May I Borrow Your
Security Blanket?

Learning to Change
in Spite of the Pain
“We drive into the future glaring
  into our rear view mirrors.”
                   Marshall McCluen
"Here is Edward Bear,
              coming downstairs
              behind Christopher
              Robin, bump, bump,
              bump, on the back of
              his head.
              It is, as far as he
              knows, the only way of
              coming downstairs,
              but sometimes he
              feels there must be a
              better way.
              If only he could stop
              bumping long enough
              to think about it."
A. A. Milne
“Insanity:
    doing the
  same thing
over and over
    again and
    expecting
     different
     results.”
  Albert Einstein
“The problems that exist in
 the world today cannot be
      solved by the level of
      thinking that created
                     them.”

         Albert Einstein
“The greatest danger in
times of turbulence is not
the turbulence; it is to act
  with yesterday’s logic.”
       Peter Drucker
“Those who live
by the sword…




…will be shot by
those who don’t!” 
 ary
                  G
Hamel
Anticipate and Prepare for
        Emerging Trends
“I skate to where the puck is going to
be, not where it has been.”
                              Wayne Gretsky
Acknowledge Growing Pains
Acknowledge Growing Pains

    Growth is a process of
 trading one set of problems
 for a better set of problems.
         John Bradshaw
"If I had asked people
  what they wanted,
they would have said
     faster horses.“
              Henry Ford
“Apple never holds focus groups. It doesn’t
ask people what they want; it tells them what
they are going to want next.”
“Apple never holds focus groups. It doesn’t
ask people what they want; it tells them what
they are going to want next.”
                                Time Magazine
Idea Man.
iPod
iPhone
iPad
Wonder
what he’s
thinking
  about
  right
  now?
Team Work
NASCAR pit crews do it right and do
it NOW!
Seconds can make or break a pit
stop: 13 seconds wins.
15 seconds loses!
Crucial Conversations
Crucial Conversations
Y Discussion between two or more
  people in which:
  • Stakes are moderate to high
  • Diverse opinions and points of view
  • Emotions run strong
Potential Clashes
Let’s Talk
Life-Work Balance
            “blinding glimpses of the obvious”

Y Take what you do
  seriously and yourself
  lightly.

“You don’t have a sense of humor, it has you.”
Strategies of Renewal    and
            Balance
Slow Down

 You can’t
   transform your life
   or your work
   unless you
   occasionally slow
   down.
Y Wise Worry
  • Helps Detect Danger
  • Imagines worst case scenarios and
    develops action plans
Y Toxic Worry
  • Imagines and mentally rehearses worst
    case scenarios
  • Can become self-fulfilling prophesy
  • “What if” What if”….. “I knew it!”
Wise Worry vs. Toxic Worry

Y Wise Worry
  • Helps Detect Danger
  • Imagines worst case scenarios and
    develops action plans
Y Toxic Worry
  • Imagines and mentally rehearses worst
    case scenarios
  • Can become self-fulfilling prophesy
  • “What if” What if”….. “I knew it!”
Wise Worry vs. Toxic Worry

Y Wise Worry
  • Helps Detect Danger
  • Imagines worst case scenarios and
    develops action plans
Y Toxic Worry
  • Imagines and mentally rehearses worst
    case scenarios
  • Can become self-fulfilling prophesy
  • “What if” What if”….. “I knew it!”
Children of Working Parents
                 What children really want

  Y Not so much
    more time…
  Y But for parents
    to be less
    stressed.
James Levine, Donna Klein
Families and Work Institute
Children of Workaholics        Perceive
                Parents to Be:

Y Preoccupied
  • Mentally, always seem
    to be somewhere else
Y In a hurry
   • Always rushing
Y Irritable
   • Low frustration
    tolerance; quick
    to anger
Children of Workaholics          Perceive
                 Parents to Be:

Y Low-level
  depression
  • Parents lack sense
    of humor and
    ability to play;
    overly serious
Strategies of Renewal        and
            Balance
Create a life outside work
"Energy, not time is your
fundamental currency for
high performance."
Mental, Emotional, Physical and
Spiritual Energy
The best time to plant a tree is twenty
years ago...
The best time to plant a tree is twenty
years ago...
...but the second best time is today.
The best time to plant a tree is twenty
years ago...
...but the second best time is today.
                             Chinese Proverb
You are never too old to have a
happy childhood.
                       Mark Twain 
                                  

Accountability

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    May I BorrowYour Security Blanket? Learning to Change in Spite of the Pain
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    “We drive intothe future glaring into our rear view mirrors.” Marshall McCluen
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    "Here is EdwardBear, coming downstairs behind Christopher Robin, bump, bump, bump, on the back of his head. It is, as far as he knows, the only way of coming downstairs, but sometimes he feels there must be a better way. If only he could stop bumping long enough to think about it." A. A. Milne
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    “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Albert Einstein
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    “The problems thatexist in the world today cannot be solved by the level of thinking that created them.” Albert Einstein
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    “The greatest dangerin times of turbulence is not the turbulence; it is to act with yesterday’s logic.” Peter Drucker
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    “Those who live bythe sword… …will be shot by those who don’t!” ary G Hamel
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    Anticipate and Preparefor Emerging Trends “I skate to where the puck is going to be, not where it has been.” Wayne Gretsky
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    Acknowledge Growing Pains Growth is a process of trading one set of problems for a better set of problems. John Bradshaw
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    "If I hadasked people what they wanted, they would have said faster horses.“ Henry Ford
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    “Apple never holdsfocus groups. It doesn’t ask people what they want; it tells them what they are going to want next.”
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    “Apple never holdsfocus groups. It doesn’t ask people what they want; it tells them what they are going to want next.” Time Magazine
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    Team Work NASCAR pitcrews do it right and do it NOW! Seconds can make or break a pit stop: 13 seconds wins. 15 seconds loses!
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    Crucial Conversations Y Discussionbetween two or more people in which: • Stakes are moderate to high • Diverse opinions and points of view • Emotions run strong
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    Life-Work Balance “blinding glimpses of the obvious” Y Take what you do seriously and yourself lightly. “You don’t have a sense of humor, it has you.”
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    Strategies of Renewal and Balance Slow Down You can’t transform your life or your work unless you occasionally slow down.
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    Y Wise Worry • Helps Detect Danger • Imagines worst case scenarios and develops action plans Y Toxic Worry • Imagines and mentally rehearses worst case scenarios • Can become self-fulfilling prophesy • “What if” What if”….. “I knew it!”
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    Wise Worry vs.Toxic Worry Y Wise Worry • Helps Detect Danger • Imagines worst case scenarios and develops action plans Y Toxic Worry • Imagines and mentally rehearses worst case scenarios • Can become self-fulfilling prophesy • “What if” What if”….. “I knew it!”
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    Wise Worry vs.Toxic Worry Y Wise Worry • Helps Detect Danger • Imagines worst case scenarios and develops action plans Y Toxic Worry • Imagines and mentally rehearses worst case scenarios • Can become self-fulfilling prophesy • “What if” What if”….. “I knew it!”
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    Children of WorkingParents What children really want Y Not so much more time… Y But for parents to be less stressed. James Levine, Donna Klein Families and Work Institute
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    Children of Workaholics Perceive Parents to Be: Y Preoccupied • Mentally, always seem to be somewhere else Y In a hurry • Always rushing Y Irritable • Low frustration tolerance; quick to anger
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    Children of Workaholics Perceive Parents to Be: Y Low-level depression • Parents lack sense of humor and ability to play; overly serious
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    Strategies of Renewal and Balance Create a life outside work
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    "Energy, not timeis your fundamental currency for high performance." Mental, Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Energy
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    The best timeto plant a tree is twenty years ago...
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    The best timeto plant a tree is twenty years ago... ...but the second best time is today.
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    The best timeto plant a tree is twenty years ago... ...but the second best time is today. Chinese Proverb
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    You are nevertoo old to have a happy childhood. Mark Twain