This document discusses lessons learned from Dr. SarahBeth Hartlage's experience as both a physician and a mother of a child with serious medical issues. It covers three main topics: 1) collaborating with medical providers by recognizing when you have expertise as a parent but also deferring to medical expertise; 2) communicating with your spouse and family by designating a point person, controlling the narrative, and being specific about how others can help; and 3) strategies for self-care such as finding community support, meditation, getting outside, and prioritizing basic needs like eating and sleeping. The overall message is about balancing advocating for your child with caring for yourself during difficult medical situations.