This document discusses the concept of "relentless hope" as a defense mechanism used by patients to avoid grieving disappointments. It establishes that relentless hope is fueled by a refusal to grieve bad objects from one's past that were introjected. When dawning recognition occurs that the object cannot be possessed or controlled, patients react with sadism by lashing out angrily at themselves or the object. The document examines the psychodynamics of sadomasochism in relationships through the lens of Fairbairn's work on intense attachments to bad objects.