how to repair fading relationships, be they friendships, loved ones or business

1. MOTIVATIONAL REPORT
Renew Fading Friendships
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A function of maturing and making your way through life is that
you’ll occasionally leave behind someone you really care about. It
might be your best friend from high school, your old neighborhood
buddy, a college dorm roommate, or even a past co-worker you
connected with.
Over time, you may find yourself yearning for another conversation,
a lunch out or evening spent with a long-lost friend. But after so
much time has passed, how can you renew fading friendships
before they disappear completely?
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2. Consider these suggestions to re-connect with a friend from your
past:
1. Give your friend a call. You might freeze up at the thought of
calling because, after all, it has been so long. However, the
only way of renewing your friendship is to make contact. Just
do it.
• Tell her you’ve missed her. Mention you’ve been thinking
about the fun you had shopping and playing tennis together
and that you want to maintain your friendship. Listen to how
she feels about the relationship. Inquire about what’s going
on in her life.
1. Persevere. If you don’t have your friend’s telephone number,
call his parents or drive by the last residence where he lived.
Knock on the door and inquire of the residents if they know
what happened to him. Contact a mutual friend and ask
where your old friend is living now or how you might get in
contact.
2. Set up a rotating commitment. Once you contact your friend
and discover he wants to continue your friendship, suggest
the two of you get together on an ongoing basis to keep your
relationship going.
• For example, meet for dinner every other Wednesday evening.
Get together one Saturday a month for lunch. A standing
appointment keeps you both looking forward to spending time
with one another.
1. Be willing to make the extra effort. If your friend lives 90
minutes away by car, when you call, say you’d love to drive
over and spend some time with him. Show you’re willing to do
what’s necessary to see your friend occasionally. Hopefully,
your friend will eventually be willing to drive over to see you
as well.
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3. 2. Write a letter and send it by snail mail. A hand-written letter
shows you put some time and thought into what you wanted
to say. Plus, your friend will have a tangible representation of
your attempt to contact him, which means he’ll notice your
efforts to get in touch.
• This method is particularly helpful when you don’t have the
person’s telephone or cell numbers.
• Send a letter every other month for 6 months or so and
include all your contact information, such as your cell phone
number, home phone number, e-mail address, and home
address. Doing so will make it easier for your friend to contact
you using whatever method he prefers.
1. Once you’ve established initial contact, use technology to stay
connected. Find out from your friend if he uses e-mail and
texting. If so, send him an e-mail every few days. If your
friend prefers a quick text, use texting to stay in touch.
2. Consider Facebook. After you’ve made your initial contact,
find out if your friend is on Facebook. If so, “friend” him and
use Facebook to keep in touch.
It’s a great feeling to discover an old friend wants to renew your
relationship. Go ahead and be the one who takes the first steps to
rekindle an old friendship. Use these methods to re-connect with
that wonderful friend from your past.
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4. 41 lessons in life
Free Motivational Report
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