2. Sex – Sexuality
&
The Challenge
Sex : Male / Female
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3. Sex is part of our life – Not a
Taboo
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4. Lets Start at the Start
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5. Is there any research
in India on Sexuality
education or
Intervention ?
Zero
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6. 6
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Stages of Puberty
Girls – 9 onwards
Boys –12 onwards
7. Why make your Child with autism
learn about Sex & Sexuality
1. They are as sexual as any NT adolescent
can be.
Their body grows as per age
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8. Why make your Child with autism
learn about Sex & Sexuality
2. Sexual Abuse
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9. Why make your Child with autism
learn about Sex & Sexuality
3. Same Hormones-Same Urges
Same needs - Same choices
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10. Why make your Child with autism
learn about Sex & Sexuality
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4. Internet Porn
11. Know Touch – No Touch
Prevent Abuse before it happens
No secret touches
Teaching to say “ NO “
Teach Self-protective skills
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12. Sexual abuse
Starts from known persons – rarely from
strangers
Caregivers - Secondary
Therapists
Teachers
Personal assistants like drivers, maids,
chowkidars etc
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13. Sexuality teaching:
Whose duty is it?
60% home and parents
30% school
10% by specialists like physicians etc
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14. What is sex?
Sex is just a behaviour. - J. Bering (2012)
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15. Goals
-Boy or Girl
-Ladies room or Men’s room
-With whom can your child get :
- Naked
- Masturbate
- Help with toileting or Menstruation
- Touch certain parts of his or her body
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16. Myths about Sexuality
That adolescents or young adults with autism
have no interest in Sexuality
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17. Myths about Sexuality
They are hypersexual
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18. Myths about Sexuality
They are solely heterosexual
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19. The truth about Sexuality
Understanding of Sexuality must be
proactively pursued
Not after an abuse has happened leaving the
child in trauma.
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20. Masturbation
The most typical sexual behaviour among
individuals with autism
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21. Masturbation
Is normal and should not be condemned
Exploring genitals for self-pleasure and starts
in infancy itself
No one teaches Masturbation – it is learnt on
their own
May or may not reach orgasm
Masturbation may be the only sexual outlet for
most people with autism
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22. Where to masturbate?
Create private spaces to masturbate in
- his or her bedroom
- Avoid teaching use of bathroom
- Teach rules for correct time / place
- Make him aware that its not always an option
- Provide private time
- Schedule private time and help them
understand
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23. Let him masturbate if he or she
feels like doing it:
Masturbation is not dirty or a sin
Its normal part of his sexuality
You should not let guilt or shame overtake
your child
And it is NOT unhealthy
At most it can irritate the skin around the
Penis.
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24. Do girls with autism Masturbate?
The answer is YES.
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25. Girls : Is it OK?
It is NORMAL for your daughter to have sexual
urges and interest.
Discussing masturbation is an anxiety-provoking
moment for any parent.
Take up the topic with your daughter in a manner
that is consistent with your family’s belief system.
Set rules that are both age appropriate and
comfortable for you to follow through with. This
includes acknowledging
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28. Prevention
Make your son or daughter independent in
ADLs
Make him sleep in his own bed
Teach personal hygiene
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29. When your son sleeps alone in
his own bed -
He is NOT lonely
He is learning to be independent
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30. Oedipus Complex
Is a mother-son fixation
Leads to the son never being independent of
the mother.
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31. Visual Simulation
More in women compared to me
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32. Crucial age for parents
13 years to 19 year olds
Behaviours reach a peak till 19
Taper off post teens
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33. Arousal Behaviours – Aggressive
that could be assaultive or SI
Some anti-psychotics cause longer and
consecutively painful erections
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34. Sexual Arousal
Satvik food : No Onion – No Gralic
Making them wear loose/tight clothes
Keeping them away from visual stimulants
Keeping them meaningfully engaged
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35. Areas that Require Attention
Individual values, ethics, morals, social
responsibility
• Respect wishes of others
• Religious beliefs
• Appropriate public vs. private behaviour
• Touch: when, what, where, who
• Never OK to touch a younger child
• Masturbation - May need direct instruction
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36. Is marriage possible?
Possible, but not advisable.
Even if marriage is possible, it may or may not
be consummated.
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37. Is Temple Grandin married?
Temple Grandin, a savant and the most
visible face of autism choose not to marry.
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