1. WHY DISCIPLINE<br />DISCIPLINE your child according to His word and RECEIVE His approval and blessing.<br />If you fail to do so, INCUR His wrath.<br />1 Samuel 3:13-14 God punished the house of Eli for failing to discipline his sons.<br />Proverbs 4:1-3 Fathers are RESPONSIBLE for the discipline of the children. Mothers’ are the helpmate and disciplines under his delegated authority.<br />Obedience is not an option. It is required by God of the parent and therefore required of the child by the parent.<br />Romans 6:11 Dead to sin, Alive in Christ<br />Build on the right foundation when we recognize that our children are to be reverenced as CHILDREN OF GOD.<br />WHEN TO DISCIPLINE<br />Start when he is at the cradle. <br />Infants know whether or not they can MANIPULATE his parents and WILL if he can.<br />Who is the boss? Do not be afraid to be the BOSS.<br />Children NEED TO KNOW there is someone stronger and wiser in the family.<br />Children need the structure and the controls in order to grow up well and stay within the boundaries.<br />Children who are given everything and from whom nothing is expected from are BRATS.<br />Children who end up in trouble blame the parent for his GUTLESSNESS. <br />Children want to know how far they can go.<br />Mothers have a tendency to threaten, make angry exclamations but do not act on them cause INDIFFERENCE and lose the child’s respect.<br />Discipline when necessary must be administered PROMPTLY.<br />Do not wait for the problem to escalate resulting in SEVERE PUNISHMENT.<br />Ecclesiates 8:11 Heart of sons of men is fully set to do evil.<br />WHAT IS THE RIGHT APPROACH TO CHILD RAISING<br />Is Human nature is basically GOOD or BAD?<br />Evil crops up due to lack of education, understanding, psychological patterns of background, environment. <br />Child is basically “good” but “bad” in a particular situation. <br />Innate goodness and reasonableness will show itself.<br />DARLING THROWS A TANTRUM <br />Mom takes away the iron – buy a 2nd hand iron problem solved<br />Mom leaves to go to errand – turn on TV cartoons (DISTRACTION TECHNIQUE)<br />*deep-seated feeling of insecurity KSP<br />Psychiatric help for the rich at this point<br />Ingrained habit of throwing temper tantrums – breaking Dad’s bowling trophy<br />Dad has had enough and finally spanks in anger, uncontrolled, irrationality and rage<br />Child’s innate goodness may have a difficult time to express itself<br />SOCIETY BLAMES MODERN GADGETS (motorbikes, tv, radio, cellphones)<br />Development of technology is faster than society’s ability to understand and control it.<br />Meanwhile religion is fast losing its moral authority.<br />Adults tend to exercise lesser authority upon the young. <br />Adults seem to decrease in the confidence and responsibility to guide the youth.(diligence to discipline------easier to let the child have his way than to correct him)<br />. HOW TO DISCIPLINE<br />Bible perspective does not see child’s nature as innately good.<br />Children do not want to do the wise and the right thing. <br />Psalms 51:5 brought forth in iniquity<br />Proverbs 22:15 Folly is bound up in the heart of a child but the rod of discipline drives it from him.<br />THE ROD simple and equivocal biblical method for discipline<br />The Rod: The Way Of Love<br />Proverbs 13:24 He who spares the rod hates his son but he who love him is diligent to discipline him.<br />HATE is a strong word used by bible. Lack of concern by the parent. LAXITY AND SOFTNESS<br />“My dad doesn’t love me…I’ve never been spanked” RJ<br />The physical terror and pain AWAKENS and SHARPENS the consciousness of the MORAL POWER <br />Over us and the reality of A RIGHTEOUS JUDGE and LAW that CANNOT BE BROKEN.<br />Bible consistently views LOVE AND FEAR as inseparable twins. <br />God the perfect Father disciplines His children as to inspire fear, we should do the same.<br />Spanking is not a WITHDRAWAL OF LOVE. <br />He who FEARS God LOVES Him the most.<br />Acts 13:16 Men of Israel and you that fear God<br />Acts 10:1-2 Cornelius a devout man who feared God<br />Colossians 3:22 Slaves OBEY everything those who are your earthly masters…in singleness of heart, fearing the Lord<br />DISCIPLINE is a CHANNEL through which LOVE FLOWS.<br />The Rod: The First Response , Not The Last Resort<br />Parents are to correct DISOBEDIENCE. <br />Positive and Corrective means to PROTECT CHILD from his own willfulness<br />Proverbs 29:`15 The rod of reproof gives wisdom but a child left to himself bring shame to his mother.<br />FACT: God gave parents the authority over the child. <br />No need to plead for OBEDIENCE. Just DEMAND it.<br />The respect for authority which is learned at this age is relatively painless.<br />Sting of spanking lasts but a few minutes.<br />If it is to be learned at a later stage in life, it will be in OTHER WAYS AT A MUCH GREATER PAIN.<br />Sloppy work habits, average performer, missed promotions because of the lessons RESPONSIBLE PARENT should have taught before age 12.<br />“Meanest mother in the world”<br />Hebrews 12:11 Moment of discipline is painful but it yields peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it<br />The Rod: It Works<br />Spanking is out of style today. Laws of the land against it (harmful to the child’s development)<br />CHILDBEATING/BROWBEATING/PARENTAL TEMPER TANTRUMS<br />Do not Provoke your children to anger<br />Half hearted discipline, spanking only enough to make him angry and rebellious, YOU HAVE NOT CARRIED OUT SCRIPTURAL DISCIPLINE.<br />SPANKING MUST GO BEYOND POINT OF ANGER AND EVOKE THE WHOLESOME FEAR OF THE LORD<br />Hebrews 10:31 It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.<br />Spanking is an EVENT.<br />It teaches the rest of the children to acknowledge the authority of the house.<br />Father and Mother cooperate and have ONE WILL in a given matter.<br />Children will play one parent against the other if they see parents’ disagreements.<br />Mother MUST NEVER CONTRADICT father in the presence of children.<br />Wife/mother submit to authority of father.<br />Father PRIME RESPONSIBILITY to administer discipline.<br />Wife when husband is out and ACT immediately when case is minor.<br />MAJOR CASES of disobedience it must be the Father.<br />Spanking is never done in presence of siblings or strangers.<br />The Rod: God’s Appointed Means of Discipline<br />Parents will never have a clear-cut approach to the discipline of their children until they accept the rod as God’s appointed means of discipline.<br />FEELINGS OR REASONINGS should never be above the WORD OF GOD.<br />Proverbs 23:13-14 Do not withhold discipline from a child, if you beat him with a rod he will not die. If you beat him with a rod, you will save his life from hell”<br />SPANKING IS RESERVED FOR DEALING WITH DISOBEDIENCE/REBELLION/STUBBORNESS.<br />Spanking is directed against the SELF-WILL of the child.<br />It is not for occasional spilling of the glass (if this was honest mistake or accident)<br />Spanking is aimed at CONTROLLING OUTWARD BEHAVIOR.<br />Only the Holy Spirit can change the child’s heart.<br />You cannot force an inner attitude. <br />You can tell a child to sit up and eat but you cannot tell him to enjoy the food.<br />You can demand child to sit beside you at church but you cannot tell him to like it.<br />You can only PRAY FOR THE INNER ATTITUDE OF LOVE and RESPECT. <br />You should expect your children to OBEY you but you cannot force them to AGREE with you.<br />Parents can do much to influence the ideas and beliefs of their children but it is more indirect.<br />It is the work of PRAYER, THE POWER OF EXAMPLE,WORK OF THE HOLY SPIRIT.<br />Each person must make his own personal decision whether or not he will be a TRUE FOLLOWER OF JESUS.<br />