1) The author is a 36-year-old married man with three kids who has fallen in love with his ex-girlfriend Bola despite being married. 2) He dated Bola before leaving for his master's degree in the UK but she broke up with him due to the distance. He later married his wife who is caring but he still kept in touch with Bola. 3) The author has been secretly dating Bola for over two years and enjoys the time with her but feels guilty. His wife has left him twice due to his neglect and lack of attention towards her. He wants a divorce to marry Bola but is unsure how to tell his wife.

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MY WIFE LOVES ME BUT I LOVE MY EX-GIRLFRIEND
I am a 36 yearoldman, marriedwiththree kids. Mywife isa verygoodwomanbut I thinkI’minlove
againwithmy ex-girlfriend.
Afterourgraduationfromschool,I wentto the U.K for mymaster’sdegree.Before ItravelledIhadthis
girl Bola.She actuallywalkedoutonme because of the distance betweenus.ButIstill hada crushon
her.She was quite beautiful anditwasnot easyforme to chase afterher because Ileftthe prettygirl in
NigeriawhileIwentforfurthereducationinthe U.K.WhenI returnedtoNigeria,Iattemptedhooking
up withherand she hardlygave me much attention.Ibelievedshe musthave hada lotof menaround
herso I gave her the space.
Later, I metmywife a veryhomelygirl,quite submissive andcaring. Somehow i still keptintouchwith
my ex-girlfriend.Ikeptheras justa friendwithnostringsattached.I alwaysstoodbyher,encouraged
herand advised herlike abrother. Althoughmywife isjustgoodtome,I thinkthere isstill alotthat I
missinher that I see inBola.Bola is verysmart,intelligent, andindependent andshe respectsme. I
alwaysadmiredherstylishways. Igotinvolved withBolaandwe starteddatingagain. We have been
datingfor abouttwoyears andthree months.I enjoyeverysingle minute IspendwithBola.
My wife hascomplainedverybitterlyaboutmyattitude andIknow it isall my fault.She haspackedout
of my house twice because of mylackof attentiontoher.EventhoughI wentto pleadwithherand
make hercome home again,mymindis still onBola. Everynew day,I lose interestinmywife. Mywife
nags andcomplains.My childrenare now afraidof me because theirmothercriesintheirpresence
because of me. I am feelingveryguiltyasa fatherbutI don’tlove theirmotheranymore.Mywife loves
me to the pointthatI am sure that she may hurt herself if Ileave her.ButIthinkthe bestthingfor us isa
divorce.Bolaisstill single andshe acceptstomarry me but my problemnow ishow can i present this
ideaof divorce to mywife?