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1. SEX

2. BETTER SEX LIFE - SECRET SEX TURN-ONS YOU MUST
KNOW TO HAVE A BETTER SEX LIFE
By
Dr. Rickey

3.  Sex is often used to catch people’s
attention. Why?
 What makes it such an interesting
word?

4. You need to make good
decisions about your
sexual health. To do this,
you need information

5.  Sexuality includes not only biology
and science but also social,
emotional and behavioral aspects.
Learning about sex involves ALL of
these things.

6. Adolescence
 What does adolescence mean?
-becoming an adult.
-moving from the thoughts, feelings, body,
and relationships of a child to that of an
adult.
-can begin as early as 9 years old.
Girls=usually 9-16
Boys=usually 10-16
**everyone changes at his/her own rate.

7. Female Reproductive System
 Women have 2 ovaries
 The ovaries are where egg cells are stored
and
where they mature
 Women are born with ALL the egg cells
(OVA) they
have during their lifetime.
The mature egg is swept into the FALLOPIAN
TUBES
down to the UTERUS. This is where the
fertilized
egg stays and grows In case of pregnancy.
The FETUS (fertilized egg) or the non-fertilized
egg leaves the body through the VAGINA.

9.  In general, one egg becomes mature each
month accompanied by the thickening of
the tissues in the uterus as induced by
the female hormones.
 When the egg is not fertilized and thus no
pregnancy occurs, the mature egg and
the broken-up thickened lining are
sloughed off, and thus the bleeding. This
is known as MENSTRUATION (having a
period).
 A woman’s period lasts about 3-7 days.

10. Male Reproductive System

With puberty brings the capacity to produce sperm
The TESTES or TESTICLES are the organs that produce
sperm cells.
The TESTICLES sit in a pouch of
skin called the SCROTUM.
As sperm cells travel down the tubes,
a milky fluid is added by the prostate
gland to provide nutrition and mobility
for the sperm-this is called SEMEN.
The SEMEN then travels through a tube in the penis.
When the SEMEN is released from the body it is called
EJACULATION.

11. Factors that influence good health
 3 meals a day
 Moderate exercise 2-3
times a week
 Adequate sleep
 Not smoking
 Healthy weight

12. Arousal and Response
Lighting the fire, Stoking the flame

13. The Essential Hormones
 Two basic types – Steroid &
Neuropeptide
 Steroid Hormones – secreted by the
gonads and adrenal glands
 Examples: testosterone, estrogen, etc.
 Not simply male or female – both sexes
produce each, but in varying amounts

14. Neuropeptide Hormones
 Produced in the brain, they
influence sexuality and behavior
 Perhaps the most significant:
 Oxytocin – the “love hormone”, it
influences our erotic and emotional
bonds

15. Testosterone – “the motivator”
 Men have 20 to 40 times
more
 Effects desire (libido) more
than function
 But deficiencies do decrease
sensitivity and desire
 Castration – the surgical
removal of the testes causes
dramatic reductions in sexual
interest and desire

16. Testosterone uses

17. Less Testosterone
 Antiandrogens – drugs which reduce
testosterone levels
 Occasionally given to sex offenders
 Usually decreases sexual interest
and activity
 But sometimes offenders assault for
other reasons , such as anger,
power and control

18.  Hypogonadism – testosterone
deficiency due to diseases of the
endocrine system
 If it begins before puberty, development
is slowed
 If it starts after puberty, a marked
decrease in desire follows

19. Estrogens and Desire
 Their influence is undeniable
but exact role is unclear
 Research findings differ as to
whether they increase desire

20. Females & Testosterone
 Testosterone clearly increases
female sexual desire, sensitivity and
activity
 True even for women after
menopause or removal of the
ovaries

21.  Women with “normal” levels of sexual
activity and hormones who receive
additional testosterone show significant
increases in sexual arousal, sensation
and even lust
 Theresa Crenshaw “…. when a woman’s
testosterone dwindles, so does her sex
life.”

22. More On Testosterone
 Women have much less testosterone, but
are much more sensitive to its effects
 For women, too much testosterone
causes problems, such as “unwelcome”
changes to secondary sexual
characteristics
 Women see levels fall more rapidly after
menopause than male’s more gradual
decline

23.  If measured, it is “free” (unattached)
testosterone that matters, not “total”
 Testosterone Replacement Therapy
commonly available for men
now, slowly becoming an option for
women

24. The Brain – Our Most Sexual
Organ?
 Our cerebral cortex stores
memories and images producing
powerful fantasies
 Our culture has conditioned us to
have certain preferences for what
we consider physically attractive
 World-wide prototypes?

25.  Sexual turn-ons is
one of the secrets of
having a better sex
life. No matter how
wonderful your sex
life was during
honeymoon, the
years that follow
won’t be filled with
sexual harmony and
love unless you take
the initiative to
cultivate romantic
and sexual habits.

26. Let’s look at some great sex tips
of secret sex turn-on that will help
you keep sex, romance, passion
and intimacy alive.

27. Touch
 Our nerve endings are unevenly
distributed, locations which are most
sexually responsive are called our

Primary Erogenous Zones, which
include our genitals, lips, buttocks, inner
thighs, neck, mouth, perineum
 But we find tremendous variability

28.  Foreplay is one of
the best secret sex
turn-on and most
important to learn.
Love play is all
about how to make
love to a woman.
Well-designed
foreplay is the best
way to transit from
conversation to
having sex.
Love Play:

29.  Typically, foreplay
involves kissing,
heavy petting and
sensual massages.
The rule of the game
is to really focus on
her pleasure and
start building up its
intensity and before
you know it, you are
already creating a
better sex life for
yourself.
Love Play Continue

30.  Many couples claim
they spend time
together; but they
typically spend that
time running errands
or meeting with other
friends. Of course,
there’s nothing
wrong with that. But
to keep sex and
romance alive, you
need to spend quality
time together.
Develop a dating habit:

31.  Smooching has
been one of the
greatest sex turn-
on because its
speed up the
response cycle of
your spouse. When
smooching, try and
kiss around the
edges of your lips,
then run the tip of
your tongue over
your spouse.
The power of smooching:

32.  Kissing is one aspect that
can wake up the lover in
you. Yes, kissing in a new
way can revitalize a dying
sex bed in other to have
better sex life. It should
be full, long and close.
Passionate kisses without
expectation of immediate
sexual activity help your
spouse’s boiling point
near the surface so that
when you are ready for
the hot and heavy
season, they too will be
ready.
Kissing:

33.  Change what you wear
when going to bed:
what the eyes feed on
is what the mind
translates. If your
husband’s eyes
constantly feed on that
‘old craggy house
wear,’ his mind will
translate to his old
grandma in the village.
Change your outlook
because men are
attracted to sexy looks.
Even at 60, you can
still look sexy.
Look Good:

34.  Romance is more than gift and
paying bills; romance is an
attitude. The secret to being
romantic to bathe a woman’s
mind with thoughtfulness, fun,
tenderness and security,
without smothering her or
acting needy. This also involves
setting up the right kind of
environment that will enhance
her pleasure for a better sex
life.
 Some of the secrets turn-on
above will help you keep sex,
romance, passion and intimacy
alive and give you a better sex
life.
Romance:

35.  Secondary Erogenous Zones
other areas touched within the context
of sexual intimacy
 Could be anywhere on the body
 Established through classical conditioning?

36. Vision
 Very important in our society
 Emphasis on physical
attractiveness, grooming, clothes
and cosmetics
 Are males more aroused by visual
stimuli?

37. Smell
 Are genitals smells arousing
or awful?
 Depends largely on where
you live and your acceptance
or rejection of fragrance
claims.

38. Pheromones
 Odors secreted by the body which
relate to reproduction
 Common for mammals
 The vomeronasal system relates to
their use
 Present in humans,
 But is it functional?

39. What Works
 Smells that
arouse
 Women – licorice,
banana nut
bread, cucumbers
 Men – lavender,
pumpkin pie,
doughnuts

40. What Doesn’t
 Women –
barbecued
meat, men’s
cologne’s
 Men – Nothing

41. More Excitement
 Women:
engorgement
lubrication
enlargement
 Men:
erection
enlargement/elevation

42. Stage II - Plateau
 The acceleration of processes begun
in the excitement phase
 Females
the orgasmic platform – the
significantly engorged outer 1/3 of
the vagina
 Lasts from a few seconds to a few
minutes

43. Phase III - Orgasm
 Involuntary muscle spasms
 Blood pressure, respirations,
heart rate peaks
 Males – emission then
expulsion

45. Are the males’ and
females’ experiences
different ?
Descriptions are
indistinguishable.

46. Return to the “G” Spot
 Once found, manual stimulation
produces variable sensations
 Intense pleasure and orgasm
usually follows
 Some women even experience
ejaculation
 But the source of the fluid is
uncertain

48. Finally, Resolution
 Process through which sexual
systems return to a nonexcited state
 While in most respects the sexes
experience this process similarly,
men go through a refractory period
during which they cannot
experience another orgasm

49. Aging and the Response Cycle
 Function continues but intensity
declines
 Older women – longer for lubrication
Occasional decreases in desire,
sensitivity, and capacity
 Older men – longer for erection/orgasm
greater control
longer refractory period

50. Where the Sexes Differ
 Despite surprising similarities, some
distinctions remain
 Variability
Women have three patterns within
the sexual response cycle
Men just one

51. The Male Refractory Period
 Why?
 Evolution based ? Give another
guy a chance ?
 Dependent on midbrain-
hypothalamus pathway ?

52. Multiple Orgasms
 Women can have several, in
succession
 But just 14 to 16% ?
 Masters and Johnson say most can
have 5-6 !
 Men can too ?!?