This document discusses the importance of emotional and spiritual health, particularly for leadership. It emphasizes loving God and others, self-awareness, addressing issues beneath the surface, and regular self-examination. Developing a positive view of oneself as God sees us can strengthen character and allow God's presence in us to be felt by others in a good way. Emotional maturity is necessary for spiritual maturity. Leaders must care for their internal lives through practices like self-care, honesty, and addressing defensiveness.

1. Healthy Leadership
Leading from Grace

2. 37 He said to him, “‘You shall love the
Lord your God with all your heart, and
with all your soul, and with all your
mind.’ 38 This is the greatest and first
commandment. 39 And a second is like
it: ‘You shall love your neighbour as
yourself.’
Matthew 22:37-39 (NRSV)

5. Set an example for the
believers in speech, in
life, in love, in faith, and
in purity.....do not neglect
the gift which was given
you....watch your life and
doctrine closely....
persevere in them. 1 Timothy 4

6. Circle of Grace - Trevor Hudson

7. Positive circle of spiritual
self-esteem…
If only we would properly attend to God's
gifts to us and in us! Then self awareness
and healthy self love could form a positive
circle of spiritual self-esteem and
ultimately be a source of strength for
others as well as ourselves. Will we have
the trust to do this? Will we take the time?
Wicks, R, (1992:25) Touching the Holy : Ordinariness, Self-esteem,
and Friendship

8. Whose and Who
Personal awareness of self before a loving
God is also important because it helps self
confidence to grow and be more resistant to
the assaults of failure or rebuff. Thus, it
allows our character to develop and it
enables the presence of God with in us to be
felt in a good way by others.
Wicks, R, (1992:25) Touching the Holy : Ordinariness, Self-
esteem, and Friendship

9. 5 Principles of self-respect
and clarity:
When I have made a mistake or
feel anxious, I need to separate
what I have done from who I
am.
When I feel badly about myself
as a person, I must see if I am
embracing an irrational belief
about myself.

10. 5 Principles of Self-respect
and Clarity:
Since I am the one person I will
have an intimate relationship
with for my entire life I need to
take care of myself at least as
well as I would care for others.
I must be sensitive to irrational
thoughts and willing to
challenge and dispute them.

11. 5 Principles of self-respect
and clarity:
I need to be aware of depression
producing, personally devaluing
styles of thinking .

12.  Size distortion
 Negative contamination
 Awfulizing
 Being overserious

16. “Living …with a view of
self that is any less than
God's view of us, God
who wrote our names on
the palms of his hands, is
unnecessarily tragic and
sad. If we can remember
this each day no matter
how we feel or what is
facing us, we can then be
as spiritually audacious as
God has intended us to be
all along”

18. -

19. Taking your Spiritual Pulse
Test yourselves to make sure you
are solid in the faith. Don’t drift
along taking everything for granted.
Give yourselves regular checkups.
You need firsthand evidence, not
mere hearsay, that Jesus Christ is
in you. Test it out. If you fail the test,
do something about it.
2 Corinthians 13:5

20. Spiritual Triangulation…!
• Personality Type
• Faith Development
• Spirituality Type

22. Dangerous Symptoms
• Danger - over intellectualisation
• Danger - judgemental tunnel vision
• Danger - excessive introspection
• Danger – over emotionalism

23. Consolation and Desolation
“Opportunity to reorient your life -
live into and out of who God created
you to be…” (Larry Warner)
“Where is this taking me; to God or
away from God?”
www.b-ing.org

24. • Fear of anger
and not being
liked,
• Dismissed as a
valuable person,
• Not being seen
as unique,
• Being viewed as
weak.

25. • Inappropriate expectations we may have
of others.
• Major prejudices or isms we have that
are hidden from us.
• Emotional "baggage" or unfinished
business we still carry around with us.

26. Emotionally Healthy
Spirituality
“Emotional health and spiritual
maturity are inseparable. It is
not possible to be spiritually
mature while remaining
emotionally immature.”
Scazzero, P. The Emotionally Healthy Church

27. “The overall health of any church or
ministry depends primarily on the
the emotional and spiritual health of
its leadership. In fact, the key to
successful spiritual leadership has
much more to do with the leaders
internal life than with the leaders
expertise, gifts or experience”

28. “Self-care is never a selfish act – it is
simply good stewardship of the only
gift I have, the gift I was put on earth
to offer others. Anytime we can listen
to true self and give it the care it
requires, we do it not only for
ourselves, but for the many others
whose lives we touch”.
(Parker Palmer)

29. We can not grow an emotionally
healthy church if we ourselves are
not addressing issues deep
beneath the surface of our lives.

30. Practical Steps
Invite God to bring to our awareness
and to transform those beneath-the-
surface layers that hinder us from
becoming more like Jesus. This
require unmasked, painful honesty.
Truth will set us free (John 8:32)

31. Tribal Leadership

33. Was I defensive today? Did I feel angry, hurt, annoyed, anxious, sad,
disappointed, rigid, passive, overly nice, judgemental, bored, distracted,
confused, impatient, or empathetic today? If so, what can I understand
about such defensiveness that will also teach me something about
myself?
Questions of Examen?