Jackie Allred has been working towards her Bachelor's degree in History for 30 years while working full time and raising her two adopted children, Marissa and Alex. Her research paper focuses on understanding Marissa's emotional struggles with being adopted after Marissa found and contacted her birth parents. Through research on adoption forums and literature, Allred has come to understand that the experience of adoption affects all parties in complex ways, but the adopted child often reacts most strongly, though reactions vary significantly between individuals. Her goal is to help Marissa by gaining insight into the perspectives of adopted children and birth mothers.
Mary Gallert is an author who has written a number of novels, which she hopes to get published at some point in the near-future. Her creative works often focus on the subject of adoption, placing particular focus on the struggles that children face when growing up with the knowledge that they are adopted. She hopes that her work will help other people with the issues that she herself faced when she was younger, particularly those related to rejection and abandonment.
Presentation on book reviewing for the Virginia Assoc. of School Librarians, October 21, 2016. Includes discussion of controversial reviews and reactions to A TRIBE OF KIDS by Lane Smith.
Frank Peretti is a best-selling Christian author known for suspenseful novels. Some of his most popular works include the Veritas Project series and Cooper Kids Adventure series. His books often address themes of bullying and how one's experiences can shape their choices. Peretti's novels keep readers engaged through surprise twists and exploring mysteries around supernatural occurrences.
The document discusses three approaches to parenting: hands-off, hands-on, and "raising kids that float". The hands-off approach believes kids should self-raise, while the hands-on approach aims to protect kids and micromanage their behavior. However, both can backfire by not preparing kids for the real world. "Raising kids that float" teaches principles like unconditional love, accountability, and self-worth to equip kids to navigate culture positively. It argues for discussing culture openly and modeling how Jesus floated above His culture, rather than using strict rules which change constantly.
This document discusses toddlers' need for autonomy, control, and predictability in their lives to develop self-esteem and feel respected as human beings. It notes that when a toddler's basic needs and expectations are not met, it can lead to frustration, aggression, and a lack of self-respect. The document provides guidelines for caregivers to support toddlers' autonomy through choices, limits, routines, and allowing them to do things for themselves to develop a sense of control over their environment.
The document provides guidance for parents on how to respond if their child is being selected for psychiatric treatment and medication. It advises parents to recognize that their child is being labeled as having a disorder based on subjective judgments of their behavior not matching institutional standards. It warns that a diagnosis inevitably leads to treatment with psychoactive drugs that are dangerous and do not actually help children. The document encourages parents to remember the true nature of children, focus on relaxation instead of urgency, and view their child with delight rather than judgment.
This document discusses dealing with death, particularly the death of surrendered children for birth mothers. It shares several birth mothers' experiences finding that the children they surrendered had died, including from accidents, suicide, and murder. It discusses the grief and questions of "why me?" that arise. Seeking help from support groups and therapy can help with coping. While anger is valid, dwelling on it does not help. Maintaining spiritual beliefs helps avoid feelings of low self-worth. The death of a surrendered child means lost chances to reconnect, but also freedom from worries about potential rejection. Overall the document expresses that loss and difficulty make people stronger through coping with adversity.
Mary Gallert is an author who has written a number of novels, which she hopes to get published at some point in the near-future. Her creative works often focus on the subject of adoption, placing particular focus on the struggles that children face when growing up with the knowledge that they are adopted. She hopes that her work will help other people with the issues that she herself faced when she was younger, particularly those related to rejection and abandonment.
Presentation on book reviewing for the Virginia Assoc. of School Librarians, October 21, 2016. Includes discussion of controversial reviews and reactions to A TRIBE OF KIDS by Lane Smith.
Frank Peretti is a best-selling Christian author known for suspenseful novels. Some of his most popular works include the Veritas Project series and Cooper Kids Adventure series. His books often address themes of bullying and how one's experiences can shape their choices. Peretti's novels keep readers engaged through surprise twists and exploring mysteries around supernatural occurrences.
The document discusses three approaches to parenting: hands-off, hands-on, and "raising kids that float". The hands-off approach believes kids should self-raise, while the hands-on approach aims to protect kids and micromanage their behavior. However, both can backfire by not preparing kids for the real world. "Raising kids that float" teaches principles like unconditional love, accountability, and self-worth to equip kids to navigate culture positively. It argues for discussing culture openly and modeling how Jesus floated above His culture, rather than using strict rules which change constantly.
This document discusses toddlers' need for autonomy, control, and predictability in their lives to develop self-esteem and feel respected as human beings. It notes that when a toddler's basic needs and expectations are not met, it can lead to frustration, aggression, and a lack of self-respect. The document provides guidelines for caregivers to support toddlers' autonomy through choices, limits, routines, and allowing them to do things for themselves to develop a sense of control over their environment.
The document provides guidance for parents on how to respond if their child is being selected for psychiatric treatment and medication. It advises parents to recognize that their child is being labeled as having a disorder based on subjective judgments of their behavior not matching institutional standards. It warns that a diagnosis inevitably leads to treatment with psychoactive drugs that are dangerous and do not actually help children. The document encourages parents to remember the true nature of children, focus on relaxation instead of urgency, and view their child with delight rather than judgment.
This document discusses dealing with death, particularly the death of surrendered children for birth mothers. It shares several birth mothers' experiences finding that the children they surrendered had died, including from accidents, suicide, and murder. It discusses the grief and questions of "why me?" that arise. Seeking help from support groups and therapy can help with coping. While anger is valid, dwelling on it does not help. Maintaining spiritual beliefs helps avoid feelings of low self-worth. The death of a surrendered child means lost chances to reconnect, but also freedom from worries about potential rejection. Overall the document expresses that loss and difficulty make people stronger through coping with adversity.
This leaflet aims to gently inform people of an alternative perspective on life that has been kept secret. It discusses how we are all participating in a fascinating game, whether knowingly or not, and that some groups have kept the true rules of this game hidden. It provides recommendations for films, documentaries, websites and books that may help readers explore this perspective without trying to convince them of anything. The overall message is an invitation for people to play this game more consciously and join others in awakening.
This document provides recommendations for videos, films, and websites to learn about alternative perspectives on life that have been suppressed. It suggests searching YouTube for specific documentaries and comedians to find information on secret powers that control societies and keep people divided and fearful. The purpose is to invite people to consciously play the game of life and join others worldwide in waking up to these suppressed truths, regardless of background or beliefs. Nothing can overcome the power of love, and the more joyful and aware people become, the more powerful the "group consciousness."
Adoptive Families magazine has served adoptive families for over 30 years by providing authoritative parenting information. Each issue contains personal stories and advice from adoption professionals and parents. Readers consider the magazine a supportive community that understands their unique experiences. The magazine covers topics of interest to adoptive families like bonding, transracial adoption, and talking to children about adoption.
This document summarizes key points about recognizing issues with the psychiatric diagnosis and treatment of children. It notes that children are often selected for having "unacceptable" behavior and this leads inevitably to diagnosis and treatment. Treatment usually means prescription drugs, but these drugs like Ritalin are actually dangerous stimulants with many adverse side effects. The document argues that psychiatric diagnoses are not valid and the drugs do not truly help children but rather make them more obedient. It warns parents to recognize the oppression of "adultism" and be wary of those who emphasize a child's "potential" over who they are.
This document provides information on open adoption and discusses the potential pros and cons of open, semi-open, and confidential adoptions for birth parents, adoptive parents, and adopted children. It notes that no single type of adoption is best for every family and that the needs of each family may change over time. Resources for further information on open adoption are also listed, including books, websites, and options for speaking with counselors or other adoptive parents.
This document provides information for jurors about their rights and responsibilities. It emphasizes that jurors have the power to vote "not guilty" for any reason and cannot be punished for their verdict. It encourages jurors to exercise independent judgment and reminds them that they are above the law when deciding a case. The document seeks to educate jurors that they have an important role in holding the government accountable and protecting citizens' liberties.
This document provides poverty income guidelines for 2009 based on household size and income thresholds for various assistance programs. It lists the poverty levels for households ranging from 1 to 8 persons. Several federal and state programs then use percentages of the poverty level for eligibility, such as 130% for free school meals and below 185% for WIC. Sources are provided for the income guidelines and thresholds for different food, education, legal, and Minnesota assistance programs.
This document discusses the history of adoption from antiquity to modern times. It describes how adoption practices have evolved over the centuries from emphasizing the interests of the adopter to focusing on family creation and the best interests of the child. Key points include that ancient civilizations like Rome and India used adoption to ensure cultural continuity, abandoned children in antiquity were often slaves, and the modern concept of adoption emerged in the 19th century United States as a way to find homes for orphaned children.
The document discusses the importance of humility over pride and self-promotion. It notes that God expects people to walk humbly with Him according to Micah 6:8. It uses King David as an example of humility, as he humbly accepted unjust criticism without defending himself according to Psalm 51:17 and 2 Samuel 16:5-14. Finally, it encourages embracing humility over pride and seeing equality in all people at the cross.
This document discusses the importance of kindness as revealed in Micah 6:8. It uses the biblical story of Joseph and his brothers as an example of amazing kindness, as Joseph forgave his brothers who had mistreated him and showed them mercy instead of revenge. The document encourages practicing kindness by following Joseph's example of not seeking revenge even when wronged, acknowledging God's sovereignty, and having room in one's heart for kindness once free from bitterness. It concludes by suggesting three practical lessons to learn from Joseph: not putting oneself in God's place, acknowledging God's hand in all things loosens bitterness, and freedom from revenge and bitterness allows for kindness.
This document discusses the rewards of living a life of integrity and obedience through the example of Daniel. It summarizes that Daniel served as a model of integrity during a time of corruption in Babylon. It outlines six rewards that accompany a life of integrity: developing exemplary character; a clear conscience; intimacy with God; leaving a legacy; mentoring others; and finishing well. The document encourages readers to become people of integrity in their own generation, as Daniel was in his.
Postadoption contact agreements allow for some contact between an adopted child's birth family and adoptive family after adoption. Approximately 23 states have laws permitting written, enforceable contact agreements. These agreements specify the type and frequency of contact between parties. The court must approve agreements and can enforce or modify them based on the best interests of the child. States address postadoption contact through enforceable agreements, non-binding agreements, or silence in their laws.
This document outlines the changing views that adopted children have about their adoption and birth families at different stages of development. Infants are focused on attachment to their caregivers, children ages 1-5 may begin to have questions about why they were adopted, children ages 6-12 start to understand adoption is permanent and different than birth family relationships, teenagers ages 13-15 often grapple with identity issues related to adoption, and older teenagers ages 16-19 are figuring out how to integrate their adoption into independent adulthood.
This document is a calendar for the year 2009. It lists the months of the year from January to December across the top. Each month is divided into four weeks and shows the days of the week and dates for that month. The calendar provides an at-a-glance view of the year and allows the user to see the days, weeks, and months.
The document provides an outline and study guide for a presentation about Gladney Center for Adoption. It includes background information about Gladney's history and services. It also discusses current adoption and teen pregnancy statistics in the US. The presentation outline then provides sample questions to ask an audience about adoption and teen pregnancy scenarios, to help educate others about adoption and Gladney's services.
This document contains quotes and passages related to babies, adoption, Christmas, families, and general inspirational messages. Many of the quotes reference God's love and gifts, the wonder and blessings of children, and finding joy through faith and family. Overall, the document provides a collection of short inspirational sayings about life's precious moments.
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The document discusses the benefits of exercise for mental health. Regular physical activity can help reduce anxiety and depression and improve mood and cognitive functioning. Exercise causes chemical changes in the brain that may help protect against mental illness and improve symptoms.
This document discusses postadoption contact agreements between birth and adoptive families. It notes that approximately 23 states currently have statutes that allow written and enforceable contact agreements between birth and adoptive families after an adoption is finalized. These agreements specify the type and frequency of contact between the families. The document also outlines some of the factors that have led to a rise in such agreements, including recognition of birth parents' rights and the prevalence of older child adoptions from foster care where existing relationships are important.
This leaflet aims to gently inform people of an alternative perspective on life that has been kept secret. It discusses how we are all participating in a fascinating game, whether knowingly or not, and that some groups have kept the true rules of this game hidden. It provides recommendations for films, documentaries, websites and books that may help readers explore this perspective without trying to convince them of anything. The overall message is an invitation for people to play this game more consciously and join others in awakening.
This document provides recommendations for videos, films, and websites to learn about alternative perspectives on life that have been suppressed. It suggests searching YouTube for specific documentaries and comedians to find information on secret powers that control societies and keep people divided and fearful. The purpose is to invite people to consciously play the game of life and join others worldwide in waking up to these suppressed truths, regardless of background or beliefs. Nothing can overcome the power of love, and the more joyful and aware people become, the more powerful the "group consciousness."
Adoptive Families magazine has served adoptive families for over 30 years by providing authoritative parenting information. Each issue contains personal stories and advice from adoption professionals and parents. Readers consider the magazine a supportive community that understands their unique experiences. The magazine covers topics of interest to adoptive families like bonding, transracial adoption, and talking to children about adoption.
This document summarizes key points about recognizing issues with the psychiatric diagnosis and treatment of children. It notes that children are often selected for having "unacceptable" behavior and this leads inevitably to diagnosis and treatment. Treatment usually means prescription drugs, but these drugs like Ritalin are actually dangerous stimulants with many adverse side effects. The document argues that psychiatric diagnoses are not valid and the drugs do not truly help children but rather make them more obedient. It warns parents to recognize the oppression of "adultism" and be wary of those who emphasize a child's "potential" over who they are.
This document provides information on open adoption and discusses the potential pros and cons of open, semi-open, and confidential adoptions for birth parents, adoptive parents, and adopted children. It notes that no single type of adoption is best for every family and that the needs of each family may change over time. Resources for further information on open adoption are also listed, including books, websites, and options for speaking with counselors or other adoptive parents.
This document provides information for jurors about their rights and responsibilities. It emphasizes that jurors have the power to vote "not guilty" for any reason and cannot be punished for their verdict. It encourages jurors to exercise independent judgment and reminds them that they are above the law when deciding a case. The document seeks to educate jurors that they have an important role in holding the government accountable and protecting citizens' liberties.
This document provides poverty income guidelines for 2009 based on household size and income thresholds for various assistance programs. It lists the poverty levels for households ranging from 1 to 8 persons. Several federal and state programs then use percentages of the poverty level for eligibility, such as 130% for free school meals and below 185% for WIC. Sources are provided for the income guidelines and thresholds for different food, education, legal, and Minnesota assistance programs.
This document discusses the history of adoption from antiquity to modern times. It describes how adoption practices have evolved over the centuries from emphasizing the interests of the adopter to focusing on family creation and the best interests of the child. Key points include that ancient civilizations like Rome and India used adoption to ensure cultural continuity, abandoned children in antiquity were often slaves, and the modern concept of adoption emerged in the 19th century United States as a way to find homes for orphaned children.
The document discusses the importance of humility over pride and self-promotion. It notes that God expects people to walk humbly with Him according to Micah 6:8. It uses King David as an example of humility, as he humbly accepted unjust criticism without defending himself according to Psalm 51:17 and 2 Samuel 16:5-14. Finally, it encourages embracing humility over pride and seeing equality in all people at the cross.
This document discusses the importance of kindness as revealed in Micah 6:8. It uses the biblical story of Joseph and his brothers as an example of amazing kindness, as Joseph forgave his brothers who had mistreated him and showed them mercy instead of revenge. The document encourages practicing kindness by following Joseph's example of not seeking revenge even when wronged, acknowledging God's sovereignty, and having room in one's heart for kindness once free from bitterness. It concludes by suggesting three practical lessons to learn from Joseph: not putting oneself in God's place, acknowledging God's hand in all things loosens bitterness, and freedom from revenge and bitterness allows for kindness.
This document discusses the rewards of living a life of integrity and obedience through the example of Daniel. It summarizes that Daniel served as a model of integrity during a time of corruption in Babylon. It outlines six rewards that accompany a life of integrity: developing exemplary character; a clear conscience; intimacy with God; leaving a legacy; mentoring others; and finishing well. The document encourages readers to become people of integrity in their own generation, as Daniel was in his.
Postadoption contact agreements allow for some contact between an adopted child's birth family and adoptive family after adoption. Approximately 23 states have laws permitting written, enforceable contact agreements. These agreements specify the type and frequency of contact between parties. The court must approve agreements and can enforce or modify them based on the best interests of the child. States address postadoption contact through enforceable agreements, non-binding agreements, or silence in their laws.
This document outlines the changing views that adopted children have about their adoption and birth families at different stages of development. Infants are focused on attachment to their caregivers, children ages 1-5 may begin to have questions about why they were adopted, children ages 6-12 start to understand adoption is permanent and different than birth family relationships, teenagers ages 13-15 often grapple with identity issues related to adoption, and older teenagers ages 16-19 are figuring out how to integrate their adoption into independent adulthood.
This document is a calendar for the year 2009. It lists the months of the year from January to December across the top. Each month is divided into four weeks and shows the days of the week and dates for that month. The calendar provides an at-a-glance view of the year and allows the user to see the days, weeks, and months.
The document provides an outline and study guide for a presentation about Gladney Center for Adoption. It includes background information about Gladney's history and services. It also discusses current adoption and teen pregnancy statistics in the US. The presentation outline then provides sample questions to ask an audience about adoption and teen pregnancy scenarios, to help educate others about adoption and Gladney's services.
This document contains quotes and passages related to babies, adoption, Christmas, families, and general inspirational messages. Many of the quotes reference God's love and gifts, the wonder and blessings of children, and finding joy through faith and family. Overall, the document provides a collection of short inspirational sayings about life's precious moments.
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The document discusses the benefits of exercise for mental health. Regular physical activity can help reduce anxiety and depression and improve mood and cognitive functioning. Exercise causes chemical changes in the brain that may help protect against mental illness and improve symptoms.
This document discusses postadoption contact agreements between birth and adoptive families. It notes that approximately 23 states currently have statutes that allow written and enforceable contact agreements between birth and adoptive families after an adoption is finalized. These agreements specify the type and frequency of contact between the families. The document also outlines some of the factors that have led to a rise in such agreements, including recognition of birth parents' rights and the prevalence of older child adoptions from foster care where existing relationships are important.
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This Dissertation explores the particular circumstances of Mirzapur, a region located in the
core of India. Mirzapur, with its varied terrains and abundant biodiversity, offers an optimal
environment for investigating the changes in vegetation cover dynamics. Our study utilizes
advanced technologies such as GIS (Geographic Information Systems) and Remote sensing to
analyze the transformations that have taken place over the course of a decade.
The complex relationship between human activities and the environment has been the focus
of extensive research and worry. As the global community grapples with swift urbanization,
population expansion, and economic progress, the effects on natural ecosystems are becoming
more evident. A crucial element of this impact is the alteration of vegetation cover, which plays a
significant role in maintaining the ecological equilibrium of our planet.Land serves as the foundation for all human activities and provides the necessary materials for
these activities. As the most crucial natural resource, its utilization by humans results in different
'Land uses,' which are determined by both human activities and the physical characteristics of the
land.
The utilization of land is impacted by human needs and environmental factors. In countries
like India, rapid population growth and the emphasis on extensive resource exploitation can lead
to significant land degradation, adversely affecting the region's land cover.
Therefore, human intervention has significantly influenced land use patterns over many
centuries, evolving its structure over time and space. In the present era, these changes have
accelerated due to factors such as agriculture and urbanization. Information regarding land use and
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providing crucial environmental data for scientific, resource management, policy purposes, and
diverse human activities.
Accurate understanding of land use and cover is imperative for the development planning
of any area. Consequently, a wide range of professionals, including earth system scientists, land
and water managers, and urban planners, are interested in obtaining data on land use and cover
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Chapter wise All Notes of First year Basic Civil Engineering
Syllabus
Chapter-1
Introduction to objective, scope and outcome the subject
Chapter 2
Introduction: Scope and Specialization of Civil Engineering, Role of civil Engineer in Society, Impact of infrastructural development on economy of country.
Chapter 3
Surveying: Object Principles & Types of Surveying; Site Plans, Plans & Maps; Scales & Unit of different Measurements.
Linear Measurements: Instruments used. Linear Measurement by Tape, Ranging out Survey Lines and overcoming Obstructions; Measurements on sloping ground; Tape corrections, conventional symbols. Angular Measurements: Instruments used; Introduction to Compass Surveying, Bearings and Longitude & Latitude of a Line, Introduction to total station.
Levelling: Instrument used Object of levelling, Methods of levelling in brief, and Contour maps.
Chapter 4
Buildings: Selection of site for Buildings, Layout of Building Plan, Types of buildings, Plinth area, carpet area, floor space index, Introduction to building byelaws, concept of sun light & ventilation. Components of Buildings & their functions, Basic concept of R.C.C., Introduction to types of foundation
Chapter 5
Transportation: Introduction to Transportation Engineering; Traffic and Road Safety: Types and Characteristics of Various Modes of Transportation; Various Road Traffic Signs, Causes of Accidents and Road Safety Measures.
Chapter 6
Environmental Engineering: Environmental Pollution, Environmental Acts and Regulations, Functional Concepts of Ecology, Basics of Species, Biodiversity, Ecosystem, Hydrological Cycle; Chemical Cycles: Carbon, Nitrogen & Phosphorus; Energy Flow in Ecosystems.
Water Pollution: Water Quality standards, Introduction to Treatment & Disposal of Waste Water. Reuse and Saving of Water, Rain Water Harvesting. Solid Waste Management: Classification of Solid Waste, Collection, Transportation and Disposal of Solid. Recycling of Solid Waste: Energy Recovery, Sanitary Landfill, On-Site Sanitation. Air & Noise Pollution: Primary and Secondary air pollutants, Harmful effects of Air Pollution, Control of Air Pollution. . Noise Pollution Harmful Effects of noise pollution, control of noise pollution, Global warming & Climate Change, Ozone depletion, Greenhouse effect
Text Books:
1. Palancharmy, Basic Civil Engineering, McGraw Hill publishers.
2. Satheesh Gopi, Basic Civil Engineering, Pearson Publishers.
3. Ketki Rangwala Dalal, Essentials of Civil Engineering, Charotar Publishing House.
4. BCP, Surveying volume 1
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1. syracuseuniversityintertext 1
from the author
I am currently working full time as the assistant to the University Librarian at Syracuse
University Library. I have literally been working on my Bachelor of Arts degree for the
past thirty years - here a little, there a little. I’ve changed my major three times, due to
losing credits as I’ve transferred from one university to another; I’ve been an Art, English,
and now a History major. By the end of the Summer ‘05 semester, I will only have five
classes to take in order to finish my degree -there is an end in sight! Hallelujah!
Over the past two years since I wrote this paper for my WRT 205 course in the Spring of
2003, my daughter has spent quite a bit of time with her birth mother. It has not been as
positive for her as she or I would have hoped, but we have all grown from the experience.
Most of all, it has given my daughter the freedom to love us as her “parents,” and that is
very nice! My son is now beginning to experience some complex emotions, which I think
may be motivated by his adoption - he insists they are not. Either way, we will deal with it.
We are blessed. - Jackie Allred
from the teacher
This WRT 205 on-line course focused on rhetorically analyzing sources to research beliefs
and values in specific communities. The truly amazing feat of Jackie Allred’s writing is that
she manages to allow readers to learn from her experience while treading through an emo-
tionally charged topic that has such clear and present weight in her life. In “The Adoption
Dilemma,” she weaves literature review with discourse analysis, all the while accounting
for her place as the researcher. As we, and she, become literate in adoption and anti-adop-
tion discourse, through this research paper, Jackie’s own prevailing voice reminds us that
facts become meaningful when they are mediated by real people in real places. - Tennyson
O’Donnell
3. syracuseuniversityintertext 3
W
hen my daughter, Marissa, was a toddler, perhaps three or four-years-old, a little girl was abducted, raped, and
murdered in a nearby community where we lived in Centerville, Utah. I remember feeling an almost hysterical
panic whenever I thought about this event. I reacted by purchasing every book I could find about teaching chil-
dren how to guard against abductors and following their advice. I read several books to her, gave her examples of what could
happen, and taught her how to “fight” against someone who tried to “take” her away. One day my husband and I were walking
out of a large department store and some toy distracted my daughter. She decided she wasn’t quite ready to leave the store.
Her most common reaction when she didn’t want to do something we wanted her to do was to revert to passive-aggressive
behavior—she would simply become limp and lie down on the ground. We would usually pick her up and carry her wherever
we were going without much fuss. On this particular day, when I picked her up and insisted we needed to leave, she screamed
at the top of her lungs, “YOU’RE NOT MY MOTHER!”
This reaction and the subsequent odd looks
that people gave us as we carried her to the car were
funny at the time but, as I’ve since realized, indicative
of some larger turmoil within her. In the very depths
of her soul, and even though she didn’t know it then,
she meant what she said. Deep down inside of Marissa, there was a piece of her that knew
I was not her natural mother and that I would always be her adoptive mother, despite how
much we both wished I were the former (Verrier 26).
When I first approached this topic, my motivation was somewhat selfish. I have two
adopted children – a twenty-year-old daughter, Marissa, and a fifteen-year-old son, Alex*.
Both children have known from an early age that we adopted them. Marissa has experienced
some very serious emotional difficulties throughout her life, especially over the past three
years. We recently discovered that, after searching for six years, she had found her natural
mother and father. I refer to Marissa’s birth mother as her “natural” mother rather than her
“real” mother. I have always been particularly sensitive to the use of that term to describe
Marissa’s natural mother, because in my mind I am her real mother. I thought doing this
research would help me better understand my daughter’s feelings in order to better assist her
in some of the difficulties she is experiencing. Because of the problems we have experienced
in relationship to this issue, I have even doubted the validity of adoption as an “option”
for families. Perhaps my husband and I had just glossed over the fact that our family was
different than “normal” families, because we were unwilling to address inherent difficulties
that came with being an adoptive family (Verrier). Maybe if we said we were the same as
everyone else, we would be. The more I have studied this topic and participated in it as a
member of the community, the more convinced I am that, while adoption does have inherent
difficulties, it is indeed a workable solution to a difficult dilemma for all three parties in
the adoption “triad” (Bird). I have come to realize this has been a journey of self-discovery
for me as much as it was an attempt to understand my daughter. Because I am an adoptive
parent, I can only truly address this issue from my own perspective; however I believe that
through this experience I’ve gained a fairly clear understanding of the situation from the
perspective of the adopted child and, to a lesser extent, the birth mother as well.
All three participants experience similar feelings with varying results and reactions
to the initial event (Verrier). From my participation on several different adoption forums,
I have discovered that for every positive experience there is a corresponding negative one;
whether you look at it from the viewpoint of the adoptive parents, the birth mother, or
the adopted child. For every disapproving and unsupportive adoptive parent, there is a
The intensely personal writ-
ing style of this paper makes
the work more profound
to the reader, because the
author feels and writes
so passionately about her
subject.
Child
Adoptive
Family
Birth
Mother
The Adoption Triangle
Here the author begins to
play devil’s advocate.We
start to see that there are
two sides to the adoption
dilemma.This feature makes
an argumentative paper, like
this one, seem well rounded.
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patiently nurturing and compassionate one; for every birth mother who’s heart is broken
and bleeding at the loss of her child, there is another one who has dealt with her pain and
managed to go on with her life in a positive productive manner; and for every lost and
confused adoptee there is an equally hopeful, optimistic person (Adoptionforum.com). It
appears, however, that the adoptee reacts most dramatically in almost every situation, and
not every adopted child responds in the same way (Eldridge 7). My son’s reaction to his
adoption has been much less severe than Marissa’s. I have often wondered if the degree of
difficulty their birth mothers’ experienced in making the decision to surrender them has
affected the children’s reaction to their adoption in a significant way.
Adoption is a particularly emotionally charged issue, and you will find varying
opinions regarding it. There are the anti-abortion, pro-adoption groups who use scare
tactics, such as pictures of surgical scissors and graphics of a fetus being sucked out
of a womb with a medical instrument to convey their point. These groups often use
terms such as “unwanted” rather than “unplanned” pregnancies, which is a much more
politically correct term to refer to the birth mother’s predicament. One article by Dr. &
Mrs. J.C. Willke, suggested that a world where abortion is legal rivals Hitler’s Germany
(Abortionfacts.com). As an adoptive parent with very strong feelings against abortion,
I found these strategies extremely offensive and counter-productive in their purpose.
Rather than discouraging a young woman by honestly answering questions she may have
regarding abortions, these methods serve to isolate her from a potentially helpful source of
information.
You also find the anti-adoption activists who radically oppose adoption and refer
to the adoptive parents as “adopters,” a term that carries a much more hostile and negative
connotation. One author suggested that adoptive parents actually increase the odds of their
children becoming criminals by adopting them (Carangelo). Interestingly, this same author
hosts an anti-adoption website, whose main purpose seems to be to sell her books relating to
the subject. The problem with this is that for anyone who may have experienced some form
of trauma in relationship to adoption, for whatever reason, may find themselves once again
being exploited for the author’s own purposes rather than receiving guidance and assistance
at a particularly vulnerable time.
At the same time, you find birth mothers whose pain manifests itself with
bitterness and anger. You have others whose pain is so tangible you can almost feel it as
you read their stories; yet their goal is to further understanding and healing for all parties
concerned, including themselves (Adoptionforum.com). One point of particular interest
was that most of the birth mothers who have come to terms with their grief and loss have
done so by going through a spiritual process and discovering a relationship with God
(Satterfield). One author, Courtney Frey, hosts a website specifically for birth mothers that
encourages young women to choose adoption over abortion. She has written several books
and frequently “shares her very spiritual path with readers by including scripture that has
sustained her and intimate moments with God which have catapulted her ability to keep
going on” (Frey).
One of the most painful aspects of this research has been discovering the feelings
and reactions of the adopted children. As a parent of one biological and one adopted
daughter, Nancy Verrier suggests that virtually every adopted child suffers from something
she calls the “primal wound.” She suggests that the connection between a mother and child
The politics of language is
analyzed in the text.As an
example, we see the differ-
ences between “unwanted”
and “unplanned” pregnan-
cies. Depending on who is
speaking, we can encounter
either word, but each makes
a specific point in its use.
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doesn’t begin at birth, but is “a continuum of physiological, psychological, and spiritual”
events that when “interrupted by a postnatal separation from the biological mother” result in
feelings of abandonment and cause this trauma to become manifest (Verrier 1).
This wound is so deep and so profound that in most cases the adopted child
doesn’t even know it exists. All they know is that they feel lost and confused and have no
way to express their bewilderment. I know this was the case with my daughter, Marissa.
For most of her life she has been unable to make connections to the people that she has
wanted to connect with the very most—her family. Yet she has been unable to express her
despair, because she could not define what was causing the disconnection in this most vital
relationship. Now that I am learning about all of this with a more open mindset, I am able
to recognize symptoms in her of a condition that the American Psychiatric Association
(APA) defines as Reactive Attachment Disorder or RAD (Psych.org). This condition is so
new in terms of research (fifteen-years-old), that it was only defined and approved by the
APA Board of Trustees in June 2002. Very little decisive research has been done, but Nancy
Verrier found that adoptees “demonstrated a high incidence of juvenile delinquency, sexual
promiscuity, and running away from home” (xv).
As I looked at the symptoms associated with
RAD, I felt like I was reading a description of my
daughter’s life over the past twenty years.
My greatest regret results from the fact
that due to our own feelings of sadness, loss,
and inadequacy we did not confront the issue
sooner. In my heart of hearts I have always
known there was something missing between our
daughter and us. We have always felt a sense of
being failures in spite of our desires to be perfect
parents and attempts to do all the right things.
When we finally did find out that Marissa had
discovered her natural mother, my first reaction was to feel hurt and betrayed, exactly the
reaction Marissa had been afraid of in the first place. She was unable to tell us herself, so
Marissa asked our clergyman to tell us for her. She told him she was afraid we would “kick
her out of our home” when we found out. I told myself (and everyone else) that I was more
hurt by the fact that she was not able to share this with us herself, but in reality I felt hurt and
rejected. I realize now that I was afraid that my greatest fear was coming true—the daughter
I had always tried so hard to love enough had found the one person who could give her the
love she needed, and perhaps now she would no longer need me. It has taken several months
of soul searching on my own part to be able to even begin to attempt to understand things
from my daughter’s perspective. My greatest regret is that I did not try hard enough to find
out how she felt. Despite this, I understand more completely my own feelings through all of
it. I realize now that even though I tried to meet Marissa’s needs, it was an impossible goal.
Verrier points out that an adoptive mother cannot “understand the form or depth of [her
adopted child’s] grief or the limitations placed upon her as the [adoptive] mother. The infant
has missed something which cannot be replaced even by the most motivated” (20). This does
not mean that Marissa does not love us and need us; she does and always will. But she needs
to be able to know and understand her birth mother too in order to be able to heal. If her
Facts are related to a real life
situation, making the text a
more valuable asset than a
text based on a hypothetical
situation.
The author undergoes self-
discovery through writing this
piece, which gives it a refresh-
ing quality that the reader
picks up on.
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birth mother can provide this for Marissa, then I believe she may finally be free to grieve for
her profound loss and begin to accept our love for her to its full extent. The best result of
my studies is that a dialogue has opened between Marissa and me. She seems more able to
share some of her thoughts and feelings, which is what I had hoped to gain from all of this
in the first place.
The reality is that the concept of adoption has been around for hundreds of years;
we read about it in the “Old Testament” in The Bible. What we need to do is understand
that adoption itself is not a concept. In fact, it is a very real situation that affects real people
who have intense and deep reactions to it on all sides of the issue. James Gritter explains in
his hope-filled book, The Spirit of Open Adoption:
We must be careful not to sanitize, sentimentalize, or even glamorize the pain
of adoption; it really is miserable stuff, and it is intensely personal. It is interior.
The pain of adoption is not something that happens to a person; it is the person.
Because the pain is so primal, it is virtually impossible to describe. (qtd. in
Eldridge 7).
Sherrie Eldridge, in writing of her own feelings regarding adoption states, “As with
most everything in life, adoption has positive and negative elements. None of us wants to
acknowledge the negative, painful side—that is, loss. But the truth is, adoption is built upon
loss” (Eldridge 4). The birth parents lose a part of themselves that can never be regained
when they choose to surrender a child to adoptive parents. Adoptive parents experience the
loss of their biological offspring, the part of themselves they had built all of their hopes and
dreams upon. For the adopted child, the sense of loss can be so overwhelming that it can
virtually destroy them if it is not recognized and validated as a reality. As Eldridge states,
“To deny adoption loss is to deny the emotional reality of everyone involved” (5). But in
accepting that reality one cannot dismiss adoption as too painful to choose. If someone
were to tell me that I would not have to experience the pain I’ve felt over the past few
months with Marissa, but in order to do so it would mean not having her in my life, then I
would never make that choice. I would never give up the chance for one day with Marissa or
Alex in my life. They are my life. They are my children and will be forever. I love them.
There are no guarantees in this life. There will always be a need for good homes
and good parents for unplanned pregnancies, and being born into a biological family does
not guarantee a life of ease and happiness (U.S. CDC). I personally grew up in an extremely
dysfunctional and abusive home, but, through my faith in God and my desire to be different
than what I was taught, I have managed to rise above that past. I have even been able to
learn to love and accept my parents for the good things they gave me in life and forgive
them for the things they didn’t. Ultimately, that is the best we can hope for in life: to love
and be loved, whether genetically united or emotionally and spiritually joined together
through an adopted family.
Though the work begins to
end on a sadder note, the
author injects a positive feeling
into the end, and in effect
leaves the reader with a sense
of hope regarding adoption.
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