Bullying workshops (Taylor Ibolya - Béres Tünde) 2019

1. BULLYING We need to talk about it

2. SANTA FE SCHOOL
SHOOTING 2018
• What we know about the shooter.
• What can cause this?
• Family dysfunction
• Mental illness
• TV and internet use is not limited/monitored
• Bullying – In many cases school shooters were victims of bullying

3. WHAT DO YOU THINK?
• ARE VIOLENCE AND BULLYING EXACTLY THE SAME?
• IS BULLYING THE No1 REASON FOR SUICIDE ?
• ARE THE BYSTANDERS (WITNESSES) INNOCENT?
• IS TEASING AND BULLYING THE SAME?
• ARE THE CLIQUES IN SCHOOLS THE FIRST STEP TOWARDS BULLYING?

4. WHAT IS BULLYING?
• Unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children.
• Involves a real or perceived power imbalance.
• The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time.
• Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems.
• Butterfly Circus part 1
Butterfly Circus part 2

5. WHAT IS BULLYING?
• In order for it to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include:
• An Imbalance of Power: Kids who bully use their power (physical strength, embarrassing information,
popularity) to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if
they involve the same people.
• Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once.
• Bullying is..
• public humiliation
• imbalanced power demonstration
• unwanted negative behaviour
• repeated over time
• viewed by others

6. WHAT THE NUMBERS TELL
US…
• The 2015 School Crime Supplement PDF National Center for Education Statistics
and Bureau of Justice Statistics) indicates that, nationwide, about 21% of students
ages 12-18 experienced bullying.
• The 2017 Youth Risk Behaviour Surveillance System Centers for Disease Control
and Prevention) indicates that, nationwide, 19% of students in grades 9–12 report
being bullied on school property in the 12 months preceding the survey.

7. THE TRIANGLE OF
BULLYING
BULLY
BULLIED
(VICTIM)
BYSTANDERS
(WITNESSES)
• BULLY (ATTACKER, OFFENDER) wants to demonstrate power
• BULLIED (VICTIM) The reason why they are picked is because they are DIFFERENT from the group/clique
of the bully.
• Being in a wrong place at a wrong time
• The effects: withdrawn, struggle to focus, antisocial, moody, change in appetite, more time spent time alone,
depression, anxiety, suicide...
• (84% of adolescent suicide is related to bullying!!!!)
• BYSTANDERS ( WITNESSES)
• 57% of bullying stops when a peer intervenes

8. TYPES OF BULLYING

9. VERBAL
• Verbal bullying is saying or writing mean things. Verbal bullying includes:
• Teasing
• Name-calling
• Inappropriate sexual comments
• Taunting
• Threatening to cause harm

10. PHYSICAL
• Physical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical bullying
includes:
• Hitting/kicking/pinching
• Spitting
• Tripping/pushing
• Taking or breaking someone’s things
• Making mean or rude hand gestures

11. SOCIAL
• Social bullying, sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves hurting
someone’s reputation or relationships. Social bullying includes:
• Leaving someone out on purpose
• Telling other children not to be friends with someone
• Spreading rumors about someone
• Embarrassing someone in public

12. CYBERBULLYING
• Doesn’t have borders (time, space…)
• More platform, more bullies…
• They can stay anonymus
• More agression(not face to face)
• Internet personas
• It’s harder to detect
• More than half of teens are affected
• What you upload, stays forever

13. CYBERBULLYING
• 90% of teens who has been cyberbullied also have been bullied offline
• Cyberbullying: sending, posting, or sharing negative, harmful, false, or mean content about
someone.
• Causes embarrassment or humiliation.
• Sometimes it counts as unlawful or criminal behavior.
• The most common places where cyberbullying occurs are:
• Social Media
• Text Message sent
• Instant Message
• Email

14. • Teasing (roles can be changed)
• Practical joke (if both of them laugh)
• Spontaneous violence (it is NOT targeted ahead, not prefabricated)
• Cliques in schools (the ultimate goal is not to humiliate the other)
WHAT DOESN’T COUNT AS
BULLYING (YET)?

15. CLIQUES

16. SIGNS OF BULLYING
• Signs of bullying:
• Talks poorly about classmate and/or school
• After checking phone gets upset
• Gets home and runs to their room
• Comes home hungry
• Missing belongings
• Shortage of money
• Repeated signs of bruises, injuries
• Torn or broken belongings

17. HOW CAN WE HELP?
• Prevention
• Present and teach empathy
• Focus on relationships (peer, teacher)
• All school staff need to be trained
• Early detection
• Get information directly from students

18. HOW CAN WE HELP?
• Apply simple, clearly communicated rules in school
• Mingle the different cliques in school
• Encourage students to report if they are bullied
• Provide supervision in common areas
• Parents and teachers should collaborate
• Focus on the bystanders

19. HOW TO GET HELP
• Talk to your parents/teachers/adults that you trust
• Report the bullying in school
• If you feel the need call helplines or get help on professional online forums

20. REMEMBER
!!Bullying can lead to serious mental, social problems!!
Every country has free of charge helplines!
Bullying has serious effects.

21. EFFECTS OF BULLYING
• For the victim: Low self esteem, anxiety, depression, poor school preformance,
social isolation, eating disorders, sleeping disorders, social barriers, suicide, trust
issues, drug/alcohol abuse, self-harm…
• For the bully: Drug/alcohol abuse, domestical abuse, antisocial behaviour…
• Take it seriously, some „jokes” can ruin lives

22. SUGGESTED MATERIALS
• Barbara Coloroso: Bully, Bullied and the Bystanders
• Butterfly Circus
• Stephen Johnson: The 12 High School Cliques that exist today

23. THE END Thank you for your attention