We all believe we are good listeners, but the truth is we are not, this overview, will help you build confidence and make impact, simple content and relevant to anyone who wants to improve their communication skills.
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What is listening
It is not listening to some things and not others
It is your ability to focus your mind on what the other
person is saying.
Physically hear what is being said;
Understand it; and
Remember it.
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The costs of poor listening are
staggering
– rework, missed deadlines, poor employee
satisfaction and employee relations, lost sales,
and compromised customer relations. In
business, poor listening can be very expensive.
It doesn’t matter whether you’re managing,
negotiating, supervising, or selling – you’re going
to be more effective by listening than by talking.
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Use Listening noises
Understanding listening noises you could show others you are attentive:
Uh huh
I see
Right
OK
I understand
You could use listening noises:
To show that you are paying attention
Repeat names, telephone numbers and e-mail addresses back to the caller
Summarise and double check all information gained
Avoid passing requests from department to department, but if you must,
reassure the callers that you will pass their details on to the correct person.
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Fact
Immediately following a speech, the average listener
comprehends approximately 50% of what he/she
hears;
Within 1 day, the comprehension level has dropped
to 46% or less;
After one week we have forgotten 65%, and after 14
days we have forgotten 80% of what we have heard.
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Ineffective Listening Habits
Interrupting
Not acknowledging underlying feelings
Getting defensive
Problem-solving without permission
One-upping
Pretending to listen; thinking about other things
Projecting our own experiences on the speaker
Daydreaming
Considering others persons topic to be unimportant
Selective hearing - hearing only what we want to hear
Jumping to conclusions
Planning our replies while the other person is still speaking
Beliefs about listening being unimportant
Having too much else on our minds
Rejecting statements that do not align with our personal opinion
Boredom
Negative Self Talk
Being The Expert
Individual bias and prejudice
Preoccupation, boredom and shrinking attention spans
Monopolizing-Hogging the stage by continuously focusing communication on ourselves instead of the person who is talking
Defensive Listening- Perceiving personal attacks, criticism, or hostile undertones in communication where none is intended.
Ambushing- Listening carefully for the purpose of attacking the other speaker
Literal Listening-Listening only to the content level of meaning and ignoring the relationship level of meaning.
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Listening helps build rapport
People enjoy listening to others they like,
by establishing and maintaining good
relationships you greatly increase your
chances of achieving your targets for
effective communication.
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Active listening builds rapport
The genuine desire to understand another
person's perception
Listening and expressing - understanding of
what another person has said
Sensitivity to another's thoughts and feelings
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Levels of Listening
Awareness: making sense of sounds and distinguish words but
don’t necessarily understand or analyse them.
Understand: you go beyond just hearing the words to really
understanding what they mean and what is being said.
Analysis: you analyse what’s being said, distinguish fact from fiction
and weigh up further options and opportunities associated with the
content, requiring concentration and energy.
Empathy: you understand what is being said from the speaker’s
point of view, requiring skill and concentration, especially important
when dealing with objections, criticisms or complaints.
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The BREAKTHROUGH listening model
Consists of four steps you can take to
improving your listening:
Prepare yourself and mind – stop and think
Focus – energise yourself
Demonstrate listening
Summarising and recap - clarify.
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Techniques to improve listening
Stay alert: - Prepare yourself, think about your opening
sentence and anticipate
Respond: - Encourage others to keep talking by the occasional
listening noise but don’t over do it
Concentrate: - Try to cut out your own preoccupations and
distractions such as the view from your window or other people in
the background
Listen for themes: - Focus on the meaning of what is being
said, not just the words themselves, and link key ideas to your
own purpose, knowledge and experience