personal reqaltionship of humans

1. PERSONAL
RELATIONSHIP
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
4TH QUARTER – LESSON 1

2. RELATIONSHIP

3. WHAT IS PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP?
PREHISTORIC HUMANS WERE ALREADY INTERACTING THROUGH
MANY OTHER FORMS OF BEHAVIOR.
THEY MAY HAVE LEARNED HOW TO SMILE OR GREET EACH OTHER;
SHOW LOVE, AFFECTION, AND EVEN LOYALTY TO THE GROUP.
BELONGING TO A GROUP GENERATES MANY BENEFITS LIKE HAVING
A SUPPORT SYSTEM WHEN YOU NEED SOME SHOULDER TO CRY ON
OR DRAW SOME STRENGTH FROM.
RELATIONSHIPS THAT ARE NURTURED IN A GROUP HELP EACH AND
EVERY ONE OF` US SURVIVE.

4. WHAT IS PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP?
ON THE OTHER HAND, THE ABSENCE OF CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS CAN
PRODUCE A PROFOUND NEGATIVE EFFECT ON AN INDIVIDUAL WHO IS
DEPRIVED OF IT.
WORTHLESS; POWERLESS; ALIENATED

5. WHAT IS PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP?
THE WAY IN WHICH TWO OR MORE PEOPLE, GROUP, COUNTRIES,
ETC. TALK TO, BEHAVE TOWARD, AND DEAL WITH EACH OTHER.
THE WAY IN WHICH TWO OR MORE PEOPLE OR THINGS ARE
CONNECTED.

6. WHAT IS PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP?
THERE ARE MANY TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS, DEPENDING ON THE
NATURE OF INTERACTION THAT EXIST BETWEEN TWO OR MORE
ENTITIES.
BUSINESS TRANSACTION, PROFESSIONAL, FAMILY, FRIENDLY,
ROMANTIC, AND SO ON.

7. WHAT IS PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP?
THIS IS THE TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP WHICH IS CLOSELY ASSOCIATED
WITH A PERSON AND WHICH CAN ONLY HAVE MEANING TO THIS
PERSON.
PRIVACY AND INTIMACY ARE TWO CHARACTERISTICS THAT DEFINE
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP.
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP ALSO INVOLVES A DEGREE OF
COMMITMENT TO ANOTHER TO ANOTHER PERSON OR PERSONS

8. HOW ARE ATTACHMENTS DEVELOPED?
1. SECURE ATTACHMENT – IS WHEN THE PRIMARY CAREGIVER IS MOST
OF THE TIME PRESENT AND AVAILABLE AND WHEN ALL THE EMOTIONAL
NEEDS OF AN INFANT ARE MET, PROVIDING A SENSE OF SECURITY TO
THE INFANT. CHANCES ARE HIGH THAT A CHILD WHO EXPOSED TO THIS
STYLE OF ATTACHMENT WILL GROW UP TO HAVE MORE SECURE AND
STABLE RELATIONSHIPS.

9. HOW ARE ATTACHMENTS DEVELOPED?
2. AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT – IS WHEN THE PRIMARY CAREGIVER IS
COLD AND DETACHED, AND EVEN UNRESPONSIVE TO A CHILD’S NEED.
THE CHILD SENSES REJECTION AND THIS OFTEN LEADS TO PREMATURE
DETACHMENT AND SELF-RELIANCE. A PERSON WHO EXPERIENCED THIS
STYLE OF ATTACHMENT IN INFANCY AND CHILDHOOD WILL OFTENTIMES
EXPERIENCE UNSTABLE RELATIONSHIP IN THE FUTURE.

10. HOW ARE ATTACHMENTS DEVELOPED?
3. ANXIOUS-AMBIVALENT ATTACHMENT – WHEN THE PRIMARY
CAREGIVER IS NOT CONSISTENT IN TERMS OF PRESENCE AND IN
MEETING A CHILD’S EMOTIONAL NEEDS. OFTEN, PERSON WHO
EXPERIENCED THIS STYLE OF ATTACHMENT IN CHILDHOOD MAY
DEVELOP SEPARATION ANXIETIES WITH A LOVED ONE, OR MAY HAVE
MIXED FEELING BETWEEN HESITANCY AND COMMITMENT WHEN
ENTERING IN MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIPS

11. WHAT DRIVES ATTRACTION?
1. LUST – IS DRIVEN BY THE SEX HORMONES, TESTOSTERONE, AND ESTROGEN.
THESE HORMONES AFFECT BOTH SEXES.
2. ATTRACTION – IS DESCRIBED AS THE LOVE STRUCK PHASE, WHICH INVOLVES
NEUROTRANSMITTERS IN THE BRAIN SUCH AS DOPAMINE, NOREPINEPHRINE,
AND SEROTONIN. THIS IS THE STAGE WHEN A PERSON LOSES SLEEP AND
APPETITE OVER SOMEONE, AND SWOONS WHILE DAYDREAMING OF THIS
SPECIAL PERSON.
3. ATTACHMENT – WHEN THE COUPLE IN LOVE DECIDES TO CONTINUE WITH
THE RELATIONSHIP. THEY ENTER ATTACHMENT STAGE WHERE LONG-LASTING
COMMITMENTS ARE EXCHANGED, AND MAY LEAD TO RAISING A FAMILY.

12. WHAT DRIVES ATTRACTION?
ATTRACTION ALSO INVOLVES OUR
UNCONSCIOUS ASSESSMENT OF ANOTHER
PERSON’S GENES THROUGH THEIR PHYSICAL
APPEARANCE.

13. WHAT DRIVES ATTRACTION?
ROZENBERG QUARTERLY
1. TRANSFERENCE EFFECT – THERE ARE TIMES WE MEET PEOPLE WHO WE
IMMEDIATELY LIKE OR DISLIKE.
USUALLY, THESE PEOPLE REMIND US OF SOMEONE IN THE PAST WHO HAS
AFFECTED OUR SENSE OF SELF AND OUR BEHAVIOR.
OUR PAST RELATIONSHIPS CAN THEREFORE AFFECT OUR CURRENT
INTERACTIONS WITH PEOPLE SOMEONE WE ASSOCIATED THIS NEW PERSON
WITH.

14. WHAT DRIVES ATTRACTION?
2. PROPINQUITY EFFECT – WE OFTEN DEVELOP A SENSE OF FAMILIARITY WITH
PEOPLE WHO LIVE CLOSE TO US, WORK WITH US, OR GO TO SCHOOL WITH US,
WHICH LEADS US TO LIKING THEM MORE.
PEOPLE WE ARE FAMILIAR WITH MAKE US FEEL SAFE AND SECURE.
BECAUSE WE CAN PREDICT THEIR BEHAVIOR, WE FIND PEOPLE WHO ARE
FAMILIAR WITH MORE LIKEABLE THAN OTHERS.

15. WHAT DRIVES ATTRACTION?
3. SIMILARITY – PEOPLE WHO WE HAVE SIMILARITIES WITH, SUCH AS
SOCIAL CLASS BACKGROUND, RELIGIOUS BELIEF, AGE, AND EDUCATION.
WE ARE LIKE-MINDED PERSONS AND THOSE WHO HAVE SIMILAR
BELIEFS AND VALUES AS OURS.

16. WHAT DRIVES ATTRACTION?
4. RECIPROCITY – WE LIKE PEOPLE WHO LIKE US BACK.
THE MORE WE ARE LIKED BY SOMEONE WE EQUALLY LIKE, THE MORE
WE BEHAVE IN WAYS THAT PROMOTE MUTUAL FEELINGS OF LIKING.

17. WHAT DRIVES ATTRACTION?
5. PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS – MAJOR FACTOR IN LIKING SOMEONE,
AND USUALLY, FIRST IMPRESSION COUNTS A LOT.
THE PHYSICAL FEATURES THAT ARE USUALLY FOUND ATTRACTIVE ARE
AVERAGE FACIAL FEATURES.
LESS ATTRACTIVE INDIVIDUALS MAY COMPENSATE BY OFFERING OTHER
QUALITIES.

18. WHAT DRIVES ATTRACTION?
6. PERSONALITY CHARACTERISTICS AND TRAITS – PEOPLE GET ATTRACTED TO
TWO CHARACTERISTIC THAT LEAD TO LIKING THE OTHER PERSON
EMPATHIC – WHO EXUDE WARMTH AND SYMPATHY AND WHO ARE ALSO
OPTIMISTIC AND MAINTAIN POSITIVE VIEWS
SOCIAL COMPETENT – WHO ARE GOOD COMMUNICATORS AND ENJOY GOOD
CONVERSATION

19. LOVE AND INTIMACY
oA STRONG FEELING OF AFFECTION AND CONCERN TOWARD ANOTHER
PERSON, AS THAT ARISING FROM KINSHIP OR CLOSE FRIENDSHIP
oA STRONG FEELING OF AFFECTION AND CONCERN FOR ANOTHER PERSON
ACCOMPANIED BY SEXUAL ATTRACTION.
oA FEELING OF DEVOTION OR ADORATION TOWARD GOD OR A god.
oA FEELING OF KINDNESS OR CONCERN BY GOD OR A god TOWARD HUMANS
oSEXUAL DESIRE OR ACTIVITY: THE PLEASURES OF LOVE; A NIGHT OF LOVE

20. COMPONENTS LOVE AND INTIMACY
1. INTIMACY – THAT LOVELY MOMENT WHEN SOMEONE UNDERSTANDS AND
VALIDATES US.
IT IS AN ABSOLUTE HUMAN CERTAINTY THAT NO ONE CAN KNOW HIS OWN
BEAUTY OR PERCEIVE A SENSE OF HIS OWN WORTH.
BEING OPEN AND VULNERABLE TO THAT PERSON WHOM WE DEEPLY TRUST,
WHO WE FEEL CONNECTED WITH, AND WHO VALUES US WITH
UNCONDITIONAL POSITIVE REGARD
COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY IN DEVELOPING INTIMACY

21. COMPONENTS LOVE AND INTIMACY
2. COMMITMENT – IS AN ACT OF DECIDING TO CONSISTENTLY FULFILL AND LIVE
BY AGREEMENTS MADE WITH ANOTHER PERSON, ENTITY, OR CAUSE, AND
WHERE THE VALUES OF INTEGRITY AND RESPECT SERVE AS A GUIDE TO ONE’S
BEHAVIOR AND THINKING.
IN A LOVE RELATIONSHIP IS EXPRESSED CONTINUOUSLY IN CARING AND LOVING
ACTIONS FOR THE BELOVED.

22. COMPONENTS LOVE AND INTIMACY
3. PASSION – INTENSE STATE OF BEING THAT DRIVES AND CONSUMES A PERSON
TO PURUSE AN INTEREST, A VISION, OR A PERSON.
IN TERMS OF ROMANTIC LOVE, PASSION CONNOTES SEXUAL ATTRACTION, AS
WELL AS INTIMACY

23. STERNBERG’S THEORY OF LOVE
INTIMACY = LIKING
COMMITMENT = EMPTY LOVE
PASSION = INFATUATION
INTIMACY + COMMITMENT = COMPASSIONATE
PASSION + COMMITMENT = FATUOUS LOVE
INTIMACY + PASSION = ROMANTIC LOVE
INTIMACY + PASSION + COMMITMENT = COSUMMATE LOVE

24. COMMITMENT: SAYING YES AND
MEANING IT
oAS A CONTINUING PROCESS OF SHOWING LOVE AND CARE;
oFULFILLING THE PROMISES OR AGREEMENTS MADE WITH
EACH OTHER
oTHROUGH BAD TIMES AND GOOD TIMES
oYOU ARE INTO THIS RELATIONSHIP AND WILL STICK TO IT
FOR AS LONG AS POSSIBLE.

25. ROZENBERG QUARTERLY ARTICLE
1.ACCUMULATION OF ALL REWARDS OF THE
RELATIONSHIP - CONSIDERED AS THE MOST
IMPORTANT DETERMINANT OF SATISFACTION IN A
RELATIONSHIP
INCLUDE SUPPORT FROM THE PARTNER; SEXUAL
SATISFACTORY; EMOTIONAL; FINANCIAL; PHYSICAL
SECURITY
MUTUALLY REWARDED

26. ROZENBERG QUARTERLY ARTICLE
2.TEMPTATION OF ALTERNATIVE PARTNERS – THE
PRESENCE OF POSSIBLE ALTERNATIVES FOT ANOTHER
PARTNER CAN ROCK THE RELATIONSHIP AND DESTABILZE
THE COMMITMENT OF A COUPLE.

27. ROZENBERG QUARTERLY ARTICLE
3.INVESTMENTS MADE BY THE COUPLE IN THE
RELATIONSHIP – ALSO IMPORTANT IN MAINTAINING
COMMITMENT.
TIME SPENT; COMMON BELIEFS & EXPERIENCES;
MUTUAL EXPERIENCES WITH MUTUAL FRIENDS;
BEARING CHILDREN; RELIGIOUS BELIEFS

28. MARRIED COUPLES MAY DO THAT CAN PREDICT
A DIVORCE OR SEPARATION:
1 CONSISTENTLY FINDING FAULT WITH THE
PARTNER – CONSISTENT CRITICISM NEGATES THE
PERSON BEING CRITICIZED AND MAY SEND THE
MESSAGE TO THE PARTNER THAT HE/SHE IS
INFERIOR TO THE OTHER.

29. MARRIED COUPLES MAY DO THAT CAN PREDICT
A DIVORCE OR SEPARATION:
2 TONE OF CRITICISM – THIS HAPPENS WHEN THERE
IS THE ABSENCE OF UNCONDITIONAL POSITIVE
REGARD FOR EACH OTHER IN A RELATIONSHIP,
CRITICIZING IN WAY THAT BELITTLE THE OTHER
PERSON.
POSITIVE AND CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM THAT IS
DONE IN A LIGHT AND PLAYFUL MANNER CAN CREATE
POSITIVE OUTCOME.

30. MARRIED COUPLES MAY DO THAT CAN PREDICT
A DIVORCE OR SEPARATION:
3 DENIAL OF THE EXISTENCE OF CONFLICT –
WHEN ONE PARTY ELUDES THE PRESENCE OF A
PROBLEM AND REFUSES TO DISCUSS IT, AS IF
BELITTLING THE PROBLEM, IT WILL RESULT IN
FRUSTRATION ON THE SIDE OF THE OTHER PARTY.

31. MARRIED COUPLES MAY DO THAT CAN PREDICT
A DIVORCE OR SEPARATION:
4 CONTEMPT – SOMEONE WHO LOOKS DOWN
ON THE PARTY AS INFERIOR.

32. RESPONSIBILITIES IN A
RELATIONSHIP
1. BE RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT YOU THINK AND SAY TO THE
OTHER PERSON. EMOTION SHOULD BE CONSIDERED WHEN
DEALING WITH OTHER PEOPLE. BEING SENSITIVE TO THOSE
EMOTIONS WILL MAKE A PERSON RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT IS
SAID AND ACCEPT THE CONSEQUNECES OF HOW THE OTHER
PARTY WILL RECEIVE THE MESSAGE.

33. RESPONSIBILITIES IN A
RELATIONSHIP
2. BE RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT YOU PROMISE TO DO OR NOT
TO DO. INTEGRITY IS A KEY FACTOR IN RELATIONSHIPS.
COUPLED WITH TRUST, INTEGRITY IN ONE’S WORD MEANS
THAT YOU ARE RELIABLE AND TRUSTWORTHY. WHEN
CREDIBILITY IS IN QUESTION, A RELATIONSHIP WILL NOT LAST
LONG.

34. RESPONSIBILITIES IN A
RELATIONSHIP
3. ENSURE THE RELATIONSHIP IS MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL.
BALANCED RELATIONSHIPS ARE ALWAYS MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL
TO BOTH PARTIES. IT IS ALWAYS GOOD TO HAVE A GIVE-AND-
TAKE ATTITUDE FOR THIS ASSURES FAIRNESS AND EQUALITY.
WHEN FAIRNESS IS PERCEIVED, TRUST FOLLOWS.

35. RESPONSIBILITIES IN A
RELATIONSHIP
4. RESPECT THE OTHER PARTY OR PARTIES INVOLVED. MUTUAL
RESPECT IS ALSO ESSENTIAL IN A RELATIONSHIP. GIVING
RESPECT TO EACH OTHER IS A COMMON RESPONSIBILITY OF
ANY PARTY INVOLVED IN A RELATIONSHIP.

36. RESPONSIBILITIES IN A
RELATIONSHIP
5. BE READY TO PROVIDE SUPPORT WHEN NEEDED.
RELATIONSHIP ALSO THRIVE ON THE SUPPORT GIVIN BY ONE
PARTY TO ANOTHER. PROVIDING SUPPORT, EITHER
FINANCIALLY, EMOTIONALLY, SPIRITUALLY, OR PHYSICALLY,
STRENGTHENS THE BOND IN A RELATIONSHP, AS THIS IS AN
EXPRESSION OF ONE’S COMMITMENT TO THE OTHER PARTY. IT
IS ALL ABOUT THE “WE’RE IN THIS TOGETHER” THING IN A
RELATIONSHIP.