This document is an introduction to a book about female sexuality and pleasure. It discusses sexuality as a fundamental life force and natural drive for connection. Using the Hindu story of Shakti and Shiva as an example, it describes how sexuality and the desire for union gave rise to the universe itself. It argues that human sexuality is a combination of biological instincts and cultural learning, and that people can improve their skills and experiences with sex through education and practice. The introduction sets up the book as a guide to help readers fully understand and experience their own sexuality.
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Participants will be able to:
Define the four characteristics of Extreme Abuse (EA).
Name three categories of Extreme Abuse (EA).
Identify five strategies for practitioner self-care when working with EA survivors.
The matrix is a tool to help you identify what your overall, long term goals are. In addiction recovery, we call this Good Orderly Direction. The matrix helps you evaluate your options when faced with a problem so you can choose the response that most effectively uses your energy to help you keep moving toward your goals and being the type of person you want to be.
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The document summarizes a presentation on the neurobiology of regulation and resiliency given by Sophia Deborah Erez. It discusses how the triune brain, autonomic nervous system, and trauma can impact affect regulation. Specifically, it describes how trauma can cause the nervous system to become dysregulated and stuck in hyper-arousal or hypo-arousal states outside the optimal window of tolerance. The presentation emphasizes how developing self-regulation and expanding one's window of tolerance through trauma therapy can promote more resilient affect regulation.
WATCH this presentation here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HLBoiSbl9GM
This hour will include a definition of Extreme Abuse (EA) with examples divided into three categories: Pedophile-Porn Rings (PPR’s), Occult-Themed Abuse (commonly called “Ritual” or “Ritualized” Abuse), and Deliberate Trauma or Technical-Based Dissociation (DT-TBD), sometimes referred to as “Mind Control.” Practitioners will be given a tool for self-care when working with these extraordinary, yet often intense, clients.
Participants will be able to:
Define the four characteristics of Extreme Abuse (EA).
Name three categories of Extreme Abuse (EA).
Identify five strategies for practitioner self-care when working with EA survivors.
The matrix is a tool to help you identify what your overall, long term goals are. In addiction recovery, we call this Good Orderly Direction. The matrix helps you evaluate your options when faced with a problem so you can choose the response that most effectively uses your energy to help you keep moving toward your goals and being the type of person you want to be.
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El documento describe el método ARIPSO, un método de evaluación de riesgos psicosociales desarrollado para ser inclusivo para todas las personas trabajadoras, incluyendo aquellas con discapacidad. El método sigue las pautas internacionales y criterios de lectura fácil para hacerlo comprensible para todos. Se aplicó el método en empresas y Centros Especiales de Trabajo para determinar factores de riesgo y garantizar la salud y bienestar de los trabajadores.
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The document summarizes a presentation on the neurobiology of regulation and resiliency given by Sophia Deborah Erez. It discusses how the triune brain, autonomic nervous system, and trauma can impact affect regulation. Specifically, it describes how trauma can cause the nervous system to become dysregulated and stuck in hyper-arousal or hypo-arousal states outside the optimal window of tolerance. The presentation emphasizes how developing self-regulation and expanding one's window of tolerance through trauma therapy can promote more resilient affect regulation.
This document provides an overview of Victorian pornography and how it is defined. It discusses how pornography emerged as a distinct genre in the 18th century aimed at arousing audiences for commercial gain. Victorian pornography in particular targeted upper and middle class men as an exclusive genre. The document analyzes six Victorian pornographic novels published between 1828-1908 and discusses how they will be examined through the lenses of rape pornography, flagellation pornography, and theories of sadism. The overall argument is that Victorian pornography constructs women in complex and ambivalent ways beyond just portraying an idealized "pornotopia".
Sexy yoga 40 poses for mindblowing sex and greater intimacyTheotis Davis
First revealed over 2,000 years ago in the Kama Sutra, the link between yoga and sex has been generally recognized but widely ignored - until now. In Sexy Yoga, Ellen Barrett, popular author and instructor for New York's Crunch studios, offers the modern yoga student a specific program designed to transform and heighten sexual pleasure and lovemaking.
This program includes a series of asanas (postures) that use yoga's combination of movement, breathing, and focus to release sexual power. Sensual, erotic, and guaranteed to improve sexual performance, the poses are also designed to improve one's ability to navigate both the physical and emotional demands of intimacy. Rooted in the rich tradition of yoga but far from an esoteric Indian practice, the program in this book is suitable for everyone from new students to experienced yoga practitioners.
The document discusses the benefits of exercise for mental health. Regular physical activity can help reduce anxiety and depression and improve mood and cognitive functioning. Exercise boosts blood flow and levels of neurotransmitters and endorphins which elevate and stabilize mood.
- Alexia, formerly a man, has been transformed into a woman through advanced nanotechnology by a company conducting experiments.
- She is brought to meet Beladona, a powerful woman who will be her new owner/lover. They begin to have a sexual encounter where Beladona establishes herself as the dominant partner.
- However, Alexia's new instincts and hunger take over as she pleasures Beladona intensely. Beladona tries to reassert control but finds herself giving in to pleasure. Their dynamic remains unclear as Alexia's full abilities and drives are still unknown.
Reality Vs Fantasy: 10 Ways Porn Can Ruin Your Sex Lifeleadingedgehealth
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Self-compassion involves being kind and understanding towards oneself, recognizing one's shared human experiences and imperfections, and mindfulness. It consists of three main elements - self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness. Research has shown that self-compassion is linked to greater psychological well-being and resilience, as well as increased empathy, altruism, life satisfaction, and emotional intelligence. An 8-week Mindful Self-Compassion program teaches techniques such as mindfulness meditation, compassionate body scanning, and transforming relationships to cultivate self-compassion.
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The document provides an overview and instructions for various Kamasutra sex positions, organized into categories of Acrobatic, Face to Face, Sideways, Sitting, and From Behind. It includes images and descriptions of positions, some with tips or variations. Copyright information is also provided.
This document discusses the Liar's Paradox, a self-referential sentence that leads to a logical contradiction. The classic example is the sentence "This sentence is false." If the sentence is true, then it is false, but if it is false, then it is true. The document explores this paradox through different interpretations of the sentence, showing it can be both true and false at the same time, forming a loop with no clear answer. It concludes the Liar's Paradox results in a contradiction that is inherently unsolvable.
Presented at Bengkel Motivational Interviewing “Motivating Changes in Your Patients”, Bahagian Perkhidmatan Farmasi, Kementerian Kesihatan Malaysia. 25-26 April 2016.
The document provides an overview of mindfulness, including its history and origins in Buddhism, definitions, constructs and measures, types of mindfulness practices, links to neurobiology, and applications in psychotherapy and treatment of psychiatric illnesses. It traces the concept of mindfulness from ancient Buddhist texts to its modern conceptualization and operationalization in psychological research and clinical practice. Key points covered include the four noble truths of Buddhism, definitions emphasizing present-moment non-judgmental awareness, methods of measuring mindfulness as a trait, state and practice, formal and informal practice types, associated neurobiological changes, and specific mindfulness techniques.
Gestalt therapy was developed in the 1940s-1950s and focuses on developing self-awareness and personal responsibility. It views individuals as defined by their relationships with others and in a state of constant change. The goal is to increase awareness of how one functions with others. Principles include holism, field theory, figure formation, and organismic self-regulation. Methods include the cycle of experience, addressing resistances, and different levels of experimentation. While research is limited, studies found clients improved more than average. Gestalt therapy may be most suitable for educated individuals addressing alienation and personal estrangement issues.
This document promotes the benefits of sex dolls for improving one's sex life and techniques. It argues that sex dolls allow users to practice and improve their skills without pressure. Additionally, it notes that dolls can fulfill needs for companionship and that they have multiple uses beyond sex, including art, fashion displays, and emotional coping. The document encourages visiting their website to learn more about purchasing a doll.
This document provides tips and techniques for making any woman squirt through female ejaculation. It begins with an introduction explaining that becoming educated about female sexuality and anatomy, being emotionally present with your partner, and knowing good techniques will allow you to greatly please a woman. The document then discusses the author's personal experience with learning to squirt and how it transformed her sex life. The remainder of the document provides details on female anatomy, different types of female orgasms, exercises for strengthening pelvic floor muscles, and specific techniques for stimulating the G-spot and clitoris to help a woman experience squirting.
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The document discusses the benefits of exercise for mental health. Regular physical activity can help reduce anxiety and depression and improve mood and cognitive function. Exercise causes chemical changes in the brain that may help protect against mental illness and improve symptoms.
Samarel's new book entitled "Sama Sutra" is now available at
www.samarelart.com
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This document discusses counseling and the characteristics of an effective counselor. It begins by defining counseling and differentiating it from guidance and psychotherapy. Counseling focuses on development, prevention, and short-term treatment, while psychotherapy addresses more serious issues through long-term relationships. Guidance provides information and helps with adjustment.
The document then outlines the key characteristics and qualifications of an effective counselor, including advanced listening skills, empathy, confidentiality, and the ability to challenge clients respectfully. Counselors must understand theories of personality and be aware of multicultural issues. They require a master's degree and clinical experience, as well as ongoing training. The goal of counseling is to help clients gain self-understanding and make positive changes
This document is the introduction to a book that examines the peculiarities of love and sex from various perspectives. It discusses how Charles Darwin only identified physical touch as the expression of love across species. It notes that while sex acts exist universally, perspectives on sex are not universal and change across cultures and times. The introduction defines sexuality broadly based on a WHO definition, noting it is influenced by biological, psychological, social and other factors. It argues that love and sex cannot be generalized or isolated from these influences.
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San Francisco State University
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Uses of the Erotic:
The Erotic as Power*
THERE ARE MANY kinds of power, used and unused, acknowl-
edged or otherwise. The erotic is a resource within each of us
that lies in a deeply female and spiritual plane, firmly rooted in
the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling. In order
to perpetuate itself, every oppression must corrupt or distort
those various sources of power within the culture of the op-
pressed that can provide energy for change. For women, this has
meant a suppression of the erotic as a considered source of
power and information within our lives.
We have been taught to suspect this resource, vilified, abused,
and devalued within western society. On the one hand, the
superficially erotic has been encouraged as a sign of female in-
feriority; on the other hand, women have been made to suffer
and to feel both contemptible and suspect by virtue of its ex-
istence.
It is a short step from there to the false belief that only by the
suppression of the erotic within our lives and consciousness can
women be truly strong. But that strength is illusory, for it is
fashioned within the context of male models of power.
As women, we have come to distrust that power which rises
from our deepest and nontational knowledge. We have been
warned against it all our lives by the male world, which values
• Paper delivered at the Fourth Berkshire Conference on the History of Women, Mount
Holyoke College. August 25, 1978. Published as a pamphlet by Out & Out Books
(available from The Crossing Press).
53
54 SISTER OUTSIDER
this depth of feeling enough to keep women around in order to
exercise it in the service of men, but which fears this same depth
too much to examine the possibilities of it within themselves. So
women are maintained at a distantlinferior position to be
psychically milked, much the same way ants maintain colonies
of aphids to provide a life-giving substance for their masters.
But the erotic offers a well of replenishing and provocative
force to the woman who does not fear its revelation, nor suc-
cumb to the belief that sensation is enough.
The erotic has often been misnamed by men and used against
women. It has been made into the confused, the trivial, the
psychotic, the plasticized sensation. For this reason, we have
often turned away from the exploration and consideration of
the erotic as a source of power and information, confusing it
with its opposite, the pornographic. But pornography is a direct
denial of the power of the erotic, for it represents the suppres-
sion of true feeling. Pornography emphasizes sensation without
feeling.
The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of
self and the chaos of ou.
This document provides an overview of Victorian pornography and how it is defined. It discusses how pornography emerged as a distinct genre in the 18th century aimed at arousing audiences for commercial gain. Victorian pornography in particular targeted upper and middle class men as an exclusive genre. The document analyzes six Victorian pornographic novels published between 1828-1908 and discusses how they will be examined through the lenses of rape pornography, flagellation pornography, and theories of sadism. The overall argument is that Victorian pornography constructs women in complex and ambivalent ways beyond just portraying an idealized "pornotopia".
Sexy yoga 40 poses for mindblowing sex and greater intimacyTheotis Davis
First revealed over 2,000 years ago in the Kama Sutra, the link between yoga and sex has been generally recognized but widely ignored - until now. In Sexy Yoga, Ellen Barrett, popular author and instructor for New York's Crunch studios, offers the modern yoga student a specific program designed to transform and heighten sexual pleasure and lovemaking.
This program includes a series of asanas (postures) that use yoga's combination of movement, breathing, and focus to release sexual power. Sensual, erotic, and guaranteed to improve sexual performance, the poses are also designed to improve one's ability to navigate both the physical and emotional demands of intimacy. Rooted in the rich tradition of yoga but far from an esoteric Indian practice, the program in this book is suitable for everyone from new students to experienced yoga practitioners.
The document discusses the benefits of exercise for mental health. Regular physical activity can help reduce anxiety and depression and improve mood and cognitive functioning. Exercise boosts blood flow and levels of neurotransmitters and endorphins which elevate and stabilize mood.
- Alexia, formerly a man, has been transformed into a woman through advanced nanotechnology by a company conducting experiments.
- She is brought to meet Beladona, a powerful woman who will be her new owner/lover. They begin to have a sexual encounter where Beladona establishes herself as the dominant partner.
- However, Alexia's new instincts and hunger take over as she pleasures Beladona intensely. Beladona tries to reassert control but finds herself giving in to pleasure. Their dynamic remains unclear as Alexia's full abilities and drives are still unknown.
Reality Vs Fantasy: 10 Ways Porn Can Ruin Your Sex Lifeleadingedgehealth
Porn addiction can ruin your sex life, as well as your career. Although difficult, you can resist the temptation of watching porn by discussing your problems with the right person.
Magazines download. magazines online. pdf magazines Downmagaz
This document provides a list of magazines available for download from the website http://downmagaz.com, including magazines about aviation and space, architecture, art, business, cars, comics, computers, digital media, families, fantasy, fashion, films, fishing, fitness, food, photography, men, games, gardening, health, hobbies, interiors, knitting, the military, music, news, science, sports, technology, travel and other topics. It allows users to search magazines, view the latest magazines uploaded, and read previews of magazine articles.
Self-compassion involves being kind and understanding towards oneself, recognizing one's shared human experiences and imperfections, and mindfulness. It consists of three main elements - self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness. Research has shown that self-compassion is linked to greater psychological well-being and resilience, as well as increased empathy, altruism, life satisfaction, and emotional intelligence. An 8-week Mindful Self-Compassion program teaches techniques such as mindfulness meditation, compassionate body scanning, and transforming relationships to cultivate self-compassion.
The Kama Sutra Guide You've Been Looking ForSpices Of Lust
The document provides an overview and instructions for various Kamasutra sex positions, organized into categories of Acrobatic, Face to Face, Sideways, Sitting, and From Behind. It includes images and descriptions of positions, some with tips or variations. Copyright information is also provided.
This document discusses the Liar's Paradox, a self-referential sentence that leads to a logical contradiction. The classic example is the sentence "This sentence is false." If the sentence is true, then it is false, but if it is false, then it is true. The document explores this paradox through different interpretations of the sentence, showing it can be both true and false at the same time, forming a loop with no clear answer. It concludes the Liar's Paradox results in a contradiction that is inherently unsolvable.
Presented at Bengkel Motivational Interviewing “Motivating Changes in Your Patients”, Bahagian Perkhidmatan Farmasi, Kementerian Kesihatan Malaysia. 25-26 April 2016.
The document provides an overview of mindfulness, including its history and origins in Buddhism, definitions, constructs and measures, types of mindfulness practices, links to neurobiology, and applications in psychotherapy and treatment of psychiatric illnesses. It traces the concept of mindfulness from ancient Buddhist texts to its modern conceptualization and operationalization in psychological research and clinical practice. Key points covered include the four noble truths of Buddhism, definitions emphasizing present-moment non-judgmental awareness, methods of measuring mindfulness as a trait, state and practice, formal and informal practice types, associated neurobiological changes, and specific mindfulness techniques.
Gestalt therapy was developed in the 1940s-1950s and focuses on developing self-awareness and personal responsibility. It views individuals as defined by their relationships with others and in a state of constant change. The goal is to increase awareness of how one functions with others. Principles include holism, field theory, figure formation, and organismic self-regulation. Methods include the cycle of experience, addressing resistances, and different levels of experimentation. While research is limited, studies found clients improved more than average. Gestalt therapy may be most suitable for educated individuals addressing alienation and personal estrangement issues.
This document promotes the benefits of sex dolls for improving one's sex life and techniques. It argues that sex dolls allow users to practice and improve their skills without pressure. Additionally, it notes that dolls can fulfill needs for companionship and that they have multiple uses beyond sex, including art, fashion displays, and emotional coping. The document encourages visiting their website to learn more about purchasing a doll.
This document provides tips and techniques for making any woman squirt through female ejaculation. It begins with an introduction explaining that becoming educated about female sexuality and anatomy, being emotionally present with your partner, and knowing good techniques will allow you to greatly please a woman. The document then discusses the author's personal experience with learning to squirt and how it transformed her sex life. The remainder of the document provides details on female anatomy, different types of female orgasms, exercises for strengthening pelvic floor muscles, and specific techniques for stimulating the G-spot and clitoris to help a woman experience squirting.
Stunning young milf flaunts her alluring bubble butt in pink heels. hot xxx showssuser78cb72
The document discusses the benefits of exercise for mental health. Regular physical activity can help reduce anxiety and depression and improve mood and cognitive function. Exercise causes chemical changes in the brain that may help protect against mental illness and improve symptoms.
Samarel's new book entitled "Sama Sutra" is now available at
www.samarelart.com
It shows positions for making love like the Kama Sutra does. Erotic short stories by Femme de Scorpion, gorgeous erotic art by Samarel, and a bunch of erotic poetry by Deni. Can be enjoyed and given to your lover(s).
Don' miss your opportunity to hold this in your hands, and feast upon it with your eyes!
BE APART OF THE NEW LOOK AND STAND OUT!
"ARE YOU AN ARTIST OR COMPANY THAT NEEDS MORE EXPOSURE? IF SO, LOOK MAGAZINE USA/ XXX ADVERTISEMENTS
ARE AS LOW AS $1"
Subscribe to Look Girl Magazine USA /Look Girl Magazine XXX IF YOU LOVE OUR CONTENT!!!
Are you a Social media Model looking for exposure? If so, Sign up and submit your photos to be considered for ad postings, content marketing and other opportunities for LOOK GIRL 2024 or LOOK GIRL XXX 2024 must be 18+ or older for XXX and also to hear from us about: special offers, merch sales, and token events, in a city near you.
Introduction to counseling and effective counselorjayapratha9
This document discusses counseling and the characteristics of an effective counselor. It begins by defining counseling and differentiating it from guidance and psychotherapy. Counseling focuses on development, prevention, and short-term treatment, while psychotherapy addresses more serious issues through long-term relationships. Guidance provides information and helps with adjustment.
The document then outlines the key characteristics and qualifications of an effective counselor, including advanced listening skills, empathy, confidentiality, and the ability to challenge clients respectfully. Counselors must understand theories of personality and be aware of multicultural issues. They require a master's degree and clinical experience, as well as ongoing training. The goal of counseling is to help clients gain self-understanding and make positive changes
This document is the introduction to a book that examines the peculiarities of love and sex from various perspectives. It discusses how Charles Darwin only identified physical touch as the expression of love across species. It notes that while sex acts exist universally, perspectives on sex are not universal and change across cultures and times. The introduction defines sexuality broadly based on a WHO definition, noting it is influenced by biological, psychological, social and other factors. It argues that love and sex cannot be generalized or isolated from these influences.
Essays and Speeches by Audre Lorde Notice This m.docxdebishakespeare
Essays and Speeches
by
Audre Lorde
Notice
This materia! may be
protected by copyright
law (Hie 17 U.S Code)
San Francisco State University
~ The Crossing Press / Freedom, CA 95019
~ The Crossing Press Feminist Series
GByun
Copyright
Uses of the Erotic:
The Erotic as Power*
THERE ARE MANY kinds of power, used and unused, acknowl-
edged or otherwise. The erotic is a resource within each of us
that lies in a deeply female and spiritual plane, firmly rooted in
the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling. In order
to perpetuate itself, every oppression must corrupt or distort
those various sources of power within the culture of the op-
pressed that can provide energy for change. For women, this has
meant a suppression of the erotic as a considered source of
power and information within our lives.
We have been taught to suspect this resource, vilified, abused,
and devalued within western society. On the one hand, the
superficially erotic has been encouraged as a sign of female in-
feriority; on the other hand, women have been made to suffer
and to feel both contemptible and suspect by virtue of its ex-
istence.
It is a short step from there to the false belief that only by the
suppression of the erotic within our lives and consciousness can
women be truly strong. But that strength is illusory, for it is
fashioned within the context of male models of power.
As women, we have come to distrust that power which rises
from our deepest and nontational knowledge. We have been
warned against it all our lives by the male world, which values
• Paper delivered at the Fourth Berkshire Conference on the History of Women, Mount
Holyoke College. August 25, 1978. Published as a pamphlet by Out & Out Books
(available from The Crossing Press).
53
54 SISTER OUTSIDER
this depth of feeling enough to keep women around in order to
exercise it in the service of men, but which fears this same depth
too much to examine the possibilities of it within themselves. So
women are maintained at a distantlinferior position to be
psychically milked, much the same way ants maintain colonies
of aphids to provide a life-giving substance for their masters.
But the erotic offers a well of replenishing and provocative
force to the woman who does not fear its revelation, nor suc-
cumb to the belief that sensation is enough.
The erotic has often been misnamed by men and used against
women. It has been made into the confused, the trivial, the
psychotic, the plasticized sensation. For this reason, we have
often turned away from the exploration and consideration of
the erotic as a source of power and information, confusing it
with its opposite, the pornographic. But pornography is a direct
denial of the power of the erotic, for it represents the suppres-
sion of true feeling. Pornography emphasizes sensation without
feeling.
The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of
self and the chaos of ou.
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Essays and Speeches
by
Audre Lorde
Notice
This materia! may be
protected by copyright
law (Hie 17 U.S Code)
San Francisco State University
~ The Crossing Press / Freedom, CA 95019
~ The Crossing Press Feminist Series
GByun
Copyright
Uses of the Erotic:
The Erotic as Power*
THERE ARE MANY kinds of power, used and unused, acknowl-
edged or otherwise. The erotic is a resource within each of us
that lies in a deeply female and spiritual plane, firmly rooted in
the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling. In order
to perpetuate itself, every oppression must corrupt or distort
those various sources of power within the culture of the op-
pressed that can provide energy for change. For women, this has
meant a suppression of the erotic as a considered source of
power and information within our lives.
We have been taught to suspect this resource, vilified, abused,
and devalued within western society. On the one hand, the
superficially erotic has been encouraged as a sign of female in-
feriority; on the other hand, women have been made to suffer
and to feel both contemptible and suspect by virtue of its ex-
istence.
It is a short step from there to the false belief that only by the
suppression of the erotic within our lives and consciousness can
women be truly strong. But that strength is illusory, for it is
fashioned within the context of male models of power.
As women, we have come to distrust that power which rises
from our deepest and nontational knowledge. We have been
warned against it all our lives by the male world, which values
• Paper delivered at the Fourth Berkshire Conference on the History of Women, Mount
Holyoke College. August 25, 1978. Published as a pamphlet by Out & Out Books
(available from The Crossing Press).
53
54 SISTER OUTSIDER
this depth of feeling enough to keep women around in order to
exercise it in the service of men, but which fears this same depth
too much to examine the possibilities of it within themselves. So
women are maintained at a distantlinferior position to be
psychically milked, much the same way ants maintain colonies
of aphids to provide a life-giving substance for their masters.
But the erotic offers a well of replenishing and provocative
force to the woman who does not fear its revelation, nor suc-
cumb to the belief that sensation is enough.
The erotic has often been misnamed by men and used against
women. It has been made into the confused, the trivial, the
psychotic, the plasticized sensation. For this reason, we have
often turned away from the exploration and consideration of
the erotic as a source of power and information, confusing it
with its opposite, the pornographic. But pornography is a direct
denial of the power of the erotic, for it represents the suppres-
sion of true feeling. Pornography emphasizes sensation without
feeling.
The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of
self and the chaos of ou ...
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LAND USE LAND COVER AND NDVI OF MIRZAPUR DISTRICT, UPRAHUL
This Dissertation explores the particular circumstances of Mirzapur, a region located in the
core of India. Mirzapur, with its varied terrains and abundant biodiversity, offers an optimal
environment for investigating the changes in vegetation cover dynamics. Our study utilizes
advanced technologies such as GIS (Geographic Information Systems) and Remote sensing to
analyze the transformations that have taken place over the course of a decade.
The complex relationship between human activities and the environment has been the focus
of extensive research and worry. As the global community grapples with swift urbanization,
population expansion, and economic progress, the effects on natural ecosystems are becoming
more evident. A crucial element of this impact is the alteration of vegetation cover, which plays a
significant role in maintaining the ecological equilibrium of our planet.Land serves as the foundation for all human activities and provides the necessary materials for
these activities. As the most crucial natural resource, its utilization by humans results in different
'Land uses,' which are determined by both human activities and the physical characteristics of the
land.
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to significant land degradation, adversely affecting the region's land cover.
Therefore, human intervention has significantly influenced land use patterns over many
centuries, evolving its structure over time and space. In the present era, these changes have
accelerated due to factors such as agriculture and urbanization. Information regarding land use and
cover is essential for various planning and management tasks related to the Earth's surface,
providing crucial environmental data for scientific, resource management, policy purposes, and
diverse human activities.
Accurate understanding of land use and cover is imperative for the development planning
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and water managers, and urban planners, are interested in obtaining data on land use and cover
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help of Advanced technologies like Remote Sensing and Geographic Information Systems is
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This is part 1 of my Java Learning Journey. This Contains Custom methods, classes, constructors, packages, multithreading , try- catch block, finally block and more.
Exploiting Artificial Intelligence for Empowering Researchers and Faculty, In...Dr. Vinod Kumar Kanvaria
Exploiting Artificial Intelligence for Empowering Researchers and Faculty,
International FDP on Fundamentals of Research in Social Sciences
at Integral University, Lucknow, 06.06.2024
By Dr. Vinod Kumar Kanvaria
Reimagining Your Library Space: How to Increase the Vibes in Your Library No ...Diana Rendina
Librarians are leading the way in creating future-ready citizens – now we need to update our spaces to match. In this session, attendees will get inspiration for transforming their library spaces. You’ll learn how to survey students and patrons, create a focus group, and use design thinking to brainstorm ideas for your space. We’ll discuss budget friendly ways to change your space as well as how to find funding. No matter where you’re at, you’ll find ideas for reimagining your space in this session.
1. Sheri Winston
CNM, RN, BSN, LMT
Secret Maps to
Buried Pleasure
Women’s
Anatomy
of Arousal
2. v
Ta b l e o f C o n t e n t s
Section One
Maps, Models and Mistakes
One Sex, Sex, Sex—It’s All About Sex . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5
Two A Tale of Cultural Confusion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23
Three A Wholistic Sexuality Primer . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43
Four The Red-Hot Dance of Yin and Yang . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61
Section Two
Journey to the Origin of the World
Five Welcome to the Yoniverse . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 83
Six An Erector Set of Her Own . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101
Seven The Inner Sanctums . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 161
Eight Circuits and Cycles, Conduits and Connections . . . . 117
Section Three
Becoming an Erotic Virtuoso
Nine Head Games and Heart-Ons . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141
Ten Coming to Your Senses . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 185
Eleven Energy Magic and Smart Slut Tricks . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 213
Twelve The Easy Girl’s Guide to Making It Easy for Guys . . . 237
Notes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 254
About the Author/My Story . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 255
Bibliography . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 257
Index . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 261
This book is dedicated to the bold and the brave who take the
risk of questioning the status quo; to the pioneers and visionaries
who see beyond the scrim; and to the adventurers who explore the
edges, seek treasure and bring back riches for our enlightenment.
3. 1
A Woman Waits for Me
(excerpt)
b y Wa lt W h i t m a n
A woman waits for me,
she contains all, nothing is lacking,
Yet all were lacking if sex were lacking,
or if the moisture of the right man were lacking.
Sex contains all, bodies, souls,
meanings, proofs, purities,
delicacies, results, promulgations,
songs, commands, health, pride,
the maternal mystery, the seminal milk,
all hopes, benefactions, bestowals,
all the passions, loves, beauties, delights of the earth,
all the governments, judges, gods,
follow’d persons of the earth,
These are contain’d in sex as parts of itself
and justifications of itself.
Without shame the man I like knows and avows
the deliciousness of his sex,
Without shame the woman I like
knows and avows hers.
Jean Auguste
Dominique Ingres—
Venus Anadyomene
4. 3
Section One
Maps, Models and
Mistakes
Ar
“We don’t see things as they are,
we see things as we are.”
A n a i s N i n , taken from the Talmud
Jehan Cousin—Livre de pourtraiture, 1608
5. 5
C h a p t e r O n e
Sex, Sex, Sex—
It’s All About Sex
Ar
“Sex lies at the root of life, and we can never learn to
reverence life until we know how to understand sex.”
H av e l o c k E l l i s
Greetings!
M y n a m e i s S h e r i W i n s t o n , and I’ll be taking you on an in-depth,
illustrated tour of the land of female genitalia, feminine sexuality and
the intimate erotic arts. Whether you’re a man or a woman, the infor-
mation in these pages can help you have great sex, so long as you have
female parts or like to play with them.
I’ll begin with a love story that may just be the grandest love story of
all. It comes from the Hindu tradition.
The Love Song of Shakti and Shiva
In the beginning was the One. The One was all and everything, and for
eons it reveled in being One for millennia of magnificent unitary bliss.
Over the course of unimaginable time, however, the One grew bored.
(Even the Divine gets bored with itself eventually.)
So the One split into two. One part was Shakti—she of energy, flow,
and movement. The other was Shiva—he of consciousness, presence,
and purpose.
As soon as the one became two, they gazed upon each other, fell madly
in love, and wanted nothing more than to re-unite. They clasped each
other passionately and explored all the ways two could merge into one.
They entered each other and dissolved the boundaries between them.
For millennia they made love, exquisite erotic love. At long last they
again achieved oneness as they exploded in mutual simultaneous orgasm.
6. 6 W o m e n ’ s A n a t o m y o f A r o u s a l
In that moment, the entire universe was born. All life sprang into being
and is springing still. It was the original big bang!
The story of Shakti and Shiva is an origin story about the universe,
and a story about each and every one of us. Like them, we long for
connection, are magnetized by attraction, and drawn by the desire to
merge into oneness. Like them, passion is what connects us to all life,
and desire is our path to divine union.
Sex—The Essential Life Force
The saga of Shakti and Shiva reminds us that ecstasy is our birthright
and the source of all existence. It also tells us that sex is more than our
individual desires, erotic experiences, intimate connections and sexual
behavior. It is the deepest expression of the power of creation. The
mating drive is one of the most powerful forces in our world: it has to
be or we wouldn’t be here, gloriously alive amid the wondrous diversity
and complexity of existence. Asexual reproduction was a great starter
plan for Earth, but it takes the desire to mate and mingle genes to birth
the unimaginable and wondrous biodiversity of our world. Sex is the
basic urge to merge.
Shakti Shiva Thanka
7. S e x , S e x , S e x — I t ’ s A l l A b o u t S e x 7
Your individual sexuality is your small piece of that primal power—the
vital, pulsing life force. Your sexuality connects to that cosmic energy:
they are one and the same thing, only on the micro and macro levels.
How you relate to that immense power has a pervasive impact on your
life. You can repress your sexuality. You can go “repression light” and
downplay it. Or, you can take the other road and . . . celebrate it! Your
sexuality can take you on a sacred
ecstatic path that unites you
profoundly to all life throughout
time. At the end of the day, the
choice is yours. You can learn
to fully and consciously open
the inner portal to your sexual
life force, and in so doing gain access to divine bliss and link to your
uninhibited wild power. That exquisite connection to the cosmos—the
erotic cosmos—resides inside you, right there in your sexy center.
If sex were merely the natural mating behavior of putting Tab A into
Slot B, everyone would be good at it. But sex isn’t just about who we do
and how we do them, and it isn’t only about the ways we get aroused and
orgasmic, either. Your sexuality goes to the heart of who you are. All of
your relationships, not just your actively sexual ones, grow from this root.
Sheri Winston—Shakti and Shiva Making Love
“Sexual love is the most
stupendous fact of the universe,
and the most magical mystery
our poor blind senses know.”
A m y L o w e l l
8. 8 W o m e n ’ s A n a t o m y o f A r o u s a l
When I say “all of your relationships,” I mean that literally...including
your most significant connection of all, your relationship with yourself.
If you want to have better sex and more satisfying intimate relationships,
the place to begin is with yourself—and, more specifically, with your
relationship to your own sexuality.
The Learning Animal
The more you understand who you are sexually and how you operate,
the better you’ll do in all aspects of your life, sex included. There’s no
question that sex is a natural behavior, which for most animals means an
automatic “acting out” of their breeding blueprint. But we are humans—
a very fancy sort of animal indeed—with special, big, malleable brains.
We are the learning animal. As such, each of us is the result of a com-
plex interplay between a long slow evolutionary process and our local
and unique influences and environment. Not only are you the result of
a dance between biology and culture, you are a dance between biology
and culture! You entwine nature and nurture; you weave together what
is inborn with what you’ve learned. All these forces and factors together
create your own unique sexuality. Know thyself—learn about thyself!—
and you’ll know how to access your ecstasy.
François Boucher—Education of Cupid
9. S e x , S e x , S e x — I t ’ s A l l A b o u t S e x 9
Hardware and Software
When I tell people I’m a sex teacher, I
sometimes get this response: “Sex is
natural! I don’t need a teacher for
that.” This is both true and not true.
In some ways, humans are like
computers. We come equipped
with hardware, the factory-installed
equipment we were born with. The
forces of nature shaped evolution and
produced our unique DNA blueprint, giving
us blue eyes or brown skin. It also hardwired
us with certain types of sexual behavior. We all
know about the basic mammalian humping
motion, for instance. This isn’t something we learned at school, and we
didn’t need Nike to inspire us, either. We just do it.
We’re not just our hardwiring, though. We also come loaded with
lots of software—our extensive programming, also known as culturally
learned behavior. We probably do more learning than any other species.
Much of our sexuality is learned, absorbed throughout our lifetime as
we simmered in the soup of culture. We learn from our culture how
to kiss and caress, what’s acceptable and what’s taboo, what’s hot and
what’s not.
In other words, sex is natural and we learn sex. And you know what?
If it’s learnable, then we can learn to get better at it. We can unlearn bad
habits and acquire new skills, whether the activity in question is scuba
diving, speaking a foreign language, or sex. While it’s true that people
bring varying levels of aptitude to what they do, we all have what it takes
to get more skilled at the erotic arts. Our software is made for upgrading.
If you’re one of those people who thinks that sex is something you do,
not something you learn, I invite you to reconsider that view. It’s only
partially correct and not especially useful. Why corral your potential
unnecessarily? If you believe your sexual status quo is all that’s possible,
then that’s all you’ll ever have. But if you believe that you can develop
erotic mastery, then that’s what you’ll achieve, so long as your faith is
accompanied by commitment and skilled guidance.
We’re all on a lifelong learning journey. By making sex a conscious part
of it, you can make your whole life better—filled with more pleasure,
power and connection.
Sheri Winston—Hardware
and Software
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The Planet of Missing Information
This book builds on a framework I’ve developed called Wholistic Sexu-
ality, an empowering vision of healthy, loving, responsible, respectful
and ecstatic sexuality. Wholistic Sexuality honors the wisdom of ancient
sex-positive societies, incorpo-
rates modern scientific research
and embraces the mind-
body-spirit-heart connection.
Anatomy matters—anatomy
matters a lot!—but at the end
of the day, great sex is about
much more than physiology.
One of the foundational premises of Wholistic Sexuality is that, if we
want to fulfill our erotic potential, we need accurate models to guide us.
Unfortunately, in our culture, our sexual atlas has lots of missing pages,
and a lot of the maps that do exist are just plain wrong. We’re especially
challenged in our understanding of women, including both the specifics
of female anatomy and more immaterial concepts such as feminine
energy and power. Realistic, helpful models of female sexuality are not
easy to come by (so to speak), hence the focus of this book.
“You never change things by
fighting the existing reality.
To change something, build
a new model that makes the
old model obsolete.”
B u c k m i n s t e r F u l l e r
Thomas Rowlandson—The Concert, c. 1800
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It’s hard to believe that in this day and age, so much basic information
about female genital anatomy is missing from our science, our media
and our minds. Yes, we know there’s “stuff” down there, but the remark-
able truth is that our contemporary models of female genitalia are incom-
plete and inaccurate. Many
of the structures respon-
sible for arousal and orgasm
are absent from our models
or woefully misunderstood,
forcing women and their lov-
ers to look for that legendary
mega-orgasmic place without
a good map to guide them.
This book provides the model
you’ve been missing. Here,
you’ll find the map you need
to fully realize female sexual
potential, whether it’s yours,
your partner’s or both.
The heart (or perhaps crotch) of the book focuses on women’s sexual
anatomy, including all the parts women have (including the obscure ones)
and how they work together as an integrated system. Women have an
interconnected network of structures that act in concert to choreograph
arousal and orgasm.
Sadly, though, many women don’t know about their whole set of
equipment. And if that’s the case for women, who after all own the
apparatus, it’s doubly so for men!
If this is your situation, don’t feel bad. Very few people know about
these parts or understand how they enable both reproduction and erotic
ecstasy. I’m not just referring to “lay” people here. Many professionals,
including sex teachers and gynecologists, don’t have accurate or
complete maps, either.
If you’re like most women, you’re using only part of your genital
equipment to generate the music of stimulation, dance the path of
arousal, and ride the waves of your orgasmic potential. Now, it’s true that
you don’t need the entire system to have compelling erotic experiences.
But when you work with and master the entire arousal system, you’ll
experience every orgasmic cliché there is, and maybe discover some new
ones, too. You, too, can be an erotic virtuoso!
Leonardo Da Vinci—Studies of the Sexual Act,
1519
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What do I mean by this? I mean that you can learn to get turned on
wonderfully quickly when you choose to, and easily achieve states of
deep arousal. You can expand the kinds of stimulation that arouse you
to the point that it doesn’t matter much if your partner is sucking on
your pinkie or your clitoris—either way, it makes you wild. In addition,
you can provide your partner with over-the-top pleasure, not only due
to your technical skills but also because pleasuring him or her turns you
on so much! (That’s right, you can get off and even come from getting
your sweetie off!)
Last and definitely not least, you can achieve mastery in the wide,
wild and wonderful world of orgasm. You can be multi-orgasmic, mega-
orgasmic and much more-gasmic. All this awaits you through the
information in this book.
The Luscious Land of Arousal and Orgasm
Expertise in arousal and orgasm is where erotic virtuosity begins. So let’s
begin with a brief exploration of these realms.
Sexual arousal is an altered state of consciousness. An altered state
is any mind-body mode that operates differently from our everyday
awareness and transcends ordinary consciousness. Dreaming is one such
state. Meditation and daydreaming are
others. And, did you know that women
actually need to enter an altered state to
successfully labor and birth?
When we get turned on, we enter
a state of non-ordinary reality. The arousal trance is characterized by
deep awareness of bodily sensation, a decrease in pain perception and
often a feeling of timelessness. Our heightened pleasure can produce
euphoria and ecstasy. Our heart races, our breath quickens, and we
become absorbed and entranced. Self-consciousness evaporates and a
“An orgasm a day
keeps the doctor away.”
M a e W e s t
Leon
Comerre—
Danae and
the Shower
of Gold
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feeling of relaxed concentration takes over. When you’re aroused, you
don’t need to plan or think. The arousal itself becomes your guide: you
simply go where it takes you.
Arousal also draws us into an intense focus on our immediate physical
and emotional experience. We become acutely aware of our senses; our
mindscape overflows with sensational sensation. Our mundane daily
existence can be left far behind as we soar into the realm of the ecstatic.
Arousal alters our perception of both pain and pleasure. During
arousal, we become increasingly and exquisitely sensitive to pleasure. At
the same time, our ability to perceive pain diminishes, causing varying
levels of analgesia. This accounts for the experience of a sensation that
only minutes ago was irritating, painful, or simply not arousing now
giving intense pleasure. In arousal, the fine line between pleasure and
pain is constantly shifting, yet another reason why partners need to be
in constant communication about what is and isn’t working.
Although the capacity for arousal is something we’re all born with, we
can learn to deepen our arousal trance while expanding the pathways
that lead us into this blissful altered state of consciousness. The
more we allow ourselves to surrender to the trance, and the more we
cultivate the practices that bring us there, the more we’ll find ourselves
having the transcendent sex we dream of.
Climbing the Arousal Staircase
Arousal is a journey into enchantment, a trip into a dramatically altered
state of being. The process of arousal can be likened to climbing a set of
stairs composed of ten steps. The ground floor is ordinary reality. As we
Henri Gervex—The Birth of Venus, 1896
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start to get slightly turned on, we ascend to the first step, and as our arousal
increases, up we go. We can only ascend one step at a time, though. We
can’t soar from the ground floor to the top step in one giant leap. We require
the stimulus of a physiological feedback loop to propel us to the next level
of arousal, and so we need to proceed from step to step consecutively. We
can learn how to climb the steps quickly, and, conversely, how to slow down
and linger on a step, deepening each level of the journey.
This ten-step arousal process can most accurately be thought of as
having three separate phases of three steps each, plus a very special
tenth step. We can think of the first three steps as early arousal, the
middle three as medium-level arousal, and the last three as high-level
arousal. As for the tenth step, well, that one is a doozy. It’s the one we
get to once lift-off is complete and we’ve settled into orgasmic orbit. It’s
where we ride the wave of our orgasms.
To a significant degree, what happens while we’re in orbit remains
within our control. We can shape our orgasmic experience with our
intention, breath, sound and movement. In fact, we can use these sex
skills to keep climbing!
I heartily recommend that you don’t make getting to the tenth step
your priority, although it’s great to be able to get there quickly when you
want. In fact, I suggest that you make a habit of playing around on the
stairs for quite a while. Arousal trance states have depth—either more or
less, depending on how much time you spend dallying at each phase. The
deeper you get into your trance, the better. The more totally immersed
you become in any one particular step of arousal, the easier it will be to
Alexandre Cabanel—The Birth of Venus, 1863
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get to the next level, and it will also be less likely that you’ll get distracted
or jarred back down the stairs. The longer you build arousal, the more
energy you’ll have to ride and play with. The more rapt you are in your
own rapture, the more spectacular your peak experience will be.
The Varieties of Orgasmic Experience
I used to believe that there was basi-
cally only one type of orgasmic
experience. This was consistent
with the usual formal defini-
tion of orgasm as a short-lived
genital experience consisting
of successive waves of pleasur-
able spasms. This characterization
positions orgasm as a climactic event—
in other words, a finale. And it’s true,
that’s often what it is for people (almost always for guys, and fre-
quently for women). But orgasm can be much more than that:
• It can be wave upon wave of ecstasy lasting many minutes. You can
get to a place where you stay in a general state of orgasm, rising
and falling, cresting into the pleasure over and over again.
• You can experience orgasm in any part of your body, or in any of
your energy centers or chakras.*
• You can have orgasms that include only part of your genitals
(your clitoris, for instance) or ones that include every yummy bit
of your equipment.
• Your orgasm can transport you to an experience of yourself as divine.
• It can take the form of a shared love-gasm, centered in your heart
and the heart of your Beloved. (In fact, any of these experiences
can be experienced alone or with a partner.)
When you become an erotic virtuoso, you can learn to come easily and
often. You can also become an adventurer, let’s call it an “orgasmonaut,”
exploring the vast realms of orgasmic experiences.
* Chakras are energy centers or vortexes located in our energetic body. Although western medi-
cine is skeptical of their existence, they are foundational to the eastern healing traditions.
Gerda Wegener—Satyr, c. 1900
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The Altered States of Orgasmia
Ar
Here’s a short list (okay, not so short a list!) of types of orgasm I’ve
experienced:
• Little tickly genital-sneeze orgasms
• Big ones, bigger ones, and even bigger ones
• Megagasms (ridiculously huge ones that seem to go on forever)
• Multi-multi-multi-gasms
• Laugh-gasms
• Sob-gasms
• Love-gasms
• Chakra-gasms
• Releasing waves of flowing, “surrender” (or yin) orgasms
• Fierce clutching, driving (yang) orgasms
• Mini-orgasms and “aftershocks” (known as kriyas in the tantric
tradition)
• Energy orgasms ranging from small shuddery ones to huge body-
wracking ones
• Orgasms centered in different body parts and sex centers: mouth,
throat, heart, breasts and nipples, clitoris, pussy, uterus, ass.
• Full-body orgasms
• Projectile, squirting, gushing orgasms (orgasms with female ejaculation)
• Surprise orgasms that sneak up on you
• Telepathic mutual mind-blowers when you feel you’re in perfect
intuitive union with your partner.
If I’ve had these orgasms, you can have them, too!
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Owning Your Sexual Potential
The information in this book is drawn from many wells: my personal
life; decades of work as a midwife, women’s healthcare provider, holistic
healer and sex teacher; obscure scientific knowledge; modern sexology
research; and ancient sacred sexuality traditions. It was a very personal
journey that got me where I am today.
This will also be a personal (albeit guided) journey for you. These
pages have one purpose only: to facilitate your voyage. You have
everything you need to connect to your own power, create relationships
centered in love and integrity, and lead an erotically ecstatic life. You are
your own gateway, and also your sole authority.
Anyone who’s spent much time with doctors knows that while they
wear the expert’s white coat and sound authoritative, they don’t always
have the right answers. As a general principle, it’s wise to maintain a
healthy skepticism about official experts when they tell you about your
body and how to do things differently or better.
I firmly believe that it’s our duty to question authority. Just because
something is in a book or believed by most people doesn’t make it true.
That goes for this book and this ex-
pert, too. I’m claiming that wom-
en’s genitals have parts that have
gone missing in our culture. Here’s
my expert advice: don’t believe me.
Instead, check out my claims for
yourself, using the laboratory of
your own body.
What this means in practice is,
don’t just read. Do! Become an
intrepid explorer of your genitals
and sexual potential. Be a junior scientist and gather your own data.
Once you’ve done this, you’ll really know the truth, not because an
authority or book told you, but because you experienced it directly.
More Than Sex
I applaud you for your courage in picking up this book. Good for you (and
your partners, too!). I’m sure that, at a minimum, you did so because
you want to give and get more sexual pleasure and enjoy more fulfilling
erotic relationships. But this book isn’t only about how to have better
sex. It’s also about deepening your connection to yourself, accessing
“Do not believe anything
because it is said by an
authority, or if it is said to
come from angels, or from
Gods, or from an inspired
source. Believe it only if you
have explored it in your own
heart and mind and body
and found it to be true.”
B u d d h a
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more joy in all aspects of your life, having sustainable, authentic, and
joyous intimate relationships, and feeling fabulous about yourself. This
is about choosing happiness, reveling in your freedom, and experiencing
your divinity—all through the gateway of your sexuality.
Imagine what it would be like if your sexuality were integrated
with your whole being—your amazing mind, your wondrous body,
your loving heart, and your sacred spirituality. Picture yourself
able to honor your passions, revel in pleasure, and delight in your
sexuality. Envision yourself as a truly free being able to choose
healthy relationships that support your most empowered life. Imagine
loving your body . . . totally. Take a moment to see yourself, alone or
with a Beloved, in a beautiful temple where sex is a sacrament that
celebrates your erotic desires as a divine connection to all. Can you
see it? Do you want it? It’s yours for the claiming.
“Of the delights
of this world, man
cares most for
sexual intercourse,
yet he has left
it out of
his heaven.”
M a r k Twa i n
Antonio Correggio—Venus and Cupid with a Satyr
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A Note About Language
As discussed in greater detail elsewhere in this book, our culture hasn’t
given us a good vocabulary for talking about sex. We have scientific
terms (“vagina,” “penis”), baby talk (“tushy” and “wee-wee”), euphe-
misms (“down there”), and super-charged so-called dirty words like
(and, yes, I’m about to say them) “pussy” and “fuck.”
These last words and others of that ilk
shock and offend so much they’re banned
from radio and television. Yet they’re just
words, just a collection of sounds and
syllables that we collectively agree have
a certain meaning. They only mean what
we make them mean, and they’re only
“dirty” when we make them so.
As a healer, teacher and writer, I con-
stantly have to navigate the straits of the
limitations of our language. It’s not easy to
do: the choice is essentially between for-
mal to the point of pomposity (scientific
language), vague and silly (baby words and
euphemisms), and provocative (the “dirty words”). I’ve dealt with this by
being varied in my usage. Sometimes I’ve gone with the clinical term or
my own personal variations on them. Occasionally I opt for terms from
Sanskrit, the holy language of ancient India—using “yoni” for the female
genitalia and “lingam” for the penis—which have the blessing of being
sacred and the disadvantage of not being widely understood.
And I also use juicier language.
When I’ve taken the latter course, it hasn’t been to shock or offend. It
has, though, been a conscious choice, and, in a sense, a political act. The
simple truth is that we need a more straightforward, comfortable way to
talk about sex than our current language provides. One way to do this is
by taking the charge off words that currently titillate or offend. When I
use “fuck” or “pussy,” I do so for two reasons. First, they’re straightforward
and descriptive (and often sexy, fun and lighthearted). Second, by treating
them as if they have no charge, it helps to normalize them.
Some years ago, Eve Ensler’s Vagina Monologues took the V-word out
of the gutter and made vaginas respectable. At some point, hopefully in
the not-too-distant future, “pussy” and other so-called dirty words will
be equally legitimate and benign.
Utagawa Kunisada—Japan
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“I’m such a good lover because
I practice a lot on my own.”
W o o d y A l l e n
The Most Fun Homework, Ever
This book is divided into three sections and twelve chapters:
• The first section (Maps, Models and Mistakes) lays the
foundation for the material that follows. Consisting of four
chapters, it examines our confused cultural view of sexuality,
lays out the transformative Wholistic Sexuality framework, and
delves into ancient Taoist wisdom as a way of understanding
our sexuality.
• The second section (Journey to the Origin of the World) is also
made up of four chapters. It addresses everything you wanted to
know (and probably didn’t know to ask) about female genitalia.
• The third and final section (Becoming an Erotic Virtuoso) guides
you in taking what you’ve learned in the first two sections and
using it to achieve your full sexual potential. It includes a chapter
especially for men.
Achille Deveria—Woman Self-Pleasuring, 1857
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This book includes an array of suggestions of experiential things to
do. Call the activities games, exercises, practices, rituals, or whatever
works for you. Needless to say, you don’t have to do anything I tell you.
(I’m not your mother and you don’t listen to her, anyway!). I invite you
to check out each suggestion. If it sounds good, try it! Think of these
ideas as a smorgasbord, a banquet of choices. Feel free to take what
appeals to you and leave the rest. Try some new options that you haven’t
tasted before, or check back later and see if your desires have changed.
These are serving suggestions, not orders.
There is a great deal of visual material in this book. I encourage
you to spend time with it. Doing so will deepen your understanding of
female genitalia while also providing insight into how various cultures
have distorted our understanding of the female body.
Just looking isn’t enough, though. If you don’t actually view, feel,
touch, and play with the equipment, you’ll be less likely to discover your
pathways and potential.
Yes, that’s right. Women, I just told you to go play with yourself and
I meant it! Men, you’re welcome to help, if your goddess so desires. Be
hands-on ...literally!
In fact, if you really want to “get it,” you will need to both experience
and witness the transformations of arousal. These changes will help
you to fully understand what’s there, how it works, and how to make it
really happy.
Specifically, here’s what I recommend. While you read the anatomy
chapters, play along by checking out everything on your own (or a female
friend’s) body . . . with her consent, of course! Almost all the structures
I discuss can easily be felt, and most can be seen.
Start when you or your female partner are not aroused, and then
feel and see the structures again at different levels of arousal. It will
soon be eminently clear to you that this book’s description of female
genitalia is accurate. Plus, it makes doing your homework a whole
lot of fun. In fact, we should probably call it homeplay, because it’s
definitely not work!
Women, I suggest that you take the tour alone the first time. If you
are partnered, make a second trip to introduce your lover to the wonders
of your body.
To make your learning experience fun and easy, we’ve made liberal
use of sidebars, some of which run throughout the book. There are five
running sidebars in all:
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G u i d e d T o u r
S tep-by-step instructions for the female genital tour. Follow them to
get the most out of your homeplay sexploration.
Owner’s Manual
Greater detail about gynecological health issues that women will find
especially useful.
G o d d e s s G u i d e
Ways women can honor and connect to the spiritual power
of their bodies and sexuality.
Play and Practice
Activities, exercises, games and suggestions to help develop your erotic
skills and have more fun playing with yourself.
• H o t T i p s f o r G u y s •
These sidebars are designed to help men understand how to honor,
humor, handle and please the wondrous pussy and the women who own
them. Men, if you just want the essentials, check out these sidebars and
the short concluding chapter.
Whether you’re a man or a woman, I encourage you to enter this
book in a spirit of adventure, with optimism and an open mind. Why
accept cultural canards about sex when you can experience the amazing
reality? Why wait any longer to expand your repertoire of what’s
possible? Thank you for embarking on this journey toward your very
own authentic, sexiest self.