courtship tradition and beliefs past and present

1. COURT
COURTSHIP
PHILIPPINE
COURTSHIP
HIP
PHILIPPINE
NE
COURTSHIP
PHILIPPINE
PHILIPPINE
PHIL

2. what isCOURTSHIP?
ESTABLISHMENT OF AN AGREED
RELATIONSHIP OF A MORE
ENDURING KIND.
A PERIOD IN A RELATIONSHIP
THAT PRECEDES ENGAGEMENT
OR MARRIAGE.

3. THE PHILIPPINES HAS
ESTABLISHED ITS OWN SET OF
UNIQUE, EXEMPLARY, AND
SYMBOLIC DATING TRADITIONS
AND CUSTOMS, MAKING IT MORE
APPEALING TO LOCALS AND
FOREIGNERS ALIKE.
PHILIPPINECOURTSHIP

4. TRADITIONAL
COURTSHIP
TRADITIONAL
COURTSHIP
COURTSHIP
TRADITIONAL
COURTSHIP

5. In this wooing form, parents of both the suitor and the
pursued lady are present in the event where love
riddles are delivered for two major purposes: to
showcase certain expressions of love and to assess the
sentiments of the parents of both parties.
After everything is done, they will settle the price in a
form of dowry.
Pasaguli or Riddle
COURTSHIP

6. commonly given by
the groom's family to
the bride before the
two can be married.
DOWRY

7. the most popularly-known
courtship gesture in the
Philippines
Harana or Serenade.
men introduce
themselves and woo
their admired lady by
serenading underneath
her window at night.

8. paninilbihan or act of servitude at the
lady’s home was executed by gentlemen in
order to depict their genuineness and
loyalty toward the woman they love and
adore.
Paninilbihan or
Servitude

9. This dating gesture was also
purposely required in order
for the woman’s parents to
assess whether the suitor’s
intentions were meant for real
or not.
Paninilbihan or
Servitude

10. involved a highly emotive and
expressive recitation of love verses by
the suitor to his adored lady.
Balak or Spoken Poetry.
Visayas region, most especially in Cebu
characterized by a powerful and beautifully-
constructed rhymes and stanzas that created
a higher emotional effect on the lady being
courted upon.

11. During the post-hispanic times in the
country, sending love letters was a
coveted dating and courtship norms.
Sending Love Letters
This gesture was inspired by
Dr. Jose P. Rizal who was so
fond of writing letters,
poems, and novels.

12. the gentleman asks a relative or friend of the
lady to hand in the letter for him.
whatever the response maybe, she will
respond to that letter and ask their mediator
again to carry the letter to the gentleman.
this had required a sufficient amount of
patience and understanding in the past as
sending letters through mediators takes a lot
of time.
Sending Love Letters

13. COURTSHIP
MODERN
MODERNCOURTSHIP
COURTSHIP
MODERN
MODERNCOURTSHIP

14. International Online Dating
young gentlemen court their desired
ladies through cellular phones.
becoming textmates and callmates is
actually the most trending courtship
medium in the Philippines for the
past several years

15. Texting and calling each other all the
time have become the reasons why
connections are strengthened, most
especially for budding relationships.
countless individuals have found their
partners via Facebook and Messenger as
both have become powerful tools in terms of
courtship and dating.
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16. Courting can now take place
without personal contact: virtual
dating, chatting online, sending
text messages, conversing over the
telephone, and instant messaging.
online dating services: Facebook,
Twitter, Instagram, Tinder, Tantan,
Grindr, Blued, and Fem etc.

17. PDA: The Trending Public
Courtship
The suitor, who are usually men,
would invite some of his friends to
join in serenading the girl he has
been courting for quite some time.
Along with the traditional harana,
comes gifts of flowers, chocolates and
letters with cheesy messages plus the
banners held by a company of suitors.

18. Plenty of couples also still go
through the processes of
panliligaw and pamamanhikan,
although customs such as the
hand fan language and gender
separation have long been
outdated.

19. In traditional dating, males are expected to
take a more active role, exert more effort,
and couples reserve sexual activity for
marriage. In contemporary dating, the
gender roles and sexual boundaries have
become blurred and men are no longer
initially exerting more effort than women.

20. Let us remember that modern lifestyles are
heavily influenced by technology and a
more individualistic approach to life, while
traditional lifestyles are often more
communal and focused on cultural norms
and values.

21. Sources:
Traditions of Courtship & Engagement in the Philippines. (2020, February
3). Sinta & Co. https://www.filipinowedding.com/blogs/wedding-
blog/traditions-of-courtship-engagement-in-the-philippines
Torres, I. (2019, March 20). Filipino Dating: Evolution of Courtship in the
Philippines. Medium. https://medium.com/@afacebu.irish/filipino-dating-
evolution-of-courtship-in-the-philippines-b4881a69aeee