1. Chronicles of a young single mother
Being a single mother is hard but being a young single mother at your late teens is extremely
difficult. I am not writing this for fun, am writing with a flame of hope that someone out there
can relate to it and somehow somewhere down the road they can be encouraged. Single parents’
especially single mothers populate our recent generation but where are the dads responsible for
the procreation. They are so committed to lay down have intercourse but why can’t the dads rise
up and take full responsibilities of their actions?
The society battles the woman for being pregnant at a young age. They brand you as a whore.
The society uproars to the fact that you went against your religious principles that were your
foundation as you grew. The thing is, they do not get to judge these young single mothers
instead, they should learn to embrace them and be their backbone.
In the African countries, we do not get the opportunities to put our children in a foster home, the
girl child get to carry the blame and shame that she brought to her family. She is shunned and
looked upon as an outcast. Some go to the extent of being chased out of their homesteads and
they are married off to men they are not attracted to. Why do the girl child has to leave school
just because she has gotten pregnant? Yet the boy child goes on with life as if nothing happened
to him.
I got pregnant after my first year in university, I was heartbroken, I sought refuge into another
person’s arm, and in the process, I had unprotected sex, I escaped contracting Sexually
transmitted diseases but I had a life inside me. Being a pastor daughter and a Sunday school
teacher, it was an unbearable shame but I had to make a decision, to bear the shame and have a
baby or to abort and still uphold the title with grace. I chose the rough path and decided to get a
baby.
They say never to marry a single mother. I won’t justify that opinion. Single mums made a
decision to hold to their dignity, give a life to an innocent being. Those mums know the reason
why they are strong to raise beautiful souls alone. It is easier to raise a strong child than repair a
broken man. Shout out to all young single mums who are proud of their children and hold their
head high even when men in the society judge them differently