2. What is Relational
Aggression?
•Behavior that is intended to
harm someone by damaging or
manipulating his or her
relationships with others (Crick
&Grotpeter, 1995)

4. Statistics
• Girl bullying starts as early as preschool
• 25% of students say that an adult intervenes in
bullying situations, while 71% of adults believe
they always intervene
• 70% of girls have been mistreated by their
friends

6. Roles
• The aggressor/bully
• Sidekick
• The targeted victim
• Girls in the middle
• Sometimes, boy instigator

7. Aggressors
• Also known as the “queen
bees”, the RMGs(Really Mean
Girls), or the alpha girls
• Typically walk into a room
with a small entourage and
tell other girls where to sit
• Seem perfect, seem like they
have the perfect life

8. The sidekick
• Second to the queen
aggressor
• Later could become a
victim

9. Girls in the Middle
• The pivotal and largest group
• The girls who might alternately be victims or
aggressor, often choosing to be bullies
because they do not want to be next
• Do not know the power they have

10. The Victim
• Most and least liked of group
• May be less likely “to go along to get along”
• Three “D’s”

11. Old vs. New
old New
• Gossip • Techno- Aggression
(cyber bullying)
• Dirty Looks • E-mail
• IMs
• Notes
• Faceboook
• Chat Rooms

12. Cyber Bullying
• Girls are twice as likely as boys to be victims of
cyber bullying.
• Planned in a group
• Entertainment

13. Short Term Effects
Victim Bully & Victim
• Lonliness • Depression
• Anxiety • Anxiety
• Low self-esteem • Eating disorders
• depression • Poor academic
performance

14. Long- Term Effects
• Adjustment problems
• Relationships
• Depression
• Suicide

17. Talking About the
Conflict
•“I feel ______ when you
_____ and I want _____”

19. Parent’s MODEL
• Model
• Observe
• Don’t Ignore
• Emphasize telling is not tattling
• Listen

20. Role Playing
• Assign groups of 4-5 people
• Group #1- act out a cyber bullying incident, then
act out how it should of gone.
• Group #2- Act out a day in the cafeteria. One girl
tells the other girl to get up and leave the table.
Then, act out what should have happened.
• Group #3- Spread a rumor about someone in your
group. Act out what you should do and your
apology.

21. Discussion
• Do you think that bullying is a problem in this
classroom or school?
• What are you going to do next time you see
someone being bullied?
• Talk about your experience with bullying and
how you overcame it.

22. Conclusion
Most people think that
relational aggression is
just a part of
everyone’s lives and
everyone goes through
it, but it’s not. It can be
stopped. Be kind to one
another!