The document discusses Fenelon's approach to educating a difficult child who was entrusted to him. It summarizes that Fenelon:
1) Succeeded in influencing the child through making himself loved by the child first, rather than using a strict authoritative approach.
2) Advocated being compassionate toward a child's weaknesses rather than displaying shock or irritation.
3) Recommended an approachable and genuine demeanor to build a child's confidence, rather than exercising rigid authority.
The document contains several prayers and poems focused on thanking God, expressing faith during difficult times, and reflecting on life's challenges. The first section is a letter thanking God for what has already been done and expressing gratitude now rather than waiting for future results. Another poem expresses that God is most able when people feel weakest or most in need. The final sections include additional prayers and poems on topics like feeling ill, meal blessings, reflecting Christ's light, and dealing with failure.
This three paragraph summary provides the key details from the long document:
A nurse, Sue Kidd, is called to help a patient, Mr. Williams, who has had a minor heart attack. Mr. Williams asks the nurse to call his daughter Janie to let her know about his condition. When the nurse calls Janie, she is distraught because she and her father had a big fight a year ago and have not spoken since. Janie rushes to the hospital to see her father. However, when the nurse returns to Mr. Williams' room, he has gone into cardiac arrest. The medical team works to revive him but is unsuccessful and Mr. Williams passes away. When Janie arrives, devast
The document discusses ostentatious flattery and how it can backfire. It provides commentary on a Bible verse from Proverbs 27:14 about blessing a neighbor loudly in the morning being taken as a curse. Commentators note that excessive public praise raises suspicions and can do more harm than good, flattering the ego of the recipient and inviting envy from others. Sincerity is important in friendship, and flattery is ultimately harmful to both the flatterer and the one being flattered.
A mother attends a conference where Mark Hamby speaks. His lecture breaks her heart as she realizes she is emotionally abusing her children just like her mother abused her. She prays to God for the first time in years. This prayer sparks a change in her - she remains calm with her children and stops yelling. Her children start to warm up to her again and trust her more. She knows real change will take time but is committed to rebuilding her relationships through prayer.
I. Making Ready for Life
II. Character Building
III. Growing like Christ
IV. Ministering by the Way
V. Serving the Lord
VI. Ourselves and Others
VII. Helping by Unselfishness
VIII. Home Lessons
IX. Life among the Lowly
Helen Burns comforts Jane after she is publicly upbraided by Mr. Brocklehurst. Helen offers Jane rational perspectives to counter her feelings of failure and self-pity. Helen believes that Jane is innocent and that true judgment comes from within, not from others. Helen's faith and example teach Jane important life lessons, though Jane does not fully understand that Helen is in poor health. Helen's kindness leaves a strong impression on Jane and helps her mature in how she understands herself and her experiences.
CONTENTS.
INTRODUCTORY— THE DISEASE
II.
NATURE OF THE DISEASE
III.
MALIGNITY OF THE DISEASE .
IV.
CONSCIOUSNESS OF THE DISEASE .
V.
SIN AS A DISEASE
VI.
THE HEALER
VII.
FITNESS OF THE WORD .
VIII.
MORE RECENT PHASES .
IX.
HINDRANCES TO HEALING .
The document contains several prayers and poems focused on thanking God, expressing faith during difficult times, and reflecting on life's challenges. The first section is a letter thanking God for what has already been done and expressing gratitude now rather than waiting for future results. Another poem expresses that God is most able when people feel weakest or most in need. The final sections include additional prayers and poems on topics like feeling ill, meal blessings, reflecting Christ's light, and dealing with failure.
This three paragraph summary provides the key details from the long document:
A nurse, Sue Kidd, is called to help a patient, Mr. Williams, who has had a minor heart attack. Mr. Williams asks the nurse to call his daughter Janie to let her know about his condition. When the nurse calls Janie, she is distraught because she and her father had a big fight a year ago and have not spoken since. Janie rushes to the hospital to see her father. However, when the nurse returns to Mr. Williams' room, he has gone into cardiac arrest. The medical team works to revive him but is unsuccessful and Mr. Williams passes away. When Janie arrives, devast
The document discusses ostentatious flattery and how it can backfire. It provides commentary on a Bible verse from Proverbs 27:14 about blessing a neighbor loudly in the morning being taken as a curse. Commentators note that excessive public praise raises suspicions and can do more harm than good, flattering the ego of the recipient and inviting envy from others. Sincerity is important in friendship, and flattery is ultimately harmful to both the flatterer and the one being flattered.
A mother attends a conference where Mark Hamby speaks. His lecture breaks her heart as she realizes she is emotionally abusing her children just like her mother abused her. She prays to God for the first time in years. This prayer sparks a change in her - she remains calm with her children and stops yelling. Her children start to warm up to her again and trust her more. She knows real change will take time but is committed to rebuilding her relationships through prayer.
I. Making Ready for Life
II. Character Building
III. Growing like Christ
IV. Ministering by the Way
V. Serving the Lord
VI. Ourselves and Others
VII. Helping by Unselfishness
VIII. Home Lessons
IX. Life among the Lowly
Helen Burns comforts Jane after she is publicly upbraided by Mr. Brocklehurst. Helen offers Jane rational perspectives to counter her feelings of failure and self-pity. Helen believes that Jane is innocent and that true judgment comes from within, not from others. Helen's faith and example teach Jane important life lessons, though Jane does not fully understand that Helen is in poor health. Helen's kindness leaves a strong impression on Jane and helps her mature in how she understands herself and her experiences.
CONTENTS.
INTRODUCTORY— THE DISEASE
II.
NATURE OF THE DISEASE
III.
MALIGNITY OF THE DISEASE .
IV.
CONSCIOUSNESS OF THE DISEASE .
V.
SIN AS A DISEASE
VI.
THE HEALER
VII.
FITNESS OF THE WORD .
VIII.
MORE RECENT PHASES .
IX.
HINDRANCES TO HEALING .
The document outlines the contents and lessons of an online study on Fascinating Womanhood. It will cover topics over 8 weeks, including understanding men, masculine and feminine roles, femininity, and childlikeness. The ideal woman from a man's point of view has both angelic qualities like character, understanding of men, and domestic skills, as well as human qualities like appearance, manner, and femininity. Examples from literature are analyzed, showing that while beauty is not essential, qualities like inner happiness, gentleness, and radiating joy are attractive to men.
James writes a letter addressing issues in the early Christian community. He warns that not many people should claim to be teachers, as teachers will be held to a higher standard. While we all make mistakes, those whose speech is under control demonstrate maturity. The small tongue can have a large influence, both for good and evil, just as a small rudder guides a large ship. True wisdom is shown through good conduct, humility, peacefulness, sincerity and righteousness.
The document discusses different parenting styles and their potential negative effects on children. It describes dictatorial/authoritative parenting as angrily demanding and fault-finding, prioritizing responsibility over relationships. This can lead to children like Jephthah's daughter who was sacrificed to fulfill a rash vow. Enmeshed parenting is overly protective and prevents independence, potentially causing resentment like Joseph's brothers felt. Indulgent parenting that indulges a child's wants can produce entitled children like Eli's sons who abused their priestly duties.
The document provides a summary of Gary Eby's approach to life coaching and overcoming fears and negative thoughts. It describes how Eby helps clients overcome challenges through a "stop and think" process of slowing down thoughts, using positive self-talk, and seeking help from others. It then gives examples of how Eby used these techniques to overcome his own fears and doubts about publishing a book, which ultimately led to him signing a publishing contract.
This document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses 7 steps for building a positive attitude which include changing one's focus to look for the positive, developing an attitude of gratitude, continuous self-improvement, and avoiding negative influences. It also contrasts the mindsets of winners versus losers and provides examples of highly successful people who experienced numerous failures, showing that every success story involves overcoming great failures. The document promotes qualities like desire, commitment, responsibility, hard work, character, and persistence as keys to becoming successful.
John Proctor is the protagonist of The Crucible by Arthur Miller. Over the course of the play, Proctor goes from feeling deep guilt over his affair to finding the courage to stand up for the truth. In the beginning, Proctor expresses regret for his past actions with Abigail. However, as the witch trials escalate, Proctor realizes people are falsely accusing others out of vengeance. He decides to risk his own reputation and confess to save his wife Elizabeth from a false accusation, even though it means his name will be ruined. In the end, Proctor finds integrity by choosing to die for the truth rather than sign a false confession, regaining his sense of goodness in the process.
The Quest for Peace: Dark Moon Saga 3, Chapter 3.5animeangel1983
Solan contacts Atalanta for help rescuing his father Reias, who was kidnapped by Dalen and Batalia. Atalanta goes to the sacred grove where the Adriel Guardians Botan and Drinn have been hiding, and convinces them to help. Although hesitant due to their past with Olympus, Botan agrees when Atalanta guarantees their safety and says Zeus himself requested their assistance, showing how dire the situation is.
This document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude. It begins with 7 steps: 1) change your focus to look for the positive, 2) make habit of doing it now, 3) develop an attitude of gratitude, 4) get into continuous education, 5) build positive self-esteem, 6) stay away from negative influences, 7) learn to like what needs to be done. It then contrasts the qualities of winners versus losers and defines qualities that make a person successful such as desire, commitment, hard work, character, and more. It encourages the reader to never quit and says luck shines on the deserving.
The document provides steps and advice for developing a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses qualities of winners vs losers and qualities that make people successful such as hard work, commitment, and persistence. It emphasizes that many successful people experienced failures and challenges but were able to overcome them through perseverance and a positive mindset.
The document provides steps for building a positive attitude and qualities of successful people. It discusses how winners have a proactive attitude while losers make excuses. It also emphasizes that every success story involves overcoming failures. Persistence, hard work, and commitment to excellence are keys to achieving success. The document advocates developing a burning desire, taking responsibility for one's actions, and continuously improving oneself.
This document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses 7 steps for building a positive attitude, including changing one's focus to look for the positive, developing an attitude of gratitude, and staying away from negative influences. It also contrasts qualities of winners versus losers and provides examples of successful people who initially faced failures, such as Abraham Lincoln, Henry Ford, and Walt Disney. Throughout, it emphasizes qualities like desire, commitment, persistence, and pride in one's work as keys to success.
The document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses qualities of winners vs losers, qualities that make a person successful like desire and commitment, and steps for building positive self-esteem such as accepting responsibility and setting goals. Examples are given of successful people who initially failed like Abraham Lincoln and Thomas Edison. The importance of persistence and having the right mindset are emphasized.
This document discusses the characters and setting in the Greek myth of Cupid and Psyche. It introduces the main characters including Cupid, Psyche, Aphrodite, Zeus, and Hades. It describes Cupid as a boy god who cannot age or die. Psyche is a beautiful mortal woman. Aphrodite is Cupid's mother and the goddess of love who disapproves of Psyche. Zeus is the king of the gods and Hades rules the underworld. It also mentions Mount Olympus as the home of the gods. The story outline and characters provide context for the myth of Cupid and Psyche.
The document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses qualities of winners vs losers and qualities that make a person successful such as desire, commitment, responsibility, hard work, and character. It emphasizes that every success story involves overcoming failures and setbacks. Success is defined as contributing value to others through one's work.
The document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses qualities of winners vs losers and qualities that make a person successful such as desire, commitment, responsibility, hard work, and character. It emphasizes that every success story involves overcoming failures and setbacks. Success is defined as contributing value to others through one's work.
The document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses qualities of winners vs losers and qualities that make a person successful such as desire, commitment, responsibility, hard work, and character. It emphasizes that every success story involves overcoming failures and setbacks. Success is defined as contributing value to others through one's work.
The document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses qualities of winners vs losers and qualities that make a person successful such as desire, commitment, responsibility, hard work, and character. It emphasizes that every success story involves overcoming failures and setbacks. Success is defined as contributing value to others through one's work.
The document provides steps for building a positive attitude and qualities of successful people. It discusses how winners have a proactive attitude while losers make excuses. Some key steps to positive attitude are developing gratitude, continuous self-improvement, and avoiding negative influences. Qualities of successful people include desire, commitment, responsibility, hard work, character, and persistence. The document also shares stories of highly successful people who initially faced failures and rejections.
2 page Summary of the article!Self-Reliancefrom Essays Fi.docxeugeniadean34240
2 page Summary of the article!
Self-Reliance
from Essays: First Series (1841)
Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Ne te quaesiveris extra."
"Man is his own star; and the soul that can
Render an honest and a perfect man,
Commands all light, all influence, all fate;
Nothing to him falls early or too late.
Our acts our angels are, or good or ill,
Our fatal shadows that walk by us still."
Epilogue to Beaumont and Fletcher's Honest Man's Fortune
Cast the bantling on the rocks,
Suckle him with the she-wolf's teat;
Wintered with the hawk and fox,
Power and speed be hands and feet.
ESSAY II Self-Reliance
I read the other day some verses written by an eminent painter which were original and not conventional. The soul always hears an admonition in such lines, let the subject be what it may. The sentiment they instil is of more value than any thought they may contain. To believe your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all men, — that is genius. Speak your latent conviction, and it shall be the universal sense; for the inmost in due time becomes the outmost,—— and our first thought is rendered back to us by the trumpets of the Last Judgment. Familiar as the voice of the mind is to each, the highest merit we ascribe to Moses, Plato, and Milton is, that they set at naught books and traditions, and spoke not what men but what they thought. A man should learn to detect and watch that gleam of light which flashes across his mind from within, more than the lustre of the firmament of bards and sages. Yet he dismisses without notice his thought, because it is his. In every work of genius we recognize our own rejected thoughts: they come back to us with a certain alienated majesty. Great works of art have no more affecting lesson for us than this. They teach us to abide by our spontaneous impression with good-humored inflexibility then most when the whole cry of voices is on the other side. Else, to-morrow a stranger will say with masterly good sense precisely what we have thought and felt all the time, and we shall be forced to take with shame our own opinion from another.
There is a time in every man's education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion; that though the wide universe is full of good, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to till. The power which resides in him is new in nature, and none but he knows what that is which he can do, nor does he know until he has tried. Not for nothing one face, one character, one fact, makes much impression on him, and another none. This sculpture in the memory is not without preestablished harmony. The eye was placed where one ray should fall, that it might testify of that particular ray. We but half express ourselves, and are ashamed of that divine idea which each of us represents..
This document discusses using storytelling to teach children about mercy through proposed "Mercy Camps". It notes that children dislike long preaching but love storytelling. The camps would use oral and visual stories, as well as activities, to instill the power of mercy in children and through them to families and society. Quotes throughout emphasize how stories can inspire, heal, and shape culture. The goal is to maximize the reach of the "Year of Mercy" through engaging children before November 2016.
The document outlines the contents and lessons of an online study on Fascinating Womanhood. It will cover topics over 8 weeks, including understanding men, masculine and feminine roles, femininity, and childlikeness. The ideal woman from a man's point of view has both angelic qualities like character, understanding of men, and domestic skills, as well as human qualities like appearance, manner, and femininity. Examples from literature are analyzed, showing that while beauty is not essential, qualities like inner happiness, gentleness, and radiating joy are attractive to men.
James writes a letter addressing issues in the early Christian community. He warns that not many people should claim to be teachers, as teachers will be held to a higher standard. While we all make mistakes, those whose speech is under control demonstrate maturity. The small tongue can have a large influence, both for good and evil, just as a small rudder guides a large ship. True wisdom is shown through good conduct, humility, peacefulness, sincerity and righteousness.
The document discusses different parenting styles and their potential negative effects on children. It describes dictatorial/authoritative parenting as angrily demanding and fault-finding, prioritizing responsibility over relationships. This can lead to children like Jephthah's daughter who was sacrificed to fulfill a rash vow. Enmeshed parenting is overly protective and prevents independence, potentially causing resentment like Joseph's brothers felt. Indulgent parenting that indulges a child's wants can produce entitled children like Eli's sons who abused their priestly duties.
The document provides a summary of Gary Eby's approach to life coaching and overcoming fears and negative thoughts. It describes how Eby helps clients overcome challenges through a "stop and think" process of slowing down thoughts, using positive self-talk, and seeking help from others. It then gives examples of how Eby used these techniques to overcome his own fears and doubts about publishing a book, which ultimately led to him signing a publishing contract.
This document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses 7 steps for building a positive attitude which include changing one's focus to look for the positive, developing an attitude of gratitude, continuous self-improvement, and avoiding negative influences. It also contrasts the mindsets of winners versus losers and provides examples of highly successful people who experienced numerous failures, showing that every success story involves overcoming great failures. The document promotes qualities like desire, commitment, responsibility, hard work, character, and persistence as keys to becoming successful.
John Proctor is the protagonist of The Crucible by Arthur Miller. Over the course of the play, Proctor goes from feeling deep guilt over his affair to finding the courage to stand up for the truth. In the beginning, Proctor expresses regret for his past actions with Abigail. However, as the witch trials escalate, Proctor realizes people are falsely accusing others out of vengeance. He decides to risk his own reputation and confess to save his wife Elizabeth from a false accusation, even though it means his name will be ruined. In the end, Proctor finds integrity by choosing to die for the truth rather than sign a false confession, regaining his sense of goodness in the process.
The Quest for Peace: Dark Moon Saga 3, Chapter 3.5animeangel1983
Solan contacts Atalanta for help rescuing his father Reias, who was kidnapped by Dalen and Batalia. Atalanta goes to the sacred grove where the Adriel Guardians Botan and Drinn have been hiding, and convinces them to help. Although hesitant due to their past with Olympus, Botan agrees when Atalanta guarantees their safety and says Zeus himself requested their assistance, showing how dire the situation is.
This document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude. It begins with 7 steps: 1) change your focus to look for the positive, 2) make habit of doing it now, 3) develop an attitude of gratitude, 4) get into continuous education, 5) build positive self-esteem, 6) stay away from negative influences, 7) learn to like what needs to be done. It then contrasts the qualities of winners versus losers and defines qualities that make a person successful such as desire, commitment, hard work, character, and more. It encourages the reader to never quit and says luck shines on the deserving.
The document provides steps and advice for developing a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses qualities of winners vs losers and qualities that make people successful such as hard work, commitment, and persistence. It emphasizes that many successful people experienced failures and challenges but were able to overcome them through perseverance and a positive mindset.
The document provides steps for building a positive attitude and qualities of successful people. It discusses how winners have a proactive attitude while losers make excuses. It also emphasizes that every success story involves overcoming failures. Persistence, hard work, and commitment to excellence are keys to achieving success. The document advocates developing a burning desire, taking responsibility for one's actions, and continuously improving oneself.
This document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses 7 steps for building a positive attitude, including changing one's focus to look for the positive, developing an attitude of gratitude, and staying away from negative influences. It also contrasts qualities of winners versus losers and provides examples of successful people who initially faced failures, such as Abraham Lincoln, Henry Ford, and Walt Disney. Throughout, it emphasizes qualities like desire, commitment, persistence, and pride in one's work as keys to success.
The document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses qualities of winners vs losers, qualities that make a person successful like desire and commitment, and steps for building positive self-esteem such as accepting responsibility and setting goals. Examples are given of successful people who initially failed like Abraham Lincoln and Thomas Edison. The importance of persistence and having the right mindset are emphasized.
This document discusses the characters and setting in the Greek myth of Cupid and Psyche. It introduces the main characters including Cupid, Psyche, Aphrodite, Zeus, and Hades. It describes Cupid as a boy god who cannot age or die. Psyche is a beautiful mortal woman. Aphrodite is Cupid's mother and the goddess of love who disapproves of Psyche. Zeus is the king of the gods and Hades rules the underworld. It also mentions Mount Olympus as the home of the gods. The story outline and characters provide context for the myth of Cupid and Psyche.
The document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses qualities of winners vs losers and qualities that make a person successful such as desire, commitment, responsibility, hard work, and character. It emphasizes that every success story involves overcoming failures and setbacks. Success is defined as contributing value to others through one's work.
The document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses qualities of winners vs losers and qualities that make a person successful such as desire, commitment, responsibility, hard work, and character. It emphasizes that every success story involves overcoming failures and setbacks. Success is defined as contributing value to others through one's work.
The document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses qualities of winners vs losers and qualities that make a person successful such as desire, commitment, responsibility, hard work, and character. It emphasizes that every success story involves overcoming failures and setbacks. Success is defined as contributing value to others through one's work.
The document provides steps and advice for building a positive attitude and achieving success. It discusses qualities of winners vs losers and qualities that make a person successful such as desire, commitment, responsibility, hard work, and character. It emphasizes that every success story involves overcoming failures and setbacks. Success is defined as contributing value to others through one's work.
The document provides steps for building a positive attitude and qualities of successful people. It discusses how winners have a proactive attitude while losers make excuses. Some key steps to positive attitude are developing gratitude, continuous self-improvement, and avoiding negative influences. Qualities of successful people include desire, commitment, responsibility, hard work, character, and persistence. The document also shares stories of highly successful people who initially faced failures and rejections.
2 page Summary of the article!Self-Reliancefrom Essays Fi.docxeugeniadean34240
2 page Summary of the article!
Self-Reliance
from Essays: First Series (1841)
Ralph Waldo Emerson
"Ne te quaesiveris extra."
"Man is his own star; and the soul that can
Render an honest and a perfect man,
Commands all light, all influence, all fate;
Nothing to him falls early or too late.
Our acts our angels are, or good or ill,
Our fatal shadows that walk by us still."
Epilogue to Beaumont and Fletcher's Honest Man's Fortune
Cast the bantling on the rocks,
Suckle him with the she-wolf's teat;
Wintered with the hawk and fox,
Power and speed be hands and feet.
ESSAY II Self-Reliance
I read the other day some verses written by an eminent painter which were original and not conventional. The soul always hears an admonition in such lines, let the subject be what it may. The sentiment they instil is of more value than any thought they may contain. To believe your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your private heart is true for all men, — that is genius. Speak your latent conviction, and it shall be the universal sense; for the inmost in due time becomes the outmost,—— and our first thought is rendered back to us by the trumpets of the Last Judgment. Familiar as the voice of the mind is to each, the highest merit we ascribe to Moses, Plato, and Milton is, that they set at naught books and traditions, and spoke not what men but what they thought. A man should learn to detect and watch that gleam of light which flashes across his mind from within, more than the lustre of the firmament of bards and sages. Yet he dismisses without notice his thought, because it is his. In every work of genius we recognize our own rejected thoughts: they come back to us with a certain alienated majesty. Great works of art have no more affecting lesson for us than this. They teach us to abide by our spontaneous impression with good-humored inflexibility then most when the whole cry of voices is on the other side. Else, to-morrow a stranger will say with masterly good sense precisely what we have thought and felt all the time, and we shall be forced to take with shame our own opinion from another.
There is a time in every man's education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion; that though the wide universe is full of good, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to till. The power which resides in him is new in nature, and none but he knows what that is which he can do, nor does he know until he has tried. Not for nothing one face, one character, one fact, makes much impression on him, and another none. This sculpture in the memory is not without preestablished harmony. The eye was placed where one ray should fall, that it might testify of that particular ray. We but half express ourselves, and are ashamed of that divine idea which each of us represents..
This document discusses using storytelling to teach children about mercy through proposed "Mercy Camps". It notes that children dislike long preaching but love storytelling. The camps would use oral and visual stories, as well as activities, to instill the power of mercy in children and through them to families and society. Quotes throughout emphasize how stories can inspire, heal, and shape culture. The goal is to maximize the reach of the "Year of Mercy" through engaging children before November 2016.
"Self-Reliance" is an 1841 essay written by American transcendentalist philosopher and essayist Ralph Waldo Emerson. It contains the most thorough statement of one of Emerson's recurrent themes, the need for each individual to avoid conformity and false consistency, and follow their own instincts and ideas. It is the source of one of Emerson's most famous quotations: "A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds, adored by little statesmen and philosophers and divines."
This book provides a 3-sentence summary of each chapter in the book "Hope for the Soul" by Kimberly Michelle Ford. The book uses personal stories and Bible passages to encourage readers who have experienced rejection, failure, or disappointment to continue persevering and have hope. It discusses topics like overcoming the past, seeing crises as opportunities, maintaining confidence even when facing difficulties, and pressing forward despite setbacks. The overall message is that through faith in God, readers can recover from challenges and live a fulfilling life.
This document discusses how to help children cope with grief over the loss of a loved one. It begins by describing a child's experience of learning of their mother's death. It then explains that children often struggle with grief silently for years without support. The document offers suggestions for helping grieving children, such as spending time with them, encouraging them to talk about their feelings, and reassuring them that their emotions are normal. It emphasizes finding ways to give them hope and focusing on their spiritual well-being. The document also notes that children should not be shielded from serious illnesses and should be included in family discussions.
This document discusses raising children in North America and addressing the identity crisis many Muslim youth face. It provides advice to parents on educating children about Islam, being good role models, communicating effectively, and encouraging Islamic activities and academics without being overbearing. The document warns against confusing culture with religion and emphasizes showing love, patience, and understanding towards children.
1) Childhood is a time when spirits are more malleable and open to learning, making it the ideal time for education to help spirits progress.
2) Parents have an important role in educating their children through love, kindness, dialogue and attention rather than punishment.
3) Children should be given freedom but also limits, and positive reinforcement through rewards is more effective for behavior than punishment.
This document is an issue of a publication called "Activated" that discusses maintaining faith through difficult times. The editor's introduction recounts the story of the prophet Habakkuk maintaining faith in God despite injustice and violence around him. The main articles provide tips for keeping faith strong, including feeding on God's word, praying, drawing strength from others' experiences, and thanking God for his goodness. The overall message is that through trusting God and his promises, one can have peace even in life's storms.
This document discusses the nature of parenting from several perspectives. It begins by stating that one becomes a parent when they take on absolute care of a child, regardless of how that relationship was formed. It then discusses how parenting is a difficult lifelong role that one cannot fully prepare for or be perfect at. The document emphasizes that being a parent is a forever commitment, and that as a parent you are essentially holding the future in your hands through the choices you make for your child.
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The document provides instructions for a discussion response to the short story "The Rocking-Horse Winner" by D.H. Lawrence. Students are asked to identify a main theme in the story, explain the author's message conveyed through that theme, and provide at least one example and quotation from the story to illustrate their point. They must also discuss how this theme affects their interpretation of the story and whether it makes the story more powerful. The instructions emphasize using evidence from the story to support claims through quotations and citations.
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The document provides instructions for a discussion response to the short story "The Rocking-Horse Winner" by D.H. Lawrence. Students are asked to identify a main theme in the story, explain the author's message conveyed through that theme, and provide at least one example and quotation from the story to illustrate their point. They must also discuss how this theme affects their interpretation of the story and whether it makes the story more powerful. The instructions emphasize using evidence from the story to support claims through quotations and citations.
1) The document provides parenting tips written by Mrs. A. Bell in 1853 that encourage treating children with respect, gentleness, and consistency.
2) Tips include never correcting children out of anger, disciplining without full understanding of the situation, disappointing a child's trust, or indulging them when sick.
3) Parents are advised to improve the early years of childhood through nurturing a child's character and never allowing selfishness to take root.
This document provides guidance for Christians conducting Halloween outreach to children. It recommends focusing on building understanding and relationships through fun activities rather than condemnation. Costumed volunteers should dress respectfully and avoid frightening children. When sharing the gospel, the emphasis should be on genuine love rather than coming across as too preachy. Safety for both children and volunteers is also addressed.
The document discusses the challenges facing Muslim youth raised in Western societies, including issues of identity crisis, peer pressure, and navigating different cultural norms. It provides advice to parents on communicating effectively with their children, educating them about Islam, and fostering an understanding of their faith while allowing flexibility. The goal is to help young Muslims develop a strong Islamic identity and avoid feelings of inferiority or loss of focus in life.
This book speaks about the courage one must have develop and cultivate in life, in order to face all the setbacks with which life provide us in order to spiritual growth.
This document discusses childhood education and development from a Spiritist perspective. It explains that children's spirits bring tendencies from past lives that begin to manifest early on. Parents should study their child's instincts to identify and combat any bad tendencies like selfishness. The early childhood years are when the spirit is most malleable and accessible to positive influences that can modify character for spiritual progress. Proper home education through love, kindness, dialogue and attention helps strengthen affective ties and prepare children for life's challenges. Corporal punishment should be avoided as it can cause trauma and other issues. Parents are encouraged to reward good behavior and use restrictions of privileges appropriately rather than harsh punishment.
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This letter describes a man's deeply troubled marriage. He feels constantly criticized and disrespected by his wife, who he believes views him through the lens of her past abuse rather than who he truly is. She dominates conversations, frequently accusing him of abuse and bringing up past issues. He has tried to apologize and make a fresh start but she refuses. Others have witnessed and commented on her disrespectful treatment of him. He feels rejected, unimportant, and lacking a supportive partner. The relationship has deteriorated to the point where he finds it hard to show compassion during her ongoing medical recovery.
This document provides a summary of the Lamplighter Ministries document "Let God's Creatures Be the Teachers" by Mark Hamby. It recommends several Lamplighter books and audio resources. It also includes brief summaries and excerpts from Psalms and stories from the Bible along with testimonials praising the positive impact of Lamplighter books.
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Education of a child
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Education of a Child
The Wisdom of Fenelon
Recommended books: Duties of Parents; The Education of a
Child by Fenelon; Disappearance of Childhood; War of
Words; Teddy’s Button; Helen’s Temper; Little Threads;
Courage at Runaway Brook; Basil: Honesty and Industry
www.lamplighterpublishing.com
11. “I was profoundly touched by the book True to the Last. I
COULD NOT put it down. When I finished, I was sobbing.
My prayer after reading this was, “Lord, make me more like
you...”
“Dear Lamplighter: I just listened to A Peep Behind the
Scenes audio drama and at my desk at work and I am in
tears. It’s more than I could describe.
Lamplighter, Every teenager in the world needs to read
Hand on the Bridle…if I had read that when I was a young
teen it would have changed the direction of my life!
The book White Knights is the best book for boys we have
ever found. In fact, we are writing parts of the story on my
boys bedroom walls! Thank you for supplying us with godly
role models!
12. “Dear Mark, I wanted you to know that my 7-year-old
daughter prayed that the Good Shepherd would find her
after she listened to A Peep Behind the Scenes. Two weeks
later she came to us and said the Good Shepherd had found
her. So I can say first hand that the Lord is using the stories
to draw people to himself.”
“Lamplighter’s ministry of building character one story at a
time has been greatly used by God. The Lamplighter books
and dramas have had a huge effect on our family.”
“Mark, we’re listening to Lamplighter Theatre and we’re
hanging on every word as well as moved to tears. We hope
and pray that God provides the resources necessary to keep
this part of your ministry going - it’s a great blessing!”
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The destiny of this child, confided to Fenelon, was the future fate of a nation.
The disposition of this child, however, inspired more fear than hope. “He
was terrible from birth,” said one Simon. “In his earliest years he caused
those about him to tremble; unfeeling, displaying the most violent passion,
which extended towards inanimate objects, incapable of bearing the slightest
contradiction, even from the hours or the elements, without giving way to a
whirlwind of rage sufficient to break all the blood-vessels in his body—I
speak of what I have often witnessed: opinionated to excess; absorbed in the
pursuits of pleasure, fond of good living, following the chase with furious
impetuosity, enjoying music with a sort of delirium, madly attached to play,
but unable to bear loss, and when defeated, becoming positively dangerous;
in fact, abandoned to all the evil passions, and transported by every
corrupting pleasure; often savage, naturally cruel; bitter in raillery, ridiculing
with a remorseless power, regarding all men (irrespective of merit), from his
high position, but as atoms with whom he could have no affinity. The extent
and vivacity of his powers were so varied that they prevented his fixing upon
any distinct branch of knowledge, and almost rendered him incapable of
study. From this abyss came forth a prince.” This prince was the child
confided to Fenelon to remodel.
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The road I present, though it may appear
long, is the shortest, since it leads directly
to where we want to go; the other road,
which is that of fear, and of a superficial
cultivation of the mind, however short it
appears, is too long; for by it we never
arrive at the true end of education, which
is to persuade the mind, and to inspire it
with a sincere love of virtue, and a passion
for learning.
Kinder Garden Flowers, fill their lives with smiles and kindness…
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Fear leads to frustration, which leads to shame, which leads to hiding or aggression
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“Perfect Love casts out fear. For fear has
torment/punishment. He who fears is
not made perfect in love.”
2 Timothy 1:7
We use fear to compensate for our own insecurities and
selfishness
Fear is evidence that we are unable to trust God…and allow
our children to make mistakes.
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The first process adopted by Fenelon toward
his young pupil was the influence of his own
character.
He succeeded in persuading because he had
succeeded in making himself loved.
*When your life lives louder than….Do you want to control your
children or influence them? Mercy to 1000, Responsibility above
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An authoritative parent whose eye is ever
upon their child, who is constantly scolding,
thinking they are fulfilling their educative role
in pardoning nothing, will oppress their child,
especially parents who place the weight of the
family concerns upon them; all of this only
torments and discourages.
Fenelon
Fully loved
6 yr old dishes
Put bike away
Clean room
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Never assume, without the greatest necessity, an
austere posture, which always frightens children, and
often arises from affectation and pedantry
(dominating nitpicky legalism) in those who govern;
for children are generally too timid and bashful. You
close their hearts from you by it, and make them
withdraw their confidence, without which no good fruit
can spring forth, which is necessary to the success of
their education. Make yourself beloved by them, and
they will be open with you; and they will not fear to let
you see their faults.
Otherwise they will mask and burrow deeper for self
preservation and protection from shame.
Hope makes…Speeding Ticket
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Be not too severe with the behavior that is not
disguised from you. Do not appear astonished
or irritated at their bad dispositions; on the
contrary, be compassionate to their
weaknesses; generally, approachable
confidence and genuineness are more useful
to them, than to exercise a rigorous authority
over them.
Let them see we are on their side—Teddy
Adversarial relationships fill reservoirs—focus on heart issues not words
Psalm 103, Elijah
Enjoy – don’t project your perfectionism on to your children
. Eph 6:4 – provoke not
- proximity, alongside, lit. from side of.
Colossians –Provoke not - to be passionate, enrage, to anger (from root word orgy - violent
passions and perverted sexual relationships) Never good enough, lest they be discouraged!; Athumos—without spirit.
33. Sarah Edwards knew how to make her children regard and obey her cheerfully,
without loud angry words, much less heavy blows. She seldom punished them,
and in speaking to them, used gentle and pleasant words. If any correction was
necessary, she did not administer it in passion; when she had occasion to reprove
and rebuke she would do it in few words, without noise; she had need to speak but
once; she was cheerfully obeyed because she convinced her children of the
reasonableness of her request; murmuring and answer again were not
known among them. The kind and gentle treatment they received from their
mother, while she strictly and punctiliously maintained her parental authority,
seemed naturally to…promote a filial respect and affection, and to lead them to a
mild, tender treatment of each other. Quarrelling and contention, which too
frequently take place among children, were in her family unknown.
She carefully observed the first appearance of resentment and ill will
in her young children…showed her displeasure and suppressed it to
the uttermost; yet not by angry, wrathful words, which often provoke children to
wrath…Her system of discipline was begun at a very early age and it was her rule
to resist the first, as well as every subsequent exhibition of temper or disobedience
in the child…wisely reflecting that until a child will obey his parents he can never
be brought to obey God.
Samuel Hopkins, in Marriage to a Difficult Man, the Uncommon Union of Jonathan and Sarah Edwards.
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Show him always that you have command over
yourself, always calm and considerate; nothing
will make him see it better than your patience
and humility. Watch for a fit moment for several
successive days, if necessary, that you may
properly time a correction. Do not tell the child
his fault, without adding some means by which
he may get the better of it, which will encourage
him to do so; for we should avoid the
discouragement which arises from dry
correction; and we should never tell him many at
a time.
Shoes, home late past curfew
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It is frequently necessary to tolerate things which
ought to be corrected, until the moment shall have
arrived when the mind of a child will be in a state to
profit by the correction. Never find fault with him in
his first emotion, or in yours; if you do it in yours, he
will perceive that you are governed by mood and
impatience, and not by reason and friendship: you
will lose, without resources, your authority. If you
reprimand him in his first emotion, his mind will not
be sufficiently free to acknowledge his fault, to
subdue his passion, and to weigh the importance of
your advice. It is even exposing the child to lose the
respect he owes you.
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36. On the other hand, authority will not fail to find its
place, if confidence and persuasion are not sufficiently
effectual; but you should be open, joyful, and familiar
in conduct, free from meanness; which gives you the
opportunity of seeing children act in their natural
state, and of knowing their characters thoroughly. But
let not too great familiarity breed contempt. On the
other hand, if you should have reduced them by
authority to observe all your rules, you would not have
gained your end; every thing would become restrained
formality, and perhaps hypocrisy. Instead of instilling
a love for virtue and knowledge, you will on the
contrary give them a general distaste and disgust for
both and lose the love of which you should alone seek
to inspire them. God keeps no record of evil…love never
37. Suffer then a child to play, mixing
instruction with amusement: let wisdom
appear to him at intervals, and always
with a smiling face. Be careful not to
fatigue him by an indiscreet exactness.
Never good enough, lest they be discouraged!; Athumos—without
spirit.
38. Health and innocence are the true
sources of enjoyment; but those who
have had the misfortune to accustom
themselves to violent pleasures, lose all
taste for those of a more moderate
nature, and fatigue themselves in a
restless pursuit, seeking after excessive
gratifications.
39. In this state of frivolity, if a child gives themselves
up to idleness, which is the vacancy of the soul,
exhausts himself into a state of weariness. These
children often accustom themselves to sleep one-
third more than is necessary for the preservation of
health. This indulgence serves only weaken, to
undermine their constitution, and expose them to
bodily infirmities, whereas a moderate degree of
sleep, accompanied with regular exercise,
exhilarates and renders the human frame vigorous
and robust; which makes the true perfection of the
body, without mentioning the vast advantage which
the mind draws from it.
40. … it is necessary to find out every means
of making those things pleasing to the
child which are expected of him; and
should you have any thing distressing or
difficult to propose, forget not to comfort
him with the assurance that a little
trouble will be followed by unspeakable
satisfaction.
Fenelon
41. If a child take up a dark and sullen view
of virtue; if independence and vice
assume an attractive aspect, all is lost;
your work is vain.
42. But above all things, do not let it
appear to the child that you
demand from him unnecessary
submissions;
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The End…The Beginning…
43. $20 Bill
Recently, the Lord gave me a wonderful opportunity to
demonstrate the power of His awesome grace to one of my
sons.
This son phoned me at the bookstore one day and said, "Guess
what, mom... I found a $20 bill in the pocket of one of my pairs
of shorts."
Immediately I discerned that what he was telling me probably
wasn't the truth. But I congratulated him on finding the lost
money and we speculated that it was probably some forgotten
birthday money. End of phone call.
When I hung up the phone with him I tried to remind myself
to check in a drawer at home to see if a $20 bill was still there.
It is a drawer that the older boys know about... where my
husband and I stash extra cash for emergencies.
44. That night I forgot to check, but a few days later I
remembered and saw that it was missing. My husband
hadn't taken any money from it... and money had never
been missing before. I knew I had to talk to my son.
What a flashback to my childhood!!
My son was from my blood, for sure. But he didn't have
the desperate, driving need for money that I thought I
had as a child... or did he? I remembered the guilt and
shame... and the loss of trust with my parents as I stole
time and again and was caught and disciplined for it. I
remembered how it felt... how I knew I lost their trust so I
didn't care after awhile... Oh, no. I don't want my dear
son feeling that way or taking that path!
45. I brought him into a quiet room away from his brothers and we sat
down together. I told him I wanted to tell him a story... and I
proceeded to tell him about when I was a little girl and I had taken a
$10 bill from my mother's wallet. My mother found the money
missing very shortly afterward and was distraught. It was the only
money we had for groceries that week! I felt so terrible... and I
really wanted to return the money. But how? I decided to make up
a story to cover my sin. I went outside to where the sprinkler was
watering the lawn and I pretended to find the money under the
sprinkler. I went in the house, triumphant that I had "found" the
(now wet) missing money, eager to hand it over to my distraught
mother and make things right again.
Much to my dismay, I was met with an angry parent who vowed
that I was lying... that I had stolen the money... and that I could
never be trusted. I sank deeper into my sin, believing that I might
as well be what she claimed I was. It didn't matter anymore.
46. I knew that I wanted this encounter with my son to be
very, very different. So I told him the story while holding
him in my arms and rubbing his back. Then I let him
know that I was missing $20 and I asked if it was
possibly the $20 that he had found in his pocket. He
immediately said, "No, mom... I did find that in my
pocket."
I was so pleased that God was in control!!! It was at this
point that I got the awesome opportunity to heal a great
wrong in my life... simply by treating my son (in his sin)
the way that I had only dreamed of being treated.
I said to him, "I BELIEVE you."
47. I hugged him and sent him on his way.
Later that night I mentioned to him that we needed to put the $20
up on his "chart." We keep a running account of the younger
children's money on a chart on the refrigerator. Then we keep
the cash for them so they don't lose it. They do this by choice,
and he had already given me the $20 bill the day he had called me
to say he had found it in his pocket. They usually keep smaller
amounts in their wallets, but the bigger amounts they give back
to us and write up on their "account."
I had joyfully written the $20 entry on his account. I felt such
peace... such joy. Conviction of sin was up to the Holy Spirit
alone!! I had done the only job required of me... I had lavished
"prodigal" grace on my son.
48. I call it prodigal grace because prodigal means "reckless, lavish,
wasteful." The father in the parable of the "prodigal son" was
actually the one who was reckless, lavish, and wasteful!! He
"wasted" the fatted calf on his wayward son; he "lavished" an
undeserved gift of a robe and a ring. He recklessly ran down the
road to meet him. He poured out unconditional love. Yes -- that is
what I lacked as a child. That is what I wanted my son, yet in his
unrepentant sin, to experience.
A few hours later I was preparing to read aloud a book to the boys.
My heartbroken son came into the room and burst into tears at my
side. I hugged him. I asked him if he would like to tell me
something.
"Yes...", he stammered, "I.... I did take that money out of your
drawer, Mom."
49. What joy in my heart to see the Holy Spirit bring about the work of
repentance totally unhindered by me!!!
I said this to him...”Oh, my dear son... I LOVE you. I am so proud of
you for telling me the truth. That took SO much courage. I believed
you when you told me that you didn't take the money because I really
trust you. I'm so glad I can trust you to tell me the truth. I know that
was a hard thing to do.
I do want you to know something. All that I have is yours. If you ever
feel like you need money you just come and tell me. I don't ever want
you to feel like you have to steal.
And I want you to keep that money... I don't want it back. I'm just so
glad you let the Holy Spirit work in your heart."
Yes... I wanted him to keep the money. And no one else in our
household knows what happened. I covered over his sin for a very
good purpose --- so that he will never forget what that kind of love
feels like.
I don't believe I'll ever deal with this issue with him again. And for that
very reason... it was worth it to be a prodigal mom.
50.
51.
52. God's love is so radical toward us... so incredibly
unbelievable!! We were ungodly, we were sinners, we were
enemies.
One will hardly die for a righteous
man; though perhaps for the good
man someone would dare even to
die. But God demonstrates His own
love toward us, in that while we were
yet sinners, Christ died for us.
(Romans 5:7-8)
Won't you show a little of that "amazing grace" to your
undeserving child today.
53. Take good care never to threaten them with any
thing to study, nor to subject them to various rules.
We should make as few rules as possible, unless they
cannot be avoided, endeavoring to bring it about
quietly, without forceful necessity; we should always
show some sufficient reasoning for doing the task at
this time, and in this place, rather than in another.
We run the risk of discouraging children, if we never
praise them when they do well. Though praises are to
be feared on account of vanity, still we must
endeavor to make use of them to encourage children,
without flattering them. Well timed praise may be
profitably used as a stimulus to industry, but not as
an incitement to intoxicating self-esteem.
54. Let us here remark a great defect in the common modes
of education. We put all the pleasure on one side, and all
the weariness on the other. The weariness on that study
and responsibility, the pleasure on that of diversion.
What can a child do, but impatiently support the
drudgery of learning and working, and run ardently
after play?
Let us then endeavor to change this order; let us render
study pleasing; let us conceal the trouble under the
appearance of liberty and delight. Let us suffer the
children to interrupt their study by little sallies of
diversion; these distractions are necessary, and ought
therefore to be allowed, purposely to refresh their
minds, that are so easily fatigued even by a short
application.
55. Suffer them to walk about a little; permit them even
now and then, some digression, or some play, that
will unbend their minds; then bring them back
gently to the task. Too much regularity in exacting
from then an uninterrupted application to study,
hurts them too much; those who govern often affect
this regularity in exacting from them, because it is
more convenient to themselves, than subjecting
themselves continually to the proper moments of
instruction.
56. Welcome the admonitions of some charitable
friend, to point out those defects, which you
yourself cannot see. Generally, those who govern
children pardon nothing in them, though they
pardon every thing in themselves. This excites in the
children a spirit of criticism and malignity;
consequently when they discover any fault in their
governors/parents they are delighted, and feel only
contempt for them; this posture of self-
righteousness actually creates a vindictive spirit in
the child who will glory in such a discovery which
furnishes an opportunity for recrimination.
57. Of all things, avoid this inconvenience; fear not to
speak of those defects which are not visible in
yourself. Be not afraid to acknowledge your evident
failings, nor those which inadvertence may have
brought to light. If you see him capable of
understanding reason on this point, tell him that you
will give an example how to correct his faults, by
correcting your own. Thus, you will draw from your
very imperfections means of instruction and
edification; you will both edify the child and
encourage him to reflect upon his own faults and
correct himself. Moreover, you will avoid that
contempt and dislike which your defects might
otherwise cause him to feel for your person.
58. You should always give to children a
solid and agreeable end, that may
captivate their young heart, and sweeten
their exertions; We should always
encourage them in their work, and never
pretend to subject them by a dry and
absolute authority.
59. "If a child learns a trade, or his highly educated for a lucrative
profession, all is nothing compared to the art of detachment
from riches; if you want to make your child rich, teach him
this. he is truly rich who does not desire great possessions, or
surrounds himself with wealth, but who requires nothing…
Don't worry about giving him an influential reputation, for
worldly wisdom, but ponder deeply how you can teach him to
think lightly of this life's passing glories, thus he will become
truly renowned and glorious…Don't strive to make him a
clever orator, but teach him to love true wisdom. He will
suffer if he lacks clever words, but if he lacks wisdom, all the
rhetoric in the world can't help him. A pattern of life is what is
needed, not empty speeches; character, not cleverness; deeds,
not words. These things will secure the kingdom of God and
bestow God's blessings.”[1]
60.
61.
62. Fund Development Counsel
Recommended Readings:
Inspired to adopt a similar moral code by emulating the characters
that have now been etched into their awakened conscience.
Values realigned with Worth
(strength, beauty, excellence, purity)
Rare Collector Series:
Little Threads
Teddy’s Button
The Missing Prince
Little Lamb
The Basket of Flowers
Resolute
Helen’s Temper
Trust y: Tried and True
Other Resources:
The Education of a Child (book/audio)
Duties of Parents
Age of Opportunity: A Biblical Guide
Families Where Grace is in Place
The Mansion
63.
64. The ancients understood the treatment
of children much better, particularly the
method of communicating instruction. It
was by the pleasures of poetry and
music, that the principle sciences, the
maxims of virtue, politeness and good
manners were introduced among the
Hebrews, Egyptians, and Greeks.
65.
66.
67.
68. I must, however, repeat that it is necessary to
guard against making it a law for them to
hear, or be obliged to remember these stories,
much less to make them regular lessons.
Pleasure of itself must do the business; for
true education emerges from the bowels of
pleasure and a love for learning. Do not press
them; you will obtain your end even with the
slowest capacities; avoid over charging their
memory, and their curiosity will increase with
age.
Editor's Notes
Kinder Garden Flowers, before filling them with Latin and Greek, fill their lives with smiles and kindness…
Little boy in San Diego Airport
Fear leads to frustration, which leads to shame, which leads to hiding or aggression
We use fear to compensate for our own insecurities and selfishness
Fear is evidence that we are unable to trust God…and allow our children to make mistakes.
*When your life lives louder than….Do you want to control your children or influence them?
Character of the heart of God (MERCY 1000 GENERATIONS)
RESPONSIBILITY ABOVE RELATIONSHIP
Fully Loved, fully known without fear of rejection. Love never fails.
6 year old doing dishes; SHORTER INTERVALS
PUT THAT BIKE AWAY!
A child who doesn’t clean her room! counselor
What do you do when you see their faults?
Otherwise they will hide behind the mask and burrow deeper for self preservation and protection from shame.
HOPE MAKES US NOT ASHAMED. SPEEDING TICKET
Let them see we’re on their side! (Teddy’s Button—Bully, Mean)
Adversarial Relationship fills Reservoir –empty it, focus on heart issues not words…
Psalm 103 (God has not dealt) ELIJAH
David borrowing my shoes.
HOME LATE….PAST CURFEW
We have misunderstood the Scriptural teaching of spanking. Jonathan never responded to spanking. Stoning or spanking
(2) RAZOR Mach3
you will have many more opportunities to deal with their sin.
Love keeps no record of Evil, bears/believes all things, hopes all things Love Never FAILS!
Or else they will give up, lose hope.
Never good enough, lest they be discouraged!; Athumos—without spirit.
Enjoy – don’t project your perfectionism on to your children
1. Eph 6:4 – provoke not
- proximity, alongside, lit. from side of.
- to be passionate, enrage, to anger (from root word orgy - violent passions and perverted sexual relationships) abhorrence, vengeance, wrath, punishment.
Indulgence creates a lack of appreciation and appetite for what is good
Indulgence weakens one’s constitution
Work an end in itself,
Heap responsibility to fulfill adult dream or expectation
Responsibility above relationship leads to frustration
Be careful not to give too much – balance work and learning and play
See grace before experience discipline $20 bill Cell phone –
I have 2 boys – LAZY or HARD WORKERS – responsibility above relationships
It is important that you should know your own faults, which the children will very soon discover in you
I spent this time in our character because of II Part 1 – Faith, Virtue, then knowledge
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Jonathan came home late – focused on behavior missed heart
OR porche
*Deb making bed
Angry daughter who wouldn’t make bed
David – I can’t
Language Arts