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Self awareness to happiness

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Self Awareness - Start of happiness and success

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Self awareness to happiness

  1. 1. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakes. Self Awareness -­‐ Start of happiness and success
  2. 2. Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it. Sec$on 1 : Thoughts Self Awareness Self Belief self Image Sec$on 2 : Feeling Self Esteem Self Acceptance Self Love Sec$on 3 : Ac$on Self Actualisa9on Self Integra9on Self Renewal
  3. 3. Ø Theory Ø Science Ø Psychology Ø Implementa$on
  4. 4. Sec$on 1 : Thoughts Self Awareness Self Belief Self Image Life is not living it. Its making it. I am what I am and that’s all that I am.
  5. 5. Theory: Self Awareness (conscious self-­‐evolu<on) – Our ability to think about our own thinking. Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your ac?ons, Your ac?ons become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your des?ny. Self Awareness Generally Speaking Considering circumstances
  6. 6. Science Ancient Greek philosophers considered the ability to "know thyself" as the pinnacle of humanity. Self-­‐awareness is defined as being aware of oneself, including one's traits, feelings, and behaviours. Neuroscien<sts have believed that three brain regions are cri<cal for self-­‐ awareness: the insular cortex, the anterior cingulate cortex, and the medial prefrontal cortex. However, a research team led by the University of Iowa has challenged this theory by showing that self-­‐awareness is more a product of a diffuse patchwork of pathways in the brain -­‐-­‐ including other regions -­‐-­‐ rather than confined to specific areas.
  7. 7. Psychology Self-­‐awareness measures our ability to know our presence in the world and how we use it to operate. It allows us to be true to ourselves even when our thoughts and feelings are in conflict by determining the methodology we will use to make our decisions. Self-­‐awareness gives us the ability to trust ourselves and our abili<es and to have self-­‐efficacy (strength of one's belief in one's own ability to complete tasks and reach goals). Statements like: I listen to my heart, I trust my gut, I believe in my own judgment, I know myself well, might all be ways to get at self-­‐awareness.
  8. 8. Implementa$on What are my unaware nega$ves ? What are my aware nega$ves ? What are my unaware Posi$ve ? What are my aware Posi$ves ? Repeat the exercise for all important areas of your life – Professional life, Well-­‐ being, Rela<onships, Security (including financial). * Top five only
  9. 9. USING LAYWi STEP 1: Sign up at www.laywi.com STEP 2: Login and navigate
  10. 10. USING LAYWi STEP 1: Go to Define Me and define what makes them up. STEP 2: Go to ‘Refine Me’ and evaluate defined areas.
  11. 11. Theory: Self belief Man is made by his belief. As he believes, so is he – Knowingness that one is able to consciously cause an effect in one’s life. It may also be called your “Value system”. It governs one’s whole life, educa<on and career one’s is aZracted too, partner one chooses in life, one’s state of health and wealth, emo<ons etc. One’s performance never exceeds one beliefs about his or her abili<es. Low self belief: Life happens – the sun rises, the moon glows, the wind blows. High self belief: I am free to create my own life – shine my own light, choose my own path, define my own meaning, and ride the winds of change towards my hear[elt desires.
  12. 12. Science The brain is made up of cells called neurons. These cells have nerve endings called synapses and dendrites. Nerve endings release chemical and electrical s<muli to communicate with each other. This brain communica<on forms neuro-­‐pathways in the brain and is the basis for how the brain works. When you ini<ally learn something the pathway or connec<on is weak. The more frequently you think a par<cular thought the stronger the pathway becomes, forming an automa<c habit of thinking. We call this brain training. So beliefs are what we call your dominant thought pa?ern. They operate on automa9c, like a habit, and are the thoughts that trigger, consciously or unconsciously your feelings and reac9ons to the circumstances of your life.
  13. 13. Psychology Our high self and low self belief are like flip sides of a coin, the yin and yang, nega<ve and posi<ve. Both are essen<al for one’s existence and well-­‐being. Belief system is like you subconscious mind working to uphold itself always to remove any feeling of uncomforted. It would uphold nega<ve and posi<ve beliefs.
  14. 14. Implementa$on What is your dominant belief about your self ? What is your dominant belief about your life? Repeat the exercise for all important areas of your life – Professional life, Well-­‐ being, Rela<onships, Security (including financial). Once completed, evaluate it against respec<ve areas to where you want to be. * Top five only What is your dominant belief about reality ?
  15. 15. Define yourself to arrive at current standing in each of the important area of your life, giving you mirrored view of your life so you can start on journey of changing what needs to be changed and enjoy what is already ideal.
  16. 16. USING LAYWi STEP 1: Login and navigate STEP 2: Ta da – Your personal Vision editor.
  17. 17. Theory: Self Image One’s self image projects a film of one’s life to date, with oneself as star, the cast, the director, editor, audience and cri<c. It not just tells one’s life story via experience and past ways of being, but also of one’s current outlooks, a_tudes ad habits. You don’t decide everyday, who am I, and how I deal with outside world. Its your self imagine which decides it for you mostly – it’s the dominant image.
  18. 18. Science Self-­‐schema refers to a long las<ng and stable set of memories that summarize a person’s beliefs, experiences and generaliza<ons about the self, in specific behavioral domains. A person may have a self-­‐schema based on any aspect of himself or herself as a person, including physical characteris<cs, personality traits and interests, as long as they consider that aspect of their self important to their own self-­‐defini<on. For example, someone will have an extraverted self-­‐schema if they think of themselves as extraverted and also believe that their extraversion is central to who they are. Their self-­‐ schema for extraversion may include general self-­‐categorisa9ons (“I am sociable.”), beliefs about how they would act in certain situa9ons “At a party I would talk to lots of people” and also memories of specific past events (“On my first day at university I made lots of new friends”).
  19. 19. Psychology A person's self-­‐image is the mental picture, generally of a kind that is quite resistant to change, that depicts not only details that are poten<ally available to objec<ve inves<ga<on by others (height, weight, hair color, gender, I.Q. score, etc.), but also items that have been learned by that person about himself or herself, either from personal experiences or by internalizing the judgments of others. A simple defini<on of a person's self-­‐image is their answer to the ques<on "What do you believe people think about you?". Self-­‐image may consist of three types: • Self-­‐image resul<ng from how the individual sees himself or herself. • Self-­‐image resul<ng from how others see the individual. • Self-­‐image resul<ng from how the individual perceives others see him or her.
  20. 20. Implementa$on
  21. 21. Sec$on 2 : Feeling Self Esteem Self Acceptance Self Love Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose. Every day brings new choices.
  22. 22. Theory: Self Esteem While we all experience fair winds and choppy waters within the season and cycle of life, it is the over all balance of our emo<ons that together create the <demark of our self esteem -­‐ the measure of how much we like our self. In reality it is not the thing or achievement which creates or destroys our self esteem but our es<ma<on of it.
  23. 23. Science Self-­‐esteem, self-­‐cri<cism and self-­‐compassion with three interac<ng emo<onal systems in the brain, each with their own evolu<onary purpose and media<ng neurotransmiZers. The "drive" system Likely linked to self-­‐esteem, this system, which is thought to rely heavily on dopamine, compels us to pursue resources, mates, skills, status and so on The threat-­‐protec$on system Fueled in part by neuro-­‐adrenalin, this helps us decide to either fight, flee or submit in the face of a threat. It may s<mulate, or be s<mulated by, self-­‐cri<cism. For many of us, these first two systems dominate. When our self-­‐esteem is threatened -­‐-­‐ when we have a setback or come across someone that we perceive to be beZer than us -­‐-­‐ the threat-­‐protec<on system goes into ac<on. We may aZack ourselves, put down the other person or "flee" from the knowledge of our own faults. The mammalian care-­‐giving system Running on oxytocin and intrinsic opiates, this system likely evolved with our need to affiliate and take care of our young. It gives rise to our ability to be compassionate, a skill that when turned inward may guide and comfort the other two systems
  24. 24. Psychology Self-­‐esteem is a term used in sociology and psychology to reflect a person's overall emo<onal evalua<on of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an a_tude toward the self. If you have healthy self-­‐esteem, your beliefs about yourself will generally be posi<ve. You may experience difficult <mes in your life, but you will generally be able to deal with these without them having too much of a long-­‐term nega<ve impact on you. If you have low self-­‐esteem, your beliefs about yourself will oeen be nega<ve. You will tend to focus on your weaknesses or mistakes that you have made, and may find it hard to recognise the posi<ve parts of your personality. You may also blame yourself for any difficul<es or failures that you have.
  25. 25. USING LAYWi STEP 1: Go to Refine Me and expand your Vision now. STEP 2: Go to Refine Me and complete ‘Self Profiling’ exercise STEP 3: Go to Tools and Dashboard Get the bigger picture: Implementa$on
  26. 26. Theory: Self Acceptance The explora<on of how different theories (e.g., humanis<c, cogni<ve-­‐behavioral), theologies (e.g., Chris<anity, Buddhism) and therapies (e.g., REBT, CBT, ACT) view self-­‐ acceptance as a catalyst for the allevia<on of emo<onal misery as well as an energizer suppor<ng growth towards happiness and fulfillment. It’s a journey hat will of necessity lead us away from any false comfort zones and addi<ons, even to suffer the pangs of craving and face confronta<on, in order to ul<mately reach the eternal, deeply sa<sfying complete comfort of our true self. It is a journey that will invariably require growing levels of acceptance with ourselves (posi<ve and nega<ve), situa<on and society, for each step of progress that we make. Don’t waste life in fric<on when it could be turned into momentum. Accept everything about yourself – Absolutely everything. You are you and that is the beginning and the end – no apologies no regrets. Living in a state of true acceptance means living with awareness that everything happens for a reason and a purpose.; that we can learn from everything, the good as well as the bad, the desired as well as the undesired, and ul<mately benefit from everything, if we choose to accept it. Accept harmony like river and swim in same direc<on and response-­‐ability.
  27. 27. Science As diverse as people appear to be, all of our genes and brains are nearly iden<cal. Happiness is more than just a feeling; it is something we can all prac<ce on a daily basis. But people are beZer at some 'happy habits' than others. In fact, the one habit that corresponds most closely with us being sa<sfied with our lives overall -­‐-­‐ self-­‐ acceptance -­‐-­‐ is oeen the one we prac<ce least.
  28. 28. Psychology If deep within us we're ever to feel -­‐-­‐ as our normal state of being -­‐-­‐ happy and fulfilled, we must first rise to the challenge of complete, unqualified self-­‐acceptance. Its a challenge for a reason; you may be comba<ng years of feeling guilty, judging and cri<cizing yourself. We oeen treat others beZer than we treat ourselves. Think about direc<ng that compassion and caring toward yourself. Failing at something doesn't make you a failure as a person. Accept that you're doing the best that you can right now. Some people think that self-­‐acceptance means ceasing to strive for personal growth, but the two concepts aren't incompa<ble at all. There's nothing wrong with wan<ng to learn and become a beZer person, but self-­‐acceptance is about living in the present, not the past or the future.
  29. 29. Implementa$on Today Its all about : JOURNEY Vision
  30. 30. USING LAYWi STEP 1: Go to Refine Me and on to Value System. STEP 2: Go to Align & Achieve and Create your Stories as Project.
  31. 31. Theory: Self Love Love is the place of self integra<on – where one become whole, create while rela<onships and live a while life. Its our natural, uncondi<onal, ever-­‐present, radiant source of complete comfort, core nourishment and true well-­‐being. Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile. Loving yourself means more than feeling good about yourself or being kind to yourself -­‐ it's about being self-­‐confident, being able to express yourself without fear, being unconcerned about whether you're liked, and about living your own life, not someone else's idea of what your life should be.
  32. 32. Science Falling in love causes our body to release a flood of feel-­‐good chemicals that trigger specific physical reac<ons. Levels of these substances, which include dopamine, adrenaline and norepinephrine, increase when two people fall in love. Dopamine creates feelings of euphoria while adrenaline and norepinephrine are responsible for the piZer-­‐paZer of the heart, restlessness and overall preoccupa<on that go along with experiencing love. MRI scans indicate that love lights up the pleasure center of the brain. When we fall in love, blood flow increases in this area, which is the same part of the brain implicated in obsessive-­‐compulsive behaviors.
  33. 33. Psychology Self-­‐love is important to living well. It influences who you pick for a mate, the image you project at work, and how you cope with the problems in your life. It is so important to your welfare that I want you to know how to bring more of it into your life. Self-­‐love is a state of apprecia<on for oneself that grows from ac9ons that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-­‐love is dynamic; it grows by ac<ons that mature us. When we act in ways that expand self-­‐love in us, we begin to accept much beZer our weaknesses as well as our strengths, have less need to explain away our short-­‐comings, have compassion for ourselves as human beings struggling to find personal meaning, are more centered in our life purpose and values, and expect living fulfillment through our own efforts.
  34. 34. Implementa$on
  35. 35. Sec$on 3 : Ac$on Self Esteem Self Acceptance Self Love What a man can be, he must be. This need we call self-­‐actualiza<on. What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.
  36. 36. Theory: Self actualiza$on The mo<ve to realize one's full poten<al. Expressing one's crea<vity, quest for spiritual enlightenment, pursuit of knowledge, and the desire to give to society are examples of self-­‐actualiza<on. It is the organism's master mo<ve, the only real mo<ve: "the tendency to actualize itself as fully as possible is the basic drive... the drive of self-­‐actualiza<on. man's tendency to actualize himself, to become his poten9ali9es...
  37. 37. Psychology
  38. 38. Implementa$on ACT ACT ACT Have a plan & Act – Act as per plan! Align the plan and Act Plans = good inten<ons; ACTION = hard work. Celebrate the success and Act! Ac$on is the real measure of intelligence. Ac$on and Mo$on are different things! Develop a sense of urgency. Remember: Every ACTION has equal and opposite REACTION; Be prepared for it. I never worry about ac$on, but only inac$on.
  39. 39. USING LAYWi STEP 1: Go to Align & Achieve, Project – Define you Measure . STEP 2: Go to Tools and Dashboard ! Monitor.
  40. 40. Your plaYorm to Define, Refine, Align and Achieve….. ….Your plaYorm for managing exis$ng, so you can create new! Manage your Life with a Plan! @ www.laywi.com

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