1. “I am confident
of this,
that the one who
began a
good work
among you
will bring it to
completion
by the day of
Jesus Christ.”
(Philippians 1: 6)
ought to love, who could never complete
and earn our salvation, have found that
God in his mercy and love sent his be-
loved son to finish for us. “When Jesus
had received the wine, he said, ‘It is fin-
ished.’ Then he bowed his head and gave
up his spirit.” (John 19:30)
May this Lenten season be a time for
each of us to renew our commitment to
following the Lord who loves and saves
us! May we gather together often for
worship and fellowship at Good Shep-
herd! May we work creatively with our
Lord in striving to spread the good news
and to love our neighbor more perfectly!
“Now may the God of peace, who
brought back from the dead our Lord
Jesus, the great shepherd of the sheep,
by the blood of the eternal covenant,
make you complete in everything good
so that you may do his will, working
among us that which is pleasing in his
sight, through Jesus Christ, to whom be
the glory forever and ever.
Amen.” (Hebrews 13:20-12)
Completely Yours in Christ,
F E B R U A R Y 2 0 1 3F E B R U A R Y 2 0 1 3F E B R U A R Y 2 0 1 3F E B R U A R Y 2 0 1 3
GOOD SHEPHERD LUTHERAN CHURCH & SCHOOLGOOD SHEPHERD LUTHERAN CHURCH & SCHOOLGOOD SHEPHERD LUTHERAN CHURCH & SCHOOLGOOD SHEPHERD LUTHERAN CHURCH & SCHOOL
CELEBRATING 60 YEARS IN GOD’S SERVICECELEBRATING 60 YEARS IN GOD’S SERVICECELEBRATING 60 YEARS IN GOD’S SERVICECELEBRATING 60 YEARS IN GOD’S SERVICE
Dear Faithful People of Good Shepherd,
How often have we put our hand to a
task, began a project, set a goal or pur-
sued a dream and have been unable to
bring that task, project, goal or dream
to completion? Maybe we have con-
vinced ourselves that unforeseen cir-
cumstances beyond our control were
the cause for our stopping. Maybe we
tell ourselves that the timing is not
right and that we will resume our work
at some time in the future. Maybe we
beat ourselves up and blame ourselves
for quitting. Regardless of our ultimate
categorizing of things unfinished, most
would agree that being “undone” or
“incomplete” is an uncomfortable state
of being which we hope is only tempo-
rary at best.
On February 13th
, Ash Wednesday, we
will gather at 10:30 a.m. and 7:30 p.m.
for worship here at Good Shepherd.
We will recall the sin which clings so
closely to us and the temporary nature
of physical existence. We will discover
that repentance remains unfinished.
We will shamefully and sorrowfully
remember how we continue to fall very
short in our commitment to God and
neighbor. “Remember that you are dust
and to dust you shall return” are the
words we will hear as the ashes are im-
posed on our forehead. Oh God forgive
and save your children we cry!
In our mourning and wailing God hears
our cry. In the ashes the saving cross is
found. We who could not love as we

4. Our much-publicized “coming soon” calligraphy
class held its first session on Tuesday morning,
January 15, in the West Cottage. Led by Gun-
hild Hendrickson (Schabel), students Louise
Lamont, Evelyn Helmers, Dr. Stanley Bartkow
(and Denise in absentia), Elaine Cassimatis, Rod-
ney, and yours truly took the pen and the first
steps to becoming master letterers. The funda-
mentals sounded simple enough—both feet on the floor, straight posture, slightly angled, holding the pen
properly, keeping it at a 45° angle at all times and not pressing too hard. But sometimes old habits die hard!
Everyone seemed happy to be there, especially Gunhild who went right back into teaching mode and
relayed stories from her days of teaching seventh grade art. She very much enjoyed reminiscing on how she
worked in tandem with the academic teachers when the students had projects. An English student, for ex-
ample, would write poetry in calligraphy, and receive two grades—one from Ms. Hendrickson for the art
work and the other from the English teacher for the poem! She also did similar projects with math students.
Though we didn’t get graded this time, we did get homework!
As we learned in school...practice makes perfect!
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WE PRAY FOR...
Mike Adams (Maureen Cooke’s brother in
law), Anne Araco (Lori Tollefsen’s mother),
Maureen Kelly Araujo, Alex & Derek Bartkow,
Annette & Bill Benson, Carol Berardino, John
Binsfeld (Benner family friend), Martin Bolti-
zar (Louise Lamont’s cousin), Larry Brokaw
(Amy Pietrofere’s stepfather), Lynne Carlson
(Irma’s daughter-in-law), Claudia Churchill
(Amy Pietrofere’s mother), Eileen Cornelius
(Mason family friend), Lorraine Cu (Marta
Scherer’s friend), Chris Cucci and his family
(Naomi Hulver’s student), Rita Cunningham
(Cronin family friend), Ken Dixon (Pastor
Eric’s friend), Susan Dowd (Maisch family
friend), Anna Duda (Denise Bartkow’s
mother), Ryan Faret & his family, Jim & Lois
Fassino, James Fields (Vincent and Dorothy
Cronin’s nephew), Mary Gessing (Dorothy
and Vincent Cronin’s cousin), Erika Green,
Natalie Heavren (Eleanor Pearson’s cousin),
Norma Hinsch, Bodey Johnson (Karl & Carol
Burfeindt’s great grandson), Jake (Maisch fam-
ily friend) and his family, Lillian Kassan (Jeff’s
mother), Robert Kraus (Naomi Hulver’s
friend), Lisa Krenkel (Terry Miccio’s cousin);
Toni Anne LaGois, Francis Lee (Helen Kopf’s
son), Diane Lisa (Cathy Vollono’s friend), Max
Ludewig, Bea McCabe, Pastor Fred McElderry
(St. Andrew’s in West Hempstead), John
Meyer (Lori Defilippis’ father), Helga Mitze,
Mary Ellen Moyse (George’s wife), Gail Molo-
ney, Leida Munoz (Marta Scherer’s friend),
Ruth Odwazny, Keith Perry (Bonnie Beach-
Gadigian’s friend), Joan Peterson (Eleanor
Pearson’s sister in law), Tristan Phillips
(Grace Berry’s great grandaughter), Kyle Pira-
neo, Nick Portugal (Liam Broggy’s friend),
Justin Rogers (Karin Kienle’s nephew) and his
parents Christine & Tom Greenwood, Fred
Ruff, Ashley Ruth, Julia Saprenza, Glenn Scha-
bel, Margaret Schulze (Judy Hinsch’s friend),
Arlene Schroeder (Virginia’s sister in law),
Virginia Schroeder, Genevieve Sounia, Ian
Spadaro, Maria Spergel (Suzanna Allan’s
mother), Roy Steinhilber, Joyce Tare, Peggy
Taylor (Amy Pietrofere’s friend), and Leon
Thompson (Lisa Olsen’s father).
T H O S E S E R V I N GT H O S E S E R V I N GT H O S E S E R V I N GT H O S E S E R V I N G
I N T H E M I L I T A R YI N T H E M I L I T A R YI N T H E M I L I T A R YI N T H E M I L I T A R Y
Keith & Kyle Calderone (Army), Specialist
Sean Hassett (Lori Mason’s cousin), David
Jacobs (Joyce Tare’s nephew, Alec & Madi-
son’s cousin), CPT. Paul Rickmeyer, LTC.
Phillip Sounia, USMC Lance Corporal Nicho-
las Ventrelli-O’Connell (Patty Larson’s family
friend), and Christopher Zito (Mary Knotek’s
friend).
Roger Griffith & Nick Sollom
The friends and family of Jack Neff, Robert
Fiedler, Peter Marcel, Doreen Winter,
Dominick Binetti, Isabel Boykin, and Doro-
thy Vogel, the Ryan and Lombardo families,
and the people of Newtown, CT.
T H O S E W H O A R E G R I E V IT H O S E W H O A R E G R I E V IT H O S E W H O A R E G R I E V IT H O S E W H O A R E G R I E V I N GN GN GN G

8. Wednesday, March 27
7:30 p.m.
Prayer Service
for Healing & Anointing with Oil
Maundy Thursday, March 28
7:30 p.m.
Holy Eucharist & Foot Washing
Good Friday, March 29
Noon – 2:00 p.m.
Church will be open for prayer & meditation
(Pastor Eric will be available for
prayer & counsel)
2:00 p.m.
Stations of the Cross
7:30 p.m.
Tenebrae
Holy Saturday, March 30
7:30 p.m.
Easter Vigil (part 1)
Easter Sunday, March 31
6:00 a.m.
Sunrise Holy Eucharist
(Easter Vigil part 2)
8:30 a.m. – 9:30 a.m.
Easter Breakfast
9:00 a.m.
Easter Egg Hunt
10:00 a.m.
Resurrection of our Lord Celebration
Holy Communion
Saturdays @ 5:30 p.m.
Sundays @ 8:00 & 10:00 a.m.
Wednesday Gatherings
February 20 & 28
March 6, 13, 20 & 27
6:15 p.m.
Soup & Bread Supper
7:30 p.m.
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10. DATE SERVICE ASSISTING MINISTER LECTOR FLOWER CARE
February 3
Fourth Sunday after Epiphany
10:00 a.m. Marilyn Benner Lori Mason Kitty Hall
February 10
Transfiguration of our Lord
10:00 a.m. Lori Mason Marilyn Benner Kitty Hall
February 13
Ash Wednesday
7:30 p.m. Terry Miccio Gretel Saul LENT
February 17
First Sunday In Lent
10:00 a.m. Ellen Sangesland Cathy Volllono LENT
February 24
Second Sunday in Lent
10:00 a.m. Anne Rickmeyer Richard Benson LENT

15. UPDATE FOR JANUARY 2013
WITH COUNSELING SITES LOCATED IN:
NASSAU SUFFOLK MANHATTAN QUEENS WESTCHESTER
Prepared especially for LCC Association Congregations & Schools
Valentine’s Day this month will once again gen-
erate much ado about love and relationships, much
of it idealized and fueled by abundant roses and
chocolates! But a closer look by women at the man
in their life, and by men themselves, can reveal a
painful portrait of isolation, anxiety, depression and
rage. Many men are hurting, and as a conse-
quence, so are their relationships.
It’s never been easy being a man, navigating
the development of a strong and healthy male
identity, and even less so today. The recent reces-
sion has been called a “man-cession” because of its
disproportionate impact on men. Skills in which
women excel such as open communication and so-
cial orientation put men at a disadvantage. It’s no
longer a “man’s world,” and values typically seen
as male are no longer as prized by society. The cul-
ture has undergone dramatic shifts, leaving men
confused, anxious and frustrated about their place
and role in the world. All the while, man’s anxiety
about proving his masculinity shows up in risky be-
haviors and higher rates of alcoholism, suicide and
early death. No wonder a recent Atlantic Monthly
cover story could trumpet “The End of Men.”
Gender may have a biological basis, but the
construction of the masculine self is a lifelong pro-
ject, constantly revised. From infancy on, males
take on two quite different ways of being: the Al-
pha male’s proudly assertive, autonomous, aggres-
sive nature; and the more reflective, sensitive na-
ture intent on attachment and connection.
Throughout life, the male will oscillate between
these two “positions,” with the task of realizing his
male ego ideal through their integration. That may
take many shapes and forms, for there is no one
set pathway to male identity and a wide spectrum
of masculinities—the artist as much as the athlete,
the “life of the party” as much as the strong, silent
“Marlboro Man.”
Life experiences, culture and faith all have their
impact. Often boys are not allowed to be boys, re-
sulting in guilt and hidden shame. Developing later
than girls, they experience more early failures.
Moving from attachment to the mother and longing
for the father and his blessing mark their journey
of individuation-separation. Today, many young
men isolate in a fantasy world of video games, with
yet more shame; the male slacker, in a rut, without
viable prospects of career, marriage or family,
seethes with anger. The married/partnered male
encounters other challenges, the pressures of work
and home and holding at bay dashed dreams and
creeping disillusionment. And the man advancing in
age must again define his masculine self, with
emerging inner potentialities of integrity and grati-
tude as life nears its end.
Men are hurting, both in self and in relationship.
Yet they do not ordinarily seek out help; two-thirds
of psychotherapy clients are women. But my ex-
perience with male clients and in facilitating men’s
groups has convinced me that contrary to the
stereotypes, men soon welcome the opportunity to
express themselves, to tell their story and examine
it, and in so doing come to know self and one an-
other in a deeper, affirming way. The life of faith
can be of great benefit in this process-- the Gos-
pel’s declaration of divine love, in the gift of the
created, redeemed and Spirit-endowed self power-
fully anchoring and liberating the male identity.
Women can reach out to the man in their life by
recognizing and affirming his uniqueness as a
male; by listening with care when he wants to talk;
by supporting participation in a men’s group or in-
dividual therapy; and by just being with him in his
“search of the masculine self.”
The Rev. Dr. David Elseroad is pastor of Trinity Lutheran
Church in Hawthorne, NY. Dr. Elseroad is fluent in
French and Spanish. His background includes work in
multicultural ministries and experience as a pastor, hos-
pital chaplain, missionary and teacher. He has a Doctor-
ate of Ministry in Pastoral Counseling from Hebrew Union
College—Jewish Institute of Religion and the Post-
graduate Center for Mental Health, NY. He is also a NY
state licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and sees
teens, couples, adults and families at LCC’s Manhattan,
Bronxville, and Mineola sites.
Contact Lutheran Counseling Center at 516-741-0994 or
1-800-317-1173 or e-mail us at Center@lccny.org for
more information or to set an appointment at any of our
eight regular counseling sites or at our temporary site in
Staten Island. Visit our website at www.lccny.org .
IN SEARCH OF THE MASCULINE SELF
by Rev. David Elseroad, D.Min., Pastoral Psychotherapist
“You are the man.”—2 Samuel 12:7

16. HeartHeartHeartHeart
Hearts ache
Hearts break
Hearts are broken
We mourn our losses
loved ones return to God
personal challenges
relationships
natural disasters
national tragedies
Our hearts are broken wide-open,
we cry,
we soften,
we connect,
to the heart of what matters
We become soft-hearted
tender hearts
feeling the pain
feeling compassion arise
feeling connected again
Take heart
Open your heart
Share your heart
The world needs heart, all our hearts.........wide open.
Written by: Kathryn A. Prinz
Oyster Bay, NY
December, 2012