The document outlines Islamic principles regarding marriage, emphasizing the importance of choosing a suitable spouse based on moral conduct, religious belief, and compatibility. It discusses the roles and responsibilities of both husbands and wives, highlighting duties such as financial support and obedience, and stresses the significance of guidance in upbringing children. Additionally, it details the importance of mutual respect and communication within marriages, along with the accountability parents have towards their children's moral and religious education.

1. An Islamic Family

2. Golden RuleThe is no obedience to the creation in the disobedience of AllahAbdullah (b. Mas'ud) (Allah be pleased with him) reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said to us: 0 young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who cannot afford It should observe fast for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire.

3. Choosing a SpouseSurah Baqarah 2, Ayat 223Sahih International: Your wives are a place of sowing of seed for you, so come to your place of cultivation however you wish and put forth [righteousness] for yourselves. And fear Allah and know that you will meet Him. And give good tidings to the believers.IbnMajah, 1/633Choose carefully for your children; marry the suitable and give in marriage to them'Uthman (b. 'Affan) reported it directly from Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) that he said: A Muhrim should neithermarry (in that state) nor make the proposal of marriage.

4. Choosing SpouseSurah Nur 24, Ayat 32SahihInternational: And marry the unmarried among you and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves. If they should be poor, Allah will enrich them from His bounty, and Allah is all-Encompassing and Knowing.Al-TirmidhiIf a man comes [and asks for your daughter’s hand in marriage] who possess ethical cponduct and religious origin, then marry him [to her]. If you do not, it will be a great trial and mischief on the face of the earth.'Uqba b. 'Amir said on the pulpit that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: A believer is the brother of a believer, so it is not lawful for a believer to outbid his brother, and he should not propose an engagement when his brother has thus proposed until he gives it up.

5. Conditions  The Husband  Choosing SpouseMajorAkhlaq or Moral ConductReligionOptionalMeansAppearanceFertilityPietyIbn 'Umar (Allah be pleated with them) reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) having said: He who is invited to a wedding feast or like it, he should accept it.

6. The Wife  Choosing Spouse Major Religion Beauty Optional Lineage Wealth Pleasure Treasure Fertility Virgin / Youth~fulnessAbu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: A woman may be married for four reasons: for her property, her status. her beauty and her religion, so try to get one who is religious, may your hand be besmeared with dust.

7. Back Home Syndrome  Choosing Spouse Need to see the person Understand if the setting would work'Abdullah b. Amr reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman.

8. Compatibility  Choosing Spouse Intellectually Physically Financially Spiritually Morally Environmentally PsychologicallyAbu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: A believing man should not hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another.

9. 4- Point Method  Choosing SpouseIstishaarahIstikhaarah Determination TrustAbu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported: Woman has been created from a rib and will in no way be straightened for you; so if you wish to benefit by her, benefit by her while crookedness remains in her. And if you attempt to straighten her, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her.

10. Characteristics of a Man Man is a physical beingHe relies mostly on things that he can see, hold, touch and feel His expression is always materialistic He is always physically attractedLearns to love a woman who he is physically attracted toNarrated Ibn'Umar : The Prophet said, "All of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards. The ruler is a guardian and the man is a guardian of his family; the lady is a guardian and is responsible for her husband's house and his offspring; and so all of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards."

11. Characteristics of a Woman Woman is an emotional beingShe is more emotionally dependentShe learns to be attracted to a man who she lovesNarrated Ibn'Umar : The Prophet said, "All of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards. The ruler is a guardian and the man is a guardian of his family; the lady is a guardian and is responsible for her husband's house and his offspring; and so all of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards."

12. Rules of Engagement Adornment Deception DesireNarrated Aisha, UmmulMu'minin: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: What is unlawful by reason of consanguinity is unlawful by reason of fosterage.

13. Reason for Marriage Half of the ReligionCompanionshipFriendship SecurityChildrenBe part of building a Community Fulfill DesireMarry a best friend who is a loverNarrated AbuMusa : The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: There is no marriage without the permission of a guardian.

14. Pre-Requisite  MarriageBride & Groom Proposal AcceptanceMarry a best friend who is a lover'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: Fosterage makes unlawful what consanguinity makes unlawful.

15. Contract  MarriageWaliSound Mind AdultFreeSame religion as the brideMale Should we wise 2 Witness Announce Marriage :: Ish’harMarry a best friend who is a lover

16. Secret  Communication SkillsA man loves to prove himself by what he produces Men are physically based and women are emotionally based Try to learn each other’s hobbies and interests Women love men who listen Men and Women use different sides of the brain to process information which affects their communication skills Woman looks at the specifics while the man looks at the general pictureIbn" Abbas (Allah be pleased with thern) reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: If anyone amongst you intends to go to his wife he should say: In the name of Allah,0 Allah protect us against Satan and keep away the Satan from the one that you have bestowed upon us, and if He has ordained a male child for them, Satan will never be able to do any harm to him.

17. Do’s & Don’t’s Behavior Do stay focused on one answer at a time. Remember change takes time Don’t get defensive. That does not help resolve any issues Do acknowledge your partner’s feelings Don’t use guilt to get your way. It builds resentment and eventually backfires Don’t criticize your spouse in public Do criticize the action or behaviour Don’t dismiss your spouse’s feelings Do listen to your spouse’s concerns and offer to help Don’t give your partner the silent treatment Don’t have a “my way or the highway” attitude Do approach each discussion as a team effort to find solutions Don’t make cruel statements Do take a time out if you feel emotionally chargedNarrated Abdullah ibnAbbas : The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: A guardian has no concern with a woman previously married and has no husband, and an orphan girl (i.e. virgin) must be consulted, her silence being her acceptance.

18. Rights vs Duties  Behavior In judgement day you will be held accountable for your duties not rights In judgement day Allah will call all the oppressed people to get their rights from the people who did not give it to themAbu Huraira (Allah he pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may, peace be upon him) as saying: When a man invites his wife to his bed and she does not come, and he (the husband) spends the sight being angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.

19. Husband’s  Duties Financial Dowry Spending Allowance AccommodationAbu Sa'id al-Khudri (Allah he pleased with him) reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: The most wicked among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of judgment is the men who goes to his wife and she comes to him, and then he divulges her secret.

20. Husband’s  Duties Non-Financial Duties Fair division between wives Good treatmentMensesHaving funAwake or sleepHudaybiya ExampleSecretsProtectionPermissionNatureResentmentJealousyRomance Avoid causing harmAnas b. Malik reported: When anyone who has already a wife marries virgin, he should stay with her for seven nights (and then turn to his other wife), but when anyone having a virgin with him (as his wife) marries a woman who has been previously married he should stay with her for three nights. Khalid (one of the narrators) said. If I were to say that it could be directly traced to the Holy Prophet (may peace be upon him).

21. Wife’s  Duties Obedience Serving Make Herself Available Submitting No entry into house of anyone he dislikes Good manner Permission when leaving houseNarrated Abu Huraira : The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers.

22. Right Children Choose a righteous motherNarrated 'Aisha : An Ansari woman gave her daughter in marriage and the hair of the latter started falling out. The Ansari women came to the Prophet and mentioned that to him and said, "Her (my daughter's) husband suggested that I should let her wear false hair." The Prophet said, "No, (don't do that) for Allah sends His curses upon such ladies who lengthen their hair artificially."

23. Parent’s Duties  At Birth ChildrenTahneek Good Name Shave headAqeeqah Circumcision

24. Parent’s Duties  Upbringing  Children Shepherd over the flock Lead by example Be the role model Teaching Important Matters Islamic Aqeedah Good manner Gradual Teaching Prayer Fasting Hijab Hajj

25. Train Good Manners  Children Protection Know the companies kept by your children 21 year policy 1st 7 years love and affection 2nd 7 years discipline and teach them 3rd 7 years you become their friend Spend time now

26. Miscellaneous  Children Spend for the children Obligation Righteous deed Reward them Fair Treatment Treat all child equally Environment Major role Children are product of the following (if following is not congenial then change or improve) Community Environment FriendsHalaqa

27. Miscellaneous  Children Responsibility Parents are responsible for their children as per Allah Accountability If children are not gradually taught before puberty to pray and good moral behaviour, the parents will be accountable

28. Children’s Duties  Parents Act of Worship Kindness to Parents After prayer Kindness to parents are considered as the best and then JihaadDu’a Mother Number 1 woman in a Man’s life Number 2 woman is the wife in a man’s life Husband is the number 1 man in a woman’s life

29. Children’s Duties  Parents Act of Worship Kindness to Parents After prayer Kindness to parents are considered as the best and then JihaadDu’a Mother Number 1 woman in a Man’s life Number 2 woman is the wife in a man’s life Husband is the number 1 man in a woman’s life

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