Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spritual Growth

1. BOOKCLUB
ROAD LESS
TRAVELED
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Chapter: Discipline

2. WITHHOLDING
TRUTH
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3. WITHHOLDING TRUTH
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Lying can be divided into two types: white
lies and black lies.
A black lie is a statement we make that we
know is false,
A white lie is a statement we make that is
not in itself false but that leaves out a
significant part of the truth.
White lies may be every bit as destructive
as black ones.
White-lying is considered socially
acceptable in many of our relationships
because "we don't want to hurt peoples'
feelings."

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So the expression of opinions, feelings,
ideas and even knowledge must be
suppressed:
1. Never speak falsehood.
2. Moral decision is required.
3. Never be based on personal needs,
4. Must always be based entirely upon the
needs of the person or people from whom
the truth is being withheld.
All this might seem like an extraordinary
task, And never-ending burden of self-
discipline, which is why most people opt for
a life of very limited honesty and openness
and relative closedness, hiding themselves
and their maps from the world.

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Yet the rewards of the difficult life of
honesty and dedication to the truth are
more than commensurate with the
demands.
Through their openness they can establish
and maintain intimate relationships far
more effectively than more closed people.
never speak falsely they can be secure
done nothing to contribute to the confusion
of the world, but have served as sources of
illumination and clarification. they become
free from fear

6. BALANCING
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7. BALANCING
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Balancing is the discipline that gives us flexibility.
The essence of this discipline of balancing is "giving up."

8. BALANCING
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Balancing is a discipline precisely
because the act of giving something
up is painful.
As must everyone, for as we
negotiate the curves and corners of
our lives, we must continually give up
parts of ourselves. The only
alternative to this giving up is not to
travel at all on the journey of life.
Giving up is the most painful of
human experiences.

9. THE HEALTHINESS
OF DEPRESSION
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10. THE HEALTHINESS OF DEPRESSION
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Depression is a normal and basically healthy phenomenon. It becomes abnormal or
unhealthy only when some-thing interferes with the giving -up process, with the
result that the depression is prolonged and cannot be resolved by completion of the
process.*
Depression is signaling that major change is required for successful and
evolutionary adaptation.

11. THE HEALTHINESS OF DEPRESSION
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Many people are either unwilling or unable to suffer the pain of giving up the
outgrown which needs to be forsaken. Consequently they cling, often forever, to
their old patterns of thinking and behaving, thus failing to negotiate any crisis, to
truly grow up, and to experience the joyful sense of rebirth that accompanies the
successful transition into greater maturity.

12. RENUCIATION
REBIRTH
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13. RENUCIATION REBIRTH
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It is in the giving up of self that human
beings can find the most ecstatic and
lasting, solid, durable joy of life. And it is
death that provides life with all its meaning.
This "secret" is the central wisdom of
religion.
Self-discipline is a self-enlarging process.
The pain of giving up is the pain of death,
but death of the old is birth of the new. The
pain of death is the pain of birth, and the
pain of birth is the pain of death.

14. THANK YOU
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