This document discusses student suicides and proposes addressing their root causes by focusing on fundamental human needs. It summarizes insights from a Gabor Maté interview on human pain and healing. Maté states that trauma is caused by disconnection from oneself and others, violating our basic need for connection. When pain goes unheld due to lack of attachment, it becomes unbearable and leads to addictions that numb the pain temporarily. The document proposes that addictions are a form of slow suicide due to inability to process pain authentically. It advocates addressing needs for attachment and authenticity to heal trauma and prevent such outcomes.

2. deck inspired by fb convo (started by kevin with this):
I’ve seen the tragedy of student suicides play out at both MIT and
Cooper Union in the last few years, and am now reading about it at
Northwestern.
Is there anyone/anything that is rigorously *studying and hypothesizing
what’s going on across the board? Is this about the life of
students, or the lives of 19 year olds, or specific academic pressures or
or or?
not sure what you mean by 'across the board'.. but that phrase is key.. because to
get to the roots of healing..

4. the fundamental reality is that we are all human
beings.. and we basically all have the same needs..
your fundamental needs are human needs you
share with every other human on earth
- Gabor Maté
from Human Pain and Healing – Gabor Maté Interview:
[https://podcasts.ceu.edu/content/human-pain-and-healing-gabor-mate-interview]

6. perhaps our best energy will come from addressing those needs first
time to change that
ie: the ai humanity needs.. augmenting interconnectedness

7. perhaps we can use 2 conversations as
infrastructure to heal (reshape/reset/revolutionize)
everyday life
for all of us

9. one with yourself. one with others.
2 convers as infra

10. we need a means to listen to every voice.. everyday..
because it..

11. 2 convers as infra

12. 34 min – whole thing comes down to a human difficulty
in holding pain – we look for external solutions to our
internal pain.
from Human Pain and Healing – Gabor Maté Interview:
[https://podcasts.ceu.edu/content/human-pain-and-healing-gabor-mate-interview]

13. 32 min – so we have our pain.. but we don’t know
how to move thru it.. because nobody is holding us
thru it the way that we need to be held.. therefore..
pain becomes unbearable and promises to be eternal
unless we do something to kill the pain.. and that’s
where the addiction comes in
from Human Pain and Healing – Gabor Maté Interview:
[https://podcasts.ceu.edu/content/human-pain-and-healing-gabor-mate-interview]

14. and so the addictions.. to
drugs/alcohol/sex/shopping/eating/internet/porn/gambling..
whatever.. always an attempt to numb the pain temporarily..
because of difficulty we have in holding the pain and being
vulnerable to it
copeing/addictions as slow suicide
from Human Pain and Healing – Gabor Maté Interview:
[https://podcasts.ceu.edu/content/human-pain-and-healing-gabor-mate-interview]

15. from Human Pain and Healing – Gabor Maté Interview:
[https://podcasts.ceu.edu/content/human-pain-and-healing-gabor-mate-interview]
23 min – human beings are ultimately creatures of
connection.. if there’s no connection.. there’d be no
human life.. no human being could evolve on his/her own.. if
we were like snakes.. we wouldn’t survive.. we were wired to
connect.. that wiring for connection stays with us all our
lives.. so we’re social creatures.. that’s part of our nature
thurman interconnectedness law: when you understand interconnectedness it makes you more afraid of hating than of dying
hari addiction law

16. from Human Pain and Healing – Gabor Maté Interview:
[https://podcasts.ceu.edu/content/human-pain-and-healing-gabor-mate-interview]
22 min – and fundamentally what happens is.. whatever
diminishes/denies/subverts our need for connection is going to lead to some
kind of pathology..
trauma is the disconnection.. the essence of
trauma is disconnection from *self/others..
*maté basic needs

17. maté trauma law:
1 every case of addiction originates in trauma
2 trauma is the disconnection.. the essence of trauma
is disconnection from *self/others

18. so seeing our copeing strategies (aka: addictions) as perhaps
suicide in s l o w m o t i o n
we never learned to move thru pain (attachment missing), so
pain turns into trauma. then we we use any means to not
be/feel ourselves (authenticity missing), and with this
disconnect.. we suffocate from the day.. addictions/et-al as
pain/trauma-killers become the death of us

19. almaas holes law:
a hole is nothing but the *absence of a certain part of our
essence. .However to say we have lost parts of Essence does not
mean they are gone forever; they are never gone forever.
When you’re a baby, you have no holes; you are complete when
you are born. ..
*..missing piece #1: authenticity .. missing piece #2: attachment

20. perhaps we let go of *studying and hypothesizing..
and try something that is truly..

21. short: deep/simple/open

22. 2 needs and a cure (cure ios city)