In order to demonstrate the ways in which the concepts of conflict and resistance can be applied to the clinical situation, let us think about the following three situations:
1. The patient is obviously upset but is trying hard not to cry.
2. The patient knows that her therapist will not laugh at her but finds herself fearing that the therapist might.
3. The patient is upset with her therapist and knows, on some level, that she must eventually confront the reality of just how disappointed she really is, but she would like to think that she could get better without having to do that.
In our interventions in these three situations of conflict, we have three options, and we must decide from moment to moment which to choose.
