychotherapy affords the patient an opportunity – albeit a belated one – to master experiences that had once been overwhelming, and therefore defended against, but that can now, with enough support from the therapist and by tapping into the patient's underlying resilience and inherent capacity to cope with stress, be processed, integrated, and ultimately adapted to. This opportunity for belated mastery of traumatic experiences and transformation of defense into adaptation speaks to the power of the transference, whereby the here-and-now is imbued with the primal significance of the there-and-then.
Ultimately, the therapeutic goal is to transform less-evolved defense into more-evolved adaptation – from externalizing blame to taking ownership, from whining and complaining to becoming proactive, from dissociating to becoming more present, from feeling victimized to becoming empowered, from being jammed up to harnessing one's energies and channeling them into the pursuit of one's dreams, from denial to confronting head-on, from being critical to becoming more compassionate, and from cursing the darkness to lighting a candle.
Growing up (the task of the child) and getting better (the task of the patient) are therefore a story about transforming need into capacity – the need for immediate gratification into the capacity to tolerate delay, the need for perfection into the capacity to tolerate imperfection, the need for external regulation of the self into the capacity to be internally self-regulating, and the need to hold on into the capacity to let go.
In sum, it could be said that, as a result of intensive psychodynamic psychotherapy, "resistance" will be replaced by "awareness," "relentless pursuit of the unattainable" replaced by "acceptance," "re-enactment of unmastered early-on relational traumas” replaced by "accountability," "retreat and resignation" replaced by "accessibility," and “relentless despair” replaced by “awakened hope.”
The focus throughout will be on the interface between theory and clinical practice.
Martha Stark MD – Comprehensive Overview of the 4 Models – A Potpourri of Sli...Martha Stark MD
Dr. Martha Stark has developed a comprehensive theory of therapeutic action that integrates the interpretive perspective of classical psychoanalysis (which speaks to the power of insight); the corrective-provision perspective of self psychology and other deficit theories (which speaks to the importance of corrective experience as compensation for early-on deficiencies); and the contemporary relational perspective (which speaks to mutual enactment and negotiation by both patient and therapist of the entanglements that will inevitably emerge at the intimate edge of their authentic engagement).
Her focus throughout the seminar will be on the interface between theory and practice; and Dr. Stark will demonstrate, by way of numerous clinical vignettes and prototypical interventions, the ways in which the three modes of therapeutic action (knowledge, experience, and relationship) can be used to accelerate the healing process.
review of basic constructs: knowledge, experience, relationship as curative factors; “supporting” by being with the patient where she is vs. “challenging” by directing her attention to elsewhere; the therapeutic process as involving recursive cycles of defensive collapse and adaptive reconstitution at ever higher levels of integration and balance.
the process of transforming defense into adaptation; the importance of awareness (wisdom), acceptance, and accountability; therapist as neutral object, empathic selfobject, authentic subject; prototypical interventions specifically designed to facilitate the grieving process and to accelerate the healing.
working through the negative transference and disruptions to the positive transference; transforming infantile need into mature adult capacity; focusing on the contributions of both patient and therapist to the relational dynamics at their intimate edge; use of instructor’s process recordings to demonstrate the role of knowledge, experience, and relationship in strengthening the ego, consolidating the self, and resolving relational difficulties.
The document discusses the concept of susceptibility in homeopathy. It provides definitions from homeopathic scholars on susceptibility as the body's ability to receive impressions and react to stimuli. Susceptibility plays a role in health and disease and determines how the body will respond to remedies. There are different types of susceptibility including natural, morbid, and artificial susceptibility induced by medicines. Factors like constitution, age, habits modify one's susceptibility. Homeopathy aims to restore normal susceptibility through similar remedies to cure diseases.
Martha Stark MD – 28 Feb 2022 – From Defense to Adaptation – The Ever-Evolvin...Martha Stark MD
The document discusses using optimal stress in psychotherapy to transform rigid defenses into more flexible adaptations. It presents the psychodynamic process as involving cycles of disruption and repair. The therapist provokes disruption of defenses through optimally stressful interventions in order to trigger repair and adaptation. Three models are presented - classical psychoanalysis focuses on interpreting truths to strengthen awareness; self psychology focuses on grieving truths about others to build acceptance; and relational theory focuses on owning interpersonal truths to develop accountability. Empathic and conflict statements are used to both challenge and support defenses, generating optimal stress for change.
Martha Stark MD – 13 Nov 2022 – Part 2 – The Art and The Science of Interpret...Martha Stark MD
As you sit with your patients, do you sometimes find yourself at a loss for words?
From moment to moment, we are continuously making choices about how best to position ourselves in relation to our patients. In truth, most of our patients are “conflicted” about most things most of the time. Whether working within the interpretive perspective of classical psychoanalytic theory, the corrective-provision perspective of self psychology, or the intersubjective perspective of contemporary relational theory, we are therefore ever busy deciding when we should highlight the healthy forces within patients that are pressing “yes” and when we should target the unhealthy (resistive) counterforces that are defending “no.” When should we “be with them where they are” and when should we “direct their attention to elsewhere”? – or can we perhaps do both at the same time?
With our finger ever on the pulse of the level of the patient’s anxiety, we are indeed always focused on whether we think the patient will be able to tolerate further (anxiety-provoking) challenge and/or will require additional (anxiety-assuaging) support – a critically important balance that is necessary if the analytic endeavor is to be advanced.
To demonstrate the translation of these theoretical constructs into clinical practice, I will be proposing a universally applicable intervention that targets the patient’s state of internal dividedness or conflictedness – between healthy but anxiety-provoking forces pressing for “something new and better” and less healthy but anxiety-assuaging (defensive) counterforces insisting upon “same old same old.” Brief and more extended clinical vignettes will be offered that demonstrate use of these optimally stressful “conflict statements” that are specifically designed to facilitate development of the patient’s dual awareness.
If indeed the analytic goal is deep, enduring, characterological change, then it behooves all of us to become comfortable with the concept of provoking – with our interventions – enough incentivizing anxiety and destabilizing stress that there will be both impetus and opportunity for the patient, ultimately, to transform rigid defense into more flexible adaptation. The strategic formulation of interpretations specifically designed to generate this optimal stress is indeed both an art and a science.
Martha Stark MD – 10 Dec 2016 – Limbic Kindling and Hypersensitivity to Stres...Martha Stark MD
Over the course of the decades, my own approach has become much more integrative and holistic – one that appreciates the complex interdependence of mind and body and the critical role played by the impact of stress on the MindBodyMatrix.
The living system – the ground regulation system – the divine matrix – the web of life – a liquid crystal through which information and energy flow.
More specifically, I will be speaking to the role played by limbic kindling and the resultant hypersensitivity to stress that is a hallmark of depressed patients.
Martha Stark MD – 13 Nov 2022 – Part 1 – The Art and The Science of Interpret...Martha Stark MD
This document outlines Martha Stark's presentation on conceptualizing a framework for the "middle game" of psychodynamic psychotherapy. The presentation focuses on four key elements: staying attuned to a patient's anxiety level and understanding it's okay to sometimes increase or decrease anxiety; generating optimal stress through the right balance of challenge and support to incentivize changing defenses into adaptations; developing comfort with challenging and supporting unhealthy defenses as well as celebrating new, healthier adaptations; and using minimally and optimally stressful interventions. The goal is transforming psychological rigidity into flexibility through therapeutic provision of optimal stress.
Martha Stark MD – Clinical Interventions – Chapter 2 of my WORKING WITH RESIS...Martha Stark MD
In order to demonstrate the ways in which the concepts of conflict and resistance can be applied to the clinical situation, let us think about the following three situations:
1. The patient is obviously upset but is trying hard not to cry.
2. The patient knows that her therapist will not laugh at her but finds herself fearing that the therapist might.
3. The patient is upset with her therapist and knows, on some level, that she must eventually confront the reality of just how disappointed she really is, but she would like to think that she could get better without having to do that.
In our interventions in these three situations of conflict, we have three options, and we must decide from moment to moment which to choose.
Martha Stark MD – Model 1 – The Interpretive Perspective of Classical Psychoa...Martha Stark MD
If deep and enduring psychodynamic change is the ultimate goal of treatment, then periodically juxtaposing seemingly contradictory “forces” (Hegel’s thesis and antithesis) will eventually jump-start the patient’s “adaptive recovery” by creating optimally stressful, growth-incentivizing “mismatch experiences.”
I will be proposing use of something to which I refer as a “conflict statement” – a clinically useful and almost universally applicable therapeutic intervention strategically designed to target internal conflictedness between anxiety-provoking (but ultimately growth-promoting) forces pressing “yes” and anxiety-relieving (but growth-impeding) resistant counterforces defending “no.”
The stress and strain of the “destabilizing dissonance” hereby created will provide the “therapeutic leverage” needed for the patient gradually, over time, to relinquish the tenacity of her rigid attachment to the defense in favor of a more flexible adaptation – a “compromise position” that will “reconcile their common truths” (Hegel’s synthesis) and transform conflict into collaboration.
The strategic construction of conflict statements requires of the therapist that she be able both to support the patient’s defense by “being with the patient where she is” and to challenge the patient’s defense by “directing the patient’s attention to where the therapist would want her to go.” I will be offering specific clinical examples to demonstrate the impact of these powerfully impactful psychotherapeutic interventions. No pain, no gain…
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Martha is particularly interested in (1) how the “therapeutic process” between patient and therapist evolves over time, (2) what happens moment-to-moment in the intersubjective space between patient and therapist, (3) how healing cycles of disruption and repair can be generated when the therapist alternately challenges the patient’s defense and then supports it, and (4) how the ongoing provision of “optimal stress” can ultimately “incentivize” deep, enduring, characterological change in the patient.
In order to facilitate this advancement of the patient from psychological rigidity to psychological flexibility and from defensive reaction to adaptive response, Martha will be teaching three “optimally stressful” template statements – Model 1 “conflict statements,” Model 2 “disillusionment statements,” and Model 3 “accountability statements” – all of which are strategically designed to “precipitate disruption” in order to “trigger repair,” thereby healing unmastered early-on relational traumas and deeply embedded emotional injuries.
Martha will be presenting several brief clinical vignettes to demonstrate the transformation of “resistance” into “awareness” (Model 1), “relentless hope” into “acceptance” (Model 2), and “re-enactment” into “accountability” (Model 3).
Martha Stark MD – 30 Sep 2018 – The Transformative Power of Optimal Stress.pptxMartha Stark MD
Psychodynamic psychotherapy affords the patient an opportunity – albeit a belated one – to master experiences that had once been overwhelming, and therefore defended against, but that can now, with enough support from the therapist and by tapping into the patient's underlying resilience and capacity to cope with stress, be processed, integrated, and ultimately adapted to. This opportunity for belated mastery of traumatic experiences and transformation of defense into adaptation speaks to the power of the transference, whereby the here-and-now is imbued with the primal significance of the there-and-then.
Ultimately, the therapeutic goal is to transform less-evolved defense into more-evolved adaptation – from externalizing blame to taking ownership, from whining and complaining to becoming proactive, from dissociating to becoming more present, from feeling victimized to becoming empowered, from being jammed up to harnessing one's energies and then channeling them into the pursuit of one's dreams, from denial to confronting head-on, from being critical to becoming more compassionate, and from cursing the darkness to lighting a candle.
Growing up (the task of the child) and getting better (the task of the patient) are therefore a story about transforming need into capacity – the need for immediate gratification into the capacity to tolerate delay, the need for perfection into the capacity to tolerate imperfection, the need for external regulation of the self into the capacity to be internally self-regulating, and the need to hold on into the capacity to let go.
In sum, it could be said that, as a result of intensive psychodynamic psychotherapy, "resistance" will be replaced by "awareness" and "actualization of potential," "relentless pursuit of the unattainable" replaced by "acceptance," "re-enactment of unresolved childhood dramas" replaced by "accountability," "retreat and resignation" replaced by "accessibility," and “relentless despair” replaced by “awakened hope.”
The focus throughout will be on the interface between theory and clinical practice.
Martha Stark MD – Oct 2019 – The Transformative Power of Optimal Stress – Pre...Martha Stark MD
Psychodynamic psychotherapy affords the patient an opportunity – albeit a belated one – to master experiences that had once been overwhelming, and therefore defended against, but that can now, with enough support from the therapist and by tapping into the patient's underlying resilience and inherent capacity to cope with stress, be processed, integrated, and ultimately adapted to. This opportunity for belated mastery of traumatic experiences and transformation of defense into adaptation speaks to the power of the transference, whereby the here-and-now is imbued with the primal significance of the there-and-then.
Ultimately, the therapeutic goal is to transform less-evolved defense into more-evolved adaptation – from externalizing blame to taking ownership, from whining and complaining to becoming proactive, from dissociating to becoming more present, from feeling victimized to becoming empowered, from being jammed up to harnessing one's energies and channeling them into the pursuit of one's dreams, from denial to confronting head-on, from being critical to becoming more compassionate, and from cursing the darkness to lighting a candle.
Growing up (the task of the child) and getting better (the task of the patient) are therefore a story about transforming need into capacity – the need for immediate gratification into the capacity to tolerate delay, the need for perfection into the capacity to tolerate imperfection, the need for external regulation of the self into the capacity to be internally self-regulating, and the need to hold on into the capacity to let go.
In sum, it could be said that, as a result of intensive psychodynamic psychotherapy, "resistance" will be replaced by "awareness," "relentless pursuit of the unattainable" replaced by "acceptance," "re-enactment of unmastered early-on relational traumas” replaced by "accountability," "retreat and resignation" replaced by "accessibility," and “relentless despair” replaced by “awakened hope.”
The focus throughout will be on the interface between theory and clinical practice.
Martha Stark MD – Comprehensive Overview of the 4 Models – A Potpourri of Sli...Martha Stark MD
Dr. Martha Stark has developed a comprehensive theory of therapeutic action that integrates the interpretive perspective of classical psychoanalysis (which speaks to the power of insight); the corrective-provision perspective of self psychology and other deficit theories (which speaks to the importance of corrective experience as compensation for early-on deficiencies); and the contemporary relational perspective (which speaks to mutual enactment and negotiation by both patient and therapist of the entanglements that will inevitably emerge at the intimate edge of their authentic engagement).
Her focus throughout the seminar will be on the interface between theory and practice; and Dr. Stark will demonstrate, by way of numerous clinical vignettes and prototypical interventions, the ways in which the three modes of therapeutic action (knowledge, experience, and relationship) can be used to accelerate the healing process.
review of basic constructs: knowledge, experience, relationship as curative factors; “supporting” by being with the patient where she is vs. “challenging” by directing her attention to elsewhere; the therapeutic process as involving recursive cycles of defensive collapse and adaptive reconstitution at ever higher levels of integration and balance.
the process of transforming defense into adaptation; the importance of awareness (wisdom), acceptance, and accountability; therapist as neutral object, empathic selfobject, authentic subject; prototypical interventions specifically designed to facilitate the grieving process and to accelerate the healing.
working through the negative transference and disruptions to the positive transference; transforming infantile need into mature adult capacity; focusing on the contributions of both patient and therapist to the relational dynamics at their intimate edge; use of instructor’s process recordings to demonstrate the role of knowledge, experience, and relationship in strengthening the ego, consolidating the self, and resolving relational difficulties.
The document discusses the concept of susceptibility in homeopathy. It provides definitions from homeopathic scholars on susceptibility as the body's ability to receive impressions and react to stimuli. Susceptibility plays a role in health and disease and determines how the body will respond to remedies. There are different types of susceptibility including natural, morbid, and artificial susceptibility induced by medicines. Factors like constitution, age, habits modify one's susceptibility. Homeopathy aims to restore normal susceptibility through similar remedies to cure diseases.
Martha Stark MD – 28 Feb 2022 – From Defense to Adaptation – The Ever-Evolvin...Martha Stark MD
The document discusses using optimal stress in psychotherapy to transform rigid defenses into more flexible adaptations. It presents the psychodynamic process as involving cycles of disruption and repair. The therapist provokes disruption of defenses through optimally stressful interventions in order to trigger repair and adaptation. Three models are presented - classical psychoanalysis focuses on interpreting truths to strengthen awareness; self psychology focuses on grieving truths about others to build acceptance; and relational theory focuses on owning interpersonal truths to develop accountability. Empathic and conflict statements are used to both challenge and support defenses, generating optimal stress for change.
Martha Stark MD – 13 Nov 2022 – Part 2 – The Art and The Science of Interpret...Martha Stark MD
As you sit with your patients, do you sometimes find yourself at a loss for words?
From moment to moment, we are continuously making choices about how best to position ourselves in relation to our patients. In truth, most of our patients are “conflicted” about most things most of the time. Whether working within the interpretive perspective of classical psychoanalytic theory, the corrective-provision perspective of self psychology, or the intersubjective perspective of contemporary relational theory, we are therefore ever busy deciding when we should highlight the healthy forces within patients that are pressing “yes” and when we should target the unhealthy (resistive) counterforces that are defending “no.” When should we “be with them where they are” and when should we “direct their attention to elsewhere”? – or can we perhaps do both at the same time?
With our finger ever on the pulse of the level of the patient’s anxiety, we are indeed always focused on whether we think the patient will be able to tolerate further (anxiety-provoking) challenge and/or will require additional (anxiety-assuaging) support – a critically important balance that is necessary if the analytic endeavor is to be advanced.
To demonstrate the translation of these theoretical constructs into clinical practice, I will be proposing a universally applicable intervention that targets the patient’s state of internal dividedness or conflictedness – between healthy but anxiety-provoking forces pressing for “something new and better” and less healthy but anxiety-assuaging (defensive) counterforces insisting upon “same old same old.” Brief and more extended clinical vignettes will be offered that demonstrate use of these optimally stressful “conflict statements” that are specifically designed to facilitate development of the patient’s dual awareness.
If indeed the analytic goal is deep, enduring, characterological change, then it behooves all of us to become comfortable with the concept of provoking – with our interventions – enough incentivizing anxiety and destabilizing stress that there will be both impetus and opportunity for the patient, ultimately, to transform rigid defense into more flexible adaptation. The strategic formulation of interpretations specifically designed to generate this optimal stress is indeed both an art and a science.
Martha Stark MD – 10 Dec 2016 – Limbic Kindling and Hypersensitivity to Stres...Martha Stark MD
Over the course of the decades, my own approach has become much more integrative and holistic – one that appreciates the complex interdependence of mind and body and the critical role played by the impact of stress on the MindBodyMatrix.
The living system – the ground regulation system – the divine matrix – the web of life – a liquid crystal through which information and energy flow.
More specifically, I will be speaking to the role played by limbic kindling and the resultant hypersensitivity to stress that is a hallmark of depressed patients.
Martha Stark MD – 13 Nov 2022 – Part 1 – The Art and The Science of Interpret...Martha Stark MD
This document outlines Martha Stark's presentation on conceptualizing a framework for the "middle game" of psychodynamic psychotherapy. The presentation focuses on four key elements: staying attuned to a patient's anxiety level and understanding it's okay to sometimes increase or decrease anxiety; generating optimal stress through the right balance of challenge and support to incentivize changing defenses into adaptations; developing comfort with challenging and supporting unhealthy defenses as well as celebrating new, healthier adaptations; and using minimally and optimally stressful interventions. The goal is transforming psychological rigidity into flexibility through therapeutic provision of optimal stress.
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Martha Stark MD – Clinical Interventions – Chapter 2 of my WORKING WITH RESIS...Martha Stark MD
In order to demonstrate the ways in which the concepts of conflict and resistance can be applied to the clinical situation, let us think about the following three situations:
1. The patient is obviously upset but is trying hard not to cry.
2. The patient knows that her therapist will not laugh at her but finds herself fearing that the therapist might.
3. The patient is upset with her therapist and knows, on some level, that she must eventually confront the reality of just how disappointed she really is, but she would like to think that she could get better without having to do that.
In our interventions in these three situations of conflict, we have three options, and we must decide from moment to moment which to choose.
Martha Stark MD – Model 1 – The Interpretive Perspective of Classical Psychoa...Martha Stark MD
If deep and enduring psychodynamic change is the ultimate goal of treatment, then periodically juxtaposing seemingly contradictory “forces” (Hegel’s thesis and antithesis) will eventually jump-start the patient’s “adaptive recovery” by creating optimally stressful, growth-incentivizing “mismatch experiences.”
I will be proposing use of something to which I refer as a “conflict statement” – a clinically useful and almost universally applicable therapeutic intervention strategically designed to target internal conflictedness between anxiety-provoking (but ultimately growth-promoting) forces pressing “yes” and anxiety-relieving (but growth-impeding) resistant counterforces defending “no.”
The stress and strain of the “destabilizing dissonance” hereby created will provide the “therapeutic leverage” needed for the patient gradually, over time, to relinquish the tenacity of her rigid attachment to the defense in favor of a more flexible adaptation – a “compromise position” that will “reconcile their common truths” (Hegel’s synthesis) and transform conflict into collaboration.
The strategic construction of conflict statements requires of the therapist that she be able both to support the patient’s defense by “being with the patient where she is” and to challenge the patient’s defense by “directing the patient’s attention to where the therapist would want her to go.” I will be offering specific clinical examples to demonstrate the impact of these powerfully impactful psychotherapeutic interventions. No pain, no gain…
Martha Stark MD – 2019 A Heart Shattered, The Private Self, and A Life Unlive...Martha Stark MD
Patients who have never fully confronted – and grieved – the pain of their early-on heartbreak will often cling tenaciously to their hope that perhaps someday the object of their desire will be forthcoming. But there are others who, in the aftermath of their early-on heartbreak, will find themselves withdrawing completely from the world of objects – their heart shattered...
To protect themselves against being once again devastated, this latter group of patients will retreat, withdraw, detach themselves from relationships – psychic retreat, schizoid withdrawal, emotional detachment from the world of people, from life itself – only then to find themselves overwhelmed by intense feelings of isolation, alienation, and emptiness – the competent, accomplished, cheerful, compliant false (public) self they present to the world belying the truth that lies hidden within, namely, not only their private turmoil, tormented heartbreak, harrowing loneliness, and annihilating terror but also their stymied creativity and desperate (albeit conflicted) longing for meaningful connectedness with the world.
Instead of relentless hope, which figures prominently in my Model 2 (an absence of good model that focuses on the patient’s relentless pursuit of new good), and its cousin relentless outrage, which figures prominently in my Model 3 (a presence of bad model that focuses on the patient’s compulsive re-enactment of old bad in the face of frustrated desire), the experience of being-in-the-world for these latter (Model 4) patients will be one of relentless despair – a profound hopelessness that they keep hidden behind the false self they present to the world, a self-protective armor that masks the deeply entrenched brokenness and thwarted potential of the true self (Stark 2017).
Whereas the relentless hope of the Model 2 patient and the relentless outrage of the Model 3 patient speak to the patient’s intense (albeit maladaptive) engagement with the world of objects, the relentless despair of the Model 4 patient speaks to the patient’s utter lack of any real engagement with the world of objects.
Many a patient, as a child, has suffered great heartache at the hands of a misguided, even if well-intentioned, parent, be it in the form of psychological trauma and abuse (too much bad) or emotional deprivation and neglect (not enough good). Such a patient may never have had occasion to confront the pain of her grief about the parent's unwitting but devastating betrayal of her. Instead, she has defended herself against the pain of her heartache by pushing it, unprocessed, out of her awareness and clinging instead to the illusion of her parent (or a stand-in for her parent) as good and as ultimately forthcoming if she (the patient) could but get it right.
Under the sway of her repetition compulsion, the patient – as she struggles through her life – will find herself delivering into each new relationship her desperate hope that perhaps this time, were she to be but good enough, want it badly enough, or suffer deeply enough, she might yet be able to transform this new object of her relentless desire into the perfect parent she should have had as a child – but never did (Stark 1994a, 1994b, 1999, 2015).
As long as the patient continues her relentless pursuits, however, and refuses to come to terms with the reality of the limitations, separateness, and immutability of the people in her world – and the limits of her power to make them change – then she will be consigning herself to a lifetime of chronic frustration, heartache, and unremitting feelings of impotent rage and profound despair.
Elvin Semrad (Rako 1983) captures this poignantly with the following: “Pretending that <something> can be when it can’t is how people break their heart.”
Martha Stark MD – 2016 How Does Psychotherapy Work?.pdfMartha Stark MD
I have always found the following quote from Gary Schwartz’s 1999 The Living Energy Universe to be inspirational: “One of science’s greatest challenges is to discover certain principles that will explain, integrate, and predict large numbers of seemingly unrelated phenomena.” So too my goal has long been to be able to tease out overarching principles – themes, patterns, and repetitions – that that are relevant in the deep healing work that we do as psychotherapists.
Drawing upon concepts from fields as diverse as systems theory, chaos theory, quantum mechanics, solid-state physics, toxicology, and psychoanalysis to inform my understanding, on the pages that follow I will be offering what I hope will prove to be a clinically useful conceptual framework for understanding how it is that healing takes place – be it of the body or of the mind. More specifically, I will be speaking both to what exactly provides the therapeutic leverage for healing chronic dysfunction and to how we, as psychotherapists, can facilitate that process?
Just as with the body, where a condition might not heal until it is made acute, so too with the mind. In other words, whether we are dealing with body or mind, superimposing an acute injury on top of a chronic one is sometimes exactly what a person needs in order to trigger the healing process.
More specifically, the therapeutic provision of “optimal stress” – against the backdrop of empathic attunement and authentic engagement – is often the magic ingredient needed to overcome the inherent resistance to change so frequently encountered in our patients with longstanding emotional injuries and scars.
Too much challenge (traumatic stress) will overwhelm. Too little challenge (minimal stress) will serve simply to reinforce the dysfunctional status quo. But just the right combination of challenge and support (optimal stress) will “galvanize to action” and provoke healing. I refer to this as the Goldilocks Principle of Healing.
And so it is that with our finger ever on the pulse of the patient’s level of anxiety and capacity to tolerate further challenge, we formulate “incentivizing statements” strategically designed “to precipitate disruption in order to trigger repair.” Ongoing use of these optimally stressful interventions will induce healing cycles of defensive destabilization followed by adaptive restabilization at ever-higher levels of integration, dynamic balance, and functional capacity.
Behind this “no pain, no gain” approach is my firm belief in the
underlying resilience that patients will inevitably discover within themselves once forced to tap into their inborn ability to self-correct in the face of environmental challenge – an innate capacity that will enable them to advance, over time, from dysfunctional defensive reaction to more functional adaptive response.
Martha Stark MD – 2015 The Transformative Power of Optimal Stress.pdfMartha Stark MD
Freud’s interest was in the internal conflict that exists between, on the one hand, untamed id drives (most notably sexual and aggressive ones) clamoring for gratification and release and, on the other hand, the defenses mobilized by an undeveloped ego made anxious by the threatened breakthrough of those drives – conflict that will create neurotic suffering and interfere with the capacity to derive pleasure and fulfillment from love, work, and play (Freud 1926).
Using as a springboard Freud’s premises of drive-defense conflict as the source of a person’s difficulties in life and of the goal of treatment as therefore transformation of id energy into ego structure so that primitive defenses can be relinquished and conflict resolved – “Where id was, there shall ego be” (Freud 1923), I will go on to broaden Freud’s conceptualization of neurotic conflict to encompass, more generally, growth-impeding tension between anxiety-provoking but ultimately health-promoting internal forces pressing yes and anxiety- assuaging internal counterforces defending no.
The aim of treatment will then become (1) to tame the id so that its now more manageable energy can be redirected into more constructive channels and used to power the pursuit of healthier endeavors and (2) to strengthen the ego so that it will become both better able to cope with the multitude of anxiety-provoking stressors (internal and external) to which it is being continuously exposed and more skilled at harnessing id energy to fuel actualization of potential. In essence, a tamer id and a stronger ego will enable the patient to cope with the stress of life (Selye 1978) by adapting instead of defending – “Where defense was, there shall adaptation be.”
In the treatment situation, the therapist will offer psychotherapeutic interventions specifically designed to precipitate disruption in order to trigger repair (Stark 2008, 2012, 2014). To be effective against dysfunctional defenses that have become firmly entrenched over time, despite having long since outlived their usefulness, these therapeutic interventions must be optimally stressful. In other words, they must be strategically formulated to offer just the right combination of challenge and support.
Martha Stark MD – 1994 A Primer on Working with Resistance.pdfMartha Stark MD
Every day after work, a very depressed young man sits in the dark in his living room hour after hour, doing nothing, his mind blank. By his side is his stereo and a magnificent collection of his favorite classical music. The flick of a switch and he would feel better- and yet night after night, overwhelmed with despair, he just sits, never once touching that switch.
I would like to suggest that we think of this man as being in a state of internal conflict (although he may not, at this point, be aware of such conflict). He could turn on his stereo, but he does not. He could do something that would make him feel better, but he does nothing. Within this man is tension between what he "should" let himself do and what he finds himself doing instead.
In general, patients both do and don't want to get better. They both do and don't want to maintain things as they are. They both do and don't want to get on with their lives. They both are and aren't invested in their suffering. They are truly conflicted about all the choices that confront them.
The patient may protest that he desperately wants to change. He does and he doesn't. He may insist that he would do anything in order to feel better. Well, yes and no. On some level, everybody wants things to be better, but few are willing to change.
Drive theory conceives of conflict as involving internal tension between id impulse insisting "yes" and ego defense protesting "no" (with the superego coming down usually on the side of the ego). In Ralph Greenson's (1967) words: "A neurotic conflict is an uncon- scious conflict between an id impulse seeking discharge and an ego defense warding off the impulse's direct discharge or access to consciousness" (p. 17).
Although drives are considered part of the id, affects (drive derivatives) are thought to reside in the ego; in fact, the ego is said to be the seat of all affects. When Freud writes of psychic conflict between the id and the ego, it is understood that sometimes he is referring to conflict between an id drive and an ego defense and sometimes he is referring to conflict between an anxiety-provoking affect (in the ego but deriving from the id) and an ego defense.
Martha Stark MD – 1994 Working with Resistance.pdfMartha Stark MD
This book is about the patient’s resistance and his refusal to grieve. Drawing upon concepts from classical psychoanalysis, object relations theory, and self psychology, I present a model of the mind that takes into consideration the relationship between unmourned losses and how such losses are internally recorded – as both absence of good (structural deficit) and presence of bad (structural conflict). These internal records of traumatic disappointments sustained early on give rise to forces that interfere with the patient’s movement toward health – forces that constitute, therefore, the resistance.
Within the patient is a tension between that which the patient should let himself do/feel and that which he does/feels instead. Patient and therapist, as part of their work, will need to be able to understand and name, in a profoundly respectful fashion, both sets of forces –both those healthy ones, which impel the patient in the direction of progress, and those unhealthy resistive ones, which impede such progress. As part of the work to be done, the patient must eventually come to appreciate his investment in his defenses, how they serve him, and the price he pays for holding on to them.
My interest is in the interface between theory and practice –the ways in which theoretical constructs can be translated into the clinical situation; to that end, I suggest specific, prototypical interventions for each step of the working-through process.
My contention is that the resistant patient is, ultimately, someone who has not yet grieved, has not yet confronted certain intolerably painful realities about his past and present objects. Instead, he protects himself from the pain of knowing the truth about his objects by clinging to misperceptions of them; holding on to his defensive need not to know enables him not to feel his grief.
To the extent that the patient is defended, to that extent will he be resistant to doing the work that needs ultimately to be done – grief work that will enable him to let go of the past, let go of his relentless pursuit of infantile gratification, and let go of his compulsive repetitions. Only as the patient grieves, doing now what he could not possibly do as a child, will he get better.
I believe that mental health has to do with the capacity to experience one’s objects as they are, uncontaminated by the need for them to be otherwise. A goal of treatment, therefore, is to transform the patient’s need for his objects to be other than who they are into the capacity to accept them as they are.
Martha Stark MD – 28 Oct 2017 – Relentless Despair – Model 4.pptxMartha Stark MD
An anonymous quote but very to the point is the following:
I gave you a part of me that I knew you could break – but you didn’t.
Patients who have never fully confronted – and grieved – the pain of their early-on heartbreak will often cling tenaciously to their hope that perhaps someday the “object of their desire” will be forthcoming. But there are others who, in the aftermath of their early-on heartbreak, will find themselves withdrawing completely from the “world of objects” – their heart shattered…
To protect themselves from being once again devastated, these latter patients retreat, withdraw, detach themselves from relationships, from the world – psychic retreat, schizoid withdrawal, emotional detachment from life itself – only then to find themselves overwhelmed by intense feelings of isolation, alienation, and emptiness – the competent, accomplished, cheerful, compliant “false (public) self” that they present to the world belying the truth of what lies hidden, namely, their private turmoil, tormented heartbreak, harrowing loneliness, and annihilating terror as well as their stymied creativity and desperate (albeit conflicted) longing for meaningful connectedness with the world.
Instead of “relentless hope” (which figures prominently in my Model 2, with its focus on the patient’s “relentless pursuits”) and, when thwarted, “relentless outrage” (which figures prominently in my Model 3, with its focus on the patient’s “compulsive repetitions”), the experience-of-being-in-the-world for these latter (Model 4) patients will be one of “relentless despair” – a “profound hopelessness” that they keep masked by a self-protective “false self” armor that obscures their underlying brokenness and the “thwarted potential” of their “true self.”
Whereas the relentless hope of the Model 2 patient and the relentless outrage of the Model 3 patient speak to the patient’s intense – albeit maladaptive – engagement with the world of objects, the relentless despair of the Model 4 patient speaks to the patient’s complete lack of any real engagement with the world of objects.
Martha Stark MD – 20 Oct 2021 – Relentless Hope – The Refusal to Grieve.pptxMartha Stark MD
Relentless hope is a defense to which the patient clings in order not to have to feel the pain of her disappointment in the object, the hope a defense ultimately against grieving. The patient’s refusal to deal with the pain of her grief about the object (be it the infantile, a contemporary, or the transference object) fuels the relentlessness with which she pursues it, both the relentlessness of her hope that she might yet be able to make the object over into what she would want it to be and the relentlessness of her outrage in those moments of dawning recognition that, despite her best efforts and most fervent desire, she might never be able to make that actually happen. It will be suggested that maturity involves transforming this infantile need to have one’s objects be other than who they are into the healthy capacity to accept them as they are.
Drawing upon four modes of therapeutic action (enhancement of knowledge "within," provision of experience "for," engagement in relationship "with," and facilitation of flow "throughout"), Martha will offer a number of prototypical interventions specifically designed to facilitate transformation of the patient’s “defensive” need to possess and control the object (and, when thwarted, to punish the object by attempting to destroy it) into the “adaptive” capacity to relent, grieve, accept, forgive, internalize, separate, let go, and move on. Martha will also offer a number of clinical vignettes that speak to the power of an integrative approach that focuses on accountability and development of the capacity to relent (on the parts of both patient and therapist), the ultimate goal being to transform defensive need into adaptive capacity – the defensive need to re-enact old dramas again and again into the adaptive capacity to do it differently this time…
Martha Stark MD – 10 Sep 2012 – Relentless Hope – The Refusal to Grieve.pptxMartha Stark MD
Relentless hope is a defense to which the patient clings in order not to have to feel the pain of her disappointment in the object, the hope a defense ultimately against grieving. The patient’s refusal to deal with the pain of her grief about the object (be it the infantile, a contemporary, or the transference object) fuels the relentlessness with which she pursues it, both the relentlessness of her hope that she might yet be able to make the object over into what she would want it to be and the relentlessness of her outrage in those moments of dawning recognition that, despite her best efforts and most fervent desire, she might never be able to make that actually happen. It will be suggested that maturity involves transforming this infantile need to have one’s objects be other than who they are into the healthy capacity to accept them as they are.
Drawing upon four modes of therapeutic action (enhancement of knowledge "within," provision of experience "for," engagement in relationship "with," and facilitation of flow "throughout"), Martha will offer a number of prototypical interventions specifically designed to facilitate transformation of the patient’s “defensive” need to possess and control the object (and, when thwarted, to punish the object by attempting to destroy it) into the “adaptive” capacity to relent, grieve, accept, forgive, internalize, separate, let go, and move on. Martha will also offer a number of clinical vignettes that speak to the power of an integrative approach that focuses on accountability and development of the capacity to relent (on the parts of both patient and therapist), the ultimate goal being to transform defensive need into adaptive capacity – the defensive need to re-enact old dramas again and again into the adaptive capacity to do it differently this time…
Martha Stark MD – 5 Jun 2021 – A Heart Shattered and Relentless Despair.pptxMartha Stark MD
This document provides an overview of a seminar on an existential-humanistic approach to healing brokenness and easing despair in patients. The seminar will focus on Model 4 patients who have experienced early heartbreak and withdrawal from relationships due to a "shattered heart". It will discuss helping patients overcome dread of emotional surrender and providing an opportunity to "regress in order to redo" early experiences. The presenter's psychodynamic synergy paradigm incorporates five therapeutic models, including one focused on patients experiencing relentless despair and nonrelatedness due to early relational failures.
Martha Stark MD – 26 Jun 2009 – The Overwhelmed Heart.pptxMartha Stark MD
This document discusses coronary artery disease and the impact of stress on heart health. It notes that coronary artery disease often develops silently and can cause sudden death in some cases. Chronic stress can damage blood vessels and cause plaque buildup over time by increasing blood pressure and viscosity. Psychological stress, depression, obesity, and other risk factors place cumulative stress on the heart and compromise its ability to adapt. Maintaining the heart's resilience by reducing stressors and replenishing nutrients is important for cardiovascular health.
Martha Stark MD – 21 Feb 2009 – The Wisdom of the Matrix – From Chaos to Cohe...Martha Stark MD
The document discusses how coherence emerges from chaos in complex adaptive systems like living organisms. It argues that through ongoing cycles of disruption and repair, such systems can self-organize and evolve from disorder to higher levels of order and coherence in response to environmental inputs. The ability of a system to process and integrate stressors over time determines whether it progresses towards health or disease.
Martha Stark MD – 26 Jun 2009 – Murmur of the Heart.pptxMartha Stark MD
traumatic stress – stress that the system cannot process and must therefore defend against
optimal stress – stress that the system can process, integrate, and ultimately adapt to, although always at some cost to the system
it's how well the living system (the MindBodyMatrix) is able to manage the cumulative impact of the myriad environmental stressors to which it is being continuously exposed that will make of them either traumatic events or growth opportunities
and that ability to manage stress is a story about the system's ability to process, integrate, and adapt to the impact of environmental challenge, input from the outside that either threatens to overwhelm the system or prompts the system to mobilize its ability to heal itself
Martha Stark MD – 4 Jun 2010 – EMFs and the Excitotoxic Cascade.pptxMartha Stark MD
Unexplained Chronic Illness
Martin Pall's compelling conceptualization of the excitotoxic cascade and its pivotal role in both the initiation and the perpetuation of chronic multisystem illnesses
one or more short-term stressors
chemical sensitivity – pesticides and organic solvents
chronic fatigue – bacterial and viral infections
fibromyalgia – physical traumas
PTSD – severe psychological traumas
to which the body responds with an outpouring of
excitotoxins (glutamate)
inflammatory factors (cytokines and eicosanoids)
free radicals (nitric oxide)
stress-induced outpouring of endogenous excitotoxins, inflammatory cytokines, and free radicals sets in motion (in certain susceptible individuals) the nitric oxide / peroxynitrite cycle
a viciously destructive, self-propagating cycle involving
immune stimulation, inflammatory cytokines, membrane destabilization, synaptic overactivity, opening of calcium-permeable channels, massive calcium influx, etc.
and culminating in chronic illness
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I gave you a part of me that I knew you could break – but you didn’t.
Patients who have never fully confronted – and grieved – the pain of their early-on heartbreak will often cling tenaciously to their hope that perhaps someday the “object of their desire” will be forthcoming. But there are others who, in the aftermath of their early-on heartbreak, will find themselves withdrawing completely from the “world of objects” – their heart shattered…
To protect themselves from being once again devastated, these latter patients retreat, withdraw, detach themselves from relationships, from the world – psychic retreat, schizoid withdrawal, emotional detachment from life itself – only then to find themselves overwhelmed by intense feelings of isolation, alienation, and emptiness – the competent, accomplished, cheerful, compliant “false (public) self” that they present to the world belying the truth of what lies hidden, namely, their private turmoil, tormented heartbreak, harrowing loneliness, and annihilating terror as well as their stymied creativity and desperate (albeit conflicted) longing for meaningful connectedness with the world.
Instead of “relentless hope” (which figures prominently in my Model 2, with its focus on the patient’s “relentless pursuits”) and, when thwarted, “relentless outrage” (which figures prominently in my Model 3, with its focus on the patient’s “compulsive repetitions”), the experience-of-being-in-the-world for these latter (Model 4) patients will be one of “relentless despair” – a “profound hopelessness” that they keep masked by a self-protective “false self” armor that obscures their underlying brokenness and the “thwarted potential” of their “true self.”
Whereas the relentless hope of the Model 2 patient and the relentless outrage of the Model 3 patient speak to the patient’s intense – albeit maladaptive – engagement with the world of objects, the relentless despair of the Model 4 patient speaks to the patient’s complete lack of any real engagement with the world of objects.
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3. THERAPEUTIC MODALITIES THAT HAVE
“DEEP AND ENDURING PSYCHODYNAMIC CHANGE”
AS THEIR ULTIMATE GOAL
FOR EXAMPLE, PSYCHOANALYSIS AND OTHER “DEPTH PSYCHOLOGIES,”
INCLUDING – BUT NOT LIMITED TO – ACT, IFS, EMDR, ISTDP, AEDP, EFT, NLP,
SENSORIMOTOR PSYCHOTHERAPY, SOMATIC EXPERIENCING, AND PSYCHOMOTOR PSYCHOTHERAPY
MUST ULTIMATELY BE ABLE TO TRANSFORM
“PSYCHOLOGICAL RIGIDITY”
INTO “PSYCHOLOGICAL FLEXIBILITY”
IN THE EVOCATIVE WORDS OF ACCEPTANCE AND COMMITMENT THERAPY (ACT)
AND “LOW – LEVEL DEFENSE”
INTO “HIGHER – LEVEL / MORE EVOLVED DEFENSE”
IN THE MORE TRADITIONAL WORDS OF PSYCHOANALYSIS AND EGO PSYCHOLOGY
SUCH THAT THE PATIENT
WHATEVER HER STARTING POINT / WHATEVER HER INITIAL LEVEL OF FUNCTIONALITY
WHATEVER HER DIAGNOSIS
WILL BECOME EVER BETTER ABLE
– OVER TIME –
TO MANAGE THE MYRIAD “STRESSORS” IN HER LIFE
TO WHICH SHE IS BEING CONTINUOUSLY EXPOSED
EVER MORE ADEPT AT “RESPONDING ADAPTIVELY AND MINDFULLY”
INSTEAD OF “REACTING DEFENSIVELY AND MINDLESSLY” 3
4. 4
THE ULTIMATE GOAL OF DEEP TREATMENTS
EVER – LESS PSYCHOLOGICAL RIGIDITY
EVER – MORE PSYCHOLOGICAL FLEXIBILITY
5. OVERVIEW
IN ORDER TO ADVANCE THE PATIENT
FROM RIGID DEFENSE TO MORE FLEXIBLE ADAPTATION
AGAINST A BACKDROP OF EMPATHIC ATTUNEMENT
THE THERAPIST WILL REPEATEDLY
OFFER THE PATIENT
OPTIMALLY STRESSFUL INTERVENTIONS
– JUST THE RIGHT COMBINATION OF CHALLENGE AND SUPPORT –
STRATEGICALLY DESIGNED TO GENERATE
DESTABILIZING INTERNAL TENSION AND HOMEOSTATIC IMBALANCE
BY JUXTAPOSING
– IN AN EMBODIED (LIVED) FASHION –
ANXIETY – PROVOKING CHALLENGE OF THE DEFENSE
WITH ANXIETY – ASSUAGING SUPPORT OF IT
THEREBY CREATING
GROWTH – INCENTIVIZING “MISMATCH EXPERIENCES”
THE WORKING THROUGH OF WHICH
– IN ORDER TO RESOLVE THE INTERNAL TENSION
AND RESTORE THE HOMEOSTATIC BALANCE –
WILL ADVANCE THE PATIENT
TO EVER – HIGHER AND MORE EVOLVED LEVELS
OF RESILIENCE AND ADAPTIVE CAPACITY
5
7. MORE SPECIFICALLY
OPTIMALLY STRESSFUL INTERVENTIONS WILL
– ALTERNATELY AND REPEATEDLY –
FIRST “CHALLENGE” THE DEFENSE
BY DIRECTING THE PATIENT’S ATTENTION
TO WHERE SHE ISN’T
BUT WHERE THE THERAPIST
WOULD WANT HER TO GO
– SALMAN AKHTAR’S “DISRUPTIVE ATTUNEMENT” (2018) –
AND THEN “SUPPORT” THE DEFENSE
BY RESONATING EMPATHICALLY
WITH WHERE THE PATIENT IS
– SALMAN AKHTAR’S “HOMEOSTATIC ATTUNEMENT” (2018) –
IN ESSENCE
THE THERAPIST
WILL BE GENERATING
DESTABILIZING TENSION
WITHIN THE PATIENT
BY FIRST INCREASING HER ANXIETY
– WITH CHALLENGE –
AND THEN DECREASING IT
– WITH SUPPORT –
7
8. 8
STRATEGIC LEVERAGING OF THE PATIENT’S ANXIETY
ALTERNATELY INCREASING IT BY CHALLENGING THE DEFENSE
AND THEN DECREASING IT BY SUPPORTING THE DEFENSE
TO INCENTIVIZE TRANSFORMATION AND GROWTH
9. IN ESSENCE
PSYCHODYNAMIC PSYCHOTHERAPY
AFFORDS THE PATIENT
BOTH IMPETUS AND OPPORTUNITY
– ALBEIT BELATEDLY –
TO MASTER TRAUMATIC EXPERIENCES
THAT HAD ONCE BEEN OVERWHELMING
– AND, THEREFORE, DEFENDED AGAINST –
BUT THAT CAN NOW
– WITH THE BENEFIT OF THE THERAPIST’S LOVING SUPPORT
AND BY TAPPING INTO THE PATIENT’S UNDERLYING RESILIENCE,
INNATE CAPACITY TO ADAPT TO STRESS,
AND INTRINSIC STRIVING TOWARDS HEALTH –
BE REVISITED, REPROCESSED, AND REFRAMED
SUCH THAT GROWTH – IMPEDING DEFENSES
– ONCE NECESSARY FOR SURVIVAL –
CAN BE GRADUALLY TRANSFORMED
INTO GROWTH – PROMOTING ADAPTATIONS
FROM “SAME OLD, SAME OLD”
TO “SOMETHING NEW, DIFFERENT, AND BETTER”
FROM THE “SOBERING REALITY” OF “WHAT IS”
TO THE “ENLIVENING POSSIBILITY” OF “WHAT COULD BE”
SUCH THAT THE PATIENT WILL HAVE BECOME
STRONGER AT THE BROKEN PLACES 9
14. PLEASE NOTE
I DO NOT “LIMIT” DEFENSES
TO THE WELL – KNOWN
AND MORE TRADITIONAL ONES
AT ONE END OF THE CONTINUUM
“LOW – LEVEL DEFENSES”
FOR EXAMPLE
REPRESSION, REGRESSION, DENIAL,
DISSOCIATION, DISPLACEMENT, PROJECTION,
ISOLATION OF AFFECT, INTELLECTUALIZATION,
AND REACTION FORMATION
AT THE OTHER END
“HIGHER – LEVEL” OR “MORE MATURE DEFENSES”
THAT ARE “MORE ADAPTIVE” AND “MORE SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE”
FOR EXAMPLE
SUBLIMATION, HUMOR, ALTRUISM,
HUMILITY, AND POSITIVE IDENTIFICATIONS
14
15. RATHER
I DEFINE DEFENSES “MORE BROADLY”
AS SPEAKING TO ANY OF THE
“SELF – PROTECTIVE MECHANISMS”
THAT WE MOBILIZE WHEN MADE ANXIOUS
IN THE FACE OF STRESSORS
– PSYCHOLOGICAL, PHYSIOLOGICAL, AND ENERGETIC –
AT ONE END OF THE CONTINUUM
WHAT HAPPENS “REFLEXIVELY”
WHEN WE ARE CONFRONTED WITH STRESSORS
THAT “OVERWHELM” US WITH ANXIETY
TO WHICH I REFER AS “LOW – LEVEL DEFENSES”
OR “RIGID DEFENSES”
AT THE OTHER END
WHAT HAPPENS “MORE REFLECTIVELY”
WHEN WE ARE CONFRONTED WITH STRESSORS
THAT WE ARE MORE EASILY ABLE TO “TAKE IN OUR STRIDE”
TO WHICH I REFER AS “HIGHER – LEVEL DEFENSES”
OR “MORE FLEXIBLE ADAPTATIONS”
AT ONE END OF THE CONTINUUM – “DEFENSIVE REACTIONS”
AT THE OTHER END – “ADAPTIVE RESPONSES”
15
16. EITHER WE
– MADE ANXIOUS –
“REACT” TO STRESSORS BY “DEFENDING”
“DEFENSIVE REACTION”
OR WE
– MORE RESILIENT –
“RESPOND” TO STRESSORS BY “ADAPTING”
“ADAPTIVE RESPONSE”
16
19. THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN DEFENSE AND ADAPTATION
IS A YIN – YANG RELATIONSHIP
THESE SELF – PROTECTIVE MECHANISMS
ARE COMPLEMENTARY – NOT OPPOSING – FORCES
FURTHERMORE
ALL DEFENSES HAVE AN ADAPTIVE COMPONENT
JUST AS ALL ADAPTATIONS SERVE A DEFENSIVE FUNCTION
NONETHELESS AND MORE GENERALLY
ALTHOUGH DEFENSES MIGHT ONCE
HAVE BEEN NECESSARY
FOR THE PATIENT TO “SURVIVE,”
AS RIGID DEFENSES BECOME UPGRADED
TO MORE FLEXIBLE ADAPTATIONS,
THE PATIENT BECOMES
EVER BETTER ABLE TO “THRIVE”
THE THERAPEUTIC ACTION
IS INDEED DESIGNED
TO TRANSFORM “RIGIDITY” INTO “FLEXIBILITY”
AND “SURVIVING” INTO “THRIVING”
19
21. A DRAMATIC DEMONSTRATION OF THE DIRECT RELATIONSHIP
BETWEEN FLEXIBILITY AND THRIVING
DECADES AGO, TWO OBSTETRICIANS
MADE AN INTRIGUING DISCOVERY
ABOUT THE PARADOXICAL RELATIONSHIP
BETWEEN REGULARITY OF FETAL HEART RATE
AND FETAL MORTALITY
THEY DISCOVERED THAT
– COUNTERINTUITIVELY –
THE MORE METRONOME – LIKE THE HEARTBEAT,
THE LESS LIKELY THE FETUS WOULD BE TO SURVIVE
WHEREAS THE GREATER THE HEART RATE VARIABILITY,
THE MORE LIKELY THE FETUS WOULD BE TO THRIVE
IN OTHER WORDS
VARIABILITY, ADAPTABILITY, FLEXIBILITY,
RESILIENCE, AND TOM BRADY’S PLIABILITY
ARE CRITICALLY IMPORTANT
FOR THE HEALTH OF
BOTH BODY AND MIND
HON AND LEE (1965)
21
22. WE CANNOT AVOID SUFFERING
BUT WE CAN CHOOSE HOW WE COPE WITH IT, FIND MEANING IN IT,
AND MOVE FORWARD WITH RENEWED PURPOSE
“BETWEEN STIMULUS AND RESPONSE IS A SPACE.
IN THAT SPACE IS OUR POWER TO CHOOSE OUR RESPONSE.
IN OUR RESPONSE LIES OUR GROWTH AND OUR FREEDOM.”
AUTHOR UNKNOWN
– ALTHOUGH OFTEN MISATTRIBUTED TO THE EXISTENTIAL PSYCHIATRIST VIKTOR FRANKL –
AS THIS APPLIES TO THE CLINICAL SITUATION
IN THAT SPACE IS OUR POWER
EITHER TO “REACT DEFENSIVELY”
– BY WALLOWING IN OUR DESPAIR AND ABNEGATING RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR LIVES –
OR TO “RESPOND ADAPTIVELY”
– BY ACKNOWLEDGING THAT, DESPITE OUR DESPAIR, FROM THIS POINT FORWARD
THE MEANING WE MAKE OF OUR LIVES IS ENTIRELY UP TO US –
NOT ONLY DO WE HAVE THE FREEDOM TO CREATE THAT MEANING
BUT WE ALSO HAVE THE RESPONSIBILITY TO DO SO
IT HAS BEEN SUGGESETED THAT 10% OF WHAT HAPPENS TO US IS “LIFE”
BUT 90% IS HOW WE “REACT” OR “RESPOND” TO IT
22
23. 23
Between stressor
and what follows
is a space.
In that space
lies our freedom
and our power
to choose
what we will do.
We can either
react defensively
or
respond adaptively.
28. JUST AS A FIELD OF GRASS
CAN BE BURNED
IN ORDER TO STIMULATE IT
TO GROW BACK
GREENER, HEALTHIER, AND MORE LUSH
THAN BEFORE
SO TOO
“CONTROLLED DAMAGE”
TO THE BODY
CAN PROVOKE
THE “HEALING CASCADE”
28
29. IN THE PHYSIOLOGICAL REALM
SUPERIMPOSING AN ACUTE PHYSICAL INJURY
ON TOP OF A CHRONIC ONE
IS SOMETIMES EXACTLY WHAT THE BODY NEEDS
IN ORDER TO HEAL
BY WAY OF EXAMPLES
HIGH – INTENSITY INTERVAL TRAINING (HIIT) / INTERMITTENT FASTING
ISCHEMIC PRECONDITIONING / INTERMITTENT HYPOXIC TRAINING / HYPERBARIC OXYGEN
HOMEOPATHIC REMEDIES / VACCINES AND OTHER IMMUNOTHERAPIES / MEDICINAL PLANTS
DERMABRASION / FRAXEL LASER TREATMENTS / RADIOFREQUENCY MICRONEEDLING
PLATELET – RICH PLASMA (PRP) / PLATELET – RICH FIBRIN (PRF)
VAMPIRE GUM REJUVENATION / BOTOX / STEM CELL FACELIFTS
ELECTROCONVULSIVE THERAPY (ECT) / TRANSCRANIAL MAGNETIC STIMULATION (TMS)
CARDIAC DEFIBRILLATION / PULSE WAVE THERAPIES
ACUPUNCTURE / ACUPRESSURE / CUPPING
RED LIGHT THERAPY / INFRARED SAUNAS / CRYOTHERAPY
BRAIN TEASERS AND MENTAL EXERCISES
WHEN THE BODY IS OPTIMALLY CHALLENGED,
– NO MATTER HOW COMPROMISED IT MIGHT BE IN ITS FUNCTIONALITY –
ADAPTIVE RECOVERY WILL BE TRIGGERED
BECAUSE OF THE BODY’S INNATE RESILIENCE
29
30. THE THERAPEUTIC USE OF OPTIMAL STRESS
TO PROVOKE RECOVERY
DEPRIVING YOURSELF OF HALF A NIGHT’S SLEEP ONCE A WEEK
PREFERABLY THE SECOND HALF OF THE NIGHT (FOR EXAMPLE, FROM 3 TO 7 AM)
CAN PRODUCE A RAPID, EVEN IF SHORT – LIVED,
RESTABILIZATION OF MOOD AND RECOVERY FROM DEPRESSION
THE “STRESS” OF INTERRUPTING NORMAL SLEEP PATTERNS
MAY “RESYNCHRONIZE DISTURBED CIRCADIAN RHYTHMS”
LEIBENLUFT AND WEHR (1992)
INTERMITTENT FASTING
A 36 – HOUR WATER FAST ONCE A WEEK
(FOR EXAMPLE, FROM AFTER DINNER ON MONDAY EVENING
TO BEFORE BREAKFAST ON WEDNESDAY MORNING)
CAN SO SIGNIFICANTLY REDUCE THE TOTAL BODY BURDEN
THAT MENTAL CLARITY AND FOCUS CAN BE IMPROVED DRAMATICALLY
AND A SENSE OF OVERALL WELL – BEING RESTORED
INTERMITTENT FASTING IS ALSO ASSOCIATED WITH INCREASED LEVELS
OF BRAIN – DERIVED NEUROTROPHIC FACTOR (BDNF)
DEPLETED LEVELS OF WHICH ARE THOUGHT TO BE ASSOCIATED WITH DEPRESSION
MARK MATTSON (2023)
INTERESTINGLY, THE ONLY TYPE OF “CALORIE – RESTRICTION” DIET
THAT WILL NOT SLOW DOWN YOUR METABOLISM IS INTERMITTENT FASTING
30
32. MORE SPECIFICALLY
OPTIMAL CHALLENGE OF THE BRAIN WILL
SHARPEN MENTAL ACUITY, DECELERATE COGNITIVE DECLINE,
AND COMBAT THE EFFECTS OF AGING ON THE BRAIN
JUST AS ATHLETES CAN IMPROVE THEIR “PHYSICAL FITNESS” BY
OPTIMALLY CHALLENGING THEIR BODIES WITH “PHYSICAL EXERCISE”
SO, TOO, ALL OF US CAN IMPROVE OUR “BRAIN FITNESS” BY
OPTIMALLY CHALLENGING OUR MINDS WITH “BRAIN TEASERS”
FOR EXAMPLE, MATHEMATICAL PUZZLES, WORD GAMES,
CROSSWORD PUZZLES, LOGIC PROBLEMS, AND MEMORY CHALLENGES
ANY MENTAL EXERCISE REQUIRING
DELIBERATE AND CONCENTRATED EFFORT
FOR EXAMPLE, ACTIVE REPETITION, FOCUSED ATTENTION, MEDITATION,
REFLECTION, JUGGLING, OR LEARNING ANY NEW SKILL OR NEW LANGUAGE
WILL PROMOTE MENTAL AGILITY AND FORESTALL THE
INEXORABLE DECLINE IN MENTAL CAPACITY AS WE AGE
IN ADDITION TO PUZZLES AND GAMES,
OUR BRAINS WILL BE STIMULATED WHENEVER WE ARE EXPOSED TO SITUATIONS
THAT ARE NEW, UNUSUAL, DIFFERENT, NOVEL, OR UNEXPECTED
WHEN OUR DAILY ROUTINES ARE DISRUPTED
OR WHEN WE COMBINE TWO SENSES
– A FORM OF CROSS – TRAINING FOR THE BRAIN –
LIKE SIMULTANEOUSLY LISTENING TO MUSIC AND SMELLING FLOWERS,
WATCHING A SUNSET AND TAPPING OUR FINGERS,
OR PRINTING WITH ONE HAND WHILE CURSIVE WRITING WITH THE OTHER
32
33. JUST AS WITH THE BODY
– WHERE A CHRONIC CONDITION MIGHT NOT HEAL UNTIL IT IS MADE ACUTE –
SO TOO WITH THE MIND
INDEED, OVER TIME I HAVE COME TO APPRECIATE THAT
ONGOING “THERAPEUTIC PROVISION” OF JUST THE RIGHT
COMBINATION OF CHALLENGE AND SUPPORT
NAMELY, “OPTIMAL STRESS”
WILL SOMETIMES BE THE
“DESTABILIZING PROVOCATION” NEEDED
BOTH TO OVERCOME THE INHERENT
“RESISTANCE TO CHANGE”
SO FREQUENTLY ENCOUNTERED
IN EVEN OUR MOST WELL – INTENTIONED PATIENTS
AND TO TRANSFORM THEIR “DEFENSIVE NEED”
TO MAINTAIN THINGS AS THEY ARE
– “SAME OLD, SAME OLD” –
INTO THE “ADAPTIVE CAPACITY” TO EVOLVE
TO “SOMETHING NEW, DIFFERENT, AND BETTER”
33
35. NEUROSCIENTIST CHARLES KREBS (2013) WRITES
“OPEN, SELF – ORGANIZING, COMPLEX ADAPTIVE
(CHAOTIC) SYSTEMS RESIST PERTURBATION”
EXAMPLES OF “CHAOTIC SYSTEMS” INCLUDE
ROAD TRAFFIC, OCEAN TURBULENCE,
SAND DUNES, AND THE SELF – PROTECTIVE MECHANISMS
MOBILIZED BY ANXIOUS PATIENTS
DESPERATELY ATTEMPTING
TO MANAGE THE “STRESSORS” IN THEIR LIVES
WHICH IS TO SAY THAT
NO MATTER HOW COMPROMISED
THEY MIGHT BE IN THEIR FUNCTIONALITY
“SELF – ORGANIZING SYSTEMS”
– FUELED AS THEY ARE BY THEIR HOMEOSTATIC TENDENCY
TO REMAIN CONSTANT OVER TIME –
ARE INHERENTLY “RESISTANT TO CHANGE”
35
36. IN OTHER WORDS
PATIENTS
– MUCH AS THEY MIGHT PROTEST THEIR “DESIRE TO CHANGE” –
HAVE AN “INNATE INERTIA”
THAT MUST BE OVERCOME
IF THEY ARE EVER
TO BE RELEASED ENERGETICALLY
FROM THE TOXICITY OF THEIR PAST
AND EMPOWERED
TO EMBRACE LOVE, WORK, AND PLAY
TO THEIR GREATEST POTENTIAL
GOING FORWARD
36
37. A HUMOROUS EXAMPLE OF “RESISTANCE TO CHANGE”
A SATURDAY NIGHT LIVE SKIT IN WHICH
TWO MEN ARE SEATED AROUND A FIRE
CHATTING AND ONE SAYS TO THE OTHER
“YOU KNOW HOW WHEN YOU STICK
A POKER IN THE FIRE
AND LEAVE IT IN FOR A LONG TIME,
IT GETS REALLY, REALLY HOT?
AND THEN YOU STICK IT IN YOUR EYE,
AND IT REALLY, REALLY HURTS?
I HATE IT WHEN THAT HAPPENS!
I JUST HATE IT WHEN THAT HAPPENS!”
37
38. OR THE ROCK SONG
BY THE LATE WARREN ZEVON (1996)
ENTITLED
“IF YOU WON’T LEAVE ME
I’LL FIND SOMEBODY WHO WILL”
WHICH SPEAKS TO THE NEED
WE ALL HAVE TO RECREATE
THE “FAMILIAL AND THEREFORE FAMILIAR”
STEPHEN MITCHELL (1988)
BECAUSE THAT IS ALL WE HAVE EVER KNOWN
HAVING SOMETHING DIFFERENT
WOULD CREATE ANXIETY
BECAUSE IT WOULD HIGHLIGHT THE FACT
THAT THINGS COULD BE
– AND COULD THEREFORE HAVE BEEN –
DIFFERENT
38
39. I AM HERE REMINDED OF PORTIA NELSON’S
AUTOBIOGRAPHY IN 5 SHORT CHAPTERS (2012)
WHICH HIGHLIGHTS BOTH
OUR DEFENSIVE NEED TO “MAINTAIN THINGS AS THEY ARE”
AND OUR ADAPTIVE CAPACITY ULTIMATELY TO “CHANGE”
CHAPTER 1
I WALK DOWN THE STREET
THERE IS A DEEP HOLE IN THE SIDEWALK
I FALL IN
I AM LOST … I AM HELPLESS
IT ISN’T MY FAULT
IT TAKES FOREVER TO FIND A WAY OUT
CHAPTER 2
I WALK DOWN THE SAME STREET
THERE IS A DEEP HOLE IN THE SIDEWALK
I PRETEND I DON’T SEE IT
I FALL IN AGAIN
I CAN’T BELIEVE I AM IN THE SAME PLACE
BUT IT ISN’T MY FAULT
IT STILL TAKES A LONG TIME TO GET OUT
39
40. CHAPTER 3
I WALK DOWN THE SAME STREET
THERE IS A DEEP HOLE IN THE SIDEWALK
I SEE IT IS THERE
I STILL FALL IN … IT’S A HABIT
MY EYES ARE OPEN
I KNOW WHERE I AM
IT IS MY FAULT
I GET OUT IMMEDIATELY
CHAPTER 4
I WALK DOWN THE SAME STREET
THERE IS A DEEP HOLE IN THE SIDEWALK
I WALK AROUND IT
CHAPTER 5
I WALK DOWN ANOTHER STREET
40
41. ONGOING AND JUDICIOUS USE
OF OPTIMALLY STRESSFUL
THERAPEUTIC INTERVENTIONS
MUST THEREFORE OFFER PATIENTS
ENOUGH CHALLENGE
THAT THERE WILL BE IMPETUS
FOR DESTABILIZATION
OF THEIR DYSFUNCTIONAL DEFENSES
BUT ENOUGH SUPPORT
THAT THERE WILL BE OPPORTUNITY
FOR RESTABILIZATION
OF THOSE SELF – PROTECTIVE MECHANISMS
AT EVER – HEALTHIER LEVELS
OF FUNCTIONALITY AND ADAPTABILITY
41
43. INDEED, WE ALL FIND OURSELVES SOMETIMES
VERY CONFUSED ABOUT WHAT TO DO NEXT!
43
44. WITH THE THERAPIST’S FINGER
EVER ON THE PULSE OF THE
PATIENT’S LEVEL OF ANXIETY
AND CAPACITY TO TOLERATE
FURTHER CHALLENGE
THE THERAPIST WILL
THEREFORE REPEATEDLY
CHALLENGE WHENEVER POSSIBLE
BY DIRECTING THE PATIENT’S ATTENTION
TO WHERE THE PATIENT IS NOT
BUT TO WHERE THE THERAPIST
WOULD WANT THE PATIENT TO GO
– SALMAN AKHTAR’S (2018) “DISRUPTIVE ATTUNEMENT” –
AND SUPPORT WHENEVER NECESSARY
BY RESONATING EMPATHICALLY
WITH WHERE THE PATIENT IS
– SALMAN AKHTAR’S (2018) “HOMEOSTATIC ATTUNEMENT” –
44
46. IT COULD BE SAID THAT
WITHOUT SUPPORT, THERAPY NEVER BEGINS
BUT WITHOUT CHALLENGE, THERAPY NEVER ENDS
ALTERNATIVELY
WITHOUT CHALLENGE, THERAPY NEVER BEGINS
BUT WITHOUT SUPPORT, THERAPY NEVER ENDS
BY THE SAME TOKEN, IT COULD BE SAID THAT
WITHOUT EMPATHY, THERAPY NEVER BEGINS
BUT WITHOUT EMPATHIC FAILURE, THERAPY NEVER ENDS
OR
WITHOUT EMPATHIC FAILURE, THERAPY NEVER BEGINS
BUT WITHOUT EMPATHY, THERAPY NEVER ENDS
IN ESSENCE
WITHOUT SUFFICIENT CHALLENGE,
THERE WILL BE NO IMPETUS FOR GROWTH
BUT WITHOUT ADEQUATE SUPPORT,
THERE WILL BE NO SUCH OPPORTUNITY
– THE MORAL OF THE STORY –
YOU NEED TO PROVIDE BOTH CHALLENGE AND SUPPORT
FROM BEGINNING TO END
46
47. IN OTHER WORDS
IT IS NOT SO MUCH EMPATHY AS
EMPATHIC FAILURE AGAINST A BACKDROP OF EMPATHY
“OPTIMAL DISILLUSIONMENT”
IT IS NOT SO MUCH GRATIFICATION AS
FRUSTRATION AGAINST A BACKDROP OF GRATIFICATION
“OPTIMAL FRUSTRATION”
IT IS NOT SO MUCH SUPPORT AS
CHALLENGE AGAINST A BACKDROP OF SUPPORT
“OPTIMAL STRESS”
THAT WILL PROVIDE THE “THERAPEUTIC LEVERAGE”
NEEDED TO “PROVOKE” ALTERNATING CYCLES
OF DESTABILIZATION AND THEN RESTABILIZATION
AT EVER – MORE ROBUST LEVELS OF “ADAPTIVE CAPACITY”
“DEEP AND ENDURING PSYCHODYNAMIC CHANGE”
REQUIRES THIS ONGOING GENERATION OF
“DESTABILIZING ANXIETY” AND “INCENTIVIZING STRESS”
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48. 48
JUDICIOUS USE OF OPTIMAL STRESS PROVIDES
BOTH IMPETUS AND OPPORTUNITY
FOR THE PATIENT TO EVOLVE
– THROUGH HEALING CYCLES OF DISRUPTION AND RECOVERY –
FROM “ILLNESS” TO “WELLNESS”
50. HOW DOES THE
SANDPILE MODEL
OF CHAOS THEORY
OFFER A COMPELLING “VISUAL”
FOR EVOLUTION OF THE PATIENT
THROUGH ITERATIVE HEALING CYCLES
OF DESTABILIZATION
FOLLOWED BY RESTABILIZATION
AT EVER – MORE EVOLVED LEVELS
OF COMPLEXITY AND DYNAMIC BALANCE
AS A RESULT OF
THE CUMULATIVE IMPACT OF
OPTIMALLY STRESSFUL
INTERVENTIONS 50
51. THE PARADOXICAL IMPACT OF STRESS
THE “SANDPILE MODEL” OF CHAOS THEORY
OFFERS AN ELEGANT VISUAL DEMONSTRATION
OF THE CUMULATIVE IMPACT
– OVER TIME –
OF ENVIRONMENTAL STRESSORS
ON OPEN SYSTEMS
– THINK “HOURGLASS” –
I USE THIS “SANDPILE MODEL”
WHICH SIMULATES THE EVOLUTION
– OVER TIME –
OF OPEN, SELF – ORGANIZING CHAOTIC SYSTEMS
– LIKE THE STOCK MARKET, NEURAL NETWORKS, HURRICANES –
AS AN ANALOGY
FOR THE ITERATIVE HEALING CYCLES
OF DISRUPTION AND REPAIR
THAT CHARACTERIZE THE THERAPEUTIC ACTION
IN PSYCHODYNAMIC PSYCHOTHERAPY
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52. 52
THE SANDPILE
MODEL
OF CHAOS THEORY
Bak (1996)
ITERATIVE CYCLES
OF DESTABILIZATION
AND RESTABILIZATION
AT EVER – HIGHER
LEVELS
OF COMPLEXITY
AND DYNAMIC BALANCE
A COMPELLING
“VISUAL”
FOR THE
CUMULATIVE IMPACT
OF OPTIMAL STRESS
53. THE PARADOXICAL IMPACT OF STRESS
BOTH THE “SANDPILE MODEL”
AND THE “THERAPEUTIC ACTION”
FEATURE THE “EMERGENCE”
– OVER TIME –
OF “ITERATIVE CYCLES”
OF “DESTABILIZATION”
– A “DEFENSIVE REACTION” TO THE “CHALLENGE” –
AND “RESTABILIZATION”
– AN “ADAPTIVE RESPONSE” TO THE “SUPPORT”
AS THESE “CHAOTIC SYSTEMS” EVOLVE
TO EVER – MORE RICHLY TEXTURED LAYERS
OF RESILIENCE, COMPLEXITY,
INTEGRATION, AND DYNAMIC BALANCE
NOT JUST “IN SPITE OF”
ENVIRONMENTAL STRESSORS
BUT “BY WAY OF”
THOSE STRESSORS
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54. HOW IS IT THAT
ONGOING EVOLUTION
IS POSSIBLE
NOT JUST
“IN SPITE OF”
BUT
“BECAUSE OF”
THE CYCLES
OF DISRUPTION
AND REPAIR
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55. AMAZINGLY ENOUGH
THE GRAINS OF SAND
BEING STEADILY ADDED
TO THE GRADUALLY EVOLVING SANDPILE
– MUCH LIKE THE OPTIMALLY STRESSFUL INTERVENTIONS
THAT WE OFFER OUR PATIENTS –
ARE THE OCCASION
FOR BOTH “DISRUPTION” AND “REPAIR”
NOT ONLY DO THE GRAINS OF SAND
– OPTIMALLY STRESSFUL, GROWTH – INCENTIVIZING “MISMATCH EXPERIENCES” –
PERIODICALLY PRECIPITATE
PARTIAL COLLAPSES OF THE SANDPILE
– DESTABILIZATION OF THE PATIENT’S DEFENSES –
(DESCRIBED AS “MINOR AVALANCHES” IN CHAOS THEORY)
BUT THEY ALSO BECOME
THE MEANS BY WHICH THE SANDPILE
– THE PATIENT’S INFRASTRUCTURE –
WILL THEN BE ABLE TO BUILD ITSELF BACK UP
– ITS STRUCTURAL INTEGRITY REINFORCED –
(EACH TIME AT A MORE RESILIENT LEVEL OF HOMEOSTASIS)
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56. THE SYSTEM
– THE PATIENT –
WILL THEREFORE HAVE BEEN ABLE
NOT ONLY TO “MANAGE”
THE IMPACT OF THE STRESSFUL INPUT
BUT ALSO TO “BENEFIT FROM” THAT IMPACT
FROM DEFENSIVE COLLAPSE
TO ADAPTIVE RECONSOLIDATION
AT EVER – MORE ROBUST LEVELS
THE IRREGULARITIES IN THE SANDPILE
– MUCH LIKE THE SCARS WE BEAR –
POIGNANT REMINDERS
OF THE MINOR COLLAPSES
– INJURIES –
WE HAVE ALL SUSTAINED
– OVER TIME –
BUT, ULTIMATELY, TRIUMPHANTLY OVERCOME
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59. THE GOLDILOCKS PRINCIPLE
TOO MUCH CHALLENGE
WILL OVERWHELM AND PLUMMET THE SYSTEM
INTO FURTHER DECLINE
BECAUSE IT WILL BE “TOO MUCH”
TO BE PROCESSED, INTEGRATED, AND ADAPTED TO
TRAUMATIC STRESS
TOO LITTLE CHALLENGE
WILL OFFER “TOO LITTLE” IMPETUS AND OPPORTUNITY
FOR TRANSFORMATION AND GROWTH,
SERVING INSTEAD SIMPLY
TO REINFORCE THE – DYSFUNCTIONAL – STATUS QUO
BUT JUST THE RIGHT AMOUNT OF CHALLENGE
WILL PROVIDE “JUST THE RIGHT AMOUNT”
OF “THERAPEUTIC LEVERAGE”
NEEDED TO PROVOKE
– AFTER INITIAL DISRUPTION –
EVENTUAL RE – EQUILIBRATION
AT A HIGHER, MORE EVOLVED LEVEL
OF INTEGRATION, FUNCTIONALITY,
AND ADAPTIVE CAPACITY
OPTIMAL – NONTRAUMATIC – STRESS
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63. MY PSYCHODYNAMIC SYNERGY PARADIGM
FEATURES FIVE INTERDEPENDENT
– AND MUTUALLY ENHANCING –
APPROACHES
TO ADVANCING THE PATIENT
FROM RIGID DEFENSE
– “SAME OLD, SAME OLD” –
TO MORE FLEXIBLE ADAPTATION
– “SOMETHING NEW, DIFFERENT, AND BETTER” –
MODEL 1
CLASSICAL PSYCHOANALYTIC (1970 – 1980)
MODEL 2
SELF PSYCHOLOGICAL (1980 – 1990)
MODEL 3
CONTEMPORARY RELATIONAL (1990 – 2000)
MODEL 4
EXISTENTIAL – HUMANISTIC (2000 – 2010)
MODEL 5
QUANTUM – NEUROSCIENTIFIC (2010 – 2020)
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64. ALL FIVE MODELS
MAKE USE OF “OPTIMAL STRESS”
THAT IS, JUST THE RIGHT BALANCE BETWEEN
ANXIETY – PROVOKING CHALLENGE AND ANXIETY – ASSUAGING SUPPORT
TO CATALYZE TRANSFORMATION OF
RIGID DEFENSE INTO MORE FLEXIBLE ADAPTATION
MODEL 1
THE INTERPRETIVE PERSPECTIVE OF CLASSICAL PSYCHOANALYSIS
RESISTANCE INTO AWARENESS
MODEL 2
THE CORRECTIVE – PROVISION PERSPECTIVE OF SELF PSYCHOLOGY
RELENTLESS HOPE INTO ACCEPTANCE
MODEL 3
THE INTERSUBJECTIVE PERSPECTIVE OF CONTEMPORARY RELATIONAL THEORY
RE – ENACTMENT INTO ACCOUNTABILITY
MODEL 4
AN EXISTENTIAL – HUMANISTIC APPROACH TO DISCONNECTION FROM SELF AND FROM LIFE ITSELF
RELATIONAL ABSENCE INTO AUTHENTIC PRESENCE
MODEL 5
A QUANTUM – NEUROSCIENTIFIC APPROACH TO “ANALYSIS PARALYSIS”
REFRACTORY INERTIA INTO ACTUALIZING ACTION
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65. MY PSYCHODYNAMIC SYNERGY PARADIGM
– A C.A.R.E. APPROACH TO DEEP HEALING –
Cognitive Affective Relational Existential
MODEL 1 – COGNITIVE
ENHANCEMENT OF KNOWLEDGE “WITHIN”
WORKING THROUGH INVOLVES “INTERPRETING INTERNAL CONFLICTEDNESS”
– ACCORDING TO SIGMUND FREUD –
MODEL 2 – AFFECTIVE
PROVISION OF EXPERIENCE “FOR”
WORKING THROUGH INVOLVES “GRIEVING RELENTLESS HOPE”
– ACCORDING TO MARTHA STARK –
MODEL 3 – RELATIONAL
ENGAGEMENT IN RELATIONSHIP “WITH”
WORKING THROUGH INVOLVES “NEGOTIATING THE TURBULENCE
THAT WILL INEVITABLY ARISE AT THE INTIMATE EDGE”
– ACCORDING TO DARLENE EHRENBERG –
MODEL 4 – EXISTENTIAL
NURTURING OF SURRENDER “TO”
WORKING THROUGH INVOLVES
“OVERCOMING THE DREAD OF SURRENDER TO ANALYTIC ONENESS”
– ACCORDING TO MASUD KHAN AND OFRA ESHEL –
MODEL 5 – CONSTRUCTIVIST
ENVISIONING OF POSSIBILITIES “BEYOND”
WORKING THROUGH INVOLVES
“DISENTANGLING, ENVISIONING, AND COMMITTING TO ACTION”
– ACCORDING TO BRUCE ECKER –
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66. MY PSYCHODYNAMIC SYNERGY PARADIGM
ONGOING AND JUDICIOUS USE
OF OPTIMALLY STRESSFUL,
GROWTH – INCENTIVIZING INTERVENTIONS
STRATEGICALLY DESIGNED
TO CREATE DESTABILIZING,
DISCONFIRMATORY “MISMATCH EXPERIENCES”
MODEL 1 – CONFLICT STATEMENTS
WORKING THROUGH THE STRESS OF “COGNITIVE DISSONANCE”
MODEL 2 – DISILLUSIONMENT STATEMENTS
WORKING THROUGH THE STRESS OF “AFFECTIVE DISILLUSIONMENT”
MODEL 3 – ACCOUNTABILITY STATEMENTS
WORKING THROUGH THE STRESS OF “RELATIONAL DETOXIFICATION”
MODEL 4 – FACILITATION STATEMENTS
WORKING THROUGH THE STRESS OF “EXISTENTIAL DEPENDENCE”
MODEL 5 – QUANTUM DISENTANGLEMENT STATEMENTS
WORKING THROUGH THE STRESS OF “QUANTUM DISENTANGLEMENT”
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69. GROWTH – INCENTIVIZING “MISMATCH EXPERIENCES”
– DESTABILIZING VIOLATIONS OF EXPECTATION –
WHAT’S COLORED “BLUE” REFERS TO SOMETHING “HEALTHIER”
WHAT’S COLORED “RED” REFERS TO SOMETHING “LESS HEALTHY”
MODEL 1
YOU KNOW THAT YOUR MOTHER
WILL PROBABLY NEVER APOLOGIZE
– ANXIETY – PROVOKING CHALLENGE –
BUT YOU KEEP HOPING THAT SHE WILL
– ANXIETY – ASSUAGING SUPPORT –
MODEL 2
YOU HAD SO HOPED
THAT JOSE WOULD LEAVE HIS WIFE
– ANXIETY – ASSUAGING SUPPORT –
BUT YOU ARE BEGINNING TO GET IT
THAT PROBABLY HE NEVER WILL,
WHICH BOTH ENRAGES AND DEVASTATES YOU
– ANXIETY – PROVOKING CHALLENGE –
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70. MODEL 3
YOU HAD ASSUMED THAT I TOO,
LIKE YOUR FATHER, WOULD BE CRITICAL
– ANXIETY – ASSUAGING SUPPORT –
BUT YOU ARE BEGINNING TO GET IT
THAT NOT ALL RELATIONSHIPS WORK THAT WAY
– ANXIETY – PROVOKING CHALLENGE –
MODEL 4
A PART OF YOU
LONGS TO BE SEEN, HEARD, AND UNDERSTOOD
– ANXIETY – PROVOKING CHALLENGE –
BUT ANOTHER PART OF YOU
IS TERRIFIED OF BEING FOUND
– ANXIETY – ASSUAGING SUPPORT –
MODEL 5
I HATE MY BODY AND AM CONVINCED THAT
NOBODY COULD EVER FIND ME ATTRACTIVE
– ANXIETY – ASSUAGING SUPPORT –
BUT I CAN ENVISION A TIME WHEN I MIGHT BECOME
MORE COMFORTABLE IN MY BODY
WERE I TO COMMIT TO
EXERCISING MORE REGULARLY AND EATING MORE HEALTHILY
– ANXIETY – PROVOKING CHALLENGE –
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71. AS WE HAVE SEEN
ANXIETY – PROVOKING CHALLENGE
WILL ALMOST INEVITABLY BE A STORY
ABOUT ENVISIONING THE ENLIVENING POSSIBILITY OF
“SOMETHING NEW, DIFFERENT, AND BETTER”
WHEREAS ANXIETY – ASSUAGING SUPPORT
WILL ALMOST INEVITABLY BE A STORY
ABOUT RESONATING EMPATHICALLY WITH
THE CONDITIONED NEED FOR “SAME OLD, SAME OLD”
MODEL 1
YOU KNOW THAT YOUR MOTHER
WILL PROBABLY NEVER APOLOGIZE
– INTRODUCING THE POSSIBILITY OF “SOMETHING MORE REALITY – BASED” –
BUT YOU KEEP HOPING THAT SHE WILL
– RESONATING WITH THE NEED FOR “SAME OLD, SAME OLD” –
MODEL 2
YOU HAD SO HOPED
THAT JOSE WOULD LEAVE HIS WIFE
– RESONATING WITH THE NEED FOR “SAME OLD, SAME OLD” –
BUT YOU ARE BEGINNING TO GET IT
THAT PROBABLY HE NEVER WILL,
WHICH BOTH ENRAGES AND DEVASTATES YOU
– INTRODUCING THE POSSIBILITY OF “SOMETHING MORE REALITY – BASED” –
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72. MODEL 3
YOU HAD ASSUMED THAT I TOO,
LIKE YOUR FATHER, WOULD BE CRITICAL
– RESONATING WITH THE RELATIONAL EXPECTATION OF “SAME OLD, SAME OLD” –
BUT YOU ARE BEGINNING TO GET IT
THAT NOT ALL RELATIONSHIPS WORK THAT WAY
– INTRODUCING THE POSSIBILITY OF “SOMETHING MORE REALITY – BASED” –
MODEL 4
A PART OF YOU
LONGS TO BE SEEN, HEARD, AND UNDERSTOOD
– INTRODUCING THE POSSIBILITY OF A “HEALTHIER” WAY OF RELATING –
BUT ANOTHER PART OF YOU
IS TERRIFIED OF BEING FOUND
– RESONATING WITH THE NEED FOR “SAME OLD, SAME OLD” –
MODEL 5
I HATE MY BODY AND AM CONVINCED THAT
NOBODY COULD EVER FIND ME ATTRACTIVE
– RESONATING WITH THE “SAME OLD, SAME OLD” NARRATIVE –
BUT I CAN ENVISION A TIME WHEN I MIGHT BECOME
MORE COMFORTABLE IN MY BODY
WERE I TO COMMIT TO
EXERCISING MORE REGULARLY AND EATING MORE HEALTHILY
– INTRODUCING THE POSSIBILITY OF A “NEW, DIFFERENT, AND BETTER” NARRATIVE –
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74. OPTIMALLY STRESSFUL MODEL 1 CONFLICT STATEMENTS
DESTABILIZING JUXTAPOSITION OF “ADAPTIVE CAPACITY TO KNOW”
WITH “DEFENSIVE NEED TO RESIST THAT KNOWING”
“YOU KNOW THAT IF YOU ARE EVER TO GET ON
WITH YOUR LIFE, YOU’LL HAVE TO LET GO OF YOUR CONVICTION
THAT YOUR CHILDHOOD SCARRED YOU FOREVER. BUT IT’S HARD
NOT TO FEEL LIKE DAMAGED GOODS WHEN YOU GREW UP
IN A HORRIBLY ABUSIVE HOUSEHOLD WITH A MEAN AND NASTY
MOTHER WHO KEPT TELLING YOU THAT YOU WERE A LOSER.”
“YOU’RE COMING TO UNDERSTAND THAT
YOUR ANGER CAN PUT PEOPLE OFF.
BUT YOU TELL YOURSELF THAT
YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE AS ANGRY AS YOU WANT
BECAUSE OF HOW MUCH YOU HAVE HAD TO SUFFER
OVER THE COURSE OF THE YEARS.”
“YOU KNOW THAT IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH ELANA
IS TO SURVIVE, YOU’LL NEED TO TAKE AT LEAST SOME
RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE PART YOU’RE PLAYING IN THE
INCREDIBLY ABUSIVE FIGHTS THAT YOU AND SHE HAVE BEEN HAVING.
BUT YOU TELL YOURSELF THAT IT ISN’T REALLY
YOUR FAULT BECAUSE IF SHE WEREN’T SO PROVOCATIVE,
THEN YOU WOULDN’T HAVE TO BE SO VINDICTIVE!” 56
75. OPTIMALLY STRESSFUL MODEL 2 DISILLUSIONMENT STATEMENTS
DESTABILIZING JUXTAPOSITION OF “DEFENSIVE NEED FOR RELENTLESS HOPE”
WITH “ADAPTIVE CAPACITY TO CONFRONT THE REALITY OF DISILLUSIONMENT”
AND “ADAPTIVE CAPACITY TO GRIEVE AND EVOLVE TO A PLACE OF ACCEPTANCE”
“YOU HAD SO HOPED THAT I WOULD TELL YOU WHAT TO DO.
BUT YOU ARE BEGINNING TO REALIZE THAT I DON’T SIMPLY
GIVE YOU THE ANSWERS – AND IT INFURIATES YOU.”
“YOU HAD SO HOPED THAT YOUR DAUGHTER
WOULD REACH OUT TO YOU WHEN YOU WERE SICK.
BUT YOU ARE BEGINNING TO REALIZE THAT,
FOR NOW, YOU ARE NOT A TOP PRIORITY FOR HER –
AND IT IS A DEVASTATING LOSS.”
“YOU WOULD SO HAVE WISHED THAT I COULD KNOW WHAT YOU
WERE THINKING WITHOUT YOUR HAVING TO SAY IT.
BUT YOU ARE COMING TO SEE THAT IT DOES NOT ALWAYS
WORK THIS WAY – AND THAT BREAKS YOUR HEART.”
“YOU HAD SO HOPED THAT WE COULD HAVE A PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP. BUT YOU ARE COMING TO REALIZE, ALBEIT
RELUCTANTLY, THAT A THERAPY RELATIONSHIP IS NOT REALLY
ABOUT FRIENDSHIP PER SE – AND THAT BREAKS YOUR HEART.”
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76. OPTIMALLY STRESSFUL MODEL 3 ACCOUNTABILITY STATEMENTS
DESTABILIZING JUXTAPOSITION OF “DEFENSIVE NEED TO RE – ENACT”
WITH “ADAPTIVE CAPACITY FOR ACCOUNTABILITY”
“I WONDER IF THIS FEELING I HAVE IN RELATION TO YOU THAT
NO MATTER WHAT I SAY IT WON’T BE GOOD ENOUGH IS LIKE
THE FEELING YOU HAVE SPOKEN OF HAVING HAD IN RELATION
TO YOUR FATHER, FOR WHOM NOTHING WAS EVER GOOD ENOUGH.”
“IT OCCURS TO ME THAT WE HAVE MANAGED TO RECREATE IN HERE
THE VERY SAME DYNAMIC THAT HAD CHARACTERIZED YOUR
RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR DOUBLE – BINDING FATHER – NAMELY, THE
FEELING WE BOTH HAVE THAT NO MATTER WHAT EITHER OF US MIGHT
DO, IT WOULDN’T GET THE OTHER’S APPROVAL! BUT ALL OF THIS,
FRUSTRATING AS IT IS, GIVES US AN OPPORTUNITY TO EXPERIENCE,
FIRSTHAND, HOW TOXIC THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR FATHER REALLY
WAS – EXCEPT THAT NOW WE CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!”
“YOU TELL ME SOMETHING ABOUT YOURSELF. I AM JUST IN THE PROCESS
OF DIGESTING IT AND STORING IT FOR FURTHER UNDERSTANDING
OF YOU AND THEN ALONG YOU COME – WHAM! – AND TELL ME
THAT WHAT I HAVE DIGESTED AND STORED INSIDE ME DID NOT COME
FROM YOU AT ALL. THE PROBLEM I FIND IS HOW TO LIVE WITH THE
DESPAIR I FEEL OCCASIONED BY YOUR DISAPPEARANCES.”
CHRISTOPHER BOLLAS (1989) 76
77. OPTIMALLY STRESSFUL MODEL 4 FACILITATION STATEMENTS
DESTABILIZING JUXTAPOSITION OF “ADAPTIVE CAPACITY TO LONG FOR AUTHENTIC ENGAGEMENT”
WITH “DEFENSIVE NEED TO RETREAT FROM MOMENTS OF MEETING”
“A PART OF YOU YEARNS TO BE SEEN, KNOWN, UNDERSTOOD;
BUT ANOTHER PART OF YOU IS TERRIFIED OF BEING FOUND.”
“YOU FEEL DESPERATELY LONELY AND DISCONNECTED FROM PEOPLE
AND WOULD WISH YOU COULD FEEL THAT YOU BELONGED
SOMEWHERE; BUT YOU FIND YOURSELF HOLDING BACK
FOR FEAR OF BEING DEVASTATINGLY DISAPPOINTED
AND LEFT ONCE AGAIN WITH A SHATTERED HEART.”
“A PART OF YOU DESPERATELY WISHES THAT YOU COULD FIND
JOY IN BEING ALIVE; BUT ANOTHER PART OF YOU IS SO
OVERWHELMED WITH DESPAIR ABOUT THE ABSURDITY OF IT ALL
THAT YOU CANNOT IMAGINE EVER BEING ABLE TO EXPERIENCE
ANYTHING EVEN REMOTELY CLOSE TO GENUINE HAPPINESS.”
“A PART OF YOU LONGS TO HAVE A PARTNER WITH WHOM
YOU COULD SHARE WHAT YOU HOLD MOST DEAR AND COULD
SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE; BUT ANOTHER PART OF YOU
CRINGES AT THE THOUGHT OF PUTTING YOURSELF OUT THERE –
IT JUST FEELS TOO RISKY TO OPEN YOUR HEART TO POSSIBILITIES.”
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78. OPTIMALLY STRESSFUL MODEL 5 QUANTUM DISENTANGLEMENT STATEMENTS
DESTABILIZING JUXTAPOSITION OF “DEFENSIVE NEED TO REMAIN ENTRENCHED IN SAME OLD, SAME OLD”
WITH “ADAPTIVE CAPACITY TO ENVISION POSSIBILITIES, TAKE OWNERSHIP OF THE NEED TO CHANGE,
AND COMMIT TO ACTION IN ALIGNMENT WITH SOMETHING NEW, DIFFERENT, AND BETTER”
“EVEN THOUGH MY RIGHT BRAIN IS TERRIFIED OF DRIVING BECAUSE
I CAN’T SHAKE THE MEMORY OF WHAT HAD HAPPENED WHEN MY
FATHER WAS DRIVING DRUNK AND WE HAD A TERRIBLE ACCIDENT
AND I VOMITED BECAUSE I WAS SO INCREDIBLY UPSET, MY LEFT
BRAIN KNOWS THAT IF I DRIVE CAREFULLY AND PAY CLOSE ATTENTION,
THEN THERE IS NO NEED FOR ME TO BE AFRAID
BECAUSE I AM A GOOD DRIVER AND AM ALWAYS VERY CAREFUL.”
“EVEN THOUGH I GENERALLY ASSUME THAT PEOPLE WILL BE CRITICAL
OF ME BECAUSE MY PARENTS WERE SO UNRELENTINGLY JUDGMENTAL,
I CAN ENVISION THE POSSIBILITY THAT SOMEDAY I MIGHT BE ABLE
TO FREE MYSELF OF MY SELF – CONSCIOUSNESS AND TAKE
MORE OWNERSHIP OF MY RIGHT TO BE HERE ON THIS EARTH.”
“EVEN THOUGH I FEEL SO ALIENATED FROM EVERYBODY BECAUSE
I WAS NEVER MADE TO FEEL THAT I BELONGED WHEN I WAS A KID,
I CAN ENVISION THE POSSIBILITY OF SOMEDAY BEING ABLE
TO FEEL LESS ALIENATED. I TAKE OWNERSHIP OF MY NEED
TO PUT MYSELF OUT THERE MORE AND I HEREBY COMMIT
TO BEING MORE ACTIVELY ENGAGED IN MY LIFE GOING FORWARD.”
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80. AS WE SIT WITH OUR PATIENTS
THERE IS ALWAYS TENSION WITHIN US AS WELL
DIALECTICAL TENSION BETWEEN
ON THE ONE HAND
OUR VISION OF WHO WE THINK THE PATIENT COULD BE
WERE SHE BUT ABLE / WILLING TO MAKE HEALTHIER CHOICES
AND ON THE OTHER HAND
OUR RESPECT FOR THE REALITY OF WHO SHE IS
AND FOR THE CHOICES, NO MATTER HOW UNHEALTHY,
THAT SHE “FINDS HERSELF” FEELING COMPELLED TO MAKE
WE ARE THEREFORE ALWAYS STRUGGLING TO FIND
AN OPTIMAL BALANCE WITHIN OURSELVES
BETWEEN WANTING THE PATIENT TO CHANGE
AND ACCEPTING THE REALITY OF WHO SHE IS
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81. A NEW EARTH: AWAKENING TO YOUR LIFE’S PURPOSE
BY ECKART TOLLE (2008)
TOLLE WRITES –
“AFTER TWO DUCKS GET INTO A FIGHT, WHICH NEVER LASTS LONG,
THEY WILL SEPARATE AND FLOAT OFF IN OPPOSITE DIRECTIONS.
THEN EACH DUCK WILL FLAP ITS WINGS VIGOROUSLY A FEW TIMES
< AS IF TO PROCESS THE INTERNAL TENSION >, THUS RELEASING THE
SURPLUS ENERGY THAT < HAD > BUILT UP DURING THE FIGHT.
AFTER THEY FLAP THEIR WINGS, THEY < WILL > FLOAT ON PEACEFULLY,
AS IF NOTHING HAD EVER HAPPENED.”
TOLLE GOES ON TO WRITE –
“WE ARE A SPECIES THAT HAS LOST ITS WAY.
EVERYTHING NATURAL, EVERY FLOWER OR TREE, AND EVERY ANIMAL
HAVE IMPORTANT LESSONS TO TEACH US IF
WE < COULD BUT LET OURSELVES > STOP, LOOK, AND LISTEN.
OUR DUCK’S LESSON IS THIS: FLAP YOUR WINGS –
< LET GO > –
AND RETURN TO THE ONLY PLACE OF POWER: THE PRESENT MOMENT.”
PROCESS, INTEGRATE, AND MOVE ON,
STRONGER FOR HAVING HAD THE STRESSFUL EXPERIENCE
AND TRANSCENDED IT …
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83. OUR PATIENTS CAN INDEED
BE “SET FREE”
IF WE BUT HAVE THE COURAGE
TO OFFER THEM
OPTIMALLY STRESSFUL INTERVENTIONS
THAT WILL PROVIDE
BOTH IMPETUS AND OPPORTUNITY
FOR THEM TO ADVANCE
THROUGH ITERATIVE HEALING CYCLES
OF DISRUPTION
– IN REACTION TO OUR CHALLENGE –
AND REPAIR
– IN RESPONSE TO OUR SUPPORT
AND BY TAPPING INTO THEIR INNATE ABILITY
TO SELF – CORRECT IN THE FACE OF OPTIMAL CHALLENGE –
AT EVER HIGHER LEVELS
OF RESILIENCE AND ADAPTABILITY
SUCH THAT
THEY WILL NO LONGER HAVE
THE NEED TO CURSE THE DARKNESS
BECAUSE THEY WILL NOW HAVE
THE CAPACITY TO LIGHT A CANDLE
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84. OPTIMAL STRESS
STRONGER AT THE BROKEN PLACES
IS THERE NOT A CERTAIN BEAUTY IN BROKENNESS,
A BEAUTY NEVER ACHIEVED BY THINGS UNBROKEN?
IF A BONE IS FRACTURED AND THEN HEALS,
THE AREA OF THE BREAK WILL BE STRONGER
THAN THE SURROUNDING BONE
AND WILL NOT AGAIN EASILY FRACTURE
ARE WE, TOO, NOT STRONGER AT OUR BROKEN PLACES?
AND IS THERE NOT A CERTAIN BEAUTY IN BROKENNESS,
A QUIET STRENGTH WE ACQUIRE
FROM SURVIVING ADVERSITY AND HARDSHIP
AND MASTERING THE EXPERIENCE OF
DISAPPOINTMENT, HEARTBREAK, AND DEVASTATION?
AND, THEN, WHEN WE FINALLY RISE ABOVE IT,
DON’T WE RISE UP IN QUIET TRIUMPH,
EVEN IF ONLY WE NOTICE …
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85. 80
“COME TO
THE EDGE”
AN EVOCATIVE POEM
BY
CHRISTOPHER
LOGUE
(1969)
CAPTURES
THE
ESSENCE
OF OUR
CAPACITY
TO ADAPT
TO STRESS
… WHEN
PUSH
COMES
TO SHOVE
89. IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS
OR WOULD LIKE TO BE
ON MY MAILING LIST
PLEASE EMAIL ME AT
MarthaStarkMD @
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