Is It Time for the “Talk” With Your Elder or Loved One?
1. Is it Time for
the “Talk”
with your
elder or
loved one?
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Is it Time for the “Talk” with your elder loved one?
Denial of needing assisted living or nursing home care
is common when dealing with a parent or senior relative
who doesn’t want to have to leave his or her home.
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Decide whether it
is best to have the
talk at home or in a
public place.
Bring a special treat and begin
the discussion over tea or
coffee. A public place may be
the better location if you feel the
talk will escalate to an argument
or your loved one will “escape”
to a bedroom to avoid the
discussion.
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Be factual and
share your
concerns.
For example:
“I will come every Tuesday,
Thursday, and Saturday to be
sure you are OK.”
“I can’t help but notice you are
losing weight.”
“You have missed taking
your medicine four times this
month.”
“You have fallen twice in recent
weeks.”
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Be sure to elabo-
rate on your fears
for your loved one.
For example:
“When I can’t get here to check
on you, I worry all day that you
might forget your medicine or
that you haven’t eaten.”
“I get so stressed out when I
phone and you don’t answer
the phone or it takes you long to
pick up. I think you have fallen
again.”
“I worry that if something
happens to me, you won’t have
anyone to look after you.”
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Acknowledge
your loved one’s
concerns and
desires:
“I know you don’t want to leave
the home you’ve lived in for so
long.”
“I know it is scary to be making
such a big change.”
“I know you are concerned
about what to do with your
belongings and treasures.”
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Follow up with
a statement to
reassure your
loved one that
this is a process
you will work on
together and that
you will both be
able to tour facili-
ties to select the
one that is right.
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Knowing that you
will include your
loved one in the
decision-making
will go a long way
towards a success-
ful discussion.
It will be necessary to talk the
“Talk” more than once, but the
first time is the most difficult.
Be sure to show concern and
understanding as your discus-
sion progresses to a conclusion
helps to make the transition a
smooth one.
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Aurum member nursing and rehabilitation
centers provide a wide range of high quality
medical services including:
• Postacute care
• Short-term rehabilitation
• Respite care
• Hospice care
• Long-term care
Working with each resident and their family
members, staff will customize a plan to
maximize both self-motivation and func-
tional independence. You or your loved one
will be in an atmosphere of warmth, respect
and understanding.
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