This document provides an overview of a 5-week program to improve marriages called "Bloom!". It discusses how marriages can get stuck in a "Doom cycle" by breaking oneness, and how focusing on cherishing and respecting each other through communication and understanding love languages can help marriages "Bloom". The homework involves committing to better understand and meet each other's core needs of feeling cherished and respected.

1. Bloom!
A 5-WEEK TUNE-UP FOR ANY MARRIAGE
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2. Whether you are fully aware of it or not,
you are in one cycle or the other
Doom Vs.
Bloom
Cycle Cycle
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3. WHY WE DOOM
“ONENESS BROKEN”
Finances Passions/Hobbies
Family Health
Kids Career
Loss Addictions
Friends Culture
Your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over
3 you…through painful toil…all the days… Gen. 3

4. HOW WE BLOOM
“ONENESS SUSTAINED”
Finances Passions/Hobbies
Family
Health
Kids
Career
Loss
Addictions
Friends Culture
…they will become one flesh Gen. 2:24
4 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Eph. 5:21

5. WHY WE MUST BLOOM
God patterned them after Himself. Gen. 1:27
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…so that we can be mirrors that reflect His glory 2Cor. 3:18

6. HOMEWORK:
A COMMITMENT PLAN
-to sacrificially love daily, yearly, & seasonally
1. Find your vows and verses. Decide what to do with them.
2. Clarify your top 2 love languages and list 5 ways it can be met
3. Determine what are the top 3 threats to your oneness
4. List the top 5 reasons you married the other
5. Discuss how you will handle your future anniversaries
Bonus:
Within the next 6 weeks, write a note of recommitment
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7. What it takes to BLOOM!
The 5 key nutrients:
•Commit to Love
•Cherish & Respect
•Be Gracious & Forgive
•Choose the Right Words
•Seek a Greater Purpose
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8. DOOMING Myth #2:
Most spouses know the
other’s core need
BLOOMING Truth #2:
Most spouses’ core needs are
unidentified and go unmet
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9. CORE NEED OF WOMAN/MAN
WOMAN MAN
CHERISHED RESPECTED
relationship-oriented task-oriented
nurturers fixers
“The One” “The Hero”
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10. CORE PROBLEM OF WOMAN/MAN
“Our ability to cherish and respect
one another is hampered by the sin
in us and the sin we see in others.”
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11. CORE SOLUTION FOR WOMAN/MAN
Ephesians 5
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for
Christ…
33 However, each one of you (husbands) also must
love (cherish) his wife as he loves himself,
and the wife must respect her husband.
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12. CHERISH & RESPECT
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself,
and the wife must respect her husband. Eph. 5:33
with
cherish
she
“DOOM”
he
responds responds without
respect
with
respect he she
reacts reacts
“BLOOM”
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cherish

13. C&R SIMPLE ACTION
Commit to love the other
in their love language
and
they will feel
cherished or respected.
LL=CR
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14. C&R SIMPLE COMMUNICATION
Husbands to Wives:
“Lately, I have felt disrespected by you, what have I been doing
to not make you feel cherished.”
Wives to Husbands:
“Lately, I have not felt cherished by you,
what have I been doing to not make you feel respected.”
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15. HOMEWORK:
CHERISH & RESPECT
1. Husband asks the following:
What have I done or failed to do to make you feel uncherished?
What are some things I can do to make you feel cherished?
2. Wives ask the following:
What have I done or failed to do to make you feel disrespected?
What are some things I can do to make you feel respected?
3. Together reflect back on your love language lists
to see how the cherish and respect needs relate.
4. Pray daily asking God’s help to cherish/respect your spouse.
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