As a custody and divorce lawyer in Frederick, it never ceases to amaze me that when I give a presentation, a class or a seminar on divorce and custody, it always comes down to questions and answers. I get asked the following questions. Men always ask: “ Doesn’t the mother always get custody? ” Women always ask: “Why do most marriages fail?” Both ask: “What about marriage counseling? Note well that the “reasons” for divorce is a question of the human heart, a journey nearly impossible to define. In contrast, the “grounds” for the eventual divorce is merely a question of law, more like a road map. See What Entitles You To Grounds For Divorce in Frederick Md.

1. Marriage Counseling Will Not Guarantee Fidelity
Both Men And Women Ask “What About Marriage
Counseling?”

2. “What About Marriage Counseling?”
•As a custody and divorce lawyer in Frederick, it
never ceases to amaze me that when I give a
presentation, a class or a seminar on divorce
and custody, it always comes down to questions
and answers.
•I get asked the following questions.

3. Both Men And Women Ask “What About Marriage
Counseling?”
•Men always ask: “Doesn't the mother always get custody?
•Women always ask: “Why do most marriages fail?”
•Both ask: “What about marriage counseling?
the “reasons” for divorce is a
question of the human heart, a
journey nearly impossible to define.

4. The “reasons” for divorce is a question of the human
heart, a journey nearly impossible to define.
•In contrast, the “grounds” for the eventual divorce is merely a
question of law, more like a road map. See What Entitles You
To Grounds For Divorce in Frederick Md.
•I can tell you as a Frederick divorce and custody lawyer that
everything I comment upon is a clear pattern. These are of
course just MY observations, not a study or a survey.
•That being said, seventeen (19) years as a lawyer handling
between sixty five (65) to one hundred (100) divorce and
custody cases per year? That’s a significant sample. You
may find my answers are matter of fact and unambiguous.

5. “Why do most marriages fail?”
•The unambiguous answer is:
Adultery
•There is not even a close second. Psychology experts
report the same answer. While we have to face the fact that
this is the most common “reason” for divorce, it’s not the most
common “grounds” for divorce.
•Mutual and voluntary separation for over one year is the
most common grounds divorces are awarded upon.

6. “What about marriage counseling?”
•This question goes hand in hand (forgive the pun) with the
above. Marriage rarely survives an adultery of any length. To
my knowledge, it has never survived an adultery in the
marital home. As a Frederick Maryland custody lawyer I
observe that It tends to work like this:
•One or both spouses have an affair and then there is a
period of kicking, screaming and finger pointing.
•Following that, most people just go ahead and just get
divorced by agreement. They both eventually want it. So,
the most common “grounds” for a divorce is granted is based

7. “Mutual and Voluntary Separation”
•The most common “grounds” for a divorce based on a
“mutual” and “voluntary” separation. The “Mutual and
Voluntary Separation” standard can be usually be met even
if that separation became “mutual” and “voluntary” the day of
the divorce.
•Most of the time if there is an aggrieved party they get used
to the idea of being divorced or reach the conclusion
•“I’m better off without (him/her).”

8. Adultery is so commonly at the heart
of a divorce
•that Frederick Maryland custody attorneys just
presume somebody in the picture had or is
having an affair. The signs are different with
some variation on the themes:
•“my spouse works late
•my spouse travels alot for work
•my spouse is spending more time out with
friends
•my spouse spends alot of time on the

9. Marriage Counseling Will Not
Guarantee Fidelity
•That being said ,I could not possibly spell out all
of the adultery signs I have seen over the years.
•Nor, have I found a “smoking gun” sign that
proves an adultery the each and every time.
What I can say is that: intuition is always right.
You can count on it like gravity.

10. “If you think your spouse is cheating, you are
always right.”
•A mantra spoken to me by a senior divorce
lawyer many years ago was:
•“if you think your spouse is faithful, you may be
right.”
•“If you think your spouse is cheating, you are
always right.”
•Each year I find this mantra to be more, and

11. At the end of the day, it’s a chicken or
the egg question.
•Did the adultery occur and lead to demise of the
marriage, or did in the demise of the marriage
lead to the adultery? Someday, when I am
sitting on a beach, I may consider how the
causal relationship plays out. I may even
investigate whether what I have seen as a
Frederick custody lawyer is reflective of the
whole state or even the whole country. For now, I
merely offer the above observations.

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