5. Goals of Parenting
Productive independent adults
Solving problems rather than punishing mistakes
Intrinsic discipline and motivation
6. Authoritarian Parent Chart
The Authoritarian The Authoritative or
The Permissive Parent
Parent Responsible Parent
1. Gives the child choices
1. Makes all decisions for
and formulates guidelines 1. Is a slave to the child
child
with him or her.
2. Uses reward and 2. Provides the child with 2. Places priority on the
punishment to control decision-making child, not on his or her
child’s behavior opportunities spouse
3. Robs the child of self-respect
3. Sees himself as better 3. Develops consistent, and self -esteem by doing things
than the child loving discipline for him that the child can do for
himself
4. Provides the child with
4. Runs the home with
4. Hold the child the “Disneyland”
an iron hand; grants little
accountable experience; makes things
freedom to the child
as easy as possible
7. 5. Lets reality be the 5. Invites rebellion with
teacher inconsistent parenting
6. Conveys respect, self-
worth, and love to the
child and therefore
enhances the child’s self-
esteem
10. Love and Logic Foundations
Maintain dignity for adult and child
11. Love and Logic Foundations
Maintain dignity for adult and child
Whenever possible share control
12. Love and Logic Foundations
Maintain dignity for adult and child
Whenever possible share control
If consequences are necessary, use empathy with
consequences approach
