1. Patrick J. Hale, M.S.Ed.
Residence Hall Director
Boston University Residence Life
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3. How to define and notice offensive behavior
Understand the importance of addressing
such behavior
Learn about different strategies and tools for
responding to offensive behavior
4. We are all here to learn and grow
We each offer individual experience and
knowledge
This is a safeAND brave space
Share air time
One mic, one diva
Other important ones?
5. “behavior that causes
injury or insult”
“causing someone to
feel deeply hurt, upset,
or angry”
Synonyms:
Rude
Annoying
Foul
Uncivil
6. Residence Life engages and connects students
in residential and University communities,
fostering students’ growth as leaders equipped
to interact in a local and global context.
We strive to facilitate student learning and
development in a safe and healthy experience,
defined by respect and dignity for all
individuals.
7. Human beings change their
behavior based on the relationships
that that they have with others.
13. Affective statements
“I felt really angered by what you said/did.”
“I’m concerned that what you said hurt that other
student.”
“I appreciate you hearing me out.”
Affective questions
“What did you mean by that statement?”
“How do you think the other person might have
been affected by your actions?”
14. Focus on the behavior
Use “I” statements
Control your own
actions
Listen without
judgment
Be patient
Take care of yourself
15. Pass judgment on the
person
Be “preachy”
Yell or shout at the
person
Offend the other
person
Force the other person
to change
16. We are doing the best
we can (most of the
time).
Commit yourself to
constant learning.
We are just as capable
of harming others.
We must own our own
biases and judgments.
Human beings do grow
and change over time.
