Stress Management - Power point for Continuing Ed

1. For Happier Holidays, Choose to be
Positive
Ronald L. Rubenzer Ed.D
Author: How the Best Handle Stress
Member: Moses Cone Hospital
Patient Advisory Council
www.drrubenzer.com
WELCOME

2. Today we’ll look at
 The Power of Love, Peace , Joy, &
Gratitude to help us Enjoy this Most
Wonderful Time of the year.
 How to rise above Turbulence: Captain
Sully’s advice from his MIRACLE
-PLANE LANDING- ON THE HUDSON
 A New Year’s Resolution, guaranteed
to improve your Quality of Life

3. THE PURPOSE OF LIFE IS
JOY
Kevin Haggerty
Leadership Development Coach
336-616-0668
khaggerty@triad.rr.com

4. A JOYFUL HEART
IS GOOD
MEDICINE
Proverbs 17:22

5. Your life is what your
thoughts make of it.
(Marcus Aurelius 180 AD)

6. YOUR HAPPINESS IS YOUR
RESPONSIBILITY
The happiness of your
life depends upon the
quality of your
thoughts.
Marcus Aurelius

7. You are 100% Responsible for your
reaction to CHANGE.
(Kiva Elliott
Moses Cone Health System NC)

8. “THINK”
“RESPONSIBLY” 

9. Thinking Responsibly
 Fill your mind completely with thoughts
of peace and GRATITUDE
 There is an ancient promise of
Goodness and Mercy Following you all
the days of your life (if you don’t FEAR)

10. PEACE ON EARTH
is Man’s highest value (a quarter million miles
HIGH on Lunar Placard, 1969). Every time
you look up at moon, REMEMBER the “man
in the moon” is proclaiming
WE COME IN PEACE FOR ALL

11. Thinking Responsibly =
Peaceful
Acceptance
&
Planning

12. PEACEFUL ACCEPTANCE
IS
 doing your best to achieve
“acceptance” of challenges, seeking a
“happy medium” (not overreacting or
denying a challenge)
 (e.g. “uncle who always drinks too
Much Holiday Cheer. Accept that fact,
and be grateful he doesn’t live nearby
)

13.  WHINING
“It’s a miserable day.”
ACCEPTANCE
“It is raining.”
How to turn WHINING into
Peaceful Acceptance

14. Whining
“He didn’t have the decency to return my call.”
-------------------------------
ACCEPTANCE
“He did not call.”
How to turn WHINING into
Peaceful Acceptance

15.  Whining
“She let me down.”
ACCEPTANCE
“I was there. She
was not.” Tolle. (2003) pp. 120-121
How to turn WHINING into
Peaceful Acceptance

16. Planning
 Everyone has Holiday Craziness. Ahead of
time, plan an escape route on your Calendar
(lunch with friends, new membership at a
gym, a massage appointment).
 Plan on people taking advantage of National
Whiner’s Day (December 26). Humor the
Whiners (they can look UP THEIR SPECIAL DAY) 
http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/WolfFiles/story?
id=1224143&page=2#.ULPaV4Mo6M8
For uncle drinking too much Holiday Cheer, set
up “time to go home”

17. Plan to stay healthy
 Stress management (ABC’s later)
 Get Professional Help  (extra-hands
to string lights, cook meals, professional
cleaners)
 Get enough sleep, rest and be
GRATEFUL

18. AN ATTITUDE OF
GRATITUDE
 Dr. Ruth Woo, a national expert on
aging, reports on the remarkable
benefits of GRATITUDE.
 Grateful people have more energy and
optimism, are less bothered by life’s
hassles, are MORE RESILIENT in the
face of stress,

19. BENEFITS OF GRATITUDE
Grateful people are healthier, suffer less
depression, are more compassionate,
less argumentative
Are more likely to help others.

20. Dr. Woo’s GRATITUDE
BUILDERS
 Writing letters of gratitude improves
well-being and happiness
 In the face of difficulties, think of your
strengths
 Express gratefulness to those who have
helped you (say thanks to counter staff)
 Smile at people you meet 

21. Dr. Woo’s GRATITUDE ACTS
 Focus on what you HAVE and you will
be satisfied and contented (paying
attention to what you don’t have and
you’ll NEVER BE HAPPY.
 For more information please go to
rswoo99@yahoo.com

22. GRATITUDE
A BIG
Thank you
To Ms. Connie Hicks (Aka
Ms. Nascar)
For This Awesome Power Point Design

23. How to be POSITIVE!
 For brighter day, choose to be positive
 NEWS & RECORD
 OPINION Saturday, November 27, 2010
 The breakfast of champions is “Rise and Shine.” The unspoken motto of losers
is “Rise and Whine.”
.
 You may wake up with pains, but that doesn’t mean you have to be one.
Be less complaining about your circumstances,.
 Before your feet hit the floor, be grateful for the fact that
you could see, hear, feel and eventually rise.
 Keep your negativity to yourself. When tempted to whine, just remember the
Swiss proverb: “Speech is silver; silence is golden.”

24. How to be positive-NOW
ENJOY
THE
PLEASANT
PRESENT

25. How to be POSITIVE
Stop global
whining

26. Stopping Global Whining
 No Whining While you work (“I
made these great cookies for you even
though I had a migraine”)
 Stop Correcting everyone… “That’s
not exactly right. What really happened
was “blah-blah-blah” [false memories]

27. STOPPING GLOBAL
WHINING ONE PERSON AT
A TIME
 FOR YOUR FAVORITE WHINER,

BUY THEM A YES MAN
(TALKING HEAD)
 When your whiner talks to him, he says
“I couldn’t agree with you more
completely. How do you do it? I’m sure
whatever you’re thinking is CORRECT.”

29. “YES MAN” TALKING HEAD
 Perfect Whiner’s Gift
 HE ALWAYS AGREES WITH YOU
 $29.95
 http://www.mandrgames.com/YESMAN
Doll.htm

30. How to be POSITIVE-NOW
 Seasons change and so can you. Fake
it until you make it — your positive
attitude, that is. Optimism is linked to
better health, relationships

31. RISING ABOVE ANY
TURBULENCE:
Captain Sullengberger’s
MIRACLE ON THE HUDSON-He
chose to control his stress-response

33. “CAPTAIN COOL’S” Choice
 Captain Sully’s Miracle on the Hudson (flight
1549 for Charlotte NORTH CAROLINA)
proves we ALL have the Power to rise above
Turbulence.
With both plane engines disabled, (by a flock of
geese )and with 155 passengers aboard, he
“determined that ditching in the Hudson
was the only option for everyone’s survival.”

34. HIS CHOICE-TO SAVE
OTHERS
 “Sullenberger walked the unflooded part
of the passenger cabin twice to make
sure everyone had evacuated before
retrieving the plane’s maintenance
logbook and being the Last to evacuate
the aircraft.”

35. Captain Cool’s (Sully) attitude:
 “One way of looking at this might be
that for 42 years, I’ve been making
small, regular deposits in this bank of
experience, education and training. And
on January 15 the balance was
sufficient so that I could make a very
large withdrawal.”

36. Captain Sully’s Stress
Management Advice
DEVELOP
the Right Attitude and
Better Prepare yourself
for the Unexpected

37. …Relaxation, not intentness, should now be the rule.
William James, 1902

38. The ABC’s of stress reduction
•
ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE
• BREATHE –Slowly & Deeply
• Choose order over chaos
(organize your personal world
[not anyone else’s]. Choose to
be around positive people!
What to do on Monday

39. In an ideal world:
Choose to Relax and Exercise at home!

40. Tried & True Stress Management- FOR
MILLIONS OF “HURRICANE-SANDY-
STORM” VICTIMS
 I’M OK
 Deep-Slow-Breathing
 Relax neck, jaw, forehead
muscles, fists
 REPEAT

41. “IF YOU CAN’T FIGHT OR FLEE,
FLOW”

43. HAPPIER NEW YEAR
 A New Year’s Resolution, guaranteed to
improve your Quality of Your Life
 “Make me an Instrument
of your Peace”
 (This Resolution shared in writing with Millions at end
of WWII http://www.franciscan-
archive.org/franciscana/peace.html)

44. That’s All Folks!
Thanks for coming!