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The Best
Frank
Advice:
For The Art Of
Relationship Management
Book I
The E-BOOK
VERSION
By Frank B. (Because-I-Have-To-Be) Kermit
© Frank B Kermit 2007

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What some people say about:
FRANK B KERMIT
“Frank is one of the great trainers that comes
from a place of heart, teaches you how to
naturally get into the game. Frank teaches a
great system to have sustained relationships. I
look forward to hanging out with Frank again
next time I'm in Toronto.”
-Steve P (as named in “The Game”)
www.forbiddensextips.com
Frank touched my audience. His level of
honesty was uncommon, and his ability to
communicate the sorts of painful issues that
most people are not honest with themselves
about, was remarkable. His speech touched
me deeply, and on-stage next to him I was
brought close to tears for his uncommon
honesty. It was a pleasure to have him
contribute to my seminar, and I felt he added
emotional depth. -Steve Toe-cutter Celeste
(named Vision in The Game)
www.smoothinteractions.com DVD
Long recognized as a teacher of seduction
principles, living up to his name, Frank shares
his experiences and his wisdom. (He) is about
having real "field vision" into a full life of
ultimate success with women, all courtesy of
one of the most genuine guys in the business.
-Scot McKay, www.deservewhatyouwant.com

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Frank succeeded in becoming one of the most
knowledgeable guys around when it comes to
dealing with women. He has gained and
learned from his hard life experiences and has
been extremely generous in sharing his
knowledge and advice. Some of these guys
confided to me that the help Frank extended to
them literally changed their lives, and they
wouldn't know what they would be doing had
he not come around. The wisdom you will find
in Frank was hard earned. It's a real honor to
be a part of Frank's world -Clifford,
www.cliffslist.com
(Frank is) One of the world’s greatest
seducers. No matter how ugly your
experiences with women may have been in
your past, Frank is your role-model. Nobody
has had it worse than him, nobody went down
in flames more than he used to …and nobody
pulled himself out of a deeper swamp than he
did. Whatever your current situation may be …
Frank has already been there and can help you
out. So make sure you are all ears and listen to
him! -Nick Shane www.becomeaplayboy.com
If you are familiar with Frank and his material
then you know the depth of his knowledge and
his ability to personally relate it to his students
through his seminars or books. If you have not
read his books and are learning from Frank for
the first time, be prepared to have your views
on relationships shattered. -Marvi Arlik,
www.marviarlik.com

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Dedication Page
The E-BOOK version of this book is
dedicated to:
NICK SHANE
He was one of the first to see the
potential in me as an interview subject,
and valued me as both a seducer and
as a peer.
Thank you for being one of the first to
publicly supporting me.
Visit Nick Shane at
www.playboyskool.com

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Acknowledgements
And may I say thank you to
Firstly, I wish to thank www.dearcupid.org/. It is
an online advice service to be aimed mainly at
answering questions on relationships, dating
and sex. Thanks to all the agony aunts and
uncles, the question askers, and of course its
founder Andrew. If you also fancy yourself an
advice giver, check them out.
To my wife Jade Kermit, Patrick Lee, David
Dekel, Gregory, The Montreal Maverick, my
Montreal brothers, and the people who
purchased by first 3 books.
My friends, students, and mentors in the
www.torontolair.CA the best seduction lair in
Ontario.
To my many mentors, clients, colleagues, and
bros for your encouragement of this book.
This is also especially to all those people who
have sought out my Frank Advice, and trusted
in me to provide them with my best and most
direct responses.

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Introduction by Steve The Dean Williams
Hey Everyone, Get your crayons out!
I would like to introduce to you Mr. Frank B
Kermit one of the most respectable seduction
gurus that I have had the pleasure to meet and
interview. I am Steve "The Dean" Williams, 0f
www.datingloveandsex.com and I have been in
the game, both as a player and a teacher for
YEARS, and I know game. I know when I am
dealing with someone that is real, and when I
am dealing with an impersonator. FBK is the
real deal.
I first heard about Frank by his website
franktalks.com, and decided to contact him
about being on his show. After a few email
exchanges we starting talking on the phone.
Based on our first conversations, I have to say
that my impression of him is that this guy
actually has game. He lives by what he
teaches. He is not just some theory guy. His
experience IS his classroom.
What I get from Frank that is rare is he is a
giver in an industry that is plagued by takers.
He is not into trying to get one by the Dean to
see what he can get out of me. Frank
genuinely is interested in what he and I could
do for each other. He gives as much value to
you, and he expects you to give to him.
Frank's Emotional Needs theories, and the
story of his past of pain, is inspiring and I
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not lie to women to get with them. As he said
on his most recent visit to my pod cast, he
would rather be rejected for who he is, than to
be accepted for who he isn’t. That’s class in
the book of The Dean.
I do not have a very good opinion about guys
that are a part of the so called "seduction
community", and make it a point not to deal
with them regularly. Frank is different. Frank
is NOT like those "community" guys. He
appreciates other people, and has soul. Social
robots that use people have no morals and no
soul. Frank always makes sure to show thanks
when thanks are due. With the amount of
game Frank has, you’d think he would be like
those community egoists. He is humble, and
he has heart.
Frank B Kermit was on my show
(Dating4men.com), and the after-hours
program too. I only do an after-hours program
when I have something special that I KNOW
my listener will love. During the show, even my
co-host Flash had to comment on how
impressed he was, as it was very rare to find a
Caucasian male have his game as tights as
Franks. After the show I put a picture of Frank,
and a link to the show on a forum where only
the best players and real live pimps hang
out...they were skeptical about Frank when
they saw his pictures, but after they heard him
talk on the radio, their impression of him was
all good for real. They had to admit that Frank
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Frank helped me form connections with a
number of new interview guests for my show
and has been a great supporter. In fact, when
his own radio equipment went down for a
while, he STILL sent me guests to be
interviewed, that he still hasn't interviewed
himself for his show. Frank is a stand up guy
who actually cares.
This book you are about to read is his first
Frank Advice book. It is a collection of
questions he has received over the years, and
some of Frank Advice people pay him big
bucks to dish out. I hope to see more of these
books come out. I am happy to offer a shout
out to Frank and show support for his work.
Respect.
-Steve The Dean Williams,
www.datingloveandsex.com

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Table of Contents
Title Page 1
What Some People Say About Frank 2
Legal Page 4
Dedication page 5
Acknowledgements 6
Introduction by Steve Dean Williams 7
Table of Contents 10
Frank Introduction 14
The Questions:
1. She Loves A Man Who Is Immoral 18
2. We Are Married And
Want To Try A Threesome 19
3. He Wanted An Open Relationship At First,
But Now He Regrets It 21
4. Frank Is An *ssh*le Against Jesus! 23
5. After She Said Yes,
He Refused Sex With Her 24
6. When The Girlfriend Just Wants To Vent 28
7. Two Conflicting Seduction Advice,
That Both Claim To Work
…Who’s Right? 29
8. The Biggest Misconception
About Gaming Women 31
9. How He Can Show Interest For Connection,
But Not Lose Attraction 33
10. When Turning A Female Friend,
That Is Connected To Your Social
Circles, Into A Lover 34
11. Have A Relationship,
Or Just Have Fun, Or Both? 38
12. His Stripper Girlfriend Is Needy 39

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13. How To Have An Affair 42
14. Do You Go Out With Friends To Pick Up? 44
15. Best Pick Up Lines 45
16. Best Way Of Going For
The Phone Number 50
17. Best Date Places 51
18. No, We Are NOT Going To Have Sex 52
19. This Is Not A Happy Virgin
(Publicly posted on www.Youtube) 53
20. Roommates Turned Lovers 55
21. I Changed, Now My Old Friends Hate Me 60
22. When Can I Finally Drop My Guard 61
23. Are There Any Really NICE Guys
Out There? Or Are They All
Just Jerks? 62
24. How Do I Initiate The Date? 64
25. My Friend Is Hooked Into
In A Bad Relationship 65
26. She Just Broke Off Our Engagement 70
27. My Ex, My Sex Buddy 72
28. Am I A Lesbian? 73
29. Almost 40, And I Want A Baby,
But He Does Not 75
30. Opps, She Dated His Friend 76
31. He Is Trying To Manipulate Her 80
32. The Best Kind Of Lover is…Enthusiastic 81
33. His Insecurities Drives Women Away 82
34. 10 Emotional Needs of Women 83
35. He Only Wants To Orgasm In My Mouth 85
36. Wife Sleeps In A Separate Room 88
37. When Is Enough, Enough? 88
38. Am I Going Too Far As Her Father? 90
39. Should He Leave His Wife
For Another Man? 91
40. We Don’t Have Sex Anymore 93
41. But She Has A Boyfriend 96
42. New Boyfriend Forced Her
To End Her Friendship With Her Ex 97
43. He Gave Her An STD,
But Still Expects Friendship 98
44. Should She Divorce Him? 100
45. She Cheated On Her Male Lover…
With His Wife 102

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46. The FonzieTechnique 106
47. He’s Mad: His Girlfriend Threw
A Surprise Party For Him 107
48. She Offered To Do My Laundry,
And Then Got Pissy 109
49. Unfaithful Married Woman Scolds Boyfriend
About The Immorality Of Swingers 111
50. What Do You Say When You Do Not Want
To Say Anything At All 112
51. He Told Her No Commitment,
Now She Makes Him Feel GUILTY 116
52. Virgin Fears Sex Will Hurt The Girl 118
53. Sex Buddy Wants To Be My Girlfriend 119
54. The Make–Out Freak Out 120
55. Homeless Stench Is A Reality Check 121
56. My Fiancé Had More Lovers Than Me 126
57. The Age Question 127
58. The Single Parent Dating Module 129
59. She Criticizes My Love Making 130
60. My Girl Is Always Cursing Her “Slut Friends” 131
61. She ALWAYS Leaves Something
At My Place. WHY? 136
62. Thank You Frank! I Got A Keeper! 137
63. Quickie Here, Quickie There 138
64. Attracted To A Transvestite 139
65. Training My Girlfriend To Pick Up
Women With Me 141
66. The Open Relationship Cheater 144
67. The Rape Fantasy 146
68. Married Woman Falling In Love
With Her Female Lover 148
69. Non-Married Lover In Triad Wants
Other Two To Get Divorced 150
70. On Secondary Relationship Boundaries 152
71. My Girlfriend Told Me That She Is Bi…
Does That Mean I Must Be Bi As Well? 156
72. Living With A Partner For The First Time 157
73. Cheater Who Poses As A Poly 159
74. Is It Cheating If His Wife Knows?
But She Does Not Like It? 161
75. Time Management For Multiple Partners 163
76. Is Neediness A Common Concept
In Open Relationships? 168

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77. My Wife Has Taken On Another Lover…
I Am Going Crazy 169
78. Best Relationship Structure 171
79. Equal Love For All Partners
Is Not Possible- Intellectual Construct 172
80. Poly Doesn't Equal Living A Free For All 174
81. Is There A Value In Lying
About Being Poly? 178
82. The Pre-Vacation Break Up Tactic 180
83. Do You Think That She Might
Be Into Funky Stuff? 182
84. Why Do Guys Omit Certain Things
When Women Ask? 184
85. Why Don’t Girls Like Smart Guys? 185
86. How Do You Act When You
Meet A Girl Through Her Parents 190
87. Getting Past The Three Date Rule 192
88. Some People Have It,
And Some People Don’t. 193
89. Male Lover In Triad
Punched Holes In Condoms 193
90. Gaming A“10” 195
91. Why Can I Not Get A “10”? 200
92. Why And How Venue Changes Work 201
93. Gifts Are Great Opportunities And Traps 202
94. Dream Interpretation 204
95. How Guilt Makes Us Better 206
96. Your Source Of Inspirations
During Trying Times 210
97. She Asked Me About Threesomes 211
98. Masturbation Makes Me Happier 215
99. When women Approach You 217
100. A Mom Keeps Her Son Helpless
Against A School Bully 218
DISCOUNT PAGE
(For the paperback version only) 223

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Frank Introduction
Hello Dear Reader,
What you are about to read is the first of
a series of books of my candid, and sometimes
controversial Frank Advice. Although most of
the emails I get are relationship related
(monogamous, non-monogamous, group
relations, straight, bi, and gay), I do also get
questions regarding non-relationship issues,
regarding social contexts and proper norms.
At times, l get my share of hate mail, like any
person does, who sets out to make the world a
better place. Sometimes I just delete it, and
other times I respond to it. I have tried to
include a random sample from my collection of
some of the best emails I have answered.
I have omitted dates, real names,
personal email accounts, and home addresses
to protect the identity and privacy of those who
have contacted me. I hope, that by writing this
book I may be able to help even more people
with the same problems and challenges as
they people I have helped in the past have
faced. In some cases I have re-worded the
questions so that even the individuals closest
associates cannot identify them. In other
cases, these questions came up in on-on-one
consultations, and I have reformatted them to
appear in this medium. I have done everything
in my power to ensure that my clients can feel
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situations, in order for me to offer them my best
Frank Advice.
“Question # 45 She Cheated On
Her Male Lover…With His Wife.”
Believe it or not, it was THIS story that
convinced me that I had to write my Frank
Advice series. Not because of the wildness of
this tale, but because once I had gone through
my development to the point where women just
intuitively knew they could tell me anything,
women told me EVERYTHING.
This sort of story is so much more
common than any man would ever believe.
This book HAD to be written for the thousands,
if not millions of people who have no one to
talk to. The last time I heard this question, it
was in fact about the 20th
time I had
encountered such a situation. So rather than
repeat my Frank Advice another 20 times, I
decided to write out this series of books, and
give out the best of my Frank Advice once and
for all.
If you would like some Frank Advice,
send me an email through my
www.franktalks.com site.
I try to answer as many as I can, but
please note that I get a huge volume, and have
no administration for this aspect. Every
answer you get is really from me personally,
and not another advisor writing under my
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knowledgeable than I on a given question to
give his or her advice, and on those occasions,
I will credit the other source.
For private and personal one on one
telephone or in person consultation, contact
me through www.franktalks.com
Private consultations are priced by the hour
and can be purchased in time allotments.
Please note that discount coupons can be multi
packed for a higher discount on consultations
in certain circumstances only. All coupons
found in my books must be verified through my
administration first.
I only give advice about what I know
about. I do not answer questions regarding
medicine, wealth, or other topics that are best
suited for an expert in those areas. I do my
best to make sure that my Frank Advice is
always “franked”. I only hope that all of you,
who ask for such Frank Advice from me, are as
frank with me, as I am with you.
-Frank B. Kermit

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Frank’s Telephone Consultations
Are you finding that monogamous
relationships do not work for you but you
are still unsure as to what the answer is
because you do not know where to go to
next? Are you considering an alternative
to monogamy, and desperately do not
want to have to lie about your desires,
and refuse to cheat on your partner?
Then this telephone consultation is
going to be for you. In this session, you
will learn about monogamy, the swinger
lifestyle, polyamorous, BDSM, being
asexual or bisexual in relationships,
having a harem of lovers, the single
lifestyle, and what the various rules for
each relationship management structure
are. This session is open to men,
women and couples.
www.franktalks.com

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1. She Loves A Man Who Is Immoral
Dear Frank,
I am in love with a man but I am not too fond of
what he does with his spare time. The thing is,
what he does is against my personal morals,
but I also know if he ever gave me the chance
to be with him maybe, things would work out.
But how do I know if he has feelings for me???
Do you think I should ask him? We are
compatible in many things; he just doesn't want
to admit something is stopping him. He is
probably afraid of being hurt; that is my
opinion... Anyway, thanks allot for your advice.
I will continue listening to your show. I really
enjoy it.
-Asker1
Dear Asker1,
Sorry to tell you this, but your love is not
enough to make this relationship work. You
both need to be on the same page if that is
going to happen, and it doesn't sound like you
are.
If what he does in his spare time is against
your morals that should signal something to
you. Now either, he represents some forbidden
temptation for you, and that is what is really
attracting you to this guy, or your morals are
not what you claim them to be, and you want to
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Either way, it really sounds like you have this
relationship with him all figured out in your
head about how things "should" be, but the
reality of it doesn't sound like it’s going to work.
You don't even know if he returns your
feelings. The only way it sounds like it could
ever work is if one of you changes. Either you
change your morals, or he changes his past
times. Both seem unlikely.
It is best to find someone that matches the life
you want to build based on your morals, and
most importantly, take some opportunities to
learn about whom you really are, so that you
don't need to live vicariously through what
sounds like an unhealthy relationship in the
making. Good Luck.
-Frank, because I have to be
2. We Are Married And Want To Try A
Threesome
Dear Frank,
My wife and I have been married for 15 years,
and we have three great kids. Our sex life got,
"ho-hum" if you know what I mean. We decided
to spice things up a bit. We started with
watching porno, playing with sex toys, and
sharing our fantasies.
It turned out that my fantasy is to have a
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fantasy is to be with another woman. She
actually considers herself bisexual (even
though she has never been with a woman
before) and wasn't sure she could tell me until
now. She has a friend she works with that she
likes and she thinks may want to join us. I don't
really find her friend that attractive. I would like
to go to a swingers club, but she feels
uncomfortable with that. Any advice?
-Asker2
Dear Asker2,
First of all, good for you and your wife for
communicating. It is a good place to start. I
would suggest that you and your wife do NOT
have sex with someone she works with. Since
she has not been with a woman yet, her first
experience should not be with a friend, or a co-
worker. There is no way either of you can
anticipate how you both are going to react
once you get there. Fantasy is one thing, and
Reality can be very different.
I would suggest that you both try to find
someone that you both like, and take your time
in meeting that third person. If you are
interested in swinging, do some reading on it.
Good books on swinging are The Lifestyle by
Terry Gould, and Swinging A Societal
Phenomena by Jean Hamel.
Most swingers clubs have an information
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obligation to join it. The first thing you two need
to figure out before you introduce that third
person into your mix, is what will be the limits
and boundaries of your first encounters with a
third partner, including what each of you can
and can not do. You need to figure out if you
would be interested in letting your wife explore
her sexuality without you first, and then seek
out a threesome. When in doubt, move slowly.
Good luck.
3. He Wanted An Open Relationship At
First, But Now He Regrets it
Dear Frank,
My boyfriend and I are in an open relationship.
Until I met him, I was totally monogamous.
Being in an open relationship where we both
can see other people was totally his idea.
Well, I wasn't sure at first, but since I have
tried going out with other people, I now find I
love the attention. I only went after other girls
at first, because I thought that would make him
happy, but I ended up having two threesomes
without my boyfriend (with my female lovers
and their husbands). He was really supportive
at first, but lately he has really starting to act
hurt when I tell him about my dates. I think he
might ask me to be monogamous again. I have
not had a threesome with him yet, and I know
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work and school, and was sick lately, that I am
the only person he is seeing. I think he is
feeling lonely, and I don't want to lose him, but
after the last 3 months I have had, I don't think
I could ever be monogamous again. Last
Saturday he wanted to spend time with me, but
I had already made a date with another guy.
He told me not to cancel it so I went out, but
the next day he told me that he cried after I
hung up the phone. Should I just break up with
him, or should I try really hard to be
monogamous again?
-Asker3
Dear Asker3,
Careful what you wish for eh? Most of the time,
when a guy wants to be in an open relationship
it is because he wants sexual variety, but he
tends to underestimate how much opportunity
women will have to be in more relationships
than he will. Women are on the receiving end
of approaches, and if your guy is shy, (or too
pre-occupied) to regularly meet new people,
then it can be quite a shock to the male ego to
see his girl getting lots of attention, while he
ends up alone on a Saturday night.
If you want to stay with him, then no, don't
break up. You say that you do not want a
monogamous relationship again, and until you
speak to him, do not spend time guessing what
he is thinking. ASK HIM. I doubt he wants
monogamy. He may be unsure about what he
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needs is Reassurance. He needs to know that
he is still your primary (assuming that is how
you see him), and that you love him. The other
thing is that maybe you both need to define
some boundaries about the other people you
are involved with.
Open relationships do not always mean total
free-for-all. There are different types and
different rules. If your relationship with him is
hurting, that is not good for either of you. I
would suggest for starters, that you both
designate one day/night a week, every week,
where the two of you do something together.
Quality time together on a regular basis could
ease the tension between you. Also, he needs
to go out and meet more people. It sounds like
he is hoping that you will recruit women to fulfill
his fantasies, and that is OK, but surely there
must be more to your relationship with him
than that.
4. Frank Is An *ssh*le Against Jesus!
You *ssh*le!
I just visited your site, and was appalled by the
interview I downloaded. I listened to the whole
thing hoping you would just say it is a practical
joke or something. You, and the people you
interview are sick sh*ts! You are all immoral
and against Jesus! I hope you monsters burn
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the world, they way you encourage good
decent folks to forsake God's will by saying it is
OK that girls sleep with girls, and this f*cking
nonsense. I hate all of you.
-Asker4
Dear Asker4,
You are entitled to your opinion, but I do not
have to share it. What would all the "decent
folks" you seem to know think about the nature
of this email, or the fact that despite the
disclaimer at the beginning of every show, you
listened to the ENTIRE show? Yes, there is a
joke here. It's you. Too bad all you can do is
wish hatred on people. I hope you will continue
to listen...just to see if there is a punch line at
the end of the series. I feel sorry for you. You
are at war within yourself, and perhaps one
day you will finally come out of your shell. Until
then, check out my Prayer for Peace. I doubt
you'd get the message, but I am out to make
the world a better place by promoting love,
education and peace.
-Frank, because I have to be.
5. After She Said Yes, He Refused Sex With
Her
Dear Frank,
I met this guy. He liked me and I liked him. I
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wanted friends-with-benefits (if you know what
I mean) and that it might lead to a relationship.
I'm OK with friends-with-benefits for now.
Well, when it finally came down to sex, he said
“No” and left! I felt mad that he blew me off so I
told him that it was awkward and that I didn't
want to push him. Well now he won’t talk to
me. We used to write to each other every day.
What do you think happened?
-Asker5
Dear Asker5,
I think that he either has a problem with sex in
general, or he was not interested in you. I
figure he guessed that if he told you that he
only wanted to be sex-buddies, then you would
not have agreed. That is why when you told
him you were fine with being a sex buddy, he
freaked out. So either he is gay but cannot tell
you, or he has a problem with sex, or he is not
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I'm LOVING the Everything Out of
Her Mouth is a Test book. I don't
agree that EVERYTHING is a test,
but I totally support the idea of
multiple levels of emotional
response and a guy being able to
read and handle these. It's what is
called "meta states" in NLP; that
each state then generates a new
state, which reflexively modifies the
first state, and generates another.
Recursive consciousness. In this
book, Frank has devised a great
and VERY accessible tool for men
to learn to understand exactly what
they have done right, and what
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what to do next based on his
understanding of the multiple and
recursive levels of womens'
emotional needs. But don't be
fooled-this is not an academic text.
Frank gives multiple examples right
from his own real-life seduction
experience, showing how to use
this knowledge, step by step, from
concept to action. As I have taught
for years; knowing what to notice
and pay attention to is as important
as knowing what to do and what to
say. This book is a very valuable
and easy to use tool set for
knowing what to pay attention to
and notice. I highly recommend it,
even more so than Frank's other
book. Strong recommendation,
very well written, A+ on this one.
- Ross Jeffries, speedseduction.biz
Buy this book at
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6. When The Girlfriend Just Wants To Vent
Dear Frank,
When you’re talking with your girlfriend, and
she wants to vent, what is your role? With girls
in general I know to listen, repeat back to them
what they say so that they feel listened to etc.
However, with a sexual girlfriend does that put
you in the category of her "friend/mother" more
so than a lover?
-Asker6
Dear Asker6,
There is a difference between being strong
enough to handle her emotional range
(venting) and being her therapist to solve her
problems. If you become her therapist she will
lose attraction for you. Do not try to solve her
problems for her, unless they are life-
threatening situations such as violence at work.
Usually it is nothing that serious, and all she
wants to do is vent.
Venting is emotional need # 2 of Emotional
Range. She needs to complain because the
feelings of complaining (rage, anger, sorrow,
loss, etc.) is just part of her feeling alive
through emotion.
Listen, not to her words, but her emotions, and
that is what you feed back to her. THEN,
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all her various emotions and lead her to one
positive strong emotion that she will eventually
associate with you. I like to use playfulness,
connection to her inner child to achieve this.
It addresses the emotional needs of Emotional
Range AND addresses Catering to the Little
Girl in Her.
Do not give in to your instinct of problem
solving. You are not there to solve her
problems. Just listen to her, make her FEEL
listened to, and then HAVE SEX WITH HER.
The rules are as follows:
In the first phase of dating, you do NOT listen
to her problems. You cut her off, and change
the mood of the conversation to something fun,
positive and exciting.
Once you get into a long-term relationship,
and AFTER you have had sex with her, you
need to learn how to handle her venting. It is
part of relationship management
Remember: before you have sex with her, do
not listen to her problems. After you have sex
with her, apply my rules of relationship
management.
7. Two Conflicting Seduction Advice, That
Both Claim To Work…Who’s Right?
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I am studying seduction, and how to seduce
women. One guru advocates using an aloof
attitude towards women to turn up attraction,
while another recommends showing genuine
interest in the girl to form a connection.
These two ideas seem contradictory; how do
you reconcile the two?
-Asker7
Dear Asker7,
These are some things to consider:
There are different schools of seduction. A
beginner tries to learn all the different
schools at the same time. This slows his
progress.
It is better to learn from one school of
seduction, and once you have learned what
you wanted from that school, you move on to
the next lesson. In judging the schools, you
first need to come to terms with who is the
material for. Gurus teach what they
themselves found to be most useful for them.
For example, if one Guru was once too aloof
when he started, he will teach students to
show genuine interest, as that was the
biggest lesson for himself. If the other Guru
used to show too much interest right away,
chances are he will now teach to act aloof to
women, as that was what he learned to help
him be better with women. They BOTH
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Your first lesson is to know whom you are
and what YOUR personal challenge is, in
order to know if their advice would even
apply to you. Get it? The idea is to pick out
the parts that apply to you, and to use them
in your own structure. That will come with
time and practice.
Consider your own perceived value. What
value do women perceive you as? If they see
you as high value, you need to show genuine
interest. If they see you as lower value, you
need to use a more aloof attitude when
communicating with them. My book I’M a
Man, That’s my Job has an entire section on
exactly this topic of perceived value
calibration.
8. The Biggest Misconception About
Gaming Women
Dear Frank,
What in your opinion, are the most common
misconceptions about the way seduction
works, and the art of gaming women?
-Asker8
Dear Asker8,
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1. Gaming women means lying to
women.
It comes from the marketing idea that
learning to game women is easy. It is not.
Lying to women is easy. Gaming women
means YOU DO NOT GET TO LIE; it is
about the best way to present your truthful
self in order to get the best sex/relationship
results you want. Being honest with whom
you are, and still getting what you want is
not as easy as some instructors like to
claim. Mastering game really is not easy.
Otherwise EVERYONE would be doing it
already. It takes work.
2. At some point, a man must “get out
of the game.”
That is ludicrous in my mind. The only time
a man stops gaming, is when he stops
LEADING. That means he is either DEAD,
or in a COMA. Otherwise, he has an
obligation to lead his relationships and that
means he must game. You NEVER get out
of it. Period.
9. How He Can Show Interest For
Connection, But Not Lose Attraction
Dear Frank,
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connection. How do you work this to achieve
both, attraction AND connection?
-Asker9
Dear Asker9,
Ok, letting a girl know you like her CAN kill
attraction...but not necessarily. It depends on
two things: When you show it, AND how you
show it.
If you show interest from the beginning, you
have to mix it in with a little suspicion. It is not
the fact you are attracted to her, but the WHY
are you attracted to her.
If you show a woman too much interest too
soon, without making her feel she EARNED
your interests (address your suspicion of her),
she worries you are just playing with her, and
plan to abandon her right after sex. As for the
connection…this is all about making her feel
special (the best way to is address her
emotional needs) and in making her feel
special, finding ways that the two of you really
do connect on (as minor as common hobbies,
to as major as wanting the same future
lifestyle), and exploring those interests.
Finally, a lack of attraction does not translate to
a lack of connection. If a woman has a
connection to you, she will feel the connection,
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ADDITION to the connection, THEN she will be
open to having sex with you.
10. When Turning A Female Friend, That Is
Connected To Your Social Circles, Into A
Lover
Dear Frank,
How do you handle and pursue sexual
relationships with friends or just people who're
plugged into your social circle, when reputation
and discretion needs to be preserved?
-Asker10
Dear Asker10,
Social Circle dating is usually one of the
easiest ways to meet people, as everyone in
the group can vouch for someone in the group.
What makes it tricky though is how to manage
the break ups, because the consequences of a
bad break up, or poor relationship could affect
his and/or her standing in the group.
Social Circle dating is all about planning
ahead. The things to plan ahead for are:
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2. Planning ahead for the break up (which
is likely as most relationships do not
last).
First, when you do seduce a woman, it cannot
be in front of others. It must be done in secret,
away from prying eyes. This protects her
reputation, in the event there is someone else
in the circle that has his eye on her, and may
publicly discredit her if she ends up with you
out of his own jealousy. Also, when you do
manage to seduce her into your lover, KEEP
YOUR MOUTH SHUT about your sexual
relationship, especially if you are just lovers,
and not monogamous nor engaged. No one in
the social circle needs to know whom you, or
she, is sleeping with; at least not from you. If
she is the one to talk about it to others, you
have still fulfilled your duties as a man by not
talking about it. This also means no sexually
suggestive humor towards her in public, which
would put her on the spot if she were
uncomfortable with it, as it leads lesser people
to spread rumors.
The second thing is that you must properly
manage the break up. Break ups are never
easy. A General rule is that you should break
up on the best of terms, so that there are only
good feelings. The best part about no one
knowing you slept together is no one knowing
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Frank Telephone Consultations
This is a review of an hour-long phone call I
had this evening with Frank B Kermit. He has
been extremely professional and prompt in
responding. The conversation began by him
asking me what I wanted to talk about. I spoke
about two general issues that are problematic
in my life: one about being too negative in spite
of being generally successful, and the other
about not having enough (regular) sex or
female company. I spoke about how I've
stopped approaching because I although
overcoming approach anxiety is good -- I didn't
have much to begin with -- I don't approach
because I know that I don't know what to say.
Frank B Kermit kept focus very well in the
conversation, keeping track of what I was
saying and asking if I wanted to discuss the
first issue or if I wanted to talk about something
else, too. A big issue for me is that I am not
very decisive. Frank B Kermit picked up on this
very quickly and tried very hard to make me
understand that my JOB AS A MAN is to BE
DECISIVE. It's not to be always right -- that's
impossible -- but it's to make decisions and
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already aware of some of the exercises Frank
B Kermit has had his students do, namely THE
LISTS. I had been incapable of completing this
in the past weeks despite sincere and repeated
effort. Frank B Kermit made me realize I have
a mental block. I am used to either be neutral
or not have an opinion at all. For me, this is
heavy s***. I think now, after our conversation,
I will be able to complete the exercise and it
will be a step in practicing the skill of
decisiveness. Frank B Kermit repeated that I
WAS BORN WITH BALLS. It's not a choice to
use them, it's a responsibility and simply the
way things are. I f***ing want to be a man and
know what I want and make the f***ing
decisions. Again, this is a big deal for me and
quite a shift to make. I've seen this shift before
but now it's very f****ing clear how important it
is to make it and not look back. Bearing in mind
that this was nearly the first time we spoke,
Frank B Kermit was extremely perceptive and
careful in judging how strong or weak I am
before offering criticism. I did want to hear it all,
but he made sure before he said anything. He
has obviously worked with and met a lot of
people in his life, he read me accurately and
quickly. Some things I already knew, some
things I sort of knew and some things were
hammered home. My opinion is that Frank B
Kermit is extremely qualified to help men be
better with women by becoming better men, or
at least help me be better with women by
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11. Have A Relationship, Or Just Have Fun,
Or Both?
Dear Frank,
I am visiting Russia for just a few months.
While I have been here I have really been
working hard at learning to game women,
and become great at it. I was always pretty
good, but over the last few months, I have
had sex with lots more women than ever
before. My problem is one of the girls I’m
involved with for 2 months now. We really
like each other a lot and are both in our
twenties. The issue for me is that I am
leaving Russia in a month, and I find myself
always thinking about her (I might be in love
with her). I don’t know what to do. Should I
just go out and lay as many more women as I
can before my time here is up, or just be with
the one girl here that I enjoy spending time
with the most? What about the heart break at
the end of my trip? Her coming back with me,
or me staying here any longer, are just not
options. I have zero interest in long distance
relationships.
-Asker11
Dear Asker11,
I am going to ask you something: What do
you need more experience in as part of your
own development? Do you need to practice
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management? If you have an answer, then
that is what I would suggest you focus on for
your last month there.
However, if you are already having sex with
as many women as you say, that seems a
moot discussion. The first thing I question is
if you have a real connection with her, or if
she is seducing you, into finding a way back
to your country through you. Russian mail
order brides are a big business. If it is not
that, then if it were me, I would have the
relationship with her. You have been with lots
of chicks already, and if you found something
special, see it through, it is about CREATING
MEMORIES and getting some relationship
experience in the meanwhile. You cannot be
afraid of the heartbreak at the end of the
month. Heartbreak is a part of ANY
relationship, even ones that last.
Train yourself to have love, and still be able
to let go, and manage the pain. Get it?
12. His Stripper Girlfriend Is Needy
Dear Frank
My girlfriend is a stripper. I am 22 years old,
and she is my first girlfriend. I got her using
what I learned reading your book, Everything
Out of Her Mouth is A Test.
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of like the idea that I am with the hot chick
that all the other guys want. Here’s what’s
bugging me: She gets SO NEEDY for my
attention all the time! It is driving me crazy.
She wants me to tell her all time that she is
beautiful and that she is hot. When I have to
sit down and study for school, she freaks out.
It is like there is always a major crisis that
happens when I have to study and spend
time away from her. How can she be this
needy for attention when she has guys
drooling over her, and paying to see her all
the time? Is this something all girls do, or just
strippers? I understand that her need to hear
that she is beautiful comes from what you
call her Fear of Abandonment, but come on!
She is a stripper for frigskakes! How could
SHE ever fear abandonment from guys,
when all she ever gets is guys paying her
money to strip?
-Asker12
Dear Asker12,
First girlfriend is a stripper huh? Well, this is
definitely a great learning experience for you.
To answer your question, strippers are not the
only girls that behave like this; other girls can
act like this too…However the behavior you
describe does tend to happen very frequently
with women who work in the sex trade.
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the emotional need of Fear of Abandonment is
violated on a constant basis. As each woman
is being passed up for prettier girls as soon as
the new competition arrives, their insecurities
skyrocket. These women do not focus on the
hundreds of men that pay them. These women
focus on the handful of men that they are
unable to get to pay them. This explains the
irony of why some strippers are the MOST
insecure about their looks and need constant
reassurance that they are beautiful Their
greatest physical assets, fuels their greatest
weakness.
The fact is, most of the men paying to
see her, are not the kind of men that she
herself would be attracted too. She knows that
she easily could have them, but she also
knows that she would never be able to trust
them. They ONLY want her for her beauty,
and she feels any of those men would replace
her as soon as they could afford to bribe an
even hotter looking girl. (I happen to agree with
strippers on this belief).
Further to that, let’s also consider that
strippers perform for many husbands and
boyfriends of other women, and therefore,
strippers know how often men would cheat if
given the chance. Strippers usually ARE the
other women in an affair, as about 50% of the
strippers I know, also work privately as
prostitutes, escorts and sometimes get into
porno.
Lastly, and the most potentially
destructive behavior of dating a sex worker is
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not done consciously. I personally think it
comes from the fear that if you succeed in
whatever endeavor you are doing you would
leave her, and replace her with some other
woman.
In your case, getting a degree and
finishing school to earn a better life for yourself
could be causing her to worry that you would
get a better job and/or lifestyle, and would then
not want to be with a woman that either is/or
was a stripper.
Think of it this way: If she ever met a
guy away from work that she really liked, she
would tend NOT to tell him about her true
profession out the fear he would not give her a
chance to be a real girlfriend. When most
women while away from work, admit to being a
stripper, they get mixed reactions from both the
men and women around them. The women act
jealous or insulting to them, and the men
usually just treat them like “inhuman suits only
good for sex”, instead of treating her like a lady
that has a job and earns her own money. This
is part of the reason all strippers would rather
be referred to as “dancers”. It gives them more
respect on the outside.
13. How To Have An Affair
Dear Frank,
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I am feeling neglected. There is a neighbor that
has had his eye on me for a long time, and I
think I am finally ready to give in to him. Don’t
try to talk me out of it. I am going to do this
with or without anyone’s support. It’s my time
now. Do you have any tips for me?
-Asker13
Dear Asker13,
Before I get into any suggestions about how to
do it right, the first thing I want to suggest is for
you to try to talk to your husband. Whatever it
is you seek sexually outside the marriage
maybe the two of you could do it together. For
example, if you are finding a lack of sexual
excitement, try visiting a Swingers club with
him, just for the experience.
Just to let you know, when people cheat, it
usually has very little to do with the person they
are committed to. Sometimes the novelty of
having an affair is more attractive than the
person they are having it with. That being said,
here are some basic rules for having an affair:
1.The most important thing to having a
successful affair is in the pre-selection. Your
focus is not on getting sex. You focus needs to
be on WHOM you have sex with. Ideally, you
want someone that has zero interest in hurting
your primary relationship. If your neighbor
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2. Keep tabs on tangible things like bills, credit
card payments, or any other traceable
elements (like hickies, or moving the seat in
your car to accommodate your lover). These
are proof of your deception. If spending
money, pay for everything in cash, and keep
no receipts.
3.Never act like lovers in public, no matter how
temping it is.
4. Be ready to break it off at any time. Affairs
are time limited – ALWAYS.
I hope you work things out with your husband
first. If not, then be careful, use protection, and
be choosy.
14. Do You Go Out With Friends To Pick
Up?
Dear Frank,
When going out to meet women, do you hustle
alone, with a wingman, or do you just chill and
hang out with your buddies and attract women
naturally? Do you drink?
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My rule is, when I go out with my friends, I am
not out to pick up. Especially when the friends
I am with are not into the pickup/seducer
lifestyle. I am out to be with them, and if I see
a woman I like, I would do a direct approach,
introduce myself, give her my card, and then
return to my friends.
When I go out to meet girls, I got out like
a peacock, so finely dressed I often get people
on the street wanting to take pictures of me
and with me. The girls test me more viciously.
Passing the first couple of tests usually gets
me into the group. It is easier in a café or
restaurant after hours, except for the
“audience” in the cafés. Mostly I have to be
careful of the drunken guys that are not getting
laid, as they tend to threaten and get vicious if I
am alone… Jealousy sucks.
I do not drink. I think anybody can get
drunk and use it as a crutch. When I hit rock
bottom, I wanted to learn to do this without a
crutch, or it just meant nothing. Real game is
played sober.
15. Best Pick Up Lines
Dear Frank,
Just curious. What are your 3 best lines to
break the ice?
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Dear Asker15,
My best pick up lines are:
1-Have you found your soul mate yet?
2-I saw you from over there, and had to meet
you.
3-I noticed your (item), what’s the story behind
that?
My seduction persona is also direct. I
have tried indirect approaches, but they
seldom worked for me. If you have seen
pictures of me in my pickup clothes, my
persona is such that if I want someone’s
opinion on something, I will tell them what their
opinion should be. My persona wouldn’t ask
for another’s opinion, as I am only interested in
my own thoughts. That being said, the only
times that I went indirect with approaches was
when I was introduced to a lady through a
friend, and rather than come on to strong and
scare her off, I would then let the seduction
happen more slowly, over the course of a few
hours. When I use direct approach, we get the
whole pretense of the interaction over with.
We both know why I approached. What she
wants to see is if I can make her feel special.
What I want to know is if she is worth being
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Personalized Symbolic Peacocking
This call with Frank B Kermit was once again
mind-shattering. I gained more insight into how
a woman’s mind works. Here are highlights of
the meeting for me. List your symbols and
Brainstorm on each symbol: how does each
symbol connect to who I am? Derive possible
peacocking accessories based on your
brainstorming. Your stories should tell her
details about who you are and these details
should be sprinkled in indirectly. Everything in
my life happens for a reason/purpose. If she
becomes part of my reality, then that’s for a
reason, and she will see it as meant to be. It’s
never about looking for similarities based on
facts. It’s always about looking for similarities
based on emotions & feelings. Your goal as a
seducer is to make people feel good. The most
important thing is how she treats me.
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It was inspirational, thought provoking,
and all those awesome words.
Personally, I have studied lots of
different seduction "artists", and different
styles, FBK's overall beliefs incorporate
lots of what's out there into a great
seducer cocktail! Lots of ways he
describes inner and outer-game tie in
with lots of society debate about
seduction. From reading his books I can
vouch that making use of his concepts
have been clearly working for me. Most
of the session was spent talking
about.... females...he refers to them as
having 10 emotional needs, not too get
into too much detail, but he stresses
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philosophy in how to view women
makes sense (to me and I'm sure
others). One belief I had had for a long
time growing up, is that men are women
are equal and should be treated equally.
Hence, the "nice guy". But what FBK
stresses is that its the mans job to lead
the interaction, to have the girl lost in
emotions, to have the man responsible
for sex. I have run this idea through
TONS of girls, even the ones who
appear like to dominate, and many are
in total agreement. Recently, I went on a
date with a girl I've been seeing here
and there, I very much "took the lead",
and she bluntly told me she found that
very attractive... as we were
participating in naughty activities. FBK
has also come from an extremely low
point, and THAT is what I think makes
him a great teacher, his ability to relate,
of not being a natural, and thus can
really get into the mentally of guys who
may be clueless to the idea of
seduction/women. I vouch for his book, I
have NO ties with FBK .I'm just giving a
truly honest opinion.
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16. Best Way Of Going For The Phone #
Dear Frank
How do you go about getting the telephone
number? How important IS the number?
-Asker16
Dear Asker16,
In my opinion, the initial DATE or …
transition from the conversation to setting up a
date is much more important than actually
GETTING her number or exchanging numbers.
In terms of how to get the number
there are two ways:
Ask for it directly. Some women will give it,
and some will give you a fake one just to avoid
getting into further discussion with you on it, or
to be polite and not hurt your feelings. Some
will not give it out at all if you ask directly, and
do not even want you to try again.
(What has worked for me) Create a reason to
contact each other again that has nothing to do
with sex or dating. As long as the reason for
the number is not sex, but to explore a similar
interest, it is easier.
One of the mistakes that are easy to make in
direct approaches is to make the woman feel
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need to pursue more. If you framed it that it is
YOUR fault that she is contacting you, or that
you are contacting her, THEN you have a
better shot.
The only time a woman will be OK with
contacting you is if you display VERY high
value before giving her your number, she feels
compelled to call you, or risk missing out on
the greatest time of her life.
To do this: Keep your perceived value in mind,
and calibrate to higher or lower your value to
make you high value YET attainable to her in
her mind.
17. Best Date Places
Dear Frank,
Where would you take a girl on a first date and
what do you do? What do you want to get
from a date: a good time, a kiss, or do you
want to rush through the game plan as quickly
as possible and play a tight game? How do you
make the transition from date to your house?
How do you get her to relax and be in the
mood for more once you are there?
-Asker17
Dear Asker17,
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First, it must be inexpensive and second is that
there needs to be a place nearby where you
can have sex. Your own place is best, or
places NEAR your own place. You are not
there to entertain her. NEVER. You are there
to get to know her, and to find out what
relationship she qualifies to have with you. Is
she going to be a one-night-stand, sex-buddy,
girlfriend, practice girl, etc…A place to talk is
best. Never bring her to a place where her
friends are.
18. No, We Are NOT Going To Have Sex
Dear Frank,
How do you deal with the famous “No, we’re
not going to have sex”, right when you are
making out on your couch?
-Asker18
Dear Asker18,
Firstly, you NEVER agree to it. When a woman
says that, it is a test. The emotional needs
could vary from protecting her reputation, to
fear of abandonment, to fear that she will not
be safe if she changes her mind later. My
strategy is that I tell her to slow down, and that
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feel safe. Otherwise I might say something
like, “I would never do anything that would hurt
your reputation, and will safe guard it”. See
what I mean? Part of my game plan is to tell
stories that address her emotional needs WAY
BEFORE we get to this stage.
If it comes from the fact you are too smooth,
then you will be seen as a player. The need
behind this is Fear of Abandonment, and the
best way to combat this, is to mention through
your time together how you should both check
out other venues. In other words, if you are
planning to see other venues with her in the
future, you are unlikely planning to abandon
her right after sex. In cases where you are
already in a relationship with her and have had
sex already, you can agree, and then let it
happen “naturally”, but even then, best not to
agree to it.
19. This Is Not A Happy Virgin (publicly
posted on www.youtube.com)
Dear Frank,
Re: Your bulls**t description for your video:
"The Adult Male Virgin Seminar Promo" on
www.Youtube.com Specifically when you say
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No, it doesn't suck, you s**t-licking dumb***!
I'm an adult male virgin and I’m content with
my life. I don't require sex to be happy and
neither do lots of guys. As for your comment:
"Women resent it when they have to take the
lead." No they don't. Women don't mind taking
the lead as much as being led.
-Asker19
Hi Asker19,
If you were indeed a happy person like you
claim, you would not have written such an
offensive email. My seminar is for guys that DO
have a problem with it, who seek me out. As
for "No they don't. Women don't mind taking
the lead." Well, you are obviously a virgin if you
truly believe this. The woman next to me
reading this states: "If that were true, he would
not be a virgin." A person that is as "content"
as you claim to be would not have been as
offended as you are. I hope you find peace.
Maybe you suffer from sexual frustration?
Have I struck a cord with you? I have read your
profile. You are 26 years old, and would rather
listen to TV theme show songs, and watch old
TV game shows instead of being with a girl and
having sex...I did not come out and attack you
for that. YOU SOUGHT ME OUT! Are you
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20. Roommate Turned Lovers
Dear Frank,
After living together for 6 months, I started a
relationship with my roommate. He used to do
only open relationships, but since we have
been together, he has been totally
monogamous. We are in our twenties. We get
up, go to work, come home, hang out together,
have sex, go to sleep and repeat the cycle.
This lasted for 3 months, and then he
announced that he wanted to move out to a
new place. I told him that I loved him and
wanted him to stay, and he said agreed he
would stay. He stayed for a year, until finding a
new job out of town and we cooled things off.
Since then, we have been seeing other people,
but we still get together regularly for sex. He
writes me almost everyday telling me he thinks
of me, and is always happy to see me. I want
him to make a commitment to me, and I think it
is because of his age that he is just not ready.
One of the last things he said to me was that
he thinks we made a mistake by cooling things
off. I miss him so much, and I wish I could
convince him to get back together. I'm not sure
if I should either cut off contact with him or just
let things drift on like they are doing. If I
continue to see him and sleep with him, will
that make him realize that we should be
together?
-Asker20

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Hi Asker20,
I do not think his age is the issue at all. I think
he is perfectly happy with the open relationship
set up...he also sounds a LOT like a little boy,
seeking a mother more than a lover. I do think
he has some feelings for you, but not enough
to stay committed. I really feel that if this were
meant to work, he would not have taken that
promotion. Just because it is regular sex, does
not mean that feelings will enter the picture for
him.
Do I think cooling things off will make him want
you more? Yes. Do I think it will be enough to
save this relationship? No. Men only want
what they think they cannot have. What that
means is, he might only want you back until he
actually gets you, and then the cycle repeats
itself. As long as he was living with you, you
were able to dominate him, and he was fine
with that. Once he moved out, he just went
back to his old ways of dating other people.
He will most likely end up abandoning you in
the future. I think that you should focus on
building something legit with someone else.
He might end up wanting you...but that is only
because someone else may get you, not
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I must say that to me, what I found most
helpful was that Frank B Kermit remembers
when he was a Loser. There's much more
sympathy in him than what I see out of other
gurus out there who have long since become
naturals, and unable to understand why people
simply can't "be like them." To me, Kermit can
be summed up in one sentence: He respects
you, and demands the same respect. Be it
women, men, people beneath him, people
above him, doesn't matter. He treats everybody
with the same respect and dignity you wish you
would receive from others. That is remarkably
more charismatic, and what a remarkable way
to conduct Game. To be a man; not a bully.
You have definitely earned my respect. I look
forward to hearing more from you.
-Raymond H.
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No woman should ever find herself
saying "there are no good men out
there". But I hear it all the time. It's a
grim reminder of what a sad state our
culture is in. Of how movies, books and
love songs have shown men the worst
examples of how to behave with
women. I want it to stop. That's where
Frank B. Kermit comes in.
He's not only saying we need to rethink
what it means to be a man, but what it
means to be a Seducer. We've let it
become a dirty word. But ask yourself
this: what woman doesn't want to be
seduced? I'm not talking about a quick
pick up from a sharp dressed smooth
talker. There's a time and place for that,
too, but this is about more. Much more.
I'm talking about YOU becoming the
kind of man who's capable of building
and holding the deepest levels of
attraction, rapport and passion she's
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who knows how to address her
emotional needs. A man who knows
how to lead. If you do that, she'll happily
give you the best she has to offer. Not
just for one night. For as long as you
want. Sounds great, right? All you have
to do is read the book and *PRESTO*
you're fixed. Let me be really clear about
this. There aren't any short cuts. Frank's
stuff will confront and challenge your
core values. Dude's gonna shake your
foundations. But he's going to make you
work for it. Change is not easy.
But this book WILL put you on a clear
path of self-discovery, transition, and
growth. In my opinion, Frank's
structured it to get you there as
efficiently as possible. And he does it
with straight, simple language.
Now that I know I'm A Man, That's My
Job, the world is opening up for me. The
quality of all my relationships has
improved dramatically. And the women
in my life appreciate it more than I could
ever have imagined.
-Dragonkid T.O. PUA
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21. I Changed, Now My Old Friends Hate Me
Dear Frank,
Since learning to game women, and actually
starting to have a real love life, my biggest
problem is with some of my friends not
accepting the change in me. I know you usually
advise to drop them, but they are in my social
circles, and I see them regularly at social
gatherings. Any advice on how you deal with
this?
-Asker21
Dear Asker21,
If dropping them is not yet an option, then you
must understand that what they do not like is
that you make them question their own
identities, and because of this, you are a threat
to them. When people change, others around
them start to feel they need to question their
own identities. You may be a symbol to them
that they should change too. They see you
differently now and need to get to know you all
over again. Sometimes they are simply jealous
because they are not able to change. In cases
like this, there is little you can do about how
they feel. The MOST you can do is just be the
guy that makes people feel accepted for
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liked. As for being a threat to them, you have to
learn to make people feel good about
themselves no matter what level they are at.
Do not talk about seducing. Do not talk about
women. Do not give them any advice, and
always make them all feel that you will protect
their reputations no matter what. I do not know
what you are doing to them, BUT if your new
found confidence includes making fun of them,
and putting them down to make yourself feel
good, then you are at fault. When I go out with
my “normal” friends, I go to be with them, not to
pick up. However, under no circumstance do I
ever make someone feel bad, unless I am
being attacked first.
In the meanwhile, if you cannot drop these
people, start looking to form new social groups
where you can attend those gatherings without
worrying about these so-called “friends”.
22. When Can I Finally Drop My Guard
Dear Frank,
When is the right time to actually drop your
guard and let that person into your life? At the
beginning of a relationship you have to be on
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drop your guard, and still be seen by her as a
man?
-Asker22
Dear Asker22,
I do not think there is ever a time to drop your
guard. What I do believe is that if you know
what you want out of life and your lifestyle, and
you find someone that has similar goals (i.e.
you both want to raise your kids the same way)
THEN you actually have a shot of making it
work. You will always have to lead the
relationship, and leaders never get to drop their
guard…they only get a day off now and then.
23. Are There Any Real NICE Guys Out
There, Or Just Jerks?
Dear Frank,
Are there any nice guys out there left for a
woman to date? I am tired of being hurt by
every guy I go out with. It is always the same.
Just once I would like to be with a good,
honest, caring nice guy. Is that so much to ask
for?
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Dear Asker23,
Sounds like you have been hurt enough. I
would say it comes down to two things:
1. Unrealistic expectations
I counsel men who are in the same pain you
express, and the biggest reason is the
unrealistic expectations that the next person
they meet is going to be "perfect". People are
human. Men and women are human. You
cannot expect perfection. We all screw up,
some more than others. When going into any
relationship, there are some basic expectations
such as, “I am not going to violate you, and I
expect you not to violate me”. Then there are
extra expectations such as: It is your job to
make me happy, and NEVER let me down.
This is just not realistic. Even your closets
friends and family will hurt you at some point.
That is part of what relationships are all about.
2. Choosing the right people.
People tend to lead with their hearts, and
sometimes how a person makes you feel is
more important than how a person treats you.
That is the case with many women that have
been abused. Part of stopping yourself from
getting hurt by every guy you date, is to
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don't give you the emotion you seek at first. I
spend my time teaching men to address ALL of
a woman’s emotional needs. That is the part of
the relationship that you get to build together,
and grow together with, and I have helped
create solid marriages on this principle. I am
telling you that it is possible to find good guys
out there, but you have to be willing to look at
guys and date guys that you previously never
considered.
24. How Do I Initiate The Date?
Dear Frank
I have known this girl who I have been going to
college with for 2 years. We are always in the
same classes, and graduation is coming up. I
sit next to her in my classes, and we can talk
about anything. I like her, and I think she likes
me. How do I show her that I want to be more
than just friends and how do I know if she likes
me back?
-Asker24
Dear Asker24,
First, you NEVER directly ask a girl if she likes
you and wants to go out with you, unless you
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is not the case here). I would suggest that you
arrange for you both to do something in a
different venue. Being in school is difficult.
Everyone is watching, and reputations are
most important. Start off by getting her to talk
about stuff she likes to do, and you do the
same. When you come across something that
you both like doing, suggest that you both
should do it together. For example, if you both
like walking through large book stores, then it
is only natural you do it together. Keep it in
public, inexpensive (never pay for more than a
coffee) and make sure there will be a chance
for the two of you to be alone enough at some
point away from prying eyes to see what
happens.
25. My Friend Is Hooked In A Bad
Relationship
Dear Frank,
My best friend keeps getting sucked back into
a bad relationship. She knows that she should
not be with him, but she keeps returning to him
and she is the one that re-initiates the
relationship with him. I simply cannot
understand why she is doing this. He is
immature, controlling, and mean to her, but she
just cannot control herself, and keeps running
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forever. She does this all the time. She gets
addicted to a guy that’s no good, and the only
way she can escape him is to move to a new
location. And after she does, she just latches
on to a new guy. But now, she is in therapy
over it. Any advice?
-Asker25
Dear Asker25,
It sounds like your friend is addicted to the
drama of this relationship. She has to get
closure on the future she built up with him in
her head. I wrote a book on women's emotional
needs called Everything Out of Her Mouth is A
Test A Man’s Guide to the Emotional Needs of
Women. I think she should read it to help her
understand her own actions, and why he
affects her so much. Based on my work, I feel
that his actions address her emotional needs,
but in a bad way. That explains why
INTELLECTUALLY she does not want to be
with him, but EMOTIONALLY she keeps going
back. I have a whole chapter on why women
date jerks, and it is my conviction that he
addresses her emotional needs indirectly.
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Frank, it touched me very much
too see that your ex-fiancé gave
you feedback on this book. I
remember being with you after
that weekend of "redemption" and
then losing her again. I
remember being there for you.
You see when I was dating you at
the time, who I loved very much,
I felt that you did not return
the same kind of love I felt for
you the way she did not return
the love you had for her. I had
a really hard time after we
broke up because I truly loved
you..I felt that I would never
meet someone like you again.
Frank, this book helped me
get closure with you. Thank you.
-Frank's Ex (#4 of 5 of his
harem)
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I was genuinely intrigued when I
opened Frank B. Kermit's book
"From Loser to Seducer." You see,
this was a take I hadn't seen in the
PUA materials thus far - a blow-by-
blow (no pun intended) recounting
of a change in mindset. As an
advisor in this field, I find myself
almost distancing myself from the
awkward memories of what I once
was to what I am now with women.
Frank's courageous take on this
gives an enlightening and original
approach to understanding the
trans-formative mindset. I
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was 'reborn' into a new mindset
and manner with women, choosing
to reset the counter to zero and
begin again. Frank succeeds in
giving a very personal and intense
recounting of his life experience
and psychological state during
perhaps the most painful parts of a
man's life - at the moment of
breaking away from the boy-man
we can no longer be, and taking
the leap of faith that I teach to men
- to move on to the next level of life
- to a powerful man's Alpha
Manhood. Frank mixes in his
"Frank" wisdom and insights along
the path and gives the reader a
genuine understanding of the pain
... and the pleasure of self-
actualization.
-Carlos Xuma
Dating Advice Coach for Men
http://www.datingdynamics.com
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26. She Just Broke Off Their Engagement
Dear Frank,
I am 30 and my fiancé (29) of three years just
ended our relationship. I am destroyed. We
were totally in love. Then two weeks ago she
went away with some of her girlfriends for a
girl’s retreat. When she came back, she was
really cold towards me. Now she does not
want to get married anymore. I do not
understand how she can go from talking about
planning out life together, and then wanting to
drop everything. She admitted that she is going
to miss me, and might be making the biggest
mistake of her life, but she still left. She even
asked if we could stay friends. I tried contacting
her since then, but now she is ignoring me
altogether. Please help me; I want to marry
her.
-Asker26
Dear Asker26,
Whoa, my heart goes out to you. My guess is
that something happened on that trip with the
girls. Perhaps she cheated on you, and rather
than tell you, she just figured that she messed
up, and would walk away. Assuming she was
not very sexually experienced, maybe she
wants to do some exploring before she settles
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Are any of them divorced, or separated or in
less than stellar relationships? If so, you can
be sure they were out to make your fiancé as
miserable as they are. Are any of the women
there your ex lovers? Do any of them have a
crush on you and want you for her? One of the
biggest reasons that couples tend to stick to
other couples is that single friends (especially
women) tend to encourage single-girl behavior
out of their coupled friends.
I would assume that you are feeling
abandoned right now. Mostly because she left,
and there was nothing you could do to
encourage her to stay. That sense of loss, and
lack of control can be devastating to anyone
man or woman. I would suggest that if you
have any vacation time, take the time off, and
go some place, and just re-group. You are not
in control of what happens to you, but you are
in control of how you handle the situation. Part
of the process of closure is to get closure on
the life you two built together in your mind.
Without knowing WHY she abandoned you,
you are not in a position to know either HOW to
get her back, or IF you would even want her
back.
Bottom line is that she violated your trust.
Even if you did get her back, you would
probably never be able to feel you could trust
her again. She would not have been a good
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27. My Ex, My Sex Buddy
Dear Frank,
I broke up with my girlfriend about three weeks
ago. We were dating for 11 months on and off,
and we really did have a connection. We just
started good, neglected each other, broke up,
got back, started good, and repeated the
situation. We are still close, and we have been
still sleeping with each other. We are the best
of friends, and we really know what each other
like sexually. I figured we would do the sex-
buddy thing until I was ready to find someone
else, but I want to try a relationship with her
again. I think if I tell her that I want her back
again, that either she will want to break it off
completely, or she will be happy and want to
be back with me too. How long should I wait
before I bring it up?
-Asker27
Dear Asker27,
My advice is to say nothing. This is not
something that you can logically bring up. At
this point, either break it off completely, or just
continue being sex-buddies and SEE OTHER
PEOPLE. If you have not made it work with
her before, it is not going to change now.
One of the hardest things in being a sex-
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not let your emotions tied with sexual
pleasures get mistaken for feelings of genuine
love. You are a man, and you cannot afford
that. I would suggest to continue with the sex,
AND to start hanging out with new people. Do
not see her more than once a week.
Do you really want HER, or do you just want
to be able to say you got her back for the
drama. There is a difference.
-Frank B Kermit
28. Am I A Lesbian?
Dear Frank,
I am confused! I have only dated men in my
life, and I know that I am straight. Last year I
dated a guy and he really wanted to have
threesomes with another girl. I did not like him
that much, and figured since I was not so
attached to him I could handle it. So, we found
a girl, and started to have threesomes
together. At first I really didn’t do anything with
the other girl. Over time, her and I started to
“play” I guess you’d call it. I only dated him for
4 months, and have never been with a girl
since.
Last month, I was on holiday and I met a girl
and I really started to feel attracted to her, as if
I was attracted to a guy. We talked for a bit,
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longer in touch. Am I a lesbian even if I still am
attracted to men? Is there something wrong
with me?
-Asker28
Dear Asker28,
There is nothing wrong with you. You are a
normal healthy woman and you are
experimenting with the boundaries of your
sexuality. You might very well be straight, and
just experienced attraction for another woman.
Sexual thoughts, fantasies, and exploration
between women are a lot more common than
most women think. I do not think you should be
sharing this with too many people, as
depending how close minded they are, could
hurt your reputation. This type of boundary
probing is perfectly normal for women. In time
you might come to the conclusion that you are
straight but can appreciate other women, or
you may discover that you have emotional love
with one gender, and only physical love with
the other, or you might be bisexual, or even a
lesbian...just slow down, and ease up on
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29. Almost 40, I want a baby, but He does
not
Dear Frank,
My boyfriend (38) and I (39) have reached a
wall. Things are good in the relationship except
when I bring up the issues of marriage and
having children. We have lived together for 12
years. When I bring up marriage, he freaks out,
as he does not believe in the “piece of paper”.
When I bring up having children he keeps
telling me that he would love a family some day
with up to 3 kids, but he is not ready yet, and
when he is, he will let me know.
Right now, I want to have a baby and start a
family, but it's seems almost impossible
because of my age. I told him he should move
out, but he insists that he loves me. I think
about leaving but I have already invested so
much in this relationship and I do not think I
could meet someone new in the next few years
to start a family with. What do I do?
-Asker29
Dear Asker29,
Ouch. Look, I think you are wasting your time.
Really. You really want children, and to get
married, but he is not interested? Then why are
you sticking around? First he may be telling the
truth that he wants to have a family ONE day,
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telling you that he wants kids, BUT NOT WITH
YOU.
You still have time (but it is running out) to find
someone else that wants the same thing as
you. I think it is sad that you stayed in a
relationship for so long. If you really want kids
and marriage, get rid of him and make room for
someone in your life who wants the same
things as you do. The Clock is ticking...you are
wasting time. Your boyfriend is a jerk. He
knew that he was not into you enough to marry
you, but he was not man enough to let you go
earlier.
30. Oops, She Dated His Friend!
Dear Frank,
I dated a guy for a few months, and he was
really nice to be, and never gave me a reason
to lash out at him…but I did anyways because I
am just not used to being with a nice guy I
guess. Eventually I totally dumped him and
really hurt him. Now, I regret losing him so
much. I can believe that I finally found a guy
that treats me like a princess, and I went out of
my way and ruined it. I tried to get him back,
but he is so distant with me, and it hurts. I am
so lonely without him. I have made a terrible
mistake. While I am trying to get him to talk to
me again, I have started to see one of his
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serious. I know that he also has another girl as
a sex-buddy, but I know they are not serious
either. I want him back more than anything. I
even call him on the phone from his friend’s
house (the one I am seeing), and it’s like he
won’t even take my call now. Is there any way
I can make it up to him for the why I treated
him?
-Asker30
Dear Asker30,
If you are really serious about mending things
with him, then dating his friend (even if it is
nothing serious) is not going to help prove your
sincerity, given how badly you wrecked it for
yourself.
Drop the drama you are creating. You need it
too much. Things were going too good, you
had to create the drama. Instead, you needed
to find ways for the two of you to experience
different drama TOGETHER. That is why I
think you did what you did. Stop dating his
friends. I believe that you do care for him, but I
think that you may be emotionally incapable of
being with a guy that actually shows caring for
you. Forget words…you need to prove it to him
with actions. STOP seeing other people, and
prove your loyalty to him once and for all, for
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31. He Is Trying To Manipulate Her
Dear Frank,
I was a friend with a guy for months before we
started dating. We finally starting going out as
a couple, but I had to make the first move.
Here’s the problem: When I initiate kissing or
cuddling, he will not respond, and it is making
me feel rejected. This isn’t the case of him not
being in the mood; this is every time I want to
get close he rejects me, and then a few
minutes later he wants to be sexual. Then,
whenever we go outside, he has started to talk
about how cute all the other girls are. I think
he is acting this way because he wants me to
feel insecure around him. His last girlfriend
burned him really bad, and I think he is just
doing this to lower my self-esteem. He never
acted this way when we were just friends. I am
really confused. Is it better that he is honest
with me about looking at other girls, or is it
better that he should do it without me knowing?
-Asker31
Dear Asker31,
The guy sounds like a moron, and I believe
that your interpretations of him trying to
intimate you are right on correct. He does not
realize how much throwing it in your face is
working against making you feel unique to him.
It is not that he is looking. We are men...we all
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faces of the women we care about. I am a
seducer, and I would NEVER do that. As for he
rejecting you sexually, this is a tactic designed
to make him feel like the aggressor, and to
keep you feeling needy towards him. It is good
as a drama tool, but him doing it all the time is
going to harm you emotionally.
32. The Best Kind Of Lover Is…Enthusiastic
Dear Frank,
I am in a relationship, and I want to make our
sex life more fun. I am not into BDSM or stuff
like that, but I want to know what you would
suggest to make it more enjoyable. We are
both somewhat inexperienced.
-Asker32
Dear Asker32,
I've had them all... want to know what is the
real secret to being a great lover? It has
nothing to do with technique, or size, or
anything...it is all about ENTHUSIASM. As long
as you are ENTHUSIASTIC about sex, you can
be great. Don’t let inexperience stop either of
you. Enthusiasm rules all. Behavior rewarded
is behavior repeated. Keep it Interesting
The Rule of Be the First: This means to be the
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with. Find out specific stuff about her... not just
sexually, but find out stuff that she has always
wanted to do, but never done before. It could
be having a guy using a vibrator in her (or
various food items)... it could be an afternoon
picnic with honey-wine in the park with a
quickie in the bushes, it could be driving next to
big trucks where she flashes to truck drivers.
Make it memorable. Go to extremes. Either do
long drawn out foreplay or a super fast quickie.
During foreplay use massage, music, oils, and
visualizations. To help, watch a sensual how-to
massage video together and do what they do
on the screen. Make her cum by focusing on
her orgasm, not your own. Spend as much
time doing what you need to do to make her
cum first. By that time, you will have less
pressure on you to perform.
33. His Insecurities Drives Women Away
Dear Frank,
My insecurities are killing every relationship I
get into. My wife left me for another man, and
since then I think I act needy with every new
woman I date. I am on anti-depressants and
have no confidence. I am coming across way
too intense when I am on a date with women
and it drives them away. One girl I really liked
said that she really felt an initial connect with
me, but that I was just too intense too soon,
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I date other girls, I am so hopeful that it will
work out with them that I am constantly calling
them on the phone, or waiting without patience
for their next email. I am 34 but acting 14 and I
hate this. Any suggestions?
-Asker32
Dear Asker32,
Been there, and got over it. You are assuming
that each of these women will be the answer to
your prayers. That is putting way to much
pressure on them and you. Also, you give too
much attention too soon, and the girls feel it is
not earned. In a woman’s mind, attention given
too easily will just as easily be taken away. And
she is right. Your life needs to be full, in such a
way that you want to share your life with a
woman, but not make her your life. I changed
my focus, and so can you.
34. 10 Emotional Needs of Women
Dear Frank,
Can you please send me the list of your ten
emotional needs of women? Thanks.
-Asker34

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Dear Asker34,
Here you go, As featured in my book
Everything Out of Her Mouth is a Test: A Mans
Guide to the Emotional Needs of Women
The 10 Emotional Needs of a Woman
1-The protection of her most valuable asset:
Her Reputation
2-Women want to FEEL a range of emotions.
Do not try to make her happy, give her a full
range from fury to ecstasy. This is a.k.a. her
Drama Cookie
3-Cater to the little girl in her. Know the
difference between when to ignore her
ramblings and when she needs you to give her
a hug. Sometimes she just needs to be
reassured like a little kid
4-Be dominant and take responsibility for
leading the relationship. This includes making
all the decisions, and taking 100%
responsibility for the sex in the relationship. It
all has to be the man’s “fault”
5-She fears abandonment. This is part
biological programming, as in the event she is
left with a child, she needs to be sure that she
will not be abandoned and left alone to care for
it. This covers her emotional need to feel
secure.
6-Trust. The key here is if she can trust you to
be honest with her; even if you know she will
not like what you have to say. In a woman’s
reality, she is used to people lying to her ALL
THE TIME because of the way she looks, or
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are willing to piss her off with your honesty, you
have demonstrated that she can trust you.
7-Her physical safety. A man must
demonstrate that he is capable of protecting
her physically from the threats of the outside
world. This is to make her feel safe.
8-Women need to know you can handle her
TRUE sexuality. She will only be as wanton
with you as you demonstrate that you can
handle it. She needs to explore her sexuality
and let it be free with you as a natural woman
9-Prove that you have high quality sperm. The
best way is by showing that other girls want to
have sex (procreate) with you, and/or you are a
“good catch” and the kids with you will have will
also be a “good catch” enough to also attract a
mate.
10-Prove that you are not a homosexual. She
knows every homosexual male friend she has
that is not out of the closet yet. Could you be
one too?
35. He Only Wants To Orgasm In My Mouth
Dear Frank,
Why do some men want to orgasm in my
mouth? I can understand a guy wanting to
orgasm inside me, and even on my chest, but I
just do not get the appeal of it exploding in my
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Isn’t a blowjob enough without going off on my
tongue and then having to ingest it?
-Asker35
Dear Asker35,
For some guys it is just a question of sexual
variety. He wants to try different things. He
gets a thrill out of being able to witness his
sexuality (something he can not see when it is
inside of you) on your face, mouth, hands, etc.
It is giving him his need for variety. When this
becomes dull, he will get you to move on to
other things. For other men, he might be trying
to avoid getting you pregnant, but still keeps
the feeling that he is “inside” you. Finally
comes the male emotional need of “penis
identity”. Some guys identify with their penis
so much, that it is a test to see how much you
accept of him and his sexuality, or how much
you reject it. There is truth to the saying that
the difference between like and love, is spit or
swallow. I have often found that women that
hate swallowing of one man will swallow
another man they are in love with. Guys who
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I am reading Frank's book
Everything Out of Her
Mouth is a Test. I find
myself nodding my head in
agreement quite often with
this one. I even did a small
segment on it in my pod-
cast show recently in
helping one of my listeners
with a female management
problem.
- Player Supreme
www.zenmack.com
Buy this book at
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36. Wife Sleeps in Separate Room
Dear Frank,
About a year ago, my wife of 5-years, stopping
wanting sex with me. She has now started to
sleep in a separate bedroom. I do not snore,
and I have never been vile to her. What is
going on?
-Asker36
Dear Asker36,
Well, either she has some physical problem
(inability to get wet) or something of that nature
(or past sexual abuse that she never told you
about), or maybe she recently found out she
prefers women. Either way something is going
on. The fact she is not sleeping with you...RED
FLAG. Now is she sleeping away from you?
Check with a lawyer just in case, and know
your rights in the event of a divorce. This is not
normal. Something big is coming, and you
need to be ready. I do not think it is something
as simple as her having an affair here and not
wanting to be with you.
37. When Is Enough, Enough?
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