Found out about your husband lying and cheating? Don't let your shock and anger make you do this common mistake!

1. What NOT to Do When
Your Husband Cheats
By Lisa Penn
http://How-to-Save-Marriage.org

2.  You world is
crumbling down
under your feet. You
have recently found
out that your husband
is cheating, or has
cheated in the past
and now you are this
non-functioning mess
of rage, shock,
sadness, low self
esteem and despair.

3.  If that’s not enough, when your husband
cheats – It makes you feel lonelier than you
have ever felt before.
Your instinct tells you to run and tell someone.
Anyone.

4.  You want to tell your best friend, a close family member,
or at least get some revenge and post his name and
picture on Cheatersville so that everyone knows his lying
and cheating ways.
 If you don’t confide in someone, you may explode from
the internal pressure and strife. Right?
 I urge to wait a minute and think twice.

5.  Confidingthe details of your
husband’s affair to friends and
family can be DANGEROUS and
destroy any chance of saving
your marriage.

6. The Danger of Confiding Your
Husband’s Cheating
 Having someone to
support you going
through this awful
crisis is very
important. What could
be possible wrong
with pouring out your
hurt, anger and
disappointment to
other people in your
life?

7. I will tell you what’s wrong:
It will make things worse.
That’s right, read it again if you want – It
WILL make things worse. And These are
The Reasons:

8. 1. Bad Advice
 You are at a very vulnerable place right now. You may
think that everyone is thinking more clearly than you
and know better than you what to do right now.
 In a real effort to help you, your confidant will attempt
to give you advice about what to do right now. For
example, I can almost guarantee that he or she will
immediately advise you to end your marriage because
“Once a cheater always a cheater”.

9.  It won’t take long for you to discover that just about
everyone has an opinion, which is generally based on
what they themselves would do—in a perfect world
 Besides the fact that this “Once a cheater” cliche is total
BS, the problem with this type of advice is that they
don’t really know much about your marriage. They don’t
know about the process that led to this crisis, they don’t
know how if feels and they don’t know how much you
want to protect your family from destruction.

10. 2. Future Resentment
 What if you CAN save
your marriage? What if
your husband and you
can heal your marriage,
make it better than ever
and prevent this from
ever happening again?
 If your husband finds he
will be hated where ever
he sees your family and
friends, your chances of
saving your marriage
will be reduced
dramatically.

11.  No matter what anyone says, in many
cases a marriage can survive an affair. But
if you reveal his cheating to your best
friend, for example, she will probably hate
him forever, right? Meanwhile your
marriage is restored, but your best friend
may not want to come to your house ever
again.
 It’s important to think about irreversible
outcomes when confiding in someone that
is a part of your daily life.

12. 3. Hurting Your Children
 If you want to save your marriage and if
you care about your children, they must
never find out about this. You will forgive
him with time, whether you stay together
or not. But your kids will never forgive
him. Do you want that for your children? A
father they will resent for life? If you
confide with someone your kids know –
He or she may blurb it out accidentally
one day. Take that into consideration too

13. How to Choose Your
Confidants Wisely
 Sharing your marital problems, your hurt emotions and
uncontrolled anger with your friends and family is a bad
idea. If you feel you have to do that, at least ask them,
before you start sharing, to just listen to you and help
you find a positive way to deal with these negative
emotions. Tell them that “as for advice on what to do, I
am going to work it out on my own”.

14.  Another option is to confide with other
other women that went through the
same thing. There are plenty of
amazingly supportive marriage forums
online. It’s a safe place to vent and
learn from other people’s experience,
anonymously.
 But the most important thing to do
right now…

15.  is focusing on healing yourself (first)
and your marriage. There are
important steps you have to take
if you want to have a chance of
saving your marriage after an affair.

16.  And you have to start – Right
Now. (Only if you want a chance
to save your marriage)
Click Here to find a very good
place to start – Right Now!