On a scale of 1 to torturous, getting your heart broken is a solid “absolutely awful.” Most of us have been there at some point, left wondering how to get over a broken heart. When somebody breaks up with you, you're going to feel a flood of emotions, It's a trauma. It's a shock to your system.” And as with any type of emotional shock, “you want to be really gentle with yourself and you want to allow yourself to feel your feelings.

1. By Dylan Corneillie
How to deal with a
heartbreak

2. When somebody breaks up with you, you're going to feel a flood of emotions,
It's a trauma. It's a shock to your system.” And as with any type of emotional
shock, “you want to be really gentle with yourself and you want to allow yourself
to feel your feelings.
On a scale of 1 to torturous, getting your heart
broken is a solid “absolutely awful.” Most of us
have been there at some point, left wondering
how to get over a broken heart.

3. It’s a loss. You must allow yourself to cry, just like any
other loss. Crying is expressing your feelings and it’s one
of the best ways to express your feelings. It means that
you’ve come to terms with it in a way. That you’re not
denying your feelings.
Don’t let yourself drown in those feelings. You need to
find your balance in not denying your feelings but not
over feel the feelings.

4. five stages of grief.

5. denial
In this stage, you may believe what happened is
somehow mistaken, and cling to a false,
preferable reality. Some may also isolate
themselves, avoiding others who may have
accepted what is happening. This stage is usually a
temporary defense, so long as the person has
adequate time to move amongst the stages as they
contemplate death.

6. Anger
When you recognize that denial cannot continue,
you may become frustrated. Certain psychological
responses of a person undergoing this phase
would be: "Why me? It's not fair!"; "How can this
happen to me?"; "Who is to blame?"; "Why
would this happen?". Some may lash out at loved
ones. In Kübler-Ross's book, Questions and
Answers on Death and Dying, she emphasizes the
need for people to do their best to let those who
are in this stage feel their feelings and try not to
take the anger personally.

7. Bargaining
The third stage involves the hope that the individual
can avoid a cause of grief. Usually, the negotiation for
an extended life is made in exchange for a reformed
lifestyle. People facing less serious trauma can
bargain or seek compromise. Examples include the
terminally ill person who "negotiates with God" to
attend a daughter's wedding, an attempt to bargain
for more time to live in exchange for a reformed
lifestyle, or a phrase such as "If I could trade their life
for mine".

8. Depression
"I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "I'm going
to die soon, so what's the point?"; "I miss my loved
one; why go on?"
During the fourth stage, the individual despairs at the
recognition of their mortality. In this state, the
individual may become silent, refuse visitors and
spend much of the time mournful and sullen.
This is also the stage where most people get stuck.
And don’t go on to the last stage which is acceptance

9. Acceptance
"It's going to be okay."; "I can't fight it; I may as well
prepare for it."
In this last stage, individuals embrace mortality, the
inevitable future, that of a loved one, or other tragic
events. People dying may precede the survivors in
this state, which typically comes with a calm,
retrospective view of the individual, and a stable
condition of emotions.

10. Cut off the connections
with your ex.
• If you still have any connection to him/her, those
things can trigger your emotions, some people are
still friends with their ex and can live with them. But
that can depend on why the breakup happened.
• Cutting off the connection is healthy in the beginning
• When you’re having a low moment it may be good if
you try to talk to your ex to find closure or someone
that experienced this. do not make this a habit
because it can overflow your feelings again.
• So maybe talking to the person can help you move on.
• if your ex doesn’t want to talk or didn’t give you the
reason for the breakup then you can find closure on
your own. If you have a hard time dealing with this or
you have other emotional problems at the same time,
you should seek out help from a professional.
Maybe you can start a new hobby to
express yourself. A distraction from
those feelings

11. • taking care of yourself is key. Check in with
yourself throughout the day and ask: What
do I need? says Hendrix. Maybe it’s a
healthy salad, maybe it’s a hot bath, maybe
it’s a phone call with a friend.
• Also, know that feelings of rejection and
diminished self-worth could trigger
unhealthy responses like over-or
undereating or substance abuse, which could
lead to a depressive spiral, Exercise,
nutrition, and proper sleep will raise the
floor on how bad you feel.

12. Do not talk yourself down. I’m not good enough.
Situate the problem in your relationship.
• If you stay up at 4 am thinking about every detail
of your relationship or checking the Instagram of
your ex every 10 minutes. You should focus on
yourself and try to lose this behavior with the tips
I gave.
• You can replace the activities that you used to do
with your ex with something else. Instead of going
on a Friday night to the movies with your ex, go
and plan something else with your friends. The
voids in your life would be filled.

13. Date cautiously.
• Your feelings need time. If you
start dating again but you have not
fully accepted your ex then this can
cause problems for the
relationship you’re going to begin.
Or maybe you need to spend time
with somebody new to let go of
your ex.
• But tell the person you’re dating
what you’re feeling.
• Remember the good things about the
relationship and take the things you
learned with you in the future.

14. And last of all. Things like this need time, be patient. Don’t rush
everything and wait. You can think that the pain is gonna last
forever but it will heal with time and maybe with some
professional help.

15. Thank you for your attention and I
hope you learned a few things.
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