3. REVIEW LAST WEEK,
LESSON #4
HOW DO WE SEE OUR SELVES
HOW DO OUR PERCEPTIONS
IMPACT THE WAY WE FEEL
HOW DO OTHERS SEE US
HOW DO WE WANT TO BE SEEN
POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS TO HEAL
NEGATIVE SELF-CONCEPT.
6. Fear and Perception
FEAR can paint our perception of
reality.
We can see the world with Grey
glasses or Pink glasses.
Fear can change how perceive our
situation or circumstance.
7. Fear of the paper tiger
Often our fear can not “really hurt
us” often about: something
impacting or threatening our:
•relationships
•environment
•health
•security
8. When you have a F.E.A.R
First ask yourself:
Is the FEAR True?
Is there anything I can do to
change it?
9. Fears we Can & Can Not
Control
The FEAR is always either about something we
either can or can't control.
•There are all the fear/outcomes you can
control (typically self)
•There are all the fears/outcomes you
can not control (typically others)
11. Some Top Fears/phobias:
1. Public Speaking
2. War
3. Flying
4. Heights
5. Rejection
6. The Dark
7. Sickness
8. Not being Loved/Being Loved
9. Being Judged
10. Fear of Failure
11. Death
Common Fear… FEAR of Change.
12. Common Fears and Judgments:
•Fear of Rejection
•Fear of being or not loved
•Fear of not being “good enough”
•Fear of being judged
•Fear of Failure
We are all a chicken sometimes…
13. We are the Same …
•We all are 99.9% the same
•We have a lot of the same
F.E.A.R’s
•We are more alike then we
are different.
14. CROSS the LINE
You have brown hair You think spring is the best season
You are wearing jeans You think chocolate is the best ice
cream
You are wearing the color green You feel the most comfortable in jeans
You are wearing sneakers You think gym is the best subject
You like summer You think science is the best subject
Your favorite subject is science Being an only child is best
You have siblings Dogs are the best pets
You have a pet Its not a party without pizza
You like pizza You love to dance
You like ice cream You love sports
You are the oldest child You love pop music
15. Cross the line if….
You like to dance You are a musician
You play a sport School is a great place to be
You play an instrument You have a talent
You feel you are a good student Homework is a waste of time
You have a talent Its easy to ask for help
You sometimes don’t do your homework If you try to can accomplish anything
You wish you did better in school I have plenty of friends
You wish you had more friends My family is very close
You get along with your family My family rules are fair
You like your house I like where I live
You feel safe at school School is a safe place
16. Cross the line if…
You feel lonely sometimes I feel lonely all the time
You are scared of the dark I will always be afraid of the dark
You feel scared sometimes I am afraid all the time
You feel sad sometimes I am sad all the time
You get so angry
You feel judged for the color of your skin I am angry all the time
You feel judged because of where you live
You feel judged because of how you dress
You wish people understood you more People always understand me
You have ever wanted to run away People always respect me
If you have someone you need to forgive All people deserve to be
forgiven
IF your don’t like being judged People cant change
You want to be happy I am a happy person all the time
You want this game to be over I want the game to be over
You cant wait for summer vacation I want to make a difference in the world
17. How many of us…
Like summer
Don’t like being judged
Want to be happy
See we are alike, we have a lot of the same
fears, its not my fear or your fear it’s The
F.E.A.R.
18. EMPATHY
•Empathy: Understanding and
entering into another’s feelings.
•Feeling the same or being able
to imagine what it is like to be in
someone else’s shoes.
An example of empathy is being able to
imagine what a student who was called a
name.
19. Share a FEAR
Get with a friend and share one fear
Is it real?
Why do you have it?
What part of your life it is effecting?
Do you need to accept it or can you
change it?
20. Changing the FEAR to it’s
opposite
What is the opposite of
the fear?
Can you affirm the
opposite?
21. Practice Affirmations
•“I trust that everything is going to be ok, no
matter what.”
•“I do the best I can and let go of the rest.”
•“I love and accept myself, just as I am right
here.”
•“What others think of me does not matter, what
matters most is how I feel about myself.”
•“I let go of outcomes, over which I have no
control.”
•“I have courage and I am brave.”
