This document discusses the importance of doing life together in community. It emphasizes belonging to a community through practicing habits like worship, fellowship, and prayer. It also discusses the root causes of disconnection like separation from God and individualism. Finally, it outlines how to assimilate new people through identifying with the church community in worship, acquainting with members through fellowship, opening up in small groups, and uniting with the church's vision through ministry teams. All in 3 sentences or less.

1. Doing LIFE together
By Rev. Bong Baylon

2. MISSION
Make real life possible for real people
VISION
Believe
MOTIVATION
LOVE
METHOD
Belong for God
Become and for
people
Bless
Real people practicing the HABITS
in the context of a Real Life Christian Community
MARKS

3. Acts 2:42-47
42They devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching
and to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to
prayer. 43 Everyone was filled with awe, and many
wonders and miraculous signs were done by the
apostles.

4. Acts 2:42-47
44All the believers were together and had everything in
common. 45 Selling their possessions and goods, they
gave to anyone as he had need.

5. Acts 2:42-47
46Every day they continued to meet together in the
temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate
together with glad and sincere hearts, 47 praising God
and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord
added to their number daily those who were being
saved.
Ministry of Assimilation and Pastoral Care

6. Session One

9. Root Causes of Disconnection
• Separation from God
Romans 1:28-31
28 Furthermore, since they did not think
it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of
God, he gave them over to a depraved
mind, to do what ought not to be done.
29 They have become filled with every
kind of wickedness, evil, greed and
depravity.

10. Root Causes of Disconnection
• Separation from God
Romans 1:28-31
They are full of
envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice.
They are gossips, 30 slanderers, God-
haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful;
they invent ways of doing evil; they
disobey their parents; 31 they are
senseless, faithless, heartless, ruthless.

11. Root Causes of Disconnection
• Individualism
2 Timothy 3:1-5
1 But mark this: There will be terrible
times in the last days. 2 People will be
lovers of themselves, lovers of
money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobed
ient to their
parents, ungrateful, unholy…

12. Root Causes of Disconnection
• Individualism
2 Timothy 3:1-5
3 …without
love, unforgiving, slanderous, without
self-control, brutal, not lovers of the
good, 4
treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of
pleasure rather than lovers of God -- 5
having a form of godliness but denying
its power. Have nothing to do with them.

13. Root Causes of Disconnection
• Nature of relationships
Formation
Honeymoon
Conflict

14. Acts 15:36-41
36Some time later Paul said to Barnabas, "Let
us go back and visit the brothers in all the
towns where we preached the word of the
Lord and see how they are doing." 37
Barnabas wanted to take John, also called
Mark, with them, 38 but Paul did not think it
wise to take him, because he had deserted
them in Pamphylia and had not continued
with them in the work. 39 They had such a
sharp disagreement that they parted
company. Barnabas took Mark and sailed for
Cyprus, 40 but Paul chose Silas and
left, commended by the brothers to the
grace of the Lord. 41 He went through Syria
and Cilicia, strengthening the churches.

15. Root Causes of Disconnection
• Separation from God
• Individualism
• Nature of relationships

18. Genesis 2:18
18 The LORD God said, "It
is not good for the man to
be alone. I will make a
helper suitable for him."

19. Acts 2:46-47
46 Every day they continued to meet together
in the temple courts. They broke bread in
their homes and ate together with glad and
sincere hearts, 47 praising God and enjoying
the favor of all the people.
And the Lord added to
their number daily those
who were being saved.

20. Acts 2:46-47
46 Every day they continued to meet together
in the temple courts. They broke bread in
their homes and ate together with glad and
sincere hearts, 47 praising God and enjoying
the favor of all the people.
And the Lord added to
their number daily those
who were being saved.

21. 1 Corinthians 15:33
33 Do not be misled: "Bad company
corrupts good character."

22. Philippians 3:17
17 Join with others in following my
example, brothers, and take note of
those who live according to the pattern
we gave you.

23. Philippians 3:17
17 Join with others in following my
example, brothers, and take note of
those who live according to the pattern
we gave you.

24. Ephesians 4:15-16
15
Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will
in all things grow up into him who is the
Head, that is, Christ. 16 From him the whole
body, joined and held
together by every
supporting ligament, grows
and builds itself up in
love, as each part does its
work.

25. Ephesians 4:15-16
15
Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will
in all things grow up into him who is the
Head, that is, Christ. 16 From him the whole
body, joined and held
together by every
supporting ligament, grows
and builds itself up in
love, as each part does its
work.

26. Ephesians 4:15-16
15
Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will
in all things grow up into him who is the
Head, that is, Christ. 16 From him the whole
body, joined and held
together by every
supporting ligament, grows
and builds itself up in
love, as each part does its
work.

27. Known by self Not known by self
Known by others Open Self FEEDBACK Blind Self
DISCLOSURE Self
Awareness
and Growth
Not known by Unknown Self
Hidden Self
others
Unknown
Self

28. Philippians 2:1-2
1 If you have any encouragement from being
united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if
any fellowship with the Spirit, if
any tenderness and
compassion, 2 then make my joy
complete by being like-
minded, having the same
love, being one in spirit and
purpose.

30. Group Discussion
• In what way have you felt disconnected with
people in the past? How did you cope?
• Which of the reasons for connecting with
others convinces you the most?
• What have you realized about yourself
through the JOHARI window?

31. Session Two

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34. “I like the stage design.”
“The preacher
talks fast.”

35. Acts 5:12-14
12 The apostles performed
many miraculous signs and
wonders among the people.
And all the believers used to
meet together in Solomon's
Colonnade. 13 No one else
dared join them, even though
they were highly regarded by
the people. 14
Nevertheless, more and more
men and women believed in
the Lord and were added to
their number.

36. Acts 5:12-14
12 The apostles performed
many miraculous signs and
wonders among the people.
And all the believers used to
meet together in Solomon's
Colonnade. 13 No one else
dared join them, even though
they were highly regarded by
the people. 14 Nevertheless,
more and more men and
women believed in the Lord
and were added to their
number.

37. John 4:35-38
35 Do you not say, 'Four months more and then the harvest'? I tell
you, open your eyes and look at the fields! They are ripe for
harvest. 36 Even now the reaper draws his wages, even now he
harvests the crop for eternal life, so that the sower and the
reaper may be glad together. 37 Thus the saying 'One sows and
another reaps' is true. 38 I sent you to reap what you have not
worked for. Others have done the hard work, and you have
reaped the benefits of their labor."

39. How we “assimilate” a person
How a person “assimilates” himself/herself
• He/she IDENTIFIES himself/herself with our
church WORSHIP SERVICE
• He/she ACQUAINTS himself/herself with some
members of our church FELLOWSHIP
• He/she OPENS himself/herself with a few
members of our church SMALL GROUP
• He/she UNITES himself/herself with the vision
and purpose of our church MINISTRY TEAM
LEVELS OF COMMUNITY

40. LOST
Follow the Flow
of our Ministry
LIFE
Salvation Worship Fellowship
Group and
(MP4) Service Group
Equipping
Start of
Assimilation
Ministry
LOST
Team

42. What are the characteristics of a nice living room?

43. After attending, assimilation must begin
The Task of MAP
• VISIT Sunday Worship attendees
• INVITE them to be part of a Fellowship
Group
• CARE for them in and through LIFE Groups

44. Volunteers Needed
Seminar Exam Checklist Small Group
Helper
once a MAP Share
month only NO NO Group
ministry
Worker
twice a MAP LIFE
month & KRL YES YES
Group
ministry
Specialist MAP, KRL
Weekly Ministry
ministry
& Bible
Journaling
YES YES Team

45. How to VISIT
• Verify their spiritual status as soon as possible

46. Verifying their spiritual status
• S1 - Skeptics  Be salt and light to them
– Allergic to spiritual matters; hostile to God & to
you
• S2 - Spectators  Challenge them to seek God
– Seem to be open but will not commit
• S3 - Seekers  Clarify the truth and persuade them
– Searching for truth (but can be misguided)
Example: Samaritan woman (John 4)
• S4 - Saved  Challenge them to belong
– Have personal relationship with Christ (can be
churched or unchurched)

47. How to VISIT
• Verify their spiritual status as soon as possible
• Inform the REACH Team if they are still
skeptics and spectators
• Spend time with seekers and saved people by
visiting them at home

48. How to do home visitation
Before During After
• Pray • Greet them • Pray
• Verify properly • Take note of
complete • Be sensitive to what you’ve
address their house discovered
• Call before rules • Make the
you visit • Talk about necessary
• Come them, not report
prepared yourself • Schedule next
• Minister to visit
their needs

49. How to VISIT
• Verify their spiritual status as soon as possible
• Inform the REACH Team if they are still
skeptics and spectators
• Spend time with seekers and saved people by
visiting them at home
• Identify their felt needs and minister to them

50. Five Levels of Need
• Problem  Help the person solve it
– A situation that has a simple solution
• Predicament  Help the person choose wisely
– A situation where the solutions may be difficult
• Crisis  Refer the person to the pastoral staff
– A situation that needs an immediate solution
• Panic  Help the person to calm down & then refer
– A situation where there seems to be no solution at all
• Shock  Stay with the person while waiting for help
– A situation where the solutions are no longer
important

51. How to VISIT
• Verify their spiritual status as soon as possible
• Inform the REACH Team if they are still
skeptics and spectators
• Spend time with seekers and saved people by
visiting them at home
• Identify their felt needs and minister to them
• Tell them about our church and how they can
get involved

52. What first-time visitors want to know
• Contact information
• Schedule of services
• Other activities or events
• Pastoral services
• Kids Church
• Basic beliefs/denomination of church (for old
believers only)

53. What regular attendees want to know
• Calendar of various activities or info about
specific activities
• How they can get involved
• Pastoral services available (e.g. counseling)
• Information about small groups
• Resources for spiritual growth

55. How to INVITE
• Inform them about our various Fellowship
Groups

56. Friendship
Fun
Food
Not worship! Faith-building

57. How to INVITE
• Inform them about our various Fellowship
Groups
• Notify them of the schedules
• Value their life situation by inviting them to
the appropriate Fellowship Group

58. RLCC Fellowship Groups
Wednesdays – 5:30 to 7:30 PM
• Divine Sisterhood (Adult Women)
Thursdays – 6:30 to 8:30 PM
• ReMiX (Adult Men)
Fridays – 6:30 to 8:30 PM
• FNH (High School and College Students)
No schedule yet
• Hangout (Young Professionals)

59. How to INVITE
• Inform them about our various Fellowship
Groups
• Notify them of the schedules
• Value their life situation by inviting them to
the appropriate Fellowship Group
• Introduce them to other members of the
church

60. How to introduce
people to other
members of the
church
Invite them to attend the fellowship at least
one time
Invite them to attend again four more
times
Introduce them to three new
friends, one of whom should do the
143 again

61. How to INVITE
• Inform them about our various Fellowship
Groups
• Notify them of the schedules
• Value their life situation by inviting them to
the appropriate Fellowship Group
• Introduce them to other members of the
church
• Talk to them through Share Groups

62. How to conduct a SHARE Group
Select people you can identify with.
Help the group to get to know each other.
Ask relevant questions about the topic.
Review the main point of the talk.
Exchange contact information so you can connect
with each other again.

63. How to INVITE
• Inform them about our various Fellowship
Groups
• Notify them of the schedules
• Value their life situation by inviting them to
the appropriate Fellowship Group
• Introduce them to other members of the
church
• Talk to them through Share Groups
• Encourage them to invite others to the church

65. How to CARE
• Challenge them to attend the Real Life
Journey Seminar

66. The Real Life Journey
FOUR PERSONAL
GOALS
Develop Deepen
• Trust relationships • Respect relationships
• Acceptance • Communication • Peacemaking • Grace
• Commitment • Caring • Negotiation • Golden rule
• Celebration • Greater love
Establish Maintain
relationships relationships
IN THE CONTEXT OF A COMMON
MINISTRY ACTIVITY

67. How it’s done practically
Establish Develop Maintain Deepen
relationships relationships relationships relationships
• Share your • Share your • Clarify your • Learn or
story weekly highs boundaries to practice the
• Go through and lows the group RESTORE
the DISC • Visit members • Learn or Process
Profile and especially in practice the • Do something
understand times of need PEACE Process you want
how others • Celebrate • Learn or others to do
are different important practice the for you
from you events with SOLVE process • Do something
• Make a fellow sacrificial for
PROMISE to members the members
the group of your group
IN THE CONTEXT OF A COMMON
MINISTRY ACTIVITY

68. How to CARE
• Challenge them to attend the Real Life
Journey Seminar
• Assimilate them into a LIFE Group

69. Each member must make a Promise
Participate in the LIFE Group meetings or activities
Reach out and evangelize during the MP4 season
Obtain training for works of ministry
Maintain godliness and holiness at all times
Invest in God’s kingdom through tithing & other forms of giving
Serve the Lord together as a LIFE Group
Encourage others to fulfill their Real Life Journey

70. Each member must remain within LG
Parameters
• Do not use the LIFE Group to sow division or a
negative spirit in RLCC.
• Do not use the LIFE Group to make or borrow
money unless authorized by the MAP Team.
• Do not use the LIFE Group to propagate
teachings contrary to our beliefs, convictions
and values.

71. Each member must fulfill the LG Process
of Discipline whenever necessary
Recognize group accountability.
Examine the facts.
Speak to those who might be affected.
Tell the truth to one another.
Obtain confession and forgiveness.
Require reconciliation and restitution.
Equip the offender until fully restored.

72. Role of the LIFE Group Leader
• Help the LIFE Group begin well.
• Facilitate the LIFE Group meetings and/or activities.
• Help the group assimilate new members and send out old
members.
• Help the group hold each member accountable in fulfilling
the LG Promise, Parameters, and Process of Discipline.
• Report to the MAP Team concerning the progress or
problems of the LG.
• Help the LIFE Group evaluate and improve itself regularly.

73. Other Roles in the LIFE Group
• Secretary – records the journey of the LG
• Treasurer – handles the money of the LG
• Timekeeper – keeps the LG informed of the time
• Worship Leader – leads worship during LG meeting
or activity
• Venue Coordinator – prepares the place or venue for
the LG meeting or activity
• F&B Coordinator – prepares food and beverage for
the LG meeting or activity
• Other roles – as decided and defined by the LG

74. How to CARE
• Challenge them to attend the Real Life
Journey Seminar
• Assimilate them into a LIFE Group
• Reach out to them through one-another
ministry

75. Christian community is reaching out with
supernatural power into the depths of each
other’s heart so that the evil that rules
there, which is so often unrecognized, and
damages our relationships, is clearly identified and
exposed as hateful to the Holy Spirit, and His love
is given full sway to reveal the glory of God.

76. How to CARE
• Challenge them to attend the Real Life
Journey Seminar
• Assimilate them into a LIFE Group
• Reach out to them through one-another
ministry
• Encourage them to pursue intentional
discipleship when they’re ready (KRL)

77. Keys to Real Life
• REDEEM the past
Free to relate with others in a life-
giving way
• TEST the present
Free to practice the HABITS each day
• PLAN the future
Free to fulfill one’s service calling in
the future

78. Group Discussion
• What was the most significant insight that
you’ve learned from this seminar?
• How would you apply this in the coming days?
• If you join a LIFE Group now, what would be
different? Why?
• If you can persuade someone to join a LIFE
Group, what would you say?